To know or not to know...

juniebaby · October 2014

We have discussed not finding out the gender until birth. Just want to hear what you other ladies think about that.

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acethebase · October 2014

I would love to have it be a surprise as well but then I actually thought for a minute and said "what?! I hate surprises!" So I'm out...

kgille921 · October 2014

My husband really wants to wait and be team green, but it's hard for me to think about asking to not receive information from the doc. It's not like we won't have an ultrasound.

juniebaby · October 2014

I'm torn. I really want to wait but I don't want to have the stress of choosing two names, it's hard enough choosing one!

MJMum524 · October 2014

Finding out ferrr suuurrreee

ksimo6 · October 2014

We have to know. I'm way too type A. I have to have everything ready fire baby comes. We found out with DD too and we liked knowing. Do what makes you happy!

dojo1 · October 2014

My thinking is that it will be a surprise when you find out no matter if it happens when you deliver or if it happens at your anatomy scan so the element of surprise is not a particularly strong argument for me.

I liked finding out early because it made me feel a lot more connected to my DS. He had a name, we decorated a nursery with him in mind, I bough clothes and pictured him in them. For me, it's exciting to plan and prepare and obsess for months before baby's arrival. I know you can do absolutely everything I have just stated even if you don't know the sex of the baby, but for some reason it all just felt more definite to me. I also wasn't interested in doing anything gender neutral.

I'll find out again this time around. I bought a huge nine-drawer dresser last year with a second baby in mind. At the time I said I would paint it coral if I have a girl or kelly green if I have a boy. I'm not sure I'll stick with those colours, but I will definitely pick something and have it ready for the new baby.

roots&wings · October 2014

I'm a planner & a list maker. I'm a horrible secret Santa and I always ask for presents early. I HAVE to know. So much that I want to do that Verify test at 10 weeks if Medicaid covers it.

juniebaby · October 2014

I am a super planner also, not sure if I can hold out, but if I can I think it would be awesome!

LuLuBelle89 · October 2014

Definitely finding out! Patience is something I am lacking (I blame my Italian father).

Takin' the plunge · October 2014

I'm on the fence. Really leaning towards waiting. My hubby wants to know but,he said whatever I want works.
I agree it's really one of life's only true suprises.

jbartsy · October 2014

100% going to find out.

It's not going to make much of a difference in my nursery planning though. I might throw in a couple pops of pink or blue at the end, but I want it to be earth-toned and relaxing. I know some people whose nurseries look like the barbie aisle at the toy store... no thanks.

pghctwife · October 2014

We are lifetime team green. I wavered the first time but finding out the sex at birth was one of the best moments ever. I don't believe the moment would have been the same for us in an ultrasound. I had dh announce the sex and both times he choked up.

I'm a planner too but really the only difference was picking one name vs 2. All the big stuff was neutral anyhow for future kids, and I have a GORGEOUS neutral nursery that I love and want to just use forever, so I love that all kids will use it.

And I'm such a big shopper it is better for me not to know. I get a few neutral things then shop online when baby comes. With both boys I would have over shopped before had I known, and would have bought stuff in wrong sizes and stuff I didn't prefer once I knew them.

Plus I loved all the guessing when pg which really doesn't come till later with a belly etc. super fun!
And esp with a second bby but really even for first the birth excitement among others is soo Much greater when it's a surpise!

pghctwife · October 2014

One last thing, I NEVER get surprised. I seriously just don't, so I loved getting that

loveinkw13 · October 2014

Right now, I'm 75/25, 75 being waiting and 25 being finding out. It absolutely does make the planning easier, but IMO, there is something about waiting that makes it special. I honestly don't know if my answer will be no during the A/S if they ask me if I want to know... ah the decisions

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luvindanimals · October 2014

100% team green here. Dh wants to know but I told him if this is our last one (by his choice) then we will be team green for sure. So looking forward to the anticipation in June. We found out for our first though because it made registering for a baby shower so much easier!

TeacherMama7 · October 2014

mindi16563 said:
We've decided not to find out. I've always thought it's the only real surprise you will ever get!!

