Cute Dad update... No bueno (tl;dr)

jesuisfatiguee · October 2014

Okay. Fuck him.

He called me this afternoon right after DS and my nap. He told me very matter-of-factly that he is going to try to reconcile with his XW. He said he'd set up therapy for them, and it was going to be difficult and all this shit, but it was so bizarre. He had almost no emotion in his voice at all. He even said, "Once again, I'm sorry" but they were just words. This is a very emotionally-led guy, so it kind of blew me away. I called him on it, too. Like, wtf?

Then later, he was like, "You will find someone who treats you well--" so I cut him off right there. I told him that I did not want to hear that speech from him, and it was bullshit to even start. He was like, "I feel like you've been treated so badly by people, and you acted like I was the anomaly. You deserve to be treated the way I treated you. There are others out there who will be nice to you."

OMG. FUCK. OFF.

Don't fucking "worry" about me, dude. I will be fucking dandy. In fact, I am going to get laid ASAP. Seriously, wtf. Fuck him.

I'm just so pissed right now.

ericalee27 · October 2014

Sorry...

tamarar5 · October 2014

octobermama87 · October 2014

Omg. What an ass hat for being so emotionless about it. What you guys had was special. For reals. I'm sorry you had to wait for shitty news! I'm on my phone or else I'd dive so much deeper into what a jackass he is. That sucks. You will find someone who'll treat and love you so much better. But for now, I hope you have an AMAZING a orgasm love! Have fun tonight babe!

jesuisfatiguee · October 2014

octobermama87 said:

Omg. What an ass hat for being so emotionless about it. What you guys had was special. For reals. I'm sorry you had to wait for shitty news! I'm on my phone or else I'd dive so much deeper into what a jackass he is. That sucks. You will find someone who'll treat and love you so much better. But for now, I hope you have an AMAZING a orgasm love! Have fun tonight babe!

I don't know what the bolded means, but I kinda love it lolol

jesuisfatiguee · October 2014

I keep going from being kind of okay to crying. Ugh. I hate today.

kleigh926 · October 2014

I'm sorry Frenchie

I think he's making a big mistake.

octobermama87 · October 2014

jesuisfatiguee said:

Okay. Fuck him.

He called me this afternoon right after DS and my nap. He told me very matter-of-factly that he is going to try to reconcile with his XW. He said he'd set up therapy for them, and it was going to be difficult and all this shit, but it was so bizarre. He had almost no emotion in his voice at all. He even said, "Once again, I'm sorry" but they were just words. This is a very emotionally-led guy, so it kind of blew me away. I called him on it, too. Like, wtf?

Then later, he was like, "You will find someone who treats you well--" so I cut him off right there. I told him that I did not want to hear that speech from him, and it was bullshit to even start. He was like, "I feel like you've been treated so badly by people, and you acted like I was the anomaly. You deserve to be treated the way I treated you. There are others out there who will be nice to you."

OMG. FUCK. OFF.

Don't fucking "worry" about me, dude. I will be fucking dandy. In fact, I am going to get laid ASAP. Seriously, wtf. Fuck him.

I'm just so pissed right now.

this is why I commented about an O.

Gftf7 · October 2014

So sorry to hear the official news. Crying is good. Getting back out there is good. Take care of you.

SummerLove21 · October 2014

I'm so sorry, girl. In my (extemely limited) experience with guys, when they know they are doing something that will hurt the girl, they end up having verbal diarrhea trying to limit the damage on both sides, and then end up making things worse. Because they are stupid.

Get you some ice cream, stat!

lc&jw · October 2014

So sorry you're hurting. That sucks.

jesuisfatiguee · October 2014

Thanks, y'all. I'm still feeling pretty raw about it. I had a fun date last night, but it wasn't the magical cure I was hoping it would be. I woke up this morning and couldn't get him out of my mind. It's been a pretty stupid day, minus the awesome nap DS and I just took.

I just really miss him, and am amazed that he was able to phone dump me twice, and the second time with a nonchalant attitude like I hardly meant shit to him. Sucks so much ass.

mishka29 · October 2014

Ugh I'm really sorry. That seems really odd that he would act like that but maybe that was the only way he thought he could get through it bc obviously he cared about. To me it seems his choice to get back with his ex is more of a transactional thing as in he's doing it because he thinks he should not bc he really wants to. Maybe that is why he talked to you that way bc he is still trying to convince himself this is the right thingo do and therefore taking the emotion out of it. Either way, forget him!

jesuisfatiguee · October 2014

mishka29 said:

Ugh I'm really sorry. That seems really odd that he would act like that but maybe that was the only way he thought he could get through it bc obviously he cared about. To me it seems his choice to get back with his ex is more of a transactional thing as in he's doing it because he thinks he should not bc he really wants to. Maybe that is why he talked to you that way bc he is still trying to convince himself this is the right thingo do and therefore taking the emotion out of it. Either way, forget him!

You're probably right. It's hard to look at the situation analytically when you're hurt and in the middle of it, but you make a good point. None of his family or friends are supportive of him, and he has been talking with them about it all week. He said he was emotionally drained, so I guess that makes sense.

colinsfebmommy · October 2014

What an ass. Maybe he acted like that because she stood next to him as he called you?

Still an ass Oh and stupid, why are men so stupid lol

jesuisfatiguee · October 2014

colinsfebmommy said:

What an ass. Maybe he acted like that because she stood next to him as he called you?

Still an ass Oh and stupid, why are men so stupid lol

lol No, he was driving to his grandmother's house at the time. I am confident she was not with him, because he did say some nice sentiments... just with absolutely no feeling in his voice. Weird.

I need to get my bread pan back!!!

colinsfebmommy · October 2014

jesuisfatiguee said:

colinsfebmommy said:

What an ass. Maybe he acted like that because she stood next to him as he called you?

Still an ass Oh and stupid, why are men so stupid lol

lol No, he was driving to his grandmother's house at the time. I am confident she was not with him, because he did say some nice sentiments... just with absolutely no feeling in his voice. Weird.

I need to get my bread pan back!!!

Hmmmmm I think I would buy a new bread pan......no need to see him again....

(

jesuisfatiguee · October 2014

@luxannie true words... true words, indeed

(

One of my IRL friends said it's really best that this happened right now instead of later on. And that, too, is very true.

On to the next, I suppose!

eriannc22 · October 2014

Sorry lady. I think karma will take care of this for you. Getting back together with someone like that (his XW) isn't going to end in happily ever after.

caladpi02 · October 2014

I am so sorry, JIT. I do agree with @luxannie and your friend that finding out now that he apparently is not over his XW is much better than finding this out later down the line. He obviously has not moved on from that relationship enough to truly open himself to anyone else. I am so sorry you got caught in the middle of this. You will come out stronger and better for it, though, I am sure. xoxo.

draeray · October 2014

I am so sorry to hear this. I do agree that perhaps he is 'trying' to make this work because he thinks he should, not because he really truly wants to just based off of what you have told us. Things can get complicated really quickly and everyone reacts differently to curve balls and I don't think he ever saw this coming. Maybe part of him absolutely had to try for his kids' sake....just to know that he did EVERYTHING he could. I know it's not ideal but none of us know what he is really thinking....There will not be a happy ending for him which will suck because then he will realize that he made the wrong decision.

I am sorry for you and I am sorry for your heart.

=((

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