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halleyann821 · October 2014

Anyone else wanting to strangle,stab, or bludgeon their DH? I am so past fed up at this point. When I ask for the tiniest bit of help I'm somehow inconveniencing his day even though he's been off work for 5 days in a row! All he does is nap and complain about how he's tired! I haven't gotten more than 4-5 hours a night in months and never say a word cause I know he works but damn! So I finally give up asking for help and he can't bother to move his nap to another room so i can clean simply because he doesn't want to! Are you f*****g kidding me?! I'm due in less than a week this baby could be here any time and right now I wish DH would just go away! I'd rather do it on my own then listen to him complain.

BeckyMont · October 2014

I'm really sorry your hubs is a DA, I have many complaints about mine also. I wish they would actually realize what hell we are and have been going through these last 9 months! I hope it gets better for you after your baby comes I'll keep my fingers crossed he open his eyes. And as far as him complaining how tired he is, every time my husband says he is tired I wanna punch him in the neck!

MuffinMom14 · October 2014

Honestly? No. I'm on maternity leave, and I sat around all day. Husband got home from work and made dinner, just like he does every day. I married a unicorn.

pnwlover12 · October 2014

SPurp13 said:
Honestly? No. I'm on maternity leave, and I sat around all day. Husband got home from work and made dinner, just like he does every day. I married a unicorn.

You better put out tonight!

angeltennis3 · October 2014

SPurp13 said:
Honestly? No. I'm on maternity leave, and I sat around all day. Husband got home from work and made dinner, just like he does every day. I married a unicorn.

I am with you. My husband is amazing. He would never treat me with anything but complete respect. He has his ass moments once in a blue moon but he would never dream of treating me like this. I guess I am lucky!

MuffinMom14 · October 2014

pnwlover12 said:

Honestly? No. I'm on maternity leave, and I sat around all day. Husband got home from work and made dinner, just like he does every day. I married a unicorn.
You better put out tonight!

HAAaaa I'm never putting out again. When you have a shining personality like mine, you don't have to.

I hope.

MuffinMom14 · October 2014

knittymeggy said:

mine does laundry and pretty much spoils my ass so no

Yeah, I've done pretty much nothing since I got pregnant.

He annoys me sometimes, I guess, (in the "I told you three times to mow the grass, dude" way) but, not enough to complain about in it's own thread (that I think we've had others just like, by the way). I mean. We're strangers. Especially since I don't really recognize this OP at all. So, it's not even the same as saying "OMG my husband is a douche" in a Rando Thread or something.

Whatever. In summary, without him, I'd starve to death. So, I married up?

I like that I changed this thread from "bitching about husband" to "I love my husband, he's great." Yer welcome.

MrMrsandBaby · October 2014

Your husband sounds like a winner. Mine is pretty lazy (we both are) but more in the sense of "rock paper scissors" to see who has to clean the toilets. Overall, he is pretty amazing at helping with stuff and when I was on maternity leave he went out of his way to help all he could working a different shift.

Figure it out now because it won't get better when the baby arrives.

Oh, and nice to meet you?

halleyann821 · October 2014

I apologize I guess I totally misunderstood the meaning of this board since everytime I say anything all I seem to do is piss everyone off. Won't happen again. I obviously need to stop posting on this board.

pnwlover12 · October 2014

halleyann821 said:
I apologize I guess I totally misunderstood the meaning of this board since everytime I say anything all I seem to do is piss everyone off. Won't happen again. I obviously need to stop posting on this board.

I don't think you pissed anyone off...but you can't expect everyone to have similar stories or feelings towards their husbands. You two should seriously sit down and talk.

golfingdarwinfish · October 2014

I think I'm a special snowflake like Purp. DH does all the cleaning, laundry, and basically anything that I request of him.

Sometimes I worry I don't deserve him.

(

Then I remember most women wouldn't tolerate his 7 day/week golf obsession. And I instantly feel more secure.

golfingdarwinfish · October 2014

pnwlover12 said:

I apologize I guess I totally misunderstood the meaning of this board since everytime I say anything all I seem to do is piss everyone off. Won't happen again. I obviously need to stop posting on this board.
I don't think you pissed anyone off...but you can't expect everyone to have similar stories or feelings towards their husbands. You two should seriously sit down and talk.

