possible pregnancy symptoms but negative test?

kellygurl24 · October 2014

hey im new, i took a test this morning and its negative. i am 12 dpo so could this possibly be ttoo early? symptoms include nausia, headache, dry mouth, needing to pee all the time...also my cervix is high and hard which i read could be a pregnancy symptom. my partner and i have been trying for over a year now and this is the first time this has happened and my ob said it could be a side effect to my meds but like i said this has never happened before. idk what do you guys think? thanks

in advance

-kelly

BandM14 · October 2014

It could be too early, or it could not be. It's impossible for us to tell you, you will just have to keep testing and see if your period shows up. Are you sure you are 12 dpo? What meds are you on? Are you being monitored? As the ladies here will tell you, it's very important if you are taking any fertility medications to be working with an RE (NOT an OB/GYN) and to be properly monitored.

yepitsme215 · October 2014

You took a test. It's negative. Could you still be pregnant? Maybe, but how the hell should I know? Or anyone on here for that matter. Your symptoms could be meds, (what are you taking anyway?) your hormones, etc...hell it could be that hot dog you decided to eat yesterday even though it was two week past it's expiration date. Just wait a few more days and take another test. Sheesh.

To other members: I haven't been on TB for that long, but it seems like every other day someone is posting trying to get us to tell them that their negative pregnancy test is wrong. It has to be the same person?

Hollowvic · October 2014

@yepitsme215‌ I know, who posts this question on a board with pp having trouble getting pregnant? Annoying.

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mmmKayy · October 2014

Do us a favor. Google pregnancy symptoms. Now Google AF symptoms. Now Google the side effects of any medication you are on.

Why would you think we'd know the answer to this? Here's some advice. Keep retesting till either AF shows up, or you get a positive test. That is how you will know you are PG.

yepitsme215 · October 2014

kellygurl24 said:

yepitsme215 said:

You took a test. It's negative. Could you still be pregnant? Maybe, but how the hell should I know? Or anyone on here for that matter. Your symptoms could be meds, (what are you taking anyway?) your hormones, etc...hell it could be that hot dog you decided to eat yesterday even though it was two week past it's expiration date. Just wait a few more days and take another test. Sheesh.
To other members: I haven't been on TB for that long, but it seems like every other day someone is posting trying to get us to tell them that their negative pregnancy test is wrong. It has to be the same person?

i didn't expect you to know, i was asking your opinions you don't need to be rude.

I wasn't being rude. Being rude would be me telling you to fuck off and stop asking strangers if you're pregnant.

BethKate2 · October 2014

How are we supposed to know if you're pregnant?

If you're getting negative tests, you're either not pregnant or not pregnant enough to turn a test positive. Your symptoms are either from progesterone or not related to your cycle, so they mean nothing.

Shauntee · October 2014

Welcome. As far as the symptoms, I have never been pregnant so I have no clue. You could still keep your OB for paps and would go back once you are preggos. However, they most likely don't have the training of an RE. It doesn't hurt to just get a referral and meet with an RE to get a second opinion. Good luck this cycle.

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theholmanherd · October 2014

tl;dr I don't know how you thought a TROUBLE trying to conceive board that you've never participated in would be the right place to post this question, first of all. Secondly, the test isn't lying to you. There is a chart somewhere in the TTGP newbie blog about accuracy of test on different days past ovulation. negative test = not pregnant at this time.

Are you being properly monitored? Most likely not, since you're seeing an OB. You should really be seeing an RE (reproductive endocrinologist). Read the newbie blog, lurk, and intro on the appropriate board based on where you're at (Hint: the descriptions of each board are at the top of the boards under their titles).

BethKate2 · October 2014

kellygurl24 said:

murrt said:

@kellygurl24‌ please recognize that the reactions here are due to your inappropriate post. If you want to know what we think, we think you should go see an RE. If you don't want to take that advice, your call...but please don't post asking us if we think you're pregnant. Bye Felicia!

I just thought if anyone would know it'd be you guys. didn't realize asking about symptoms was such a touchy subject. sorry, but i just think thats silly

@kellygurl24, No, what's silly is that you think we can tell you if your symptoms mean that you're pregnant even though the tests have been negative.

