New Facebook group?

Vieve831 · October 2014

I'll be brave and put it out there - would anyone be interested in a new Facebook group? With DS1 I joined a group that was formed after all the babies were born and it's an amazing group of moms! But it did pretty much kill the BMB on TB (after a few months - maybe that would've happened anyway?)

We made it a secret group so everyone was more comfortable sharing photos, etc. But if you have your employer listed on your Facebook it will show up so there's still that barrier

Vieve831 · October 2014

that's fine with me. I use both. It seemed like there were a number of people in the other thread who were interested.

SherryBaby2014 · October 2014

Hey, I just learned how to finally add a proper signature so I'm on TB for the long haul now. (had lots of issues resizing pictures :-<)

Personally I feel like that might fracture the current group of participants even further. Especially if the group is being built up with some more newbies or people finally with time/comfort to participate.

There are pros and cons either way I guess!

BabyM82714 · October 2014

I'd rather stay here! And I've been kicking it here since February.

midwestFNP · October 2014

I vote to stay here too.

shugirl76 · October 2014

I'll do both:)

workmm01 · October 2014

Personally I'd like to just stay here unless everyone starts leaving. I just have a different mindset here than when I'm on fb. On the other hand I do like how fb is more private. Seeing how searching user names brings up our photos and threads did kinda bother me. I'm torn...

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Dawn5481 · October 2014

I'd juggle both.

sharkmama39 · October 2014

Odd rather stay on here, personally.

BeachM · October 2014

I didn't join the last one and I won't join this one. I will be sad if this board completely dies. I will need someone in addition to my 2010 BMB to vent to about the impending doom that is the 4 month sleep regression.

CanadianintheSouth · October 2014

I'm staying here! Have been here since the beginning, and will continue to use TB

kaitm22 · October 2014

I would prefer to stay here. I already waste too much time on Facebook, although I spend a lot here too! I am finally feeling more comfortable and more like a regular now that we have thinned out a bit, and I find I have more to say.

I also only Bump from my laptop, and I feel bad for you who use the app, but I do like the layout of the page on the computer. I definitely get why you ladies are thinking about doing one though, I would just like to keep it all here and I would be sad if we lost more people.

JadaBlue · October 2014

I'll also just continue to stay on TB. The anonymity of this forum is key for me. I'm surprised to learn I'm apparently more privacy conscious than most.

SoSayWeAll · October 2014

I would love to join but I am not comfortable sharing all the personal info, like my employer. I will stay anonymous here.

lynds002 · October 2014

hmctagg01 said:

Totally agree with @kaitm22 about feeling more comfortable now that the group has thinned out. I'm all for snark, but am I the only one who thinks that the overall tone is more positive and welcoming now? Before it seemed like heaven forbid someone asked a repeat question, or stated a UO that wasn't in the majority. This will probably get flamed for that, but whatever. The few I think would have a problem with that have already stated they're done on TB and probably won't even read this. Eta: I'm not leaving either. Facebook has seen its heyday imo.

Totally with you here. I've been here since the very beginning, but would rarely post because I was worried I would be chastised for not being "regular" enough. I would consider a different Facebook group in a year or so with a smaller group of people.

herecomesthesun · October 2014

Peripatetic14 said:
I'll also just continue to stay on TB. The anonymity of this forum is key for me. I'm surprised to learn I'm apparently more privacy conscious than most.

I'm in the same mindset. I barely FB anyways so I prefer to stick to TB.

becominggold · October 2014

As one of the newbies I hope you all stay

Eena1242 · October 2014

I'm one of the ones who is hesitant to join a FB group because of my employer too. Reason being that I like to say whatever I want on here. On FB, I have to be more cautious because I don't want to say anything that can be construed as an opinion of my employer. I like having my employer displayed however, because there are a few other people with my name, and that's how people I have just met can distinguish me.

I like TB over Facebook too because I'm actually on here more. And I like all the newbies joining here.

SherryBaby2014 · October 2014

lynds002 said:

hmctagg01 said:

Totally agree with @kaitm22 about feeling more comfortable now that the group has thinned out. I'm all for snark, but am I the only one who thinks that the overall tone is more positive and welcoming now? Before it seemed like heaven forbid someone asked a repeat question, or stated a UO that wasn't in the majority. This will probably get flamed for that, but whatever. The few I think would have a problem with that have already stated they're done on TB and probably won't even read this. Eta: I'm not leaving either. Facebook has seen its heyday imo.