To add to this, OP, all you seem to do is use this board as a place to vent. Perhaps try integrating yourself a bit and you may find that the responses are a bit more palatable.

But yeah, not all of us feel the same way.

windwithfingers · October 2014

I love threads like these.

pnwlover12 · October 2014

windwithfingers said:
I love threads like these.

I'm sorry, dude. I can't even imagine.

angeltennis3 · October 2014

windwithfingers said:
I love threads like these.

Hugs @windwithfingers‌

halleyann821 · October 2014

Like I said I misunderstood the point of this board, you all are pretty intimidating from what I've read and you all seem to be pretty tight knit already. I'm truly not trying to annoy anyone and if I have I apologize. Thank you anyway.

windwithfingers · October 2014

Like, I'm not offended and people talk about TPing their Hs all the time in the Randoms threads and I don't hold that against anyone because my H pissed me off all the time, especially during pregnancy, and because I have no reason to hold it against anyone. My situation is unusual and shitty. I'm not trying to make this about me.

But man. What I wouldn't give to have him around to refuse to move when I wanted to clean.

sabby2 · October 2014

@windwithfingers‌ creepy Internet hugs. I don't know how you do it!

2goingon3 · October 2014

halleyann821 said:
Like I said I misunderstood the point of this board, you all are pretty intimidating from what I've read and you all seem to be pretty tight knit already. I'm truly not trying to annoy anyone and if I have I apologize. Thank you anyway.

Nope, again, you asked if anyone else was wanting to strangle, stab or bludgeon their DH, and from what I've read, the general consensus is No. Don't get all "woe is me, I guess y'all just can't accept me because you're too close knit, many sorries" simply because you didn't get the responses (ie: bitching) you'd hoped for.

Honestly, I'd take this opportunity to look at your relationship and realize that no, it doesn't seem to be going well and not only do you and your DH need to have a serious talk, but said talk may need to involve a marriage counsellor based on your last sentence in your OP.

Truly, best of luck.

MrMrsandBaby · October 2014

halleyann821 said:

Like I said I misunderstood the point of this board, you all are pretty intimidating from what I've read and you all seem to be pretty tight knit already. I'm truly not trying to annoy anyone and if I have I apologize. Thank you anyway.

The point is different for everyone. For me, the point is to be able to talk to women who are having babies the same time as me. Others use it for support. Others to get the snark out and keep it from flowing into their real life (not that O14 isn't real life!).

The thing is you have been here before, but you don't offer any support outside of your own posts. We don't know you or your situation - all we know is your history which is like 5 posts and 10 replies all to your own posts.

trisharenee0316 · October 2014

halleyann821 said:

Anyone else wanting to strangle,stab, or bludgeon their DH? I am so past fed up at this point. When I ask for the tiniest bit of help I'm somehow inconveniencing his day even though he's been off work for 5 days in a row! All he does is nap and complain about how he's tired! I haven't gotten more than 4-5 hours a night in months and never say a word cause I know he works but damn! So I finally give up asking for help and he can't bother to move his nap to another room so i can clean simply because he doesn't want to! Are you f*****g kidding me?! I'm due in less than a week this baby could be here any time and right now I wish DH would just go away! I'd rather do it on my own then listen to him complain.

Sometimes yes, I do want to punch my H square in the face. I mean, he irritates me at times, but it's made eleventy billion times worse with pregnancy rage. But there's a difference between the crap he does that makes me FTFO (like leaving cabinets open or not not picking up after himself) and what it sounds like your husband is doing, which is just flat out disrespectful. In fact, now that we're getting toward the end of pregnancy, he is stepping up more in getting tasks done that I've been obsessing about. I agree with the other ladies who mentioned that you should think about having a serious talk with your H about splitting responsibilities and his helping out around the house. It's flat out not cool that he is refusing to help you. And it's not going to get easier when you have a newborn in the mix.

starchildsiesie · October 2014

Well I didn't get a unicorn, but I got a beautiful stallion(he can be a horses arse) but he loves me and helps when he can / as much as possible.

