Anybody planning when they will start ttc again?

slsl509 · October 2014

No, we're done with 2.

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pushgal84 · October 2014

We always said we want 2, but throughout this pregnancy DH has been suggesting we see how the first one goes. I'd really like him to have a sibling and to try for a girl, so I think there will be another one in the future. We would most likely start trying the summer of 2016 in hours of a spring EDD and a 2 1/2 ish yr gap.

BreandMikewedding · October 2014

MonstoMommy said:
I am done for a variety of reasons. I tell people that the world is made for families of four: four people fit comfortably in a car, in a booth, when you win tickets to Disneyland it is for a family of four, etc. Also, we don't want to be outnumbered by children. We are lucky, we will have one of each. But the real reason is this pregnancy has scared the crap out of me. With DS, I hadn't been diagnosed with my autoimmune disorder yet and things were uncomplicated. Being high risk this time and dealing with the idea that my body could cause my baby significant harm has been hard. I can't do this again. DH asked the other day if we should have a third and I about cried.

This is true. It is sometimes more complicated to find vehicles and houses when you have more than two kids. I could imagine how scary it would be to have medical conditions that could affect the baby.

jesslinnn · October 2014

I'd like at least one more and so far I'm digging the 2 year age gaps. We have an Aug '10, Aug '12, and a Sept '14. If DH is up for it I'll be happy with a summer 2016 baby. So we'd start trying after DD turns 1.

AppleGrapeMSTK · October 2014

I came from a large family with 7 kids, each 2 years apart. DH has only one brother, and they are 8 years apart. We have always known we wanted more than 2 but fewer than 7, and we would like them to be close in age. We have whittled it down to 3-5 (including DD who is adopted).

DD is 8 years older than DS, so we tried for LO as soon as my OBGYN gave the OK at 5 months postpartum. Took us almost two years to get pregnant. But that is fine! This is going to be such a great age gap. Close enough to be buddies, but DS is old enough to be helpful.

At this point I know we want one more. That 5th kid is questionable. I like the age gap DS and LO will have, so we will probably wait to start trying until LO is 2. That way DS will be in school full time, too.

AmandaJean12 · October 2014

I really want our LO to have a sibling, but after our first loss and a hard pregnancy, I just don't know. I think it will take a while, but hopefully if we have her here safely we could go into another pregnancy in a few years with a better mindset. Or adopt.

I think DH would be one and done though, because it's just been too much. We will have to see.

Dani0329 · October 2014

I think we will start TTC in about 4-5 years, no seriously.

Cutiecruz327 · October 2014

It took us 4 years to conceive this one, finally succeeded after our 3rd iui. I'll be 35 in november, which won't make conception any easier, so we decided to start trying in June. Then we'll go back to RE if need to.

lrobi13 · October 2014

My baby is hysterically crying this morning due to tummy troubles. It will be some time before we start planning #2.

golfingdarwinfish · October 2014

BreandMikewedding said:

DH wanted 2, but after what happened last year and some of the more stressful times in this pregnancy, he very openly admits he doesn't know if he can take the emotional roller coaster again. The devastating diagnosis at 19 weeks last time impacted him way more than I think either one of us ever imagined. I think that after this LO makes it into the world safely he may feel differently and will tell me it's ultimately my decision, but we shall see.

Also, we have conceived first shot every time, but would do IVF next time around to avoid passing down a dominant gene that I carry, so that will further complicate the process a bit.
Are you in ny? Research dr. Kiltz at cny. He is a very smart man and very good at what he does. I went to an infertility conference a few years ago and he was one of the speakers at the conference. He's well respected in the assisted reproduction community.

@breandmikewedding

Yes, and all my care is done out of Columbia University, which has an incredibly strong prenatal pediatrics/high risk practice, though I haven't started the conversation about their IVF w/PGD capabilities. thank you for the recommendation, I will definitely look him up!

windwithfingers · October 2014

DH and I discussed having one more, which won't be happening for obvious reasons, but even if he were alive, after the labor I had, I am one and done.

MrsSinner402 · October 2014

As I sit here in my recliner with a freshly bathed baby sleeping in my arms, tootin' in her diaper, all sweet and perfect...oh, yeah and my engorged boobs and stitches in my vagina, TTC is the LAST thing on my mind. We very well may be one and done. We will see how I feel once DD is potty trained. But pregnancy was emotionally and mentally hard for me. I worried about everything and couldn't help it. I drove myself crazy. I honestly had an easy pregnancy symptom-wise, but I don't think I could go through the mental experience and constant worry again. I love DD more than anything in the world. So for now I'm going to focus on her.

NavyFlyer · October 2014

vrj0522 said:
We also want more and are wanting to space them about 2 years apart, so we'll start trying when baby is about 12 months old and hope that I get pregnant relatively quickly.

same here!

LaDyBostonRN · October 2014

After everything we've been through, DH and I are considering one and done

Wino411 · October 2014

I have no idea. We could very well be one and done. Or we might try for another or adopt. Who knows. We'll just see how we feel after this one

trisharenee0316 · October 2014

After my first pregnancy and how easy the pregnancy was, I considered maybe stretching myself to have three. Then this pregnancy, while easier than many, has been physically rougher. Also I started looking more seriously at daycare and preschool costs and costs for a 4BR house. Needless to say, this baby makes us two and through.

hippohat · October 2014

I couldn't even think about TTC and being PG again until our first was about 1 and a half… I've always dreamed of a large family, but for many reasons we will be done after this baby. We DO need to discuss how we're making that happen though, I didn't really mind my IUD but would rather go with the big V.

ashie0610 · October 2014

DH and I have big always agreed that two or three would be great. Two would be easier and we'd be more comfy financially, but three has always been in our hearts.