Totally with you here. I've been here since the very beginning, but would rarely post because I was worried I would be chastised for not being "regular" enough. I would consider a different Facebook group in a year or so with a smaller group of people.

=D> I had these feelings as well.

rstarrlemaitre · October 2014

I've been here since the start (and really the very start, my BFP was Nov. 23 last year), and have never been tempted to join the FB group. I'll stick to the bump!

Ktorrisi · October 2014

Agreed. I'm staying here as well

. And I've been a member since NOV, but for a few months my mobile app wasn't working well and I don't have a decent regular computer. So I was MIA for a while... But only a few months (like feb-May maybe?). I do like it much better now. I thought some people were very nasty in the past, especially to new members, or to someone who asked a random question who didn't previously formerly introduce themselves. And I've also seen people being mean to another member who is CONSTANTLY active and whom I adore! ( @lappyfoinker‌ ). I just thought it was uncool. I haven't witnessed this immaturity and cruelty in a while though. So if that means that those ppl left for fb... Then good riddance...

ErnieZippy · October 2014

I agree - tb isn't as busy, but it's also not as snarky. Phew.

Ktorrisi · October 2014

Exactly what @hmctagg01‌ said

cachoque · October 2014

Also here from the beginning & never interested in FB. But I'm glad to see the snark & lame vagina jokes fell off bc of it. Just not what I call entertainment. I don't mind repeat questions or newbs, I'm not looking to form BFFs with peeps IDK IRL & I don't give a shit if someone mistakes gender for sex. So there's really no reason to leave.

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Raclla · October 2014

I live for snark and lame vagina jokes.

salsy2012 · October 2014

What's wrong with snark and lame vagina jokes?

salsy2012 · October 2014

I'm just going to say this- without us and our snark, you would be stuck with ladyabagail right now and about a million others just like her.

And just an observation, but you all seemed to like snark just fine when we were active on here. A lot of you even joined in. Just pointing that out.

jendem8 · October 2014

Ugh.

jendem8 · October 2014

We need a ladyabagail to unite us... any volunteers?

rockyrollgirl · October 2014

hmctagg01 said:

Well I guess this was overdue because I've been silently disagreeing to myself for the last however many months. My whole point was you guys used the BMB, found each other who had similar tastes and senses of humor, formed a group, you like it that way and that's fine. You have all already said you don't like TB for a myriad of reasons. Cool. Those of us that do like it are still going to use it and it's going to be a different kind of board now with a different kind of feel, which should be expected. I've never been super involved in any kind of forum board, but I was surprised at some of the reactions to questions, newbs with no intros, the so called white knighting, etc. Maybe that is the norm and I'm sure it was super annoying to STMs and TB veterans. I've just been taught to not say anything if you've got nothing nice to say and I thought that applied to the internet as well. I just don't understand the need to go out of your way to comment on something to get some love tits for your snarky wit, especially at the expense of someone else. I don't want to be in the FB group. And I'm not talking shit, I'm stating my opinion on the creation of a new group and what I would like to see from those who stick around. I'm sure the same kind of chatter is happening on the FB group, but its not on a public forum to be seen. I was never personally attacked or offended, so I'm sure this will be looked at as white knighting. But the reception wasn't always welcoming and I would find myself stopping to think "Is this going to be OK to post or will I be ripped apart for even interrupting their thread?" because if it was stupid it wasn't going to disappear in the pages of forgotten posts, it would be dragged through the mud. So to summarize, enjoy you're group, I'm not bitching because I've got my own group here, I never had an interest in your private group so I can't be defensive about not getting in and FB is super lame, so if I had to go there to sit with you, thanks but no thanks.

Nuclearcupcake · October 2014

majgarriss said:
So, first the shit talk is because we're not around. Then it is because we won't open the Facebook group back up. Now we're "exclusive" and you're glad we're gone and you indicate that we weren't welcoming and supportive???

Let me be clear.

No...you can't sit with us.

And if you ever wonder why, just reread your defensive and bitchy posts. Grow up.

Let me be clear, I love you.

rockyrollgirl · October 2014

This whole thing is so weird.

salsy2012 · October 2014

rockyrollgirl said:
This whole thing is so weird.

Ditto. We're missed but not missed at all.

rockyrollgirl · October 2014

Vagina Jokes FTW!

JadaBlue · October 2014

And some of us were just responding to OP's question; nothing to do with FB group members.

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MC03 · October 2014

DH is making me watch the new transformers movie right now and it's so stupid. I'm bored.

Also I really want some pumpkin pie but I can't have it because I'm on a diet.

(

And that's all I really have to say right now.

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