Dear all,
I need some advise for me and my future baby.
I am a Danish citizen living and working in Ireland (1 yr 7 mths). The daddy-to-be is Irish. He is a good guy but lately he has been making comments about how he only wants to move in "part-time", how he will be there (for me and the baby) when he chooses too.
He looks at me like I am a stranger, he doesn't want to have sex with me and he is no longer interested in participating in antenatal classes, doctors appointments etc.
We have been dating on-off for the last year and 7 months (yes I moved to Ireland for him), I know he sees an other woman on-off too. Before I got pregnant I didn't really care to much about this - I mean, we were "just" having fun.
The pregnancy was not planned - yet we have been talking about babies ever since we met.
Thought he is a good guy, he does the occasional drugs and has no money to financially support me and the baby.
Now I am 7 mths pregnant and I only have my partner here in Ireland to support me - I can't move later (not with a little baby).
When I found out I was pregnant, I gave him the opportunity to walk away / let me know if he only wanted to be part time dad or to engage in a real relationship with me (and no other woman) - He chose to become a full time daddy/boyfriend, and we started planning everything. He told me he wasn't seeing this other woman and he was really excited, and then a couple of months ago I found out they were planning a family together as well - she needs UVF treatment and they went to Estonia together to do the testing.
So I don't know what to do now?
Should I take the chance and stay in Ireland, hope for him to come around, and mature to be a parent and a partner,
Or should I go back to Denmark were I have my family and friends who can help me?
I understand that going back to Denmark will limit my partners access to the baby, but I would be willing to pay for his flight every now and then.
Please help me...
Re: Need some advise.. please