I have no UO's today, but I do want to vent to O13 and maybe it will feel cathartic. I have a stomach virus that I can't seem to shake. DD had it too, but is recovering better than me. I feel like I can't get better because the thought of going back to work is insane to me. I am a school psychologist in NYC, so my job is pretty crazy. I am in the car commuting to work and back about 4 hours hour a day, sometimes more. In the last 6 weeks I have worked, organized DD's first birthday and I have been actively involved in my sister's wedding. I have a husband that travels for work and two pretty needy dogs. I spend half my salary on daycare and commuting. I literally feel like I can't do it anymore. I am looking into getting a job at a daycare. It will be a huge pay cut, but I am hoping I can handle it with all the money that's going into me working. I feel like I need a major change in my life, so I am just asking for good thoughts.
No worries @carriet2018 I will get by, just having an emotional day from being sick all week. Hopefully, it will at least result in same weight loss. I just had a good conversation with my husband and I am going to look for a new job. I am trying to look at this as a positive. It's time to make some changes so I, and my family, will be happy.
No worries @carriet2018 I will get by, just having an emotional day from being sick all week. Hopefully, it will at least result in same weight loss. I just had a good conversation with my husband and I am going to look for a new job. I am trying to look at this as a positive. It's time to make some changes so I, and my family, will be happy.
I don't care that Willa still takes bottles. I don't care that she still drinks 24 ounces of formula a day. I don't care that she isn't properly "sleep trained"....she still falls asleep while drinking a bottle and we transfer her into her crib asleep. I feel like she will only be a baby once, and I am in no rush.
I told my husband last night we needed to change these behaviors....he didn't care either.
when looking back at the pictures I had from Emma's party I realized something... I was completely focused on my crafts and decorations and making sure everyone was comfortable and happy that the pictures are all of things and decorations and not enough of my baby, our guests, and we didn't even get one family picture.
While I had fun organizing and crafting and all that good stuff, I'm def going to scale it down from now on. I feel like I was too busy to enjoy it!
I think quality daycare should be subsidized. It's ridiculous that it costs almost as much as my mortgage to send one kid to a good daycare. I think it's important to provide a good foundation across the board for all children, and I would prioritize it over a lot of the bullshit we currently spend money on in this country.
I think quality daycare should be subsidized. It's ridiculous that it costs almost as much as my mortgage to send one kid to a good daycare. I think it's important to provide a good foundation across the board for all children, and I would prioritize it over a lot of the bullshit we currently spend money on in this country.
Mine is: I don't think children need their own rooms. I do not feel bad that we will have the soon to be 3 girls in one room, the 3 boys in another room and we still have a spare room. This is how it will be their entire time living here.No, I am not putting a child in the spare room. If kids need privacy, they will work it out like most others do. As they get older there is the large family room (man cave/toy room above the attached garage) and the spare room for some time, but not to have as their room. People need to stop making a fuss over kids needing their own room or we need to switch the oldest kid to the spare room.
And just because the car seat says your child can move into it, doesn't mean it is safe or appropriate for you kid.
Mine is: I don't think children need their own rooms. I do not feel bad that we will have the soon to be 3 girls in one room, the 3 boys in another room and we still have a spare room. This is how it will be their entire time living here.No, I am not putting a child in the spare room. If kids need privacy, they will work it out like most others do. As they get older there is the large family room (man cave/toy room above the attached garage) and the spare room for some time, but not to have as their room. People need to stop making a fuss over kids needing their own room or we need to switch the oldest kid to the spare room.
And just because the car seat says your child can move into it, doesn't mean it is safe or appropriate for you kid.
Why is it so essential you have a spare room? Do you frequently have extended houseguests?
I don't care that Willa still takes bottles. I don't care that she still drinks 24 ounces of formula a day. I don't care that she isn't properly "sleep trained"....she still falls asleep while drinking a bottle and we transfer her into her crib asleep. I feel like she will only be a baby once, and I am in no rush.
I told my husband last night we needed to change these behaviors....he didn't care either.
