Unsolicited Advice!

lest12 · October 2014

We haven't done this in a while (I hope, at least!)

Share the annoying, "helpful", unsolicited advice you've gotten as our LO's grow!

I have two. I was reminded of one by @ugabamafans‌ post on bottles. Luka takes them from me (or anyone) fine. We were at my sister's wedding and I was about to give him a bottle. My know-it-all Aunt says, before I do anything, "You know, he might take that better from your husband since you usually breast feed. " She needed a slap.

I also wanted to slap my friend who brought her baby to meet LO. We haven't seen each other in 8 years. He spit up a little right as they got here, and she automatically starts telling me he needs zantac. And brought it up again 3 times. I'm sorry, I didn't know you became a doctor since we last hung out.

Anyone else? I can't be alone!

coffee89 · October 2014

I still can't get over the lady who told me tickling my baby will traumatize him for life.

Also I have a few bottles that were in a big bag that were given to me by my sister that have pale pink rings. One day someone informed me that I was going to cause my little boy to be a very feminine man when he grows up because of that. If only she knew his baby bathtub happens to be pink... (I'm not above using something borrowed like that when he isn't going to even remember it)

coffee89 · October 2014

lest12 said:

He spit up a little right as they got here, and she automatically starts telling me he needs zantac. And brought it up again 3 times. I'm sorry, I didn't know you became a doctor since we last hung out. Anyone else? I can't be alone!

On the total opposite my MIL told me that my diagnosed reflux baby doesn't need Zantac and we are just coddling him since all babies spit up and he will just grow out of it.

Taymiller · October 2014

Anything my FIL says about the baby. He is driving me crazy. He leaves tomorrow

nicolewhelan · October 2014

HA! These are so funny, I needed a good big smile today. @taymiller I completely agree about FIL. Everything he says ercks me.

I am tired of people asking me how old LO is and they respond with whoa he's a big boy! He's 3 months old and is the same size as my friends baby that is a week older. Back off! He doesn't eat enough in my opinion.

JulieSmiles · October 2014

LO has a few red spots on the back of her neck- acne or eczema. SIL told me the other day that I needed to get her to the ped right away for it. All this while her daughter runs around so bow-legged that she can't walk straight but has never been to the doc about it.

JujuB22 · October 2014

nicolewhelan said:
HA! These are so funny, I needed a good big smile today. @taymiller I completely agree about FIL. Everything he says ercks me.

I am tired of people asking me how old LO is and they respond with whoa he's a big boy! He's 3 months old and is the same size as my friends baby that is a week older. Back off! He doesn't eat enough in my opinion.

I have heard that LO is a big boy and "why is he so small?" He's actually in the normal range.

lest12 · October 2014

That same friend of mine's son is a month older than DS. And considerably bigger. She KEPT saying "Luka's so tiny compared to him!" Or "B is so much bigger!" At one point her mom said, "well a lot of growing happens in a month..." I was extra sensitive because the dr wasn't happy with l's last week but man, give it a break already.

JulieSmiles · October 2014

@lest12‌ I HATE when people feel they have the right to comment on my baby's size. I don't need to hear how you think she is tiny and what I should do to help her grow. STFU already!

lest12 · October 2014

@JulieSmiles‌ - it drives me nuts! He's happy and healthy and that's all you need to know. MYOB!

puttyeast · October 2014

My MIL told me I need to be using regular laundry detergent because C needs to build up immunity to it. What? Why would I need to do that?

lest12 · October 2014

Oh yes, the CIO suggestion! @CAMAG.

BIL's gf actually emailed me a link when LO was a week old, explaining the ferber method, "but unfortunately you have to wait until he's 3-months old. "

fferreiralynn · October 2014

When we would swaddle DD and my dad would be over he would flip and say that we shouldn't do that it was bothering her. He'd sneak off and we'd hear DD scream only to find my dad trying to unwrap her. He'd then say watch this or something to that effect and try to make her sleep. After 5 minutes of trying he'd get all flustered and complain about her crying and hand her off to me or DH. It always made me laugh because while my dad was part of my life he had no part of raising me.

enjaye316 · October 2014

I had a grocery store cashier lecture me on breastfeeding. "You need to feed on both sides every time! I can tell you didn't: that one (pointing) is much fuller than that one."

What if I just have mismatched boobs??

lest12 · October 2014

ugabamafans said:
My Dad just suggested that DD must be waking up all night long because she is BF and I should feed her formula. :-@

At least it wasn't your dr!

frenchchocolate611 · October 2014

mmandm603 said:

I'm annoyed with every single person who sees LO drool and chew insist he's teething....Nope he's just a baby

OMG yes me too. Literally every single person in DH's family insists that he must be teething every time they see him. Nope!

(I think it's more the fact that they act like they know better than me is what really annoys me.)

Also like all the pps above - I hate when people comment on his size. Everyone says he is JUST SO HUGE!! AND WILL BE OVER 30 LBS BY ONE YEAR!! Ummm nope, he is on the longer side, but he is actually a very average weight and doesn't even have very many rolls yet. STFU!

frenchchocolate611 · October 2014

@ktcmama - lol WTF??

enjaye316 · October 2014

mullenem said:

enjaye316 said:

I had a grocery store cashier lecture me on breastfeeding. "You need to feed on both sides every time! I can tell you didn't: that one (pointing) is much fuller than that one."

