UO

Maebb · October 2014

Unpopular opinions! Make them good! Or not, up to you.

Maebb · October 2014

My UO is that I think it's ridiculous when people spend a lot of money on kids' clothes. A woman recently posted about 100 pieces of 0-6 month clothes on a Facebook group site for $400. She said that she paid over $2500 for all of it. Even if you have the money, spending $2500 for 6 months of clothes for your kid is crazy IMO.

Maybe I am just jealous that her infant has a more expensive wardrobe than I do.

nah82 · October 2014

Maebb said:

My UO is that I think it's ridiculous when people spend a lot of money on kids' clothes. A woman recently posted about 100 pieces of 0-6 month clothes on a Facebook group site for $400. She said that she paid over $2500 for all of it. Even if you have the money, spending $2500 for 6 months of clothes for your kid is crazy IMO. Maybe I am just jealous that her infant has a more expensive wardrobe than I do.

I just paid $100 for well over 100 pieces of used clothing ranging from 6 months to 18 months, 4 completely full garbage bags full of nice brand name things with not a single stain.

Valm999 · October 2014

My UO is that I hate my snoogle... I find it useless and it does nothing to improve my back pain or help me sleep better. Total waste of money! I would have achieved the exact same results by sleeping with a regular pillow between my legs.

southernyankeegirl · October 2014

My UO is that I now sort of wonder why people complain so much about the glucose tolerance test (1 hr). It's seriously such a simple easy thing! Sure, I wouldn't pick that drink out of a cooler at a party, but I didn't have trouble drinking it down. A few big gulps, just lousy flat orange soda.

And yeah, I felt kinda crappy around when they drew the blood and after, but again, no biggie. Kind of like when I realize I am late to have lunch. Quickly ate the breakfast I bought and drank some water and felt totally back to normal.

I just don't see why people talk like it sucks so bad... It was a such a minor thing for me!

motherboy · October 2014

If you live in the city and your park on the street, you need to know how to parallel park. I'm so annoyed by my neighbors who leave 1/2 space in front and behind them because they don't know how to park. It's not that hard!

Reiden · October 2014

My UO isn't pregnancy related, but I feel it's unpopular enough to mention.

I don't think the 4chan board is honestly that bad; or at least, as bad as everyone perpetuates it to be. Most of the time you can go on there, find decent-- albeit yes, weird-- people to just talk to about anything [granted they have a relevant board for that topic]. I think the total anonymity of the board is refreshing; you can be -whoever- you want without repercussion, or judged about it. If someone disagrees with what you believe in/judge yuo for a specific facet of yourself, you can act like that post didn't 'belong' to you at all, and continue on unhindered.

It's an interesting subculture of online experience. Now, don't get be wrong, 4chan can be a gigantic pit of scum and villany, but they normally keep to themselves unless someone throws a rock at them or otherwise stirrs the pot into a shitstorm of vengeful, raging death. For about five minutes. That's also the upside of 4chan; they have incredibly short attention spans [the average length of an idle/inactive thread on 4chan is 3-4 days, then it gets automatically deleted, as it's assumed to be 'dead' ]

nah82 · October 2014

southernyankeegirl said:

My UO is that I now sort of wonder why people complain so much about the glucose tolerance test (1 hr). It's seriously such a simple easy thing! Sure, I wouldn't pick that drink out of a cooler at a party, but I didn't have trouble drinking it down. A few big gulps, just lousy flat orange soda. And yeah, I felt kinda crappy around when they drew the blood and after, but again, no biggie. Kind of like when I realize I am late to have lunch. Quickly ate the breakfast I bought and drank some water and felt totally back to normal. I just don't see why people talk like it sucks so bad... It was a such a minor thing for me!

It would've actually been kind of delightful for me when I was pregnant the second time if an old guy wouldn't have plopped down beside me and talked to me the whole time. I get a cold drink and I get to sit in one place in peace and quiet for an hour and read my book? Yes please! Unfortunately, this time there is nobody to watch my boys when I go so I have to take them along, and that is not going to be relaxing AT ALL.