I feel you. Obviously you know Madeline is still on a bottle. She does get meals and WCM, but this transfer is stressing me OUT! She is boob/ bottle obsessed!
People can be such assholes. Yesterday we flew back from VA and there was a bussiness guy sitting in front of us. I'm very strict with my kids and try my hardest to keep them entertained as best I can on the plane so that they don't bug people. My oldest was sitting in his seat being so good. He was playing on his tablet, coloring and eating snacks the whole time. Not a peep out of him. I had my youngest on my lap sleeping. He fussed a little when he wanted to go to sleep, but it was literally less than a minute. I nursed him to sleep and he slept for a long while. The flight was over 3 hours...just as I'm feeling proud of myself for having calm kids on the plane Lol...I bend down to get something out of the diaper bag and bump my arm on my Son's tray...the asshole turns around and says "Ma'am, could you please not let your kid bump the tray anymore!!! It's moving my seat." He was SO rude and SO loud. I said actually that was ME trying to get something out of the diaper bag. Then, he turned around and told the lady that was sitting beside him, that my Son kept moving his seat because he kept bumping the tray. I was pissed. D's legs were either dangling down or crossed on his seat and the only time he was even touching the tray was to put his apple juice down and he wasn't slamming it down! We never allow him to put his feet on the back of a seat or to push on them. When C finally woke up, he was a happy little guy because he had a long nap. He was making happy noises and laughing. The guy almost lost it. He kept moving in his seat and kept rubbing his head as if it were going to explode. He once again complained to the lady and told her that kids shouldn't be allowed to fly. I almost lost it.
@ycu2013 That guy is an assmunch. I am willing to bet that everyone around you was marveling at how adorable and well-behaved your LOs were being, and what a douchenozzle that guy is. I hope he is constipated for 20 years.
The flight attendant told my Son twice how polite he was! My Mom was sitting behind us...When C was laughing, the lady next to her I guess told her how cute the kids in front of them were. My Mom said "oh thank you, they are my Grand kids!!" Mom said that she then said...well y'all must fly a lot cause kids are usually a handful on a 3.5 hour flight. Lol
As we were boarding our plan, D was asked by the Co-pilot to sit in the pilots chair and help prepare the plane for takeoff...he loved every minute of it!!!
When we got off the plane D was super excited when he saw the Pilot and said "thank you for bringing us home safely" the pilot smiled and said "no problem buddy, that's my job!" The flight attendant heard and saw the whole thing...she called him a sweet little ham! Lol too bad the jerkass was no where in sight...
Compassion fatigue is a very real thing and is the reason why veterinarians are the number one profession to commit suicide.
With that being said, I don't think I've ever bitched about my career choice on fb. Obviously I'm not doing private practice for a reason, and I recognized I was unhappy. I'm a big proponent of not complaining about things I refuse to change.
Deft why I am no longer a bedside nurse in the ER. I was losing my eyes at anyone who entered the door...
Compassion fatigue is a very real thing and is the reason why veterinarians are the number one profession to commit suicide.
With that being said, I don't think I've ever bitched about my career choice on fb. Obviously I'm not doing private practice for a reason, and I recognized I was unhappy. I'm a big proponent of not complaining about things I refuse to change.
Deft why I am no longer a bedside nurse in the ER. I was losing my eyes at anyone who entered the door...
Definitely is a real thing! Physicians are #1 profession to commit suicide, then dentists, then veterinarians.
I hate going to bed with my husband. I used to love it. Since having both kids I go to bed much earlier than him most nights and have gotten used to stretching out. Now when he says I'm going to bed when you are I try to go to bed even earlier. Plus, I like to surf on my phone until I fall asleep and this pisses him off.
I don't care that Willa still takes bottles. I don't care that she still drinks 24 ounces of formula a day. I don't care that she isn't properly "sleep trained"....she still falls asleep while drinking a bottle and we transfer her into her crib asleep. I feel like she will only be a baby once, and I am in no rush.
I told my husband last night we needed to change these behaviors....he didn't care either.