Hollowvic · October 2014

Seriously @kellygurl24‌ Why would you think that this is an appropriate question for a trouble trying to conceive board? You're not even seeing an RE? Please check the newbie blog, I have no patience for this today.

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yepitsme215 · October 2014

kellygurl24 said:

murrt said:

Well, it is. Women here are having TROUBLE trying to conceive. Which logically means, most of us haven't been pregnant and others only when they've experienced a loss. We've been poked, prodded, tested for all kinds of things and gone through procedures to help us get there....and we are a community of women still TRYING to conceive. If you want to join our community and give and receive advice and support, then great. If you don't want to participate and just want us to answer questions that are inappropriate for this particular community (which you'd know if you read any of the posts here before posting), then try google. Would you walk into a support group full of women you don't know, who know one another and seek support from one another regularly because they can't get pregnant and yell, "hey everybody! I'm trying to get pregnant and my test came out negative but I think I might still be pregnant. What do you think?" That's what just happened here. If you want to participate, I suggest a thoughtful introduction and reading a bit about the community. If you don't, good luck to you.

You think that just because i havent seen an re means that i haven't been poke and prodded? you think just because im not a part of your "community" and not fitting in with the popular crowd on here that i haven't had a painful journey? your example was stupid, these are online strangers not real people its way different going to an actual support group and talking to people. dont just think your the only ones who has gone through a lot.

Oh. Em. Gee. Calm yo tits.

BethKate2 · October 2014

**stuck in the box**
OP, at this point, I think you have two choices. You can choose to stick around and participate in this awesome board, or you can choose to leave. Either way, continuing to argue in this thread won't help you. If you want to become a part of this community, step away from this thread, read the newbie post, and lurk. Get a feel for how this board works.
If you don't want to stick around, click the x at the top of the page. No sense hanging around if you don't want to become a member of the board.

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gsancho · October 2014

****Grad lurking/Ticker Warning****

If you read many of the other post and take time to lurk, you will see that this is most definitely a support group. I was on this board for 2 years and I agree with @lemonliz that what you said tries to belittle that. I never told people, "Oh this random internet board I go to..." - I always refer to this as my support group. And when people asked my husband for tips on how to deal with infertility, he always said "Have your wife go to the support group on The Bump".

That being said, if you were experiencing true pregnancy symptoms, it would mean that your HGC level would be high enough to turn a test positive. You did not, so what you are experiencing is unfortunately not pregnancy symptoms. Not to say it won't be positive in a few more days...but for today, you are not pregnant.

Finally, there are specific tests that should be done before taking fertility drugs, and most OBs do not perform all of the tests. Did you have an HSG? SA? Are you having ultrasounds done throughout your cycle? If so, that is great and you should be ok with your OB. If not, go to an RE and you can go right back to your OB once pregnant.

BethKate2 · October 2014

kellygurl24 said:

Ok I'm sorry but why should I have to read a blog so that I say the right thing? If you guys arent willing to answer my question without sitting there and being rude then I dont want to be a part of it nyway, It's dumb, we're all trying to have babies why do you feel the need to rip each others throats out over it

Because it's a common courtesy to learn the proper etiquette whenever you go to a new place or join a new group.

Also, we did answer your question. Your symptoms mean nothing. They are likely being caused by progesterone which increases in your body after ovulation and increases even more with clomid.

If what you want is for people to say, "Squeee!!! You're totally preggers!!!!" this isn't the board for you. On The Bump, we give actual advice.

yepitsme215 · October 2014

kellygurl24 said:

Ok I'm sorry but why should I have to read a blog so that I say the right thing? If you guys arent willing to answer my question without sitting there and being rude then I dont want to be a part of it nyway, It's dumb, we're all trying to have babies why do you feel the need to rip each others throats out over it

Hon, absolutely no one on here has been rude to you. You should see some of the other boards of people asking the same question; they get a lot sassier, more than you could ever handle. So far the answers have been really insightful. I would just stop where you are now and thank all the nice ladies for their answers and then move along and do as they have suggested by reading newbie blogs and lurking around a bit.