TXUltraRunner · October 2014

Now that I'm pregnant I really think my friends complain too much about their pregnancies. I understand that it's uncomfortable and inconvenient but I expected it to be. It's not like anything I've encountered has been a surprise and none of them had/have difficult or high risk pregnancies. Sometimes I lie about how great I feel when they ask because I know they want me to complain as much as they did/do.

Lanatir · October 2014

I guess my UO could go off of the GTT thing...

UO-- flat soda is tasty. haha.

Beauxbaton · October 2014

I hate baby pants. I can't find any that fit DS and it's really annoying

EmilyA724 · October 2014

Lanatir said:
I guess my UO could go off of the GTT thing...

UO-- flat soda is tasty. haha.

DH only likes room temp soda. I've gotten so used to it that soda from the fridge is way too fizzy for me

britb618 · October 2014

I'm pretty sure for the most part this isn't an unpopular opinion but not really sure where to post it and don't want to start a new thread because its too sad....

Not sure if anyone heard of the Bucket List Baby, but it was a couple who found out their baby most likely had a brain defect and wouldn't live more than a few days past birth so they went around the country doing "bucket list things" with their baby bump so he would experience all of these things in his short life before birth. Well he was born last night and he died this morning. I was REALLY hoping and praying that the doctors ALL had it wrong. Silly I know because I'm sure they went to a ton of doctors to have this reconfirmed over and over again...I just wanted the doctors to be wrong, as I'm sure everyone else did too. So not really a UO but like I said, didn't really know where to post it so here it is

Reiden · October 2014

britb618 said:

I'm pretty sure for the most part this isn't an unpopular opinion but not really sure where to post it and don't want to start a new thread because its too sad....
Not sure if anyone heard of the Bucket List Baby, but it was a couple who found out their baby most likely had a brain defect and wouldn't live more than a few days past birth so they went around the country doing "bucket list things" with their baby bump so he would experience all of these things in his short life before birth. Well he was born last night and he died this morning. I was REALLY hoping and praying that the doctors ALL had it wrong. Silly I know because I'm sure they went to a ton of doctors to have this reconfirmed over and over again...I just wanted the doctors to be wrong, as I'm sure everyone else did too. So not really a UO but like I said, didn't really know where to post it so here it is

:< That's super sad, but at least they tried to let him experience as much as he could, before he passed

TXUltraRunner · October 2014

I guess I don't understand because I haven't had a kid yet but I really don't get people who don't like leaving their kids with the grandparents because the grandparents "won't have the same rules." Isn't that what going to the grandparents is supposed to be? How many of us had rules at our grandparents house? That's why I loved going there, I could get away with more!

aerotigergirl · October 2014

Maebb said:

My UO is that I think it's ridiculous when people spend a lot of money on kids' clothes. A woman recently posted about 100 pieces of 0-6 month clothes on a Facebook group site for $400. She said that she paid over $2500 for all of it. Even if you have the money, spending $2500 for 6 months of clothes for your kid is crazy IMO. Maybe I am just jealous that her infant has a more expensive wardrobe than I do.

I agree with you. Even if you've got more money than you know what to do with, spending this kind of money on an infant's wardrobe reeks of having your priorities way out of whack. Kids are hard on clothes (at least mine is), so spending huge bank to give your kid something to spit up on or have leaky diapers into is silly. But some folks like that whole status thing of dressing their kids in the latest kid fashions, right? I'll never get it.

iheartichi · October 2014

TXUltraRunner said:

I guess I don't understand because I haven't had a kid yet but I really don't get people who don't like leaving their kids with the grandparents because the grandparents "won't have the same rules." Isn't that what going to the grandparents is supposed to be? How many of us had rules at our grandparents house? That's why I loved going there, I could get away with more!

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I remember going to my grandparents and eating butter, swatting flies ($0.25 per fly), selling rocks door-to-door and eating candy until we got sick! My sister and I talk about it all the time, what in the world was going on!? But we always had a good time and love to look back on it.

Times have changed for sure!