I'm pretty sure you just described our family as well.
I hate going to bed with my husband. I used to love it. Since having both kids I go to bed much earlier than him most nights and have gotten used to stretching out. Now when he says I'm going to bed when you are I try to go to bed even earlier. Plus, I like to surf on my phone until I fall asleep and this pisses him off.
opposite! i love going to bed with DH. we actually fall asleep hours apart but i get peace in the fact the family is "tucked" in for the night. but i still watch TV/play on my phone/drink/whatever.
We don't have TV in our room. He likes to play his video games after I go to bed so he ends up playing until well after midnight so I blame him for my current sleep habits lol.
I don't care that Willa still takes bottles. I don't care that she still drinks 24 ounces of formula a day. I don't care that she isn't properly "sleep trained"....she still falls asleep while drinking a bottle and we transfer her into her crib asleep. I feel like she will only be a baby once, and I am in no rush.
I told my husband last night we needed to change these behaviors....he didn't care either.
I could have wrote this myself. DS still takes around 25 oz of formula a day from a bottle and I rock him to sleep every night taking a bottle. I lay him and his crib and he snoozes away. ☺No shits given here either. He'll change those habits when he is ready.
Compassion fatigue is a very real thing and is the reason why veterinarians are the number one profession to commit suicide.
With that being said, I don't think I've ever bitched about my career choice on fb. Obviously I'm not doing private practice for a reason, and I recognized I was unhappy. I'm a big proponent of not complaining about things I refuse to change.
Deft why I am no longer a bedside nurse in the ER. I was losing my eyes at anyone who entered the door...
Definitely is a real thing! Physicians are #1 profession to commit suicide, then dentists, then veterinarians.
Nurses commit emotional suicide by drinking themselves stupid at night.
I don't care that Willa still takes bottles. I don't care that she still drinks 24 ounces of formula a day. I don't care that she isn't properly "sleep trained"....she still falls asleep while drinking a bottle and we transfer her into her crib asleep. I feel like she will only be a baby once, and I am in no rush.
I told my husband last night we needed to change these behaviors....he didn't care either.
Oh @amyjoy25 - I love you. I'm on Team Bottle-For-Life as well. And I don't give any of the shits. Your post makes me very, very happy.
I mean...I can't really say. Do you mean because it's like gross or something?
Yeah, just because you spend all day sticking your hands in people's nasty mouths, smelling their breath, etc. Blechh.
Of course, I certainly wouldn't mind the paycheck. #scamartists
ETA: But also, I was just joking. That statistic surprises me, too.
I think people in the medical field pretty quickly get over their squeamishness, if they ever had any. I am squeamish, but if I wasn't, I would take that paycheck in a minute. Dentists make BANK.
I don't care that Willa still takes bottles. I don't care that she still drinks 24 ounces of formula a day. I don't care that she isn't properly "sleep trained"....she still falls asleep while drinking a bottle and we transfer her into her crib asleep. I feel like she will only be a baby once, and I am in no rush.
I told my husband last night we needed to change these behaviors....he didn't care either.
Oh @amyjoy25 - I love you. I'm on Team Bottle-For-Life as well. And I don't give any of the shits. Your post makes me very, very happy.
I hate going to bed with my husband. I used to love it. Since having both kids I go to bed much earlier than him most nights and have gotten used to stretching out. Now when he says I'm going to bed when you are I try to go to bed even earlier. Plus, I like to surf on my phone until I fall asleep and this pisses him off.
opposite! i love going to bed with DH. we actually fall asleep hours apart but i get peace in the fact the family is "tucked" in for the night. but i still watch TV/play on my phone/drink/whatever.
Same! Except I pass out right when my head hits his shoulder, and he is awake for a few more hours.
I think quality daycare should be subsidized. It's ridiculous that it costs almost as much as my mortgage to send one kid to a good daycare. I think it's important to provide a good foundation across the board for all children, and I would prioritize it over a lot of the bullshit we currently spend money on in this country.
