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jensriot · October 2014

rosesandpetals said:

Reading TB makes me realize how limited our dinner is. We have the same like 8 meals for dinner. DD has the most variety because she loves fruit and we encourage that but DH and I rarely change it up.

Maybe we should re-institute cookbook night where we pick a new recipe and make it.

You're not alone. I feel silly sometimes when I post in meal planning threads because it's pretty much the same stuff week after week.

rosesandpetals · October 2014

Aussie45 said:

@rosesandpetals‌ I think some people would have a hard time learning it. Some people, like me, have seen the shit their parents went through and I am the complete opposite. The amount of debt my parents have is staggering and the shit they've done to get to that point is ridiculous. I taught myself how to manager my money and I err on the side of caution because I'm terrified I'll turn out like them (in regards to credit card debt, living above your means, etc.). If you've lived and seen that side of life (massive debt, mismanagement of budget and money) and still throw caution to the wind, then that's on you (general).

Yes, I agree but that isn't everyone's experience. DH grew up very poor. His parents managed to have no debt aside from their (shockingly small) mortgage. They paid their mortgage, bought food, paid utilities, and if there was money left over they bought clothes. DH and BIL didn't know anything about emergency funds or saving for retirement or vacation savings or that sort of thing because my ILs never had enough money left over for a savings account. DH is fine but BIL spends his money on crap and then complains that he can't afford things. I think he wastes his money but I also feel sorry for him that he was never taught how to manage his money or save.

But I also think self-restraint needs to be taught and if you grow up with parents who blow all their money and have massive CC debt then I am not surprised if you (general you) end up in the same situation. Isn't that part of the reason we don't buy our kids everything they want? They need to understand that toys cost money and you can't afford everything you want.

meglew · October 2014

mamaalysson said:

I confess that I am hiding in my house with the curtains drawn today. Our old neighbors are moving back into the house next door, and I am not excited. They are so overbearing and loud, and now that we have seen the light with the amazing renters that they had in there, I am having a really hard time imagining going back. They have kids, and I know DD and DS would love to play with them, but I know that in the chaos of the move, all three of her crazy hyper children are going to somehow end up at my house or in my yard, and suddenly my quiet and calm no school day is going to turn into me watching five children. So, we hide. I think we might sneak out later and walk over to the good neighbors' new house.

I feel this way when my neighbors go out of town for the weekend. It makes me like our house 500x more and I get sad when I see their cars in the driveway and on the street. It is like a frat house of guys and a girl and they are the only house in the neighborhood like that. If we ever come home and see a FOR SALE sign in their yard, it is quite possible my DH will die of happiness. Literally everyone else is retired and quiet or has kids. Lucky us.

vlagrl29 · October 2014

JMC11511 said:

I read an article about enterovirus this week and freaked out because L has been coughing/sneezing and is prone to croup/respiratory infections. DH has since talked me down.

we got an email last week from DD's preschool letting us know one of the kids had that virus and that they were disinfecting everything. I had a moment of freak out too. GAH! DH didn't make me feel any better because he told me kids were being hospitalized from it and a few have died.

kcisthebombdotcom · October 2014

letranger said:

It's happy just letting you'll know ! J and M start preschool and toddler land full time on Tuesday.

Congrats! Gl!

zbeesma86 · October 2014

letranger said:

I have a ft job now.

Congrats!!

penguingrrl · October 2014

Congrats Let! That's exciting news! GL!!!

kcisthebombdotcom · October 2014

letranger said:
My new commute is 15 miles RT. I'm going to look KC hot

Off topic I thought of you this morning when I was listening to the radio. They have this segment called first date update when they call people who went on a date that never got a call back to find our why the person got blown off. This chick blew off a guy after an awesome date because when they walked outside he had a bicycle and she went on about how she hated cyclists. I figured you woulda ran her over with your bike.

Cherryblossoms07 · October 2014

mamaalysson said:

I confess that I am hiding in my house with the curtains drawn today. Our old neighbors are moving back into the house next door, and I am not excited. They are so overbearing and loud, and now that we have seen the light with the amazing renters that they had in there, I am having a really hard time imagining going back. They have kids, and I know DD and DS would love to play with them, but I know that in the chaos of the move, all three of her crazy hyper children are going to somehow end up at my house or in my yard, and suddenly my quiet and calm no school day is going to turn into me watching five children. So, we hide. I think we might sneak out later and walk over to the good neighbors' new house.