TXUltraRunner · October 2014

ExcitedMama2 said:

TXUltraRunner said:

I guess I don't understand because I haven't had a kid yet but I really don't get people who don't like leaving their kids with the grandparents because the grandparents "won't have the same rules." Isn't that what going to the grandparents is supposed to be? How many of us had rules at our grandparents house? That's why I loved going there, I could get away with more!

I know "just you waits..." are annoying...but... The part that is hard is BECAUSE the child gets away with everything at Grandma's, you have like a week long period of pure torture because they can't get away with it at home. And then they don't understand why they get to eat cookies for dinner at Grandma's, but Mommy is mean and forces stuff like chicken and broccoli on them. Or why they can't watch xyz movie before bed, etc.

I get that part but to consider not even letting them go just so you don't have to deal with the aftermath seems weird to me. I know I was a little terror when I came home from there but a) my parents got a break and b) I made awesome memories with my grandparents.

YaMrWhite · October 2014

CuppyCakes721 said:

I hate baby pants. I can't find any that fit DS and it's really annoying

I can get behind this. I bought some 3T pjs for my daughter to hopefully last her through the winter. The top fits her with room to grow. The pants are nowhere close to fitting her even in a cloth diaper. Why can't the cute stuff be mix and match!?

UberBiz · October 2014

TXUltraRunner said:

ExcitedMama2 said:

TXUltraRunner said:

I guess I don't understand because I haven't had a kid yet but I really don't get people who don't like leaving their kids with the grandparents because the grandparents "won't have the same rules." Isn't that what going to the grandparents is supposed to be? How many of us had rules at our grandparents house? That's why I loved going there, I could get away with more!

I know "just you waits..." are annoying...but... The part that is hard is BECAUSE the child gets away with everything at Grandma's, you have like a week long period of pure torture because they can't get away with it at home. And then they don't understand why they get to eat cookies for dinner at Grandma's, but Mommy is mean and forces stuff like chicken and broccoli on them. Or why they can't watch xyz movie before bed, etc.

I get that part but to consider not even letting them go just so you don't have to deal with the aftermath seems weird to me. I know I was a little terror when I came home from there but a) my parents got a break and b) I made awesome memories with my grandparents.

Agreed, and also, not all grandparents run a "free-for-all" when grandkids visit. My mom watches my daughter after school, and my son two days a week. Yeah my dad lets them do things that they can't do at home, but how is that a big deal? Kids need to learn that different places have different rules.

I'll also piggy back off this and comment on leaving young children in the care of others for extended periods of time. I know people who have NEVER left their child overnight, and that seems weird to me. I spent 2 weeks with the army every year (and other weekend overnighters) and my daughter either stayed with my parents or with her father (we are not together), and yeah it was sad, and yeah, like the grandparents, different house different rules, but never once did I fear for her safety. Unless you're absolutely positive that harm will come to your child if you leave them with said persons, I don't see any reason not to get some time away if you possibly can.

Reiden · October 2014

laziestdaisy said: I think my problem with the grandparents having no rules is that right now DS is too young to know the difference. So an older kid knows that at grandma's they get dessert every night but at home they don't. But toddlers don't care and throw a fit because they want ice cream. My beef with my parents and ILs is if I say put him to bed or down for a nap at a certain time and they don't, then I get the cranky baby as a result and they just get to go home and put their feet up. ===================

This. A thousand times this. Granted, I've never personally had it done to me [Jack being my first], I've always found it abhorrent and rude. Simple guidelines are simple, aren't they??

Maebb · October 2014

I don't like tootsie rolls. Give me real chocolate any day, but those are waxy and gross.

UberBiz · October 2014

Firefly3911 said:

laziestdaisy said:

I guess I don't understand because I haven't had a kid yet but I really don't get people who don't like leaving their kids with the grandparents because the grandparents "won't have the same rules." Isn't that what going to the grandparents is supposed to be? How many of us had rules at our grandparents house? That's why I loved going there, I could get away with more!
I think my problem with the grandparents having no rules is that right now DS is too young to know the difference. So an older kid knows that at grandma's they get dessert every night but at home they don't. But toddlers don't care and throw a fit because they want ice cream. My beef with my parents and ILs is if I say put him to bed or down for a nap at a certain time and they don't, then I get the cranky baby as a result and they just get to go home and put their feet up.

