Letting go on the weekends

Re: Letting go on the weekends

• 2chatter member

  October 2014

  For me, my former boss asked me "Is this something you have to do today or can it wait?" It sounds really simple, but it totally made sense to me. If I don't have an action item, no brain space. If I do have an action item, execute. And if I lack an action item, but there's going to be an action item, make a plan then forget about it until I need to take action based on the plan. It made a huge difference in my life - I was so used to being reactive and getting sucked into drama/fire drills/stuff that made me angry that I could not stop.

  

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• justjinny member

  October 2014

  This sounds silly, but I write myself a note or to-do list if things like that keep me up at night, then stick it in my purse and leave it alone until I get into work on Monday.  It really helps me to stop thinking about the steps I'll need to take on Monday morning and put work out of my mind.

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• jenn43 member

  October 2014

  If I find myself obsessing about drama with a particular person (e.g. I used to worry in advance about dealing with one particular boss I had, to the point where it would ruin my weekend), I tell myself it's a win for them if I continue to think about it.  That usually helps me let it go.

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• mae0111 member

  October 2014

  I have been having a huge problem with this lately. I am running a project that could quite literally break my career if we get it wrong.  I'm dealing with extremely difficult (and often downright mean) personalities; not enough staff; and a ridiculous, almost unattainable timeline.  I can't let it go.  Ever. 
  
  This will continue until at least February of next year, at least.  I have actually started meditating to try to center myself a bit more.  It has helped a bit, but I need to work on it more.
  

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• MommyAtty member

  October 2014

  justjinny said:

  This sounds silly, but I write myself a note or to-do list if things like that keep me up at night, then stick it in my purse and leave it alone until I get into work on Monday.  It really helps me to stop thinking about the steps I'll need to take on Monday morning and put work out of my mind.

  
  This. I even keep a pad on my night stand so if it's happening at night, I can write my worry/action item/issue down and forget it.

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• Ducktapetherapy member

  October 2014

  I struggle with this constantly! I have learned is to not fight it, it's okay to have the thought, remind yourself that you can't do anything about it right now. When you are struggling focus on something that catches your attention, even if it's a flower..anything to change your thought pattern. The more you fight trying to control thinking about it, the more you think about it.

  
  

  ~Ducktapetherapy

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• Puppies+Rainbows+Unicorns member

  October 2014

  My go to if I am stressing about anything is to run.  I particularly like to go to the gym after work on Friday and go for a long run and then sit in the sauna.  Afterwards I put on non-work cloths.  By the time I leave I am generally out of work mode.

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• rab41380 member

  October 2014

  Yes, fitness helps a lot. A good cardio or yoga class will allow negative thoughts and work related drama to go away for the weekend.

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