Sexy5suga · October 2014

I couldn't of asked for a better H he can't cook but I'm never hungry. He's a very neat person and I only make messes (his words) I'm grateful he is patient with me. All guys do stuff to annoy you and they are far from perfect. But we're not perfect either so I agree with PP talk to him and work it out baby will need both of you.

heatherjeanp · October 2014

I am dating a unicorn, since we aren't married yet. But let me say that even though we already discussed marriage before I got pregnant, based on his actions during my pregnancy and since our baby was born - I'm never letting this man go! Baby and I are lucky people! I've been mia since baby came - is it wrong that I go immediately to read the posts that seem like they will involve drama??? I do read the new baby posts on the FB group mostly as I do love those more.

MuffinMom14 · October 2014

halleyann821 said:

Like I said I misunderstood the point of this board, you all are pretty intimidating from what I've read and you all seem to be pretty tight knit already. I'm truly not trying to annoy anyone and if I have I apologize. Thank you anyway.

Yes, we are tight knit "already," after posting on this board for almost 9 months.

angelle530 · October 2014

My DH is spoiled. He doesn't cook, clean, or do laundry. Must be nice!

[Deleted User] · October 2014

I've refrained from posting on this thread, but seriously get a life. You chose your husband and continue to choose to be with him, so quit bitching. Everyone has good days and bad days and wants to TP their SO or DH every now and again.

But if life is really that hard and you feel like you need to leave "it must be nice" comments because your life isn't the same as someone else's, fucking change it. I'm sick of everyone competing to see whom has it the worst. Get over yourself.

[Deleted User] · October 2014

angelle530 said:

My DH is spoiled. He doesn't cook, clean, or do laundry. Must be nice!

Ahh, I missed the QFP. I see you already edited your post.

caranichole · October 2014

halleyann821 said:

I apologize I guess I totally misunderstood the meaning of this board since everytime I say anything all I seem to do is piss everyone off. Won't happen again. I obviously need to stop posting on this board.

@halleyann821

No one is pissed about anything. You can pretty much come say what you want but you have to keep in mind that responders may just not agree with you. We have all been there with each other at one point or another.

My DH was immature at one point. He was terrible and stubborn. It took a whole lot of help and counseling for him to get his act together and so now we are awesome. He is awesome. He is so much help it's sometimes unbelievable.

It may have seemed rude to you...I'm not sure why, but there was some advice given to you to seek counseling. That wasn't said to hurt you. Sometimes it's easier for outside people to recognize the signs of a relationship that needs help than the people who are in the relationship. Obviously, what you are dealing with and what you are feeling is not a norm. Best of luck.

[Deleted User] · October 2014

HiCan said:

apk4 said:

angelle530 said:

My DH is spoiled. He doesn't cook, clean, or do laundry. Must be nice!

Ahh, I missed the QFP. I see you already edited your post.

What did it say prior to editing, @apk4?

I really don't get the people that randomly come on NOW--- in October--- and act like we should just support them with whatever they spew out. I have no connection to people that have never posted or have posted a vent once or twice, therefore I'm probably not going to give you any support back. It's pretty simple.

It was a long paragraph about how her DH grew up in a house where his mom did everything, and so for the years they've been together she has to cook, clean, and do everything. Blah blah blah. Then she said, "it must be nice to eat home cooked meals every night."

I'm a grumpy notch, and it just rubbed me the wrong way.

caranichole · October 2014

angelle530 said:

My DH is spoiled. He doesn't cook, clean, or do laundry. Must be nice!