As I was itching myself like crazy from the morphine side effects after I delivered my SECOND breech baby via c-section this weekend, I said to DH that I didn't think I could go through this again.

DS2 is now two days old, breastfeeding amazingly and is full of snuggles. I still don't feel fabulous and delivery was once again scary, but if I had to make a decision right this second, I'd say we will probably go for three in about a year and a half. I love the first eight months of pregnancy, but have had rough yet happy endings.

It will be interesting to see if/how our feelings change as our boys grow!

Nichole7041 · October 2014

If you wanna make God laugh tell him your plans lol

I didn't want kids till 25 changed my mind. Wanted to wait 2 years for the 2nd baby and we were trying 6 months later....

I PLAN to wait at least 2 years for a third but we will see! I know I' at least want 3 though

raynes · October 2014

We're not sure if we're two and through or not. H had always wanted 3, while I wanted 2. But then DS was a terror child and H is saying he's good with 2. But then DS got to 17-18 months and was a LOT easier and suddenly I'm not sure I'm done at 2. So, I think we'll reevaluate in 18 months or so.

reneenearl · October 2014

We always planned on a total of 3, but DS was recently diagnosed with autism. We want to do what is right for our family and plan to reevaluate once we see how things go with DS 1's diagnosis and DS 2. We want to make sure we can afford DS 1's therapies and meet his needs. And we don't know if DS 2 will have similar needs or delays so we are just going to wait and see how things go.

CubanPinky · October 2014

i know my dream has been to have at least 5…this is my bf's first and i know he wants at least one more. but we haven't gone as far as to plan this out entirely yet.

pinkshades05 · October 2014

We will TTC #3 when Chloe is closer to 2 years old. We liked the 2.5yr spacing and we need some time to financially prepare for another baby.

MrMrsandBaby · October 2014

Nope Nope Nope. DH has pretty much put his foot down - two is his limit.

meggiev123 · October 2014

We're undecided on if we want 3. We need to see how things go with 2 first!

krazyinsane · October 2014

Four was our number and I signed the paperwork for my TL during RCS at 10 weeks prior to knowing this was a boy. We SHORTLY discussed a #5 afterwards so we wouldn't hear so many idiots assuming we kept going until we finally got a boy... But 4 was still what was right. So I went thrpught with it on Friday.

However, we always knew we wanted the kids very close in age and went with NTNP after each. I do exclusively breastfeed and that seems to have kept the age gaps a little further but not too far

Roseypants · October 2014

We are two and done. Our daughter's will be 3 and a half years apart. I can't imagine having two back to back.

Eastie156 · October 2014

We are possibly done. I'd really like one more, but H is not on board at all. He was never on board for a 2nd though and changed his mind, so who knows. It's too early for us to decide right now.

LaDyBostonRN · October 2014

MRSclarke08 Aw thanks girl, we think so too ;-)

happyhorse · October 2014

I'll be breastfeeding but we won't be using contraceptives. So I guess you could say "right away". We want more than one and my age is the primary factor. Only hesitation I have is I worry about it being a drag on my career (not to mention our income), I'm in my prime professional years right now.

MsMacual · October 2014

We're done. I thought that we'd start fairly soon after #1, but the transition to parenthood and a child who doesn't really sleep made us rethink that very quickly. We took the leap after DS#1 turned 2 so our kids will be exactly 3 three years apart. My advice is enjoy your new LO and start worrying about adding #2 once you are starting to feel like you have adjusted to having one child and are ready to take on a second.

nightowl1989 · October 2014

We can't decide if we want 2 or 3, but it's not a detailed discussion at this point. We just don't want a second immediately.

BreandMikewedding · October 2014

MsMacual said:
We're done. I thought that we'd start fairly soon after #1, but the transition to parenthood and a child who doesn't really sleep made us rethink that very quickly. We took the leap after DS#1 turned 2 so our kids will be exactly 3 three years apart. My advice is enjoy your new LO and start worrying about adding #2 once you are starting to feel like you have adjusted to having one child and are ready to take on a second.

I think the transition from no kids to having a child is difficult and then the transition from 1 to 2 is hard in it's own way but once you have that down I *think* it gets easier. We shall see. 8-}

erinchrisitne424 · October 2014

I was definitely one and done, but compromised with DH as he really wanted 2 or 3. So we are 2 and through; I am getting my tubes tied and that will be the end of this momma's baby house. DH took his sweet time deciding if he was going to go for the tube tying thing, but I am glad we came to a compromise on it.

Plus it took almost 4 years for us to conceive again after DS1, I don't want to keep starting over when one gets to pre-school age.

wildflower75 · October 2014

I am having baby #2 some day soon... and I have an 18 month old. So unless I win the lottery in the next few weeks this will be it for us.
BUT
if I win the lottery I have already decided to TTC in Nov of next year.

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