Ugh! I know how you feel! When DH's deployment was canceled and the kids and I moved back home I was excited to see DH, but less than excited to be seeing the neighbors again. When they first moved in I thought it was nice that they had kids and our kids can play but they started coming over to our house 24/7, no joke! We started staying inside to avoid having them come over all the time, but then they started walking into our house...so we started locking the front door...so they started trying all possible doors...so we started having to be extra vigilante about locking all doors...then they started looking in the windows to see if we were home....I felt like we lived in a cave just so that we could have a little peace and quiet once and a while.

notkateanymore · October 2014

diapersnwipes said:

H has been out of town all week. I'm tired. I just yelled at DD 3 times in 5 minutes. I decided to put on Frozen. They are both sitting happy and quiet. I might let them watch it twice :P

DH has been out of town since Monday...counting down the minutes until he lands. 45 in case you're asking.

notkateanymore · October 2014

olivegoose said:

I lied to my mom about DD asking to stay the night with them so she would take her tonight. I need a break from 3 year old attitude so bad. I knew she would go for it in a heartbeat if it was DD asking instead of me.

And this is a problem...why? Do it all the time.

Hollylb3 · October 2014

olivegoose said:
I lied to my mom about DD asking to stay the night with them so she would take her tonight. I need a break from 3 year old attitude so bad. I knew she would go for it in a heartbeat if it was DD asking instead of me.

I did this with SD last time. I felt so guilty (mostly because she isn't actually mine), but I'm just not used to having a chatterbox around all the time and DH has been working a ton. Plus, MIL is lonely.

Hollylb3 · October 2014

iheartthe80s said:

Hollylb3 said:

olivegoose said:
I lied to my mom about DD asking to stay the night with them so she would take her tonight. I need a break from 3 year old attitude so bad. I knew she would go for it in a heartbeat if it was DD asking instead of me.
I did this with SD last time. I felt so guilty (mostly because she isn't actually mine), but I'm just not used to having a chatterbox around all the time and DH has been working a ton. Plus, MIL is lonely.

You never post very nice things about your SD. Her dad is working a lot and you send her away because her chatting bothers you? Nice.

We've had a rough go of it lately. She's entering that tween stage that takes some getting used to. I really do love her, and she has lots of redeeming qualities. I just tend to talk about the negative ones here, I guess.

Andrewsgal · October 2014

Hollylb3 said:

iheartthe80s said:

Hollylb3 said:

olivegoose said:
I lied to my mom about DD asking to stay the night with them so she would take her tonight. I need a break from 3 year old attitude so bad. I knew she would go for it in a heartbeat if it was DD asking instead of me.
I did this with SD last time. I felt so guilty (mostly because she isn't actually mine), but I'm just not used to having a chatterbox around all the time and DH has been working a ton. Plus, MIL is lonely.

You never post very nice things about your SD. Her dad is working a lot and you send her away because her chatting bothers you? Nice.

We've had a rough go of it lately. She's entering that tween stage that takes some getting used to. I really do love her, and she has lots of redeeming qualities. I just tend to talk about the negative ones here, I guess.

Honestly you sound like a horrible step mom. She didn't ask for you to marry her dad and start a family.

notkateanymore · October 2014

I don't get the tween thing...god knows I do. But you need to focus on the good stuff.

notkateanymore · October 2014

feffany said:

FFFC: I drank too much and threw up at @Kimbus22‌ 's house.... ....Twice.

And then you drove home?

HBirdie · October 2014

rosesandpetals said:

Aussie45 said:

@rosesandpetals‌ I think some people would have a hard time learning it. Some people, like me, have seen the shit their parents went through and I am the complete opposite. The amount of debt my parents have is staggering and the shit they've done to get to that point is ridiculous. I taught myself how to manager my money and I err on the side of caution because I'm terrified I'll turn out like them (in regards to credit card debt, living above your means, etc.). If you've lived and seen that side of life (massive debt, mismanagement of budget and money) and still throw caution to the wind, then that's on you (general).

Yes, I agree but that isn't everyone's experience. DH grew up very poor. His parents managed to have no debt aside from their (shockingly small) mortgage. They paid their mortgage, bought food, paid utilities, and if there was money left over they bought clothes. DH and BIL didn't know anything about emergency funds or saving for retirement or vacation savings or that sort of thing because my ILs never had enough money left over for a savings account. DH is fine but BIL spends his money on crap and then complains that he can't afford things. I think he wastes his money but I also feel sorry for him that he was never taught how to manage his money or save.

But I also think self-restraint needs to be taught and if you grow up with parents who blow all their money and have massive CC debt then I am not surprised if you (general you) end up in the same situation. Isn't that part of the reason we don't buy our kids everything they want? They need to understand that toys cost money and you can't afford everything you want.