Chartm05 · October 2014

kellygurl24 said:

Ok I'm sorry but why should I have to read a blog so that I say the right thing? If you guys arent willing to answer my question without sitting there and being rude then I dont want to be a part of it nyway, It's dumb, we're all trying to have babies why do you feel the need to rip each others throats out over it

It's simply good etiquette and basic direction following skills. When there's something posted at the top of the page that says "Read me first" that's what you do. I'm new here as well, but read it and it did answer many questions. I've intro'd and added to discussions a bit and have tried to get plugged in. I recommend the same for you, these ladies are full of great info and support, just recognize that it felt insensitive is all.

BunnyBerry · October 2014

kellygurl24 said:

didn't realize asking about symptoms was such a touchy subject. sorry, but i just think thats silly

Please don't go on an online support board for infertility and tell those women that you think the hurt feelings they get when strangers show up a couple days before the expected menstrual period asking about pregnancy symptoms are "silly." Those of us who are hurt by these kind of posts because they show lack of consideration for the fact that we have been struggling for years to have a child do not need to be told right in our own community that our feelings are "silly" - this is our one safe haven in many ways. Just keep that thought to yourself.

If I had seen only your first post I would have said - "Unfortunately those symptoms could be pregnancy, PMS, or something random, there's just no way to know until you have a HPT+. Although many pregnant women will see a positive test by 12DPO, a good portion will only see one a few days later, so there's still a chance."

BunnyBerry · October 2014

kellygurl24 said:

your example was stupid, these are online strangers not real people its way different going to an actual support group and talking to people. dont just think your the only ones who has gone through a lot.

Here that, ladies? We're not an actual support group, we don't talk to "people" here. We are just online strangers, not "real people."

Look, original poster, the only reason our friend here (by the way the only thing it takes to be in the "cool group" here is to introduce oneself and then give and receive support as you can) wanted to express how we have been poked and prodded etc. is because it's hard to imagine that someone who has been through all of that would not recognize that those people don't want to hear about some stranger's possible BFP, or at least have enough consideration to respect that some women who have gone through all that would reasonably not want to hear about some stranger's possible BFP.

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BethKate2 · October 2014

Soo....is anyone else starting to think that maybe this is MUD?

LindseyM2012 · October 2014

kellygurl24 said:
i didn't expect you to know, i was asking your opinions you don't need to be rude.

OP - Your original question was "what do you guys think" about your symptoms. So there are really only a couple ways to understand that question: 1) You want us to analyze your symptoms and tell you what they're from without knowing your diagnosis, treatment protocol, etc (which would be information you would share in a proper introduction. or 2) You wanted somebody to just say "The test could be wrong (which is highly unlikely) and you very well may be pregnant. If you lurked around here, you would know that we don't like to give false hope to each other. And the Newbie blog goes would have answered your questions, eliminating the need for this whole thread.

kellygurl24 said:

Ok I'm sorry but why should I have to read a blog so that I say the right thing? If you guys arent willing to answer my question without sitting there and being rude then I dont want to be a part of it nyway, It's dumb, we're all trying to have babies why do you feel the need to rip each others throats out over it

I sincerely don't think anybody was being rude here. Again, if you lurked around here for a bit and got a feel for the board culture, you'd know that there are some people who swear, some who are very blunt, etc. But that does not translate into rudeness. You would also learn that these questions are inappropriate because they are unanswerable. Infertility is a sensitive topic for everybody. THAT is why reading the Newbie blog, lurking to feel out the community etiquette and getting a feel for others' personalities is important.

As far as your question goes, I will repeat what others have said. A negative test means not pregnant at this time. If you are far enough along in a pregnancy to show symptoms, you should be far enough along to have a positive test. You could be having side effects from whatever meds you're taking (hopefully there are no estrogen-producing cysts you've grown from unmonitored meds) or you could just be experiencing phantom symptoms.

BethKate2 · October 2014

@lemonliz, I'm usually able to spot it quicker than that, but this one roped me in.