What if I just have mismatched boobs??

what the?!?? First, no you don't have to feed both sides every time. Second, mismatched boobs are real, yo. I will admit that it looks particulary weird when I've fed on lefty and righty is extra huge, thankfully no one has commented on it to me or I'd be all >:P

Well yes. Mary-Kate was definitely bigger than Ashley at that moment, but still! It was so unsolicited; when did it become okay to comment on a stranger's breasts? In retrospect, I wish I had spoken up for myself, but at the time I was so caught off guard and embarrassed, I think I just mumbled "okay" and got the hell out of there.

coffee89 · October 2014

My mother tells me all the time that my LO is spitting up straight stomach acid. Yes, he has reflux but I don't think that he is spitting up mouthfuls of acid an hour after eating and being totally happy and not in pain about it. In reality his formula just takes forever to curdle so it separates and doesn't come up chunky. But of course I must be wrong and need to go to the doctor right this minute.

I hold him too much, he cries because I've spoiled him, I need to make sure he wear a bib at every moment because he is going to ruin his clothes with drool and spit up, LO needs to wear heavy clothes in the carseat during winter and the fleece carseat cover is going to suffocate him...

SarahS11 · October 2014

Mine is always more about my future kids... I truly think that some people ask how your baby is doing and how you are adjusting just to hear your misery. Yep, having a baby is hard and has changed a few things, but for the most part I have a pretty easy baby. I'm lucky, I understand that... but it's no reason to try and make me believe that my next baby will be the devil. "Well you are in for it with number two then!"

I'm sick of getting the pity look like ohhh how is sleeping going, or ohhh how is breastfeeding going, and then when I say all is well for right now, they seem pissed. No being happy for the new mom or anything! I awkwardly just say ohh well, things can change... we need to unswaddle soon, that's when I won't get any sleep... blah blah blah get off my case!

JulieSmiles · October 2014

The same witch who asked me what was wrong with my baby last week just came up to me again! "Has baby gained weight yet?" Yes bitch, in the 5 days since you asked she gained 15 pounds. STFU!!!

irenewslee · October 2014

Every time I talk to my parents, they would ask the same question "Is she sleeping through the night? Why does she still need to be fed at night? Oh you have a difficult baby!" She still needs to eat because she is hungry and NO, I do not considered my baby "difficult". She is just hungry!

My LO goes to bed at 8pm and my friend told me that I should not let DD dictates my life. I should change her bedtime so I can do stuff at night because his baby's bedtime is at 9, sometimes 10. I told him that LO gets up early in the morning to go to daycare so our schedule just works for us. Then he said that I need to quit and be a SAHM. WHAT?

fferreiralynn · October 2014

I saw this today.

MrsAy · October 2014

What's up with grandmas and socks? Is that a generational thing? I text a picture to my mom where LO is sucking her thumb and the first thing she says is "put socks on her before she gets a cold". Ok mom.
I hate getting advice on losing weight, I know I'm fat, thanks. No magical juice is going to do the work for me.
Also, my mothers aunt told me to put cilantro in her pillow case and she would STTN. I didn't even tell her she doesn't sleep with a pillow because I didn't wanna hear anything about it.

lest12 · October 2014

My mom was always trying to put socks on lo, too. I finally said, well, he's been fine all day and night but if you want to fuss about and go upstairs and get his socks go ahead.

We don't talk about socks anymore.

MrsAy · October 2014

amtellez28 said:
@MrsAy‌ Cilantro?.. In the pillowcase? LOL WTF?

I know right? That's what I said, but she has 8 kids and she swears by it.

jannzone · October 2014

i second pps about the freaking socks!! every single time ILs visit its, 'oh my goodness his feet are ice cold!" my word. and like seriously we survive and thrive without them the rest of the week. I hate it, i feel like they think my LO would be better off raised by them instead. all the little comments, "watch his head" " is his bath water warm enough r u sure?" it irks me so much!

babygabe614 · October 2014

Since my mom has started watching LO for us during the day, she has tons of advice to share. My house is apparently an ice chest and I am making my child sick (it's 74 degrees). I come home pretty much every day to a sweaty baby in like 3 layers of clothes. She also just texted me to say that rectal thermometers are off by a degree so even though it is reading 100 she doesn't *actually* have a fever. My mom and DH both keep asking about rice cereal and I want to punch both of them. The kid can't even hold her head up yet. Sheesh.

JmeJoLee83 · October 2014

Apparently, I hold my baby too much wtf?!

Hairstylist16 · October 2014

My SIL just had her first baby two weeks ago and decided to bf after I decided to quit and strictly ff but now she's like a fountain of info on how I'm doing everything wrong. I cant even remember all the crap she's spouted off and I'm not saying that she doesn't know anything since this is her first or that I know more since I've had two but it just bugs me that she's decided everything I do is now wrong.

Maladroit · October 2014

Well, I was told by my MIL that I'm mean because I don't co-sleep. My MIL makes me feel really guilty for not BF'ing every time he cries. My boobs don't produce for crap, so we supplement with donor BM (which she thinks is gross).

I'm also apparently a bad mom because I don't want to take ds to dinner at 9pm because I know he gets fussy and tired and I'm not going to take him out knowing damn well that he'll be loud. I wouldn't put anyone through that when we can make plans to eat at 6:30 or 7 and be home when he starts saying he's sleepy.

My least favorite of all, is when people tell me I'm selfish for not wanting more kids - that all I wanted as a baby of my own and I have him - I'm happy.

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