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  • robsbabygirl08robsbabygirl08 member
    edited October 2014
    TXUltraRunner said:

    I guess I don't understand because I haven't had a kid yet but I really don't get people who don't like leaving their kids with the grandparents because the grandparents "won't have the same rules." Isn't that what going to the grandparents is supposed to be? How many of us had rules at our grandparents house? That's why I loved going there, I could get away with more! 

    When the "rules" can be harmful if broken then it will matter. My MIL fed my DD shrimp dip at 6 months old. As in shellfish, after I specifically told her not to. We were on an island with no hospital and the only way off is by ferry or helicopter. If she had been allergic the outcome could've been horrific. And I was the bad guy because I wouldn't let her feed the baby something she liked. Then when you witness you MIL yelling at the top of her lungs at your 2 y/o to shut her mouth or she will beat her butt, you will probably feel differently. It just shows a complete lack of respect for you and your child.
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  • bouguerbabouguerba member

    My UO: When you go to a restaurant and people are either on their phones or have them on the table.....I CANT....unless you are showing someone something or waiting for an urgent call put it away! Its so annoying and rude. It is possible to sit through a meal without being "connected".

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  • ghostof5lettersghostof5letters member
    bwall84 said:
    southernyankeegirl said:
    We DO have great mods. *Some* of the new mod nominations over on the board that shall not be named were people who handle the dramz really terribly. I saw Gone Girl last night and for the most part LOVED it. Can't wait to read the book now. I haven't been introduced to Gillian Flynn's work until now.
    Apparently it's an UO that I loathed Gone Girl (book, haven't seen the movie). Sure, it was well written but I kept hoping there would be a character that wasn't truly despicable (maybe his sister, that's about it). I closed that last chapter thoroughly disgusted and disappointed. I won't see the movie because I hated those characters so much.
    I liked the book and hated ALL of the characters (including the sister - she bothered me more than the husband did).  I almost don't want to see the movie because I do like Ben Affleck and I don't want to not like him after I see it LOL
    Mobile quote fail The book was well written but I HATED the ending. I hope they changed it for the movie. I'm waiting until it comes out in Red Box to see it.
    I loved the book so much because of how much I hated the ending. The visceral feelings I had when I finished the book, and how it stuck with me, made me love it. No shitty book could leave me that pissed off when I finished it. 
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  • JerseyHopefulJerseyHopeful member
    Baby bucketlist...I don't "get it" I don't get going through with a pregnancy knowing with absolute certianty the baby lives no more than 24 hours. I kept hoping to see that they donated his working organs and that was why they did this but alas saw no such thing. I guess this makes me like the worst person ever and I'm sure it's an enormously UO but it's my opinion none the less.
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  • YaMrWhiteYaMrWhite member
    edited October 2014
    JerseyHopeful said:

    Baby bucketlist...I don't "get it" I don't get going through with a pregnancy knowing with absolute certianty the baby lives no more than 24 hours. I kept hoping to see that they donated his working organs and that was why they did this but alas saw no such thing. I guess this makes me like the worst person ever and I'm sure it's an enormously UO but it's my opinion none the less.

    Well...considering I made the choice to terminate my twin pregnancy for this reason I guess I share this sentiment. Those that choose to carry to term are stronger than me for sure. I could not handle it emotionally. That's selfish of me I know but it is what it is. I have a child already that I need to think about as well and she needs her mom.
    Stephanie Ella ~ 6/15/2012
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  • JerseyHopefulJerseyHopeful member
    I would NEVER qualify that choice as selfish. I can't see how bringing that baby into a world for just a few hours is a less selfish choice at all. The whole thing is way beyond my understanding. This isn't bringing a child with Down's syndrome or a likewise conditon into the world where a life can actually be lived, it's certain and almost immediate death.
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  • JerseyHopefulJerseyHopeful member
    Not understanding is not the same as passing judgement
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  • BookitBooBookitBoo member
    Maybe I misunderstood. Your initial post seems to indicate the only valid reason for giving birth to a baby with anencephaly is to donate organs? If I did misunderstand, my b
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  • melmarie4melmarie4 member
    edited October 2014
    I was going to post a similar opinion. I couldn't do 9 months pregnancy knowing my baby has no chance of making it. I've heard people say the couple hours of life of the life of their baby is worth it, but to me it would make it so much more painful than losing the baby during my pregnancy or choosing to terminate.