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Exactly my thoughts!

maroongolf · October 2014

We found out with our first, and waited with our second. DH wants to be team green again. I agree with the others who said it is a surprise whether you find out at 20 weeks or at the birth. My only advice for team green people is if you would like DH or yourself to make the "It's a..." announcement, then let your nurses and dr know before you start pushing. I hadn't thought about it ahead of time, but was pretty annoyed when the nurse blurted out "it's a girl", before DH could.

S&SS · October 2014

i'll be finding out the very first second I can. Im way too "a type" to not be planned and prepared for it! haha

shanaea87 · October 2014

There's no way I would be able to wait. I am too impatient and not know would drive me crazy!

prairiedreams · October 2014

Team green again for sure! Not the surprise part that gets me but that that itty bitty baby is perfect upon arrival no matter what kind.

ReadyforBaby2 · October 2014

I think it's awesome for people who can do it. I can't handle not knowing. Haha.

sassafras1982 · October 2014

Team green! We found out with our other 3. This will be our last baby so we would like be change it up this time.

veggiemo · October 2014

I found out with my son, there wasn't even a question. I just had an overwhelming urge to know

This time we really want to go team green! Those who have experienced it: does it get much harder as the pregnancy progresses?

EricaD777 · October 2014

Exactly what @Pgh-CTBride said...There is no other surprise in life as great as that, in the moment, giving birth. I get chills just thinking about it. Wondering if it was a boy/girl also helps to pass the pushing time.

We are Team Green for life!!!

schuebja · October 2014

I'm really leaning towards being team green. We found out with DD, which really helped me bond with her. However, I would love to be surprised this time around as this is will most likely be our last baby.

CMDD · October 2014

oh i want to know so badly. like right now!

tiffbot1985 · October 2014

We are team green and were last time.

EDIT: I too loved after delivery (they had to take him away immediately to check vital stats because he was premature before bringing him back to me for a few seconds before they took him down to NICU)-I had such an adrenaline rush I didn't hear the nurses when they showed H so it was pretty awesome getting to ask him and having him cry telling me

mountainmama65 · October 2014

Team green! For all of the reasons mentioned already- I LOVE surprises, and I get teary-eyed just thinking about DH announcing our baby girl or boy to me in the delivery room

Thanks for the advice @maroongolf‌!

willowprincess · October 2014

We've been team green with all of ours and love it! It's so fun keeping everyone guessing and wondering. The moment my husband announces to me each time has also been so wonderful. Plus he loves getting to walk out in the waiting room and tell everyone. It's just so amazing!

JenRN1115 · October 2014

We did not find out with our first and it was amazing. My husband was able to announce which was special. With our second we found out. I have no idea this time.

willowprincess · October 2014

bump burp

sharice111 · October 2014

#4 DH can't wait... I mean he is the one who wants to know now and we found out with previous 3. I have always wanted to wait but cave at the ultrasound. He is working a lot this year so if he can't make it to the ultrasound I'm picking to not know.

I might just say the legs were crossed who knows.

alvell · October 2014

I'm a huge planner, and I hate being surprised and I hate not knowing what's going to happen. I'm also a control freak, so there's no way I can go without finding out. Obviously I will be surprised at the anatomy scan, and I have no way of controlling the gender, but I can control what I do to prepare once I know, so that makes me feel the most comfortable. Although, I will say, I envy the women who can relax and be patient, and be surprised during delivery.

willowprincess · October 2014

I will say that once you pass the anatomy scan it gets much easier not knowing. It's super hard during the u/s, but once it's over it's much easier to wait. It's like once you can't know, then it's okay.

suzysurparis · October 2014

I guess it's possible to go team green here, but with my accent and the chance of not being understood I'm just going to find out as early as possible to I can pick a paint color. The future nursery is currently green but I don't like the shade anyway.

Schnurette · October 2014

We found out withbour first but DH was so convinced it was a noy that when they told him it was a girl he didn't believe them. Shes a girl lol

This time I'm not sure I want to find out but DH wants to. So...I guess we'll decide later.

jalex1991 · October 2014

I really want to know, but im not telling anyone until the shower. But then again i have such a big mouth, everyone will know by the end of the day.

papillon025 · October 2014

@Laurenlou83 You must be my twin. I want to be team green so badly but H knows if finding out will give me the opportunity to make a list then I'll do it.

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