This better not be a UO!!!!!!! Also, true story- my dentist killed himself right after pulling out my wisdom teeth. But I also very distinctly remember him admitting to me that he was gay just before I went under so maybe that had something to do with it.
I don't care that Willa still takes bottles. I don't care that she still drinks 24 ounces of formula a day. I don't care that she isn't properly "sleep trained"....she still falls asleep while drinking a bottle and we transfer her into her crib asleep. I feel like she will only be a baby once, and I am in no rush.
I told my husband last night we needed to change these behaviors....he didn't care either.
Oh @amyjoy25 - I love you. I'm on Team Bottle-For-Life as well. And I don't give any of the shits. Your post makes me very, very happy.
I don't care that Willa still takes bottles. I don't care that she still drinks 24 ounces of formula a day. I don't care that she isn't properly "sleep trained"....she still falls asleep while drinking a bottle and we transfer her into her crib asleep. I feel like she will only be a baby once, and I am in no rush.
I told my husband last night we needed to change these behaviors....he didn't care either.
Oh @amyjoy25 - I love you. I'm on Team Bottle-For-Life as well. And I don't give any of the shits. Your post makes me very, very happy.
Re: UO
BFP: 1.19.2013 - EDD: 10.2.2013 - It's a girl! 9.25.13: Welcome Addison!
BFP: 1.19.2013 - EDD: 10.2.2013 - It's a girl! 9.25.13: Welcome Addison!
BFP: 1.19.2013 - EDD: 10.2.2013 - It's a girl! 9.25.13: Welcome Addison!
While I had fun organizing and crafting and all that good stuff, I'm def going to scale it down from now on. I feel like I was too busy to enjoy it!
And just because the car seat says your child can move into it, doesn't mean it is safe or appropriate for you kid.
DS2 - 8/08
DS3- 9/09
DD1 - 11/11
DD2 - 10/13
DD3 - Csection Scheduled November 29th
My oldest was sitting in his seat being so good. He was playing on his tablet, coloring and eating snacks the whole time. Not a peep out of him. I had my youngest on my lap sleeping. He fussed a little when he wanted to go to sleep, but it was literally less than a minute. I nursed him to sleep and he slept for a long while. The flight was over 3 hours...just as I'm feeling proud of myself for having calm kids on the plane Lol...I bend down to get something out of the diaper bag and bump my arm on my Son's tray...the asshole turns around and says "Ma'am, could you please not let your kid bump the tray anymore!!! It's moving my seat." He was SO rude and SO loud. I said actually that was ME trying to get something out of the diaper bag. Then, he turned around and told the lady that was sitting beside him, that my Son kept moving his seat because he kept bumping the tray. I was pissed. D's legs were either dangling down or crossed on his seat and the only time he was even touching the tray was to put his apple juice down and he wasn't slamming it down! We never allow him to put his feet on the back of a seat or to push on them.
When C finally woke up, he was a happy little guy because he had a long nap. He was making happy noises and laughing. The guy almost lost it. He kept moving in his seat and kept rubbing his head as if it were going to explode. He once again complained to the lady and told her that kids shouldn't be allowed to fly. I almost lost it.
My Mom was sitting behind us...When C was laughing, the lady next to her I guess told her how cute the kids in front of them were. My Mom said "oh thank you, they are my Grand kids!!" Mom said that she then said...well y'all must fly a lot cause kids are usually a handful on a 3.5 hour flight. Lol
As we were boarding our plan, D was asked by the Co-pilot to sit in the pilots chair and help prepare the plane for takeoff...he loved every minute of it!!!
When we got off the plane D was super excited when he saw the Pilot and said "thank you for bringing us home safely" the pilot smiled and said "no problem buddy, that's my job!" The flight attendant heard and saw the whole thing...she called him a sweet little ham! Lol too bad the jerkass was no where in sight...
Here's a pic for your time!
Definitely is a real thing! Physicians are #1 profession to commit suicide, then dentists, then veterinarians.
We don't have TV in our room. He likes to play his video games after I go to bed so he ends up playing until well after midnight so I blame him for my current sleep habits lol.