The bolded. I have a routine for a friggin reason. I don't care if you want to feed her a little sugar and let her run around, but bedtime is 7pm. DO NOT FUCK WITH BEDTIME. Because next week, after I get back from my work trip, her bedtime better still be 7pm. Here's looking at you mom. >:P

Bed time is when you put the kid to bed. I still don't see the big deal. It's a temporary issue that resolves itself because of your consistency. When we have FI's daughter over the summer, bed time is extremely late. I've tried pushing it earlier, as per what her mom does, but it doesn't work. Just how our schedules work out. Sure she'll probably have a week or two after she goes back to her mom's where it's a problem, but stuff like that isn't permanent.

My son naps differently at home than when my mom watches him. Just how it works out. Maybe I'm just not that anal about having a seriously set schedule that it really doesn't bother me that much.

LadyXaverian · October 2014

@excitedmama2

Lurking is fine, but what I'm afraid would happen and what we obviously don't want to see happen is people linking shit shows from other boards and then being tempted to go post in those threads, adding to the drama.

Truth is that the TOU are a little murky when it comes to what trolling is, and that was where some of our lines got crossed recently, causing some upset among posters who felt stronger warnings and even bans should have been issued. We know we can't please everyone all the time, but right now, honestly, I'm erring on the side of caution if there is any question about the intent of a post on another board (like it could in any way be considered trolling).

So, what it boils down to is that there is no problem with lurking or even posting on any board on the Bump. It is a public forum after all, but if the intent is to share or participate in drama in order to stir the pot, it's probably not the best idea.

I'm sorry to be a downer. It's been kind of a "down" couple of days for @ICarriedAWatermelon and myself.

ChelCChargers · October 2014

Since when did buying halloween candy become so expensive? My husband and I were going to hand out candy this year but looked at the prices and one small mixed bag is $7 and up. It's like you have to take out a loan to be able to afford to hand out a decent amount of candy.

Maybe we're just cheap but with a LO on the way I'm not wasting any money on things that aren't necessary.

ChelCChargers · October 2014

ladyamanuet said:

HappyMonkey817 said:

BabyStandish said:

Maebb said:

I don't like tootsie rolls. Give me real chocolate any day, but those are waxy and gross.

Agreed. Whenever I would eat tootsie pops as a kid, I would eat the lolli part and then throw it away once it got to the tootsie. It was still gross though, knowing the tootsie was in there.
(Quote fail)
Tootsie Rolls too closely resemble poop. Even if you can get past that, they are not tasty at all, and get stuck in the teeth.

I can take or leave regular tootsie rolls. But flavored tootsie rolls? Those are my JAM

The Vanilla ones!! I could eat a whole bag. And all the other flavors are good also.

EmilyA724 · October 2014

UberBiz said:

Firefly3911 said:

laziestdaisy said:

I guess I don't understand because I haven't had a kid yet but I really don't get people who don't like leaving their kids with the grandparents because the grandparents "won't have the same rules." Isn't that what going to the grandparents is supposed to be? How many of us had rules at our grandparents house? That's why I loved going there, I could get away with more!
I think my problem with the grandparents having no rules is that right now DS is too young to know the difference. So an older kid knows that at grandma's they get dessert every night but at home they don't. But toddlers don't care and throw a fit because they want ice cream.

My beef with my parents and ILs is if I say put him to bed or down for a nap at a certain time and they don't, then I get the cranky baby as a result and they just get to go home and put their feet up.

The bolded. I have a routine for a friggin reason. I don't care if you want to feed her a little sugar and let her run around, but bedtime is 7pm. DO NOT FUCK WITH BEDTIME. Because next week, after I get back from my work trip, her bedtime better still be 7pm. Here's looking at you mom. >:P

Bed time is when you put the kid to bed. I still don't see the big deal. It's a temporary issue that resolves itself because of your consistency. When we have FI's daughter over the summer, bed time is extremely late. I've tried pushing it earlier, as per what her mom does, but it doesn't work. Just how our schedules work out. Sure she'll probably have a week or two after she goes back to her mom's where it's a problem, but stuff like that isn't permanent.