LindseyM2012 · October 2014

kellygurl24 said:

yepitsme215 said:

kellygurl24 said:

Ok I'm sorry but why should I have to read a blog so that I say the right thing? If you guys arent willing to answer my question without sitting there and being rude then I dont want to be a part of it nyway, It's dumb, we're all trying to have babies why do you feel the need to rip each others throats out over it

Hon, absolutely no one on here has been rude to you. You should see some of the other boards of people asking the same question; they get a lot sassier, more than you could ever handle. So far the answers have been really insightful. I would just stop where you are now and thank all the nice ladies for their answers and then move along and do as they have suggested by reading newbie blogs and lurking around a bit.

if other boreds are worse than this then you guys are jerks. K I'm done, bye

And by the way, if you acted like this on another board (Trying to Get Pregnant, for example), you'd get much more attitude than this. Good luck!

BunnyBerry · October 2014

kellygurl24 said:

BunnyBerry said:

kellygurl24 said:

didn't realize asking about symptoms was such a touchy subject. sorry, but i just think thats silly

Please don't go on an online support board for infertility and tell those women that you think the hurt feelings they get when strangers show up a couple days before the expected menstrual period asking about pregnancy symptoms are "silly." Those of us who are hurt by these kind of posts because they show lack of consideration for the fact that we have been struggling for years to have a child do not need to be told right in our own community that our feelings are "silly" - this is our one safe haven in many ways. Just keep that thought to yourself.

If I had seen only your first post I would have said - "Unfortunately those symptoms could be pregnancy, PMS, or something random, there's just no way to know until you have a HPT+. Although many pregnant women will see a positive test by 12DPO, a good portion will only see one a few days later, so there's still a chance."

god i didn't say that your feelings were silly i was saying its silly that you have to get worked up about every little thing like your doing. i wasn't asking to get you guys mad or jealous or whatever it is im in the same boat, i dont expect a positive because i have been let down so many times before you don't know me dont judge me.
thanks for your other answer though, that was helpful

How were you not calling our feelings silly when you said it was silly that it was a "touchy" subject? What was "touchy" if not our feelings? And how is it "every little thing" when you said such offensive things about our entire community here? Take your own advice - "You don't know me, don't judge me."

The newbie thread says in big letters "Read Before Posting!!!" so if you chose to disregard that, how can you blame anyone else?

And honey (that sarcastic little word is in response to your snotty "god," see how that works?)...no one is jealous of another woman with IF who gets half-assed treatment at an OB's office and doesn't even understand the first thing about hormones and pregnancy tests and symptoms after a year. We feel compassion for women like in that situation and do our best to give caring advice, within the limits of respecting ourselves.

Shauntee · October 2014

@kellygurl24‌ there is a reason that it is procedure to warn about a BFP in anything you post. Afters years of being unable to conceive, it can hurt to see a BFP announcement. We are happy for those women who are in the trenches with us, sharing our pain. If is different for a complete stranger who we don't know. Not trying to be silly, or insensitive to your hopefully good news. I just hope that you would understand this, since you are supposedly on the same tough road as us.

BandM14 · October 2014

BethKate2 said:

Soo....is anyone else starting to think that maybe this is MUD?

I don't know, but I would like to rescind my original response to OP in which I assumed her listing of symptoms and asking a 3T "bored" BOARD (ahem) if she could be pregnant was simply forgivable ignorance. Her follow up commentary leads me to believe it's either MUD or she's just an insensitive jerk. Either way, here's my new response:

yepitsme215 · October 2014

I was thinking she was a troll, I have seen SO many lately asking this exact. Same. Question. I really hope that it's a bored middle schooler with a lot of times on their hands and not an actual grown woman (or man, as may be the case, I suppose).

BunnyBerry · October 2014

@bethkate2 @lemonliz What does MUD stand for by the way?

BethKate2 · October 2014

MUD = Made Up Drama....aka, a troll trying to get us riled up.

yepitsme215 · October 2014

BunnyBerry said:

@bethkate2 @lemonliz What does MUD stand for by the way?

I had to look it up, but I'm pretty sure it means "made up drama"

yepitsme215 · October 2014

@iPutKetchupOnKetchup

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