I lost my mom a year and a half ago, and have been pretty well she'll shocked ever since. I am starting to adjust to the new normal, and my husband and I are trying to decide if a family is right for us. The problem is neither of us have much experience. He worked with youth camps in college and enjoyed spending time with kids age 6-12 but has never held a baby. Most of my experience is with older teens. Without my mom, I don't really have anyone to ask questions of or rely on. No close friends have had kids yet as we don't have a big social circle in this area. Some days I think having a family would be amazing, and others it is terrifying. I worry about our relationship, changes to our lifestyle, the kid hating me (losing my mom has made me very sensitive and anxiety ridden). But I also worry about not having anyone for Christmas dinner or to be there if I lose DH. DH and I think we are around 75% sure we want a family on most days, but we have no clue how to get any further. I definitely don't have baby fever yet, so maybe I'm just not ready? Did anyone else make the decision to go for it that also didn't have baby fever? What were your husbands thoughts? How did it turn out? What helped you make the decision?
Thanks in advance!
Re: What helped you decide?
Very sorry to hear about your loss but please know your not alone.