My son naps differently at home than when my mom watches him. Just how it works out. Maybe I'm just not that anal about having a seriously set schedule that it really doesn't bother me that much.

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FTM here so I don't have a strong opinion on this one way or another, but from what I've heard from friends who are moms, it seems the schedule thing depends on the kid. Some kids seem to adjust easier to their schedule or sleep times changing, where other kids simply will not sleep if the nap-time or bedtime routine is not exact. My guess is that someone's opinion on this would be formed by which kind of kid you have and how much routine matters.

Lanatir · October 2014

ChelCChargers said:

Since when did buying halloween candy become so expensive? My husband and I were going to hand out candy this year but looked at the prices and one small mixed bag is $7 and up. It's like you have to take out a loan to be able to afford to hand out a decent amount of candy. Maybe we're just cheap but with a LO on the way I'm not wasting any money on things that aren't necessary.

This is the super huge upside to living in the middle of nowhere. We don't get trick or treaters and I don't have to buy a crap ton of junk that we don't usually eat anyway. Also, holy crap! $7?!?!?!?! That's milk for a week over here (DD goes through 2 gallons a week on average).

nah82 · October 2014

Lanatir said:

ChelCChargers said:

Since when did buying halloween candy become so expensive? My husband and I were going to hand out candy this year but looked at the prices and one small mixed bag is $7 and up. It's like you have to take out a loan to be able to afford to hand out a decent amount of candy. Maybe we're just cheap but with a LO on the way I'm not wasting any money on things that aren't necessary.

This is the super huge upside to living in the middle of nowhere. We don't get trick or treaters and I don't have to buy a crap ton of junk that we don't usually eat anyway. Also, holy crap! $7?!?!?!?! That's milk for a week over here (DD goes through 2 gallons a week on average).

We get 2 trick-or-treaters, our neighbors who are sisters. Last year I made homemade pumpkin playdoh for my kids to play with and gave them some of it in recycled cream cheese containers. If anyone else showed up unexpectedly, I suppose I'd just grab a granola bar out of my pantry for them or something? haha But we are usually out that night trick-or-treating ourselves, so not at home anyway.

Jellybean707 · October 2014

TXUltraRunner said:
I guess I don't understand because I haven't had a kid yet but I really don't get people who don't like leaving their kids with the grandparents because the grandparents "won't have the same rules." Isn't that what going to the grandparents is supposed to be? How many of us had rules at our grandparents house? That's why I loved going there, I could get away with more!

I agree. DS spends one weekend a month at his grandparents house. We get a break from our rambunctious toddler, he gets a break from frustrated parents and fun is had by all.

Sometimes when we are laying down the law DS will give us the "I want papa and Grammy" routine but for the most part he gets the rules are different.

A side benefit is that MIL & FIL get a nice reminder of how tough it can be to have a 2 1/2 year old and don't give us tons do unsolicited advice as a result. I don't always agree with my ILs decisions but DS comes home relatively unscathed

Thumbs up for grandma and grandpas house.

Lanatir · October 2014

EmilyA724 said:

--snip--
------------------------------------------------- FTM here so I don't have a strong opinion on this one way or another, but from what I've heard from friends who are moms, it seems the schedule thing depends on the kid. Some kids seem to adjust easier to their schedule or sleep times changing, where other kids simply will not sleep if the nap-time or bedtime routine is not exact. My guess is that someone's opinion on this would be formed by which kind of kid you have and how much routine matters.

My DD never really had a schedule. I tried some in the beginning, and then after a few weeks of it not sticking for her, I quit it. I also was stuck with a horrible sleeper who stopped napping and most days was up 8 hours at a time at 3 months... So grandparents for me isn't an issue as far as scheduling. My parents are stricter than I am for discipline. And DH agrees that it would have to be a pretty huge emergency to ever leave DD with his parents, so maybe I just luck out on the grandparents thing...

Haha, just wait, this one will need a schedule and be a royal PITA if she doesn't get a nap...