DH has cooked every dinner since the baby has arrived, vacuumed the living room every night since he found out I was pregnant and does pretty much all the laundry washing. It is in fact, incredibly nice. Thank you.

angelle530 · October 2014

Wow I was just responding to a thread. I didn't realize I would get so many of you angry. I enjoy cooking. I love my life and my husband. I don't want to change anything about my life. I'm not bitching, I posted one comment. A simple one at that, not intending to piss anyone off. And I don't understand if you saw the topic thread, why do you purposely come in here and be so aggressive? Just don't say anything at all. And my previous thread would have been posted but it posted before I was done-I went back to edit it and it was too long to type again cause it got deleted. I didn't delete it on purpose. Relax! I'm also not randomly coming on now. I've participated and posted on many other's threads, I post in randoms, hdbd, etc. I don't ever post topics because the one time I did, I got verbally attacked. Just like now. I'm not asking for support on this thread, I'm not looking for comments, I was responding to someone else's post. My husband supports the household and allows me to live comfortably. Therefore I take responsibility for everything else. If I wasn't satisfied OR happy, I would talk to him about it. Just leave this alone. I wish I could have just deleted the comment completely but it wouldn't let me.

Virginialeigh · October 2014

I've been irritated because he won't let me do things for myself, but I guess I've got it good. He doesn't want me bending over or reaching so he does the dishes and gets the clothes in and out of the dryer. The only thing I've really had to do is cook, and if he ever tried to take cooking away from me I'd go crazy.

MrMrsandBaby · October 2014

angelle530 said:

Wow I was just responding to a thread. I didn't realize I would get so many of you angry. I enjoy cooking. I love my life and my husband. I don't want to change anything about my life. I'm not bitching, I posted one comment. A simple one at that, not intending to piss anyone off. And I don't understand if you saw the topic thread, why do you purposely come in here and be so aggressive? Just don't say anything at all. And my previous thread would have been posted but it posted before I was done-I went back to edit it and it was too long to type again cause it got deleted. I didn't delete it on purpose. Relax! I'm also not randomly coming on now. I've participated and posted on many other's threads, I post in randoms, hdbd, etc. I don't ever post topics because the one time I did, I got verbally attacked. Just like now. I'm not asking for support on this thread, I'm not looking for comments, I was responding to someone else's post. My husband supports the household and allows me to live comfortably. Therefore I take responsibility for everything else. If I wasn't satisfied OR happy, I would talk to him about it. Just leave this alone. I wish I could have just deleted the comment completely but it wouldn't let me.

Ok, literally two people mentioned your comment so I don't know why you think you got "so many" of us angry. This was a pretty rash reaction don't you think? Not one person specifically addressed you so you aren't being "verbally attacked" and if you think you are then you really need to learn what a verbal attack is. And I'm pretty sure if you didn't post this lovely little pouting rant no one would have even mentioned your original post again.

Drama seeking much?

angelle530 · October 2014

Not at all! I don't want anyone to reply. Just leave it alone now!

MrMrsandBaby · October 2014

angelle530 said:

Not at all! I don't want anyone to reply. Just leave it alone now!

Nope.

laxin31 · October 2014

I have had those days even when I wasn't pregnant. I have learned to just let it go after a while. Granted I haven't read through all the post from other people but sometimes you have to just sit down and talk to them and say hey this is how i am feeling w/out getting upset which I know can be hard sometimes.

I will say since being pregnant and due in 2 weeks DH has gotten better about things but doesn't mean he doesn't have his moments or snarky comments once and a while.

golfingdarwinfish · October 2014

angelle530 said:

Not at all! I don't want anyone to reply. Just leave it alone now!

You do know you're just drawing more attention to the comment and yourself, right?

suncake · October 2014

Op. I feel you. But mine works non stop. So he has all the excuses. I let him nap on occasions since he isnt home much. I do the yard work. Go to all the kids events and such. He brings home the bacon, so cook it with joy.

Saragoeswest · October 2014

suncake said:

Op. I feel you. But mine works non stop. So he has all the excuses. I let him nap on occasions since he isnt home much. I do the yard work. Go to all the kids events and such. He brings home the bacon, so cook it with joy.

Is this a thing?

MuffinMom14 · October 2014

Saragoeswest said:

suncake said:

Op. I feel you. But mine works non stop. So he has all the excuses. I let him nap on occasions since he isnt home much. I do the yard work. Go to all the kids events and such. He brings home the bacon, so cook it with joy.

Is this a thing?

I don't know. My husband works an hour away, longer hours than I do and brings home almost 3x what I do. He still cooks dinner. This thread is making me think I should start doing something around here. I'm like Peggy Bundy.

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