How do you get out of a funk?

bearfootz · October 2014

Because I'm in one right now. I am grateful for my family and know I should be happier but I'm just in a rut.

Work is unfulfiling and my coworkers are some of the most miserable people I've ever met - and you know, misery loves company so they try to drag me down with them. I've keep my eye open for other jobs but I have a good boss who is understanding when it comes to balancing work and being a mom so it's hard to give that up.

DH and I are fine one minute - plotting a new home and a new baby - and the next we're yelling obscenities at each other. And I know that some of it is my own fault because I'm just in a bad mood or tired all of the time, but sometimes it's also because I feel very unappreciated.

I know I should make more of an effort to excercise and see if that helps me feel better, but again, I'm tired ALL THE TIME and can't seem to fit it in the schedule. Excuses, excuses.

I know, dear diary, but I'm being a debbie downer and need to snap out of it.

How do you snap out of it? Someone slap me.

jy725 · October 2014

Are you able to go for a walk on your lunch break? I like using the app Runkeeper to track my walks/runs. That usually helps to motivate me and it is cool to see your progress. I know that it is very hard to find the energy to get out there but start with a small goal of 10 minutes and increase from there. Put on some of your favorite tunes and just zone out and get away from it all.

billybumbler · October 2014

I've been feeling like that a lot lately too. The miserable co-workers really drag you down - working with people you don't like is a real drag.

Some things I have found that help getting out of a funk: go do something fun and different with husband and kids, preferably outdoors. Also if possible go on dates with your DH.

Exercising also helps a lot, and if you're like me and need quiet/alone time taking a walk or going swimming by yourself is great.

bearfootz · October 2014

Thank you ladies. I really do need someone that gets it and DH doesn't, nor do I want to put it on him all of the time.

I've thought about a therapist, but I'll admit I'm very nervous about that. How do you even go about finding one?

I do make an effort to leave work at work, and thought I was doing good about ignoring things because I know I need to be above that, but sometimes it just all piles on.

seahorse102410 · October 2014

I also know exactly how you feel. It's really hard.

bearfootz · October 2014

SunnySideUp26 said:

Can you take a day off work? Sometimes when work is stressful it's nice to have an extra day to decompress. I've taken a day off before- still sent DS to childcare and just had a whole day of relaxing. Coffee, long walk, watching tv alone, going out for lunch, a pedicure. It really helped to have a whole "me" day, even if I didn't do anything really exciting.

I stayed home sick on Monday. I was having bad side effects from the metformin but I also felt like I just needed a mental health day.

I spent the day cleaning and organizing - as if getting my house in control would somehow make me feel like I have more control of my life.

billybumbler · October 2014

About the therapist I'm not sure how insurance stuff works in the US so I don't know if you need a referral or something like that.
. But to find one you can ask your doctor or if you have any friends who are or have been in therapy you can ask them - they can recommend the practice they go to although it's probably a good idea not to have the same therapist as a close friend or family member.
Or call some practices in your area, when I first started therapy I called a practice and left a message, then a therapist called me back, we chatted for a bit and she invited me to come for a first chat and we went from there.
Don't feel bad if you don't like or don't feel comfortable with a given therapist - keep trying until you find someone you click with.
ETA paragraphs are hard

dovetail223 · October 2014

I agree that a therapist is a good option. If you don't find one your like the first appointment, keep trying.

Something that I do that really helps when I'm in a funk is to think about a previous time in my life when I felt similarly in a funk. Then I think about how long I was in that funk (weeks, months, a year). It helps me to look back at previous times in my life and realize that it doesn't last forever. A lot can change even in a couple months. I also think about what changed to get me out of that funk because it might be something I can apply to my current frame of mind.

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