UberBiz · October 2014

ChelCChargers said:

Since when did buying halloween candy become so expensive? My husband and I were going to hand out candy this year but looked at the prices and one small mixed bag is $7 and up. It's like you have to take out a loan to be able to afford to hand out a decent amount of candy. Maybe we're just cheap but with a LO on the way I'm not wasting any money on things that aren't necessary.

Boxes of ring pops were slightly cheaper... we are on one of the busiest streets in town, so I'm anticipating a lot of trick or treaters. FI said he would take the kids out and I get to stay home and answer the door. btw, probably a UO, but I can't stand Halloween.

mandikins27 · October 2014

Lanatir said:
I guess my UO could go off of the GTT thing...

UO-- flat soda is tasty. haha.

Flat ginger ale!

mandikins27 · October 2014

CuppyCakes721 said:
I hate baby pants. I can't find any that fit DS and it's really annoying

I am afraid this is not limited to infant sizes. My daughter still does not fit any pants she requires a 6-8 kids around the waist and a ladies 000 for height. she is 11 and and 5ft.

she will never ever fit into anything

YaMrWhite · October 2014

laziestdaisy said:

I guess I don't understand because I haven't had a kid yet but I really don't get people who don't like leaving their kids with the grandparents because the grandparents "won't have the same rules." Isn't that what going to the grandparents is supposed to be? How many of us had rules at our grandparents house? That's why I loved going there, I could get away with more!
I think my problem with the grandparents having no rules is that right now DS is too young to know the difference. So an older kid knows that at grandma's they get dessert every night but at home they don't. But toddlers don't care and throw a fit because they want ice cream. My beef with my parents and ILs is if I say put him to bed or down for a nap at a certain time and they don't, then I get the cranky baby as a result and they just get to go home and put their feet up.

So much this.

aerotigergirl · October 2014

I haven't had the opportunity to leave DS with either my parents or MIL, since we live so far away from family.

I have been around when my parents were looking after my niece and nephew, and the worst I've really seen is just that they let them have more sugar/junk than my Brother/SIL would. As far as keeping a nap/bedtime schedule, these kids don't really have one anyway, so it isn't really an issue.

I would feel nervous leaving DS with my MIL, but only because of things she's said in the past that make me worry about her decision making process. She once asked us (regarding the additional stops we would need to make on our 22 hour road trip to her house while DS was still breastfeeding) "Why don't you just nurse him while you're on the road?" Like, she thought we should just take him out of his carseat to nurse while H kept right on driving. Um, no. Another time, she mentioned to H on the phone that we should be spanking DS regularly, so that he knew we were the ones in charge or something? Again, um no. So for those reasons, I worry that she would not respect our wishes when it comes to our general approach to safety and discipline if we left DS with her.

My mom is coming to stay with us during the holidays this year, so she may end up staying at our house with DS while I'm in the hospital. I feel a lot more comfortable with my mom, though. I feel like I can trust her to respect our wishes. Sure, he'll get to eat more junk food. And I'm sure he'll watch more TV than we'd like. And he probably won't be napping/sleeping on his regular schedule. But those are things that get a little out of whack around the holidays anyway, since our regular routine is already disrupted, so I'm not terribly worried about it. And besides, even if the time with grandma doesn't totally throw DS out of whack, the whole mom and dad bringing home a new baby to live with us thing might.

tl,dr: I wouldn't keep my kiddos from seeing their grandparents because of the added sugar, TV time, lax bedtimes. It's a pain, but we can get back on track (with DS at least) fairly easily once they come back to us. But I wouldn't feel comfortable shipping them off to stay with my MIL for an extended period unless we had a very serious conversation first about what she MUST do to maintain their safety and what she MUST NOT do regarding discipline.

liladelphia215 · October 2014

TXUltraRunner said:

I guess I don't understand because I haven't had a kid yet but I really don't get people who don't like leaving their kids with the grandparents because the grandparents "won't have the same rules." Isn't that what going to the grandparents is supposed to be? How many of us had rules at our grandparents house? That's why I loved going there, I could get away with more!