    I've heard stories where the baby has no brain(not sure if that's what Shane's specific circumstances were exactly), but I can't understand keeping a pregnancy full term when the baby has no brain. Every other disability or complication completely understand, but without a brain, how is there any quality of life?
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  • LanatirLanatir member
    Robs Baby Girl said:
    I guess I don't understand because I haven't had a kid yet but I really don't get people who don't like leaving their kids with the grandparents because the grandparents "won't have the same rules." Isn't that what going to the grandparents is supposed to be? How many of us had rules at our grandparents house? That's why I loved going there, I could get away with more! 
    When the "rules" can be harmful if broken then it will matter. My MIL fed my DD shrimp dip at 6 months old. As in shellfish, after I specifically told her not to. We were on an island with no hospital and the only way off is by ferry or helicopter. If she had been allergic the outcome could've been horrific. And I was the bad guy because I wouldn't let her feed the baby something she liked. Then when you witness you MIL yelling at the top of her lungs at your 2 y/o to shut her mouth or she will beat her butt, you will probably feel differently. It just shows a complete lack of respect for you and your child.
    Yes.  This is why my ILs are NOT allowed to watch DD.  At 8 months, we hadn't introduced meat to DD yet and MiL fed DD turkey she thought was raw.  WTF?  (Of course there are TONS of other reasons.)

    I am generally on the side of meh, but I also know some people will NEVER be allowed to watch my children because the break isn't worth it (as in the above story).
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  • YaMrWhiteYaMrWhite member
    JerseyHopeful said:

    I would NEVER qualify that choice as selfish. I can't see how bringing that baby into a world for just a few hours is a less selfish choice at all. The whole thing is way beyond my understanding. This isn't bringing a child with Down's syndrome or a likewise conditon into the world where a life can actually be lived, it's certain and almost immediate death.

    I was called selfish by someone who saw me walking in to have the procedure so that's why I said that.
    Stephanie Ella ~ 6/15/2012
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    southernyankeegirl said:

    YaMrWhite said:

    JerseyHopeful said:

    I would NEVER qualify that choice as selfish. I can't see how bringing that baby into a world for just a few hours is a less selfish choice at all. The whole thing is way beyond my understanding. This isn't bringing a child with Down's syndrome or a likewise conditon into the world where a life can actually be lived, it's certain and almost immediate death.

    I was called selfish by someone who saw me walking in to have the procedure so that's why I said that.
    Just point them out and I will take care of them. Grrrrr!!!

    I can't imagine being in that situation. I am just glad that there is a choice - to carry to term or terminate. I would want to support everyone facing such an impossible choice with whichever decision makes the situation comparatively less difficult.
    The dr I was referred to who was doing the procedure has actually been shot at before. This was years ago but the referring dr that diagnosed me told me that and it freaked me the eff out.
    Stephanie Ella ~ 6/15/2012
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  • BookitBooBookitBoo member
    @YaMrWhite‌ I am so sorry you had to go through that, and I can't even imagine how heartbreaking it had to be. I hope that the person who said that to you never has to go through anything as devastating.
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  • britb618britb618 member
    No judgement here either way but just pointing out that those who believe abortion is murder do not believe its a choice so that is probably why the couple who spoke out about being catholic didn't terminate...not necessarily because she had some sort of expectancy or qualification of quality of life for her child. I am so sorry you went through that @YaMrWhite‌ I have no idea what I would do.
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