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Re: Birth present for wife

  • Haps92907Haps92907 member
    edited October 2014
    I think a gift can be a sweet gesture. I do get a little bothered with the consumerism of calling these type of gifts " push presents" and it becoming an expectation or entitlement, as if it's a standard thing everyone does. I have some friends who think of it like that. I don't like the concept of the birth of a child being an excuse to ask for a big ticket present.

    That being said, it's definitely not my H and my style.

    I do plan to buy myself a really nice bottle of wine to celebrate being able to drink again. Like way more pricey than what I usually drink. If H is a good labor buddy, maybe I will share some with him ;-)

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  • WhitfryWhitfry member
    This may be UO, but I have a couple of " welcome to fatherhood" gifts planned for DH. I'm customizing an ergo in a Firefly theme for him to encourage him to babywear. Also to help with our first family cosplay as the Serenity crew. I'm also doing a newborn photo shoot and I'm going to surprise him with some photos of the prawn posing on some of the guitars DH has built.

    From him I don't expect anything material, just lots of support and love.
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  • jpavenskijpavenski member
    My hubby got me one of those owl necklaces with the charms in it for Xmas. I would love the charm of my next baby with the birthstone in it. That's very sweet to think of getting something for her! Why not labor is tough, I don't see a down side in getting a special gift to celebrate when it's all over with!
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  • JenLa21JenLa21 member
    I really like the idea of something sentimental. Doesn't have to be anything super crazy. DH got me a beautiful necklace that has a small sapphire in the middle to represent our son, with 2 small diamonds on either side to represent us. The necklace is beautiful, but the sentiment means more. The fact that it represents the 3 of us means a lot to me. And it's something that I will cherish forever, as a special gift he gave me when our son was born.

    Baby's birthstone or initial is a nice idea.
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  • CoozieInMyPurseCoozieInMyPurse member
    Darbie914 said:
    honkytonk_kid said:
    totesmcgotes said:

    I don't really understand the need for push presents.  However I think I got a great one, a healthy baby to take home! 

    But for real suggestions, maybe some kind of spa day package or jewelry with the baby's birth stone - March is aquamarine. 

    Are presents ever a "need" though? Not really, they are just fun and special to give and receive. 

    OP, I think the most popular idea would be jewelry of some sort. You know your wife best, so you would know her style/if she would even want jewelry. If not, maybe have a picture of her and the baby or just the baby framed for her. 
    While I get the whole 'presents are never expected' thing, it's ridiculous to think of getting a gift just for having a baby.  

    Anatomically speaking, if a couple wants a child (barring special circumstances), it's pretty much known that the woman will be carrying it.  It's not like you (general you) and your DH drew straws and you got the short one so you deserve some gift for it.  It's just the way it is.  Though I do think it can be a sweet gesture, I certainly wouldn't be dropping hints or expecting anything.

    That being said, anyone planning to get their DH a 'sperm donor present'?  I mean, it's not like they didn't have a hand in it.....

    /sarcasm
    I bought my DH a fancy new chef's knife he had been eying as a thank you for putting up with me during first tri and taking over all of the cooking along the way (he loves to cook, so not a hardship). So that's kind of like a sperm donor present.
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  • daizedoodaizedoo member
    Maybe his wife sent him to trollololol?

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  • lisap0924lisap0924 member

    I never knew this was a thing. I don't think I know anyone that has ever received a gift from their h/so after childbirth.

    while I think this is a sweet idea, I am not expecting anything from h

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  • drudolph11drudolph11 member
    If SO got me something and gave it to me like in the hospital after the baby was born I would be over the freaking moon! I agree with a lot of the other answers. Some kind of jewelry. Bracelet or necklace maybe personalized with the baby's name. Things Remembered has a bunch of nice jewelry that isn't real expensive.
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  • yoitsloooyoitslooo member
    That's really thoughtful. It doesn't have to be expensive or huge, I think something like a mani-pedi or a hair salon gift certificate at her favorite nail salon/hair salon would be sweet and will make her feel really good. If she isn't into that maybe a necklace with the baby's first letter or some really comfy nursing bras/tanks if she plans on nursing :)
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  • rm2013rm2013 member
    edited October 2014
    Well since OP ran away I guess I'll chime in. Lol @happymamax2‌ - that's one way to solve it and not be rude. DH isn't much of a gift giver so I may consider that myself! J/k - but I am planning on booking a newborn photography session bc that's what I want to do and since no one else cares I guess it's for me.

    I just so wanted to mention Saturnalia when I saw "because Mary pushed a baby out of her vagina" (lol) but yeah no longer germane to the conversation at this point. :)
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  • shellmackshellmack member
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    To people saying "the baby is the present" noooooo! This baby is needy and demanding and will suck the life out of you for the next 18 years! You will be in utter servitude. This is a perverted idea of a present. Another person, especially a dependent one, is not a present. Lol

    Amazing!!! Yes! This!!

    I think the idea is to commemorate the momentous occasion with a keepsake .
    DiAmonds!!!! Jk

    Or something your wife would love - and cherish. Jewellery is great that way - and doesn't have to be expensive. Just thoughtful.

    Or....

    Diamonds.
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  • herewegoagain37herewegoagain37 member
    edited October 2014
    I think push presents are ridiculous. Or maybe just the name. My husband got me some roses and a very sweet card. I don't consider that a "push present". I guess it's a sweet momentous occasion that he wanted to celebrate. And I thought it was very thoughtful and sweet for him do so. Any type of present though I think is just odd. But that's just my opinion. And I am sure doesn't weigh in for much.

    I guess i am just so surprised at the fact that everything needs to be celebrated with a gift. My goodness. There are baby reveals, sip and sees, showers, push presents, etc. Am I the only one that thinks all of this equates monetary crap and not sentiments. :)

    Eta: spelling isn't my thing
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