I don't give rules to those who watch DD overnight, or those who babysit in general (and by babysit, I mean unpaid family members or friends). They are doing me a favor by taking DD when I need them to. I've always been able to undo any damage that has been done. The only exception being if we have something important to do the next morning then I'll say, if you can get them to bed by xxx time, that's great, if not, we will live. If they ask about my routine, I tell them, otherwise I say "have fun!"

LadyXaverian · October 2014

@crazymonkeybear @excitedmama2 You made the right choice, but thank you.

ghostof5letters · October 2014

CrazyMonkeyBear said:

ExcitedMama2 said:

LadyXaverian said:

@excitedmama2

Lurking is fine, but what I'm afraid would happen and what we obviously don't want to see happen is people linking shit shows from other boards and then being tempted to go post in those threads, adding to the drama.

Truth is that the TOU are a little murky when it comes to what trolling is, and that was where some of our lines got crossed recently, causing some upset among posters who felt stronger warnings and even bans should have been issued. We know we can't please everyone all the time, but right now, honestly, I'm erring on the side of caution if there is any question about the intent of a post on another board (like it could in any way be considered trolling).

So, what it boils down to is that there is no problem with lurking or even posting on any board on the Bump. It is a public forum after all, but if the intent is to share or participate in drama in order to stir the pot, it's probably not the best idea.

I'm sorry to be a downer. It's been kind of a "down" couple of days for @ICarriedAWatermelon and myself.

I for sure understand that. I think for the most part people don't post on the linked threads (there were probably 15 links before the one that got out of hand), but obviously last week there was some posting.

And you're right on being tempted to post during shit shows -- it took all I had to not post on some threads this week that were bashing you and Watermelon. You guys really are great mods, I hated seeing others saying shitty stuff about it.

ETF: I had to close out that ( or it would have driven me nuts all day...

Same. I wanted to jump in, but I was worried that if I did, I'd make the situation worse.

I'm sorry I missed it, or I would have jumped in. You guys have the best Mods on all of TB. I'm sorry there was blowback on them.

ghostof5letters · October 2014

ExcitedMama2 said:

ghostof5letters said:

CrazyMonkeyBear said:

ExcitedMama2 said:

LadyXaverian said:

@excitedmama2

Lurking is fine, but what I'm afraid would happen and what we obviously don't want to see happen is people linking shit shows from other boards and then being tempted to go post in those threads, adding to the drama.

Truth is that the TOU are a little murky when it comes to what trolling is, and that was where some of our lines got crossed recently, causing some upset among posters who felt stronger warnings and even bans should have been issued. We know we can't please everyone all the time, but right now, honestly, I'm erring on the side of caution if there is any question about the intent of a post on another board (like it could in any way be considered trolling).

So, what it boils down to is that there is no problem with lurking or even posting on any board on the Bump. It is a public forum after all, but if the intent is to share or participate in drama in order to stir the pot, it's probably not the best idea.

I'm sorry to be a downer. It's been kind of a "down" couple of days for @ICarriedAWatermelon and myself.

I for sure understand that. I think for the most part people don't post on the linked threads (there were probably 15 links before the one that got out of hand), but obviously last week there was some posting.

And you're right on being tempted to post during shit shows -- it took all I had to not post on some threads this week that were bashing you and Watermelon. You guys really are great mods, I hated seeing others saying shitty stuff about it.

ETF: I had to close out that ( or it would have driven me nuts all day...

Same. I wanted to jump in, but I was worried that if I did, I'd make the situation worse.

I'm sorry I missed it, or I would have jumped in. You guys have one two of the best Mods on all of TB. I'm sorry there was blowback on them.

FTFY

Thank you, first sentence was wrong, second was correct. I updated. Words are hard.

ghostof5letters · October 2014

CrazyMonkeyBear said:

@ladyamanuet One of the "unspoken rules" of the tuesday thread is to not go bash/flame/join in on the threads posted. Perhaps we should move that from unspoken to a not spoken, but definitely known rule?

But what if it's a Trimester board? There is lots of entertainment to be had there. Why can't you jump in?

For examples sake, I found you guys by jumping in on one of our Trolling Tuesday posts. There are ways of doing it without being a complete troll.

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