I really relate to this. I learned horrible money habits from my parents. I have a really hard time putting money into savings and I'm honestly still working on a lot of issues. When I was a kid, money was gone so quickly, and sometimes (please don't think my parents are horrible people!), my parents would have to borrow my birthday money that I got from relatives because they had to pay a bill or something. The lesson that money doesn't last long and you should spend it (on something you want) before it disappears is deeply ingrained in my psyche.

Point is, I didn't learn healthy money habits and it's taken a lot to overcome that. Not everyone goes to the opposite end of the spectrum and does well right away.

notkateanymore · October 2014

Oh good, I thought we were going to have to separate y'all for bad behavior when together.

Hollylb3 · October 2014

No, we don't have custody. And I didn't ship her off overnight (I know I wasn't clear in my OP), it was just for a couple hours in the afternoon. She and DS had been at each other all morning, and I just needed some peace. I would've sent them both, but that would've defeated the purpose of having them spend some time apart. I know I'm not winning awards for step-mom of the year anytime soon, but it really is something I work on regularly. I make efforts to bond with her. I read books and all kinds of stuff on how to deal with the tween years. I'm trying, really.

thechickencoop · October 2014

Leftie22 said:

Ugh, new iPad update is the Worst! Anyway, I feel bad that it took me 7 months to fall in love with my baby, and also that sometimes I want to be alone with her so I can really get to know her. Then I feel like a double turd. Also, I confess I hate Apple products.

@leftie22 I wasn't really in love with DS until he was almost a year; hell, I didn't even like him a lot before that. It was an awful feeling but that's what PPD will do to you. All that matters is that you recognized something was off and fixed it! There's nothing wrong with that

bumpuser8448316 · October 2014

Hollylb3 said:

No, we don't have custody. And I didn't ship her off overnight (I know I wasn't clear in my OP), it was just for a couple hours in the afternoon. She and DS had been at each other all morning, and I just needed some peace. I would've sent them both, but that would've defeated the purpose of having them spend some time apart. I know I'm not winning awards for step-mom of the year anytime soon, but it really is something I work on regularly. I make efforts to bond with her. I read books and all kinds of stuff on how to deal with the tween years. I'm trying, really.

Why not send DS instead of SD? Some one on one time would probably make her feel really good that you're trying to have a good relationship with her. Although you statement that she has "redeeming qualities" tells a lot about how you really feel. She's just a kid FFS.

Hollylb3 · October 2014

QueSyrah said:

Hollylb3 said:

No, we don't have custody. And I didn't ship her off overnight (I know I wasn't clear in my OP), it was just for a couple hours in the afternoon. She and DS had been at each other all morning, and I just needed some peace. I would've sent them both, but that would've defeated the purpose of having them spend some time apart. I know I'm not winning awards for step-mom of the year anytime soon, but it really is something I work on regularly. I make efforts to bond with her. I read books and all kinds of stuff on how to deal with the tween years. I'm trying, really.

Why not send DS instead of SD? Some one on one time would probably make her feel really good that you're trying to have a good relationship with her. Although you statement that she has "redeeming qualities" tells a lot about how you really feel. She's just a kid FFS.

We do spend one on one time together when ds naps. We talk, watch movies, play games, etc. I didn't send him because I had to work that night and he gets irritable when he's away from me too much. Sounds like an excuse, but it's true. He's too young to understand why I'm not there. When I said redeeming qualities, I meant from being a tween. It's not a person's shining time in their life, if you'll remember back a few years.

I've been this kiddo's step-mom for 7.5 yrs now. I know the sweet angel I once knew will return again someday soon. Until then, we do the best we can.

Hollylb3 · October 2014

I spend plenty of time thinking about how I should be treating others, thanks though. If she were my own, people would think nothing of me complaining about her. I'm done defending myself. Goodnight.

bumpuser8448316 · October 2014

Hollylb3 said:

I spend plenty of time thinking about how I should be treating others, thanks though. If she were my own, people would think nothing of me complaining about her. I'm done defending myself. Goodnight.

Nope. I'd still be judging you

Andrewsgal · October 2014

Hollylb3 said:
I spend plenty of time thinking about how I should be treating others, thanks though. If she were my own, people would think nothing of me complaining about her. I'm done defending myself. Goodnight.

This is christian hypocrisyat its best, you won't drink in public but you will send your step daughter away instead of your son which is just plain mean. Drinking bad, being mean to kids perfectly acceptable if they aren't yours.

dizzycooks · October 2014

All I'm gonna say (tldr) is my stepmom has been around for 23 years, the last 12 married to my dad. It's only in the last couple years that we've bonded. Never disliked her, the whole thing was just awkward and it was as much her as me. Lighten up, but holly trying is something you have to do constantly, you're the parent. It will pay off eventually and the kid notices.

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