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rmc0718rmc0718 member
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Hey all, been lurking for awhile but thought I'd finally say hi. I lost my twin girls at 20 wks last Nov. During emergency d&c to remove my placenta doc discovered I had a complete uterine septum. After many u/s, a couple mri's, and finally a surgery we got the green light in July. And we just recently found out I'm pregnant! Yay! 4 wks 1 day

Questions right of the bat: After my twins loss my sister lost her pregnancy. This will be the first grandbaby in my family after three losses now. Any advice on how to share the excitment with the family? Just not really sure how to go about announcing it when they have already been let down too many times.

Looking forward to getting to know everyone!
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  • footprintfootprint member
    Congrats and welcome! I have no advice on family. I told my immediate family the day I found out, but waited a while to tell the rest of my family-- which was cool because I'm a big blabber mouth.

    Married August 2003

    BFP: January 8, 2012
    Due: September 5, 2012
    DS: August 14, 2012

    BFP: November 5, 2013
    Due: July 11, 2014
    MMC Detected d&c: December 29, 2013 12w5d

    BFP: June 10, 2014
    Due: February 16, 2015


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  • Samuelismomma Samuelismomma member
    Congrats and welcome...
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  • kate6214kate6214 member
    Congrats! I agree with the PP. It's going to be hard for your sister. Definitely give her time to process it alone.

    BFP #1: 8/17/13     Due Date: 4/26/14      MMC discovered @ 9w 4d       D&C: 10/2/13
    BFP #2: 12/23/13       Due Date: 9/6/14      MMC discovered @ 8w 5d    D&C: 2/6/14
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  • carlsonbaby2014carlsonbaby2014 member
    I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet girls ((((hugs)))). Congratulations on this new pregnancy and I completely echo @Megdowntheshore‌ in her recommendation to approach sharing the news with your sister first and very delicately.
    Began trying for a baby January 2012
    BFP 4.25.2013  EDD 1.3.2014  MMC 6.3.2013  D&C 6.19.2013
    BFP 11.3.2013  CP 11.6.2013
    BFP 3.31.2014 EDD 12.10.2014 Baby boy Carlson born 12.19.2014 
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  • pblgepblge member
    Congratulations! I'm so sorry for the loss of your girls. I have no additional advice about telling your family, I just hope that you have a h&h nine months!
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    ***Losses mentioned.*** TTC #1 since May 2012. Me: 37, OH: 41. Ectopic August 2012 => tubal damage. :'(  Stage 1 endo removed June 2013. IVF #1 Oct/Nov 2013: Long Lupron with Gonal-F. 7R, 7M, 7F. 2 txfer@3d. Nothing frozen.  => M/C @ 8 wks. :'( Selected RPL panel all normal. Very hyper and brittle response to stims. IVF #2 (antagonist protocol) Feb 2014 => Converted to IUI (Perfect conditions). BFN. IVF #2.1 w/ new RE June 2014: Antagonist protocol. 33R, 31M, 30F, 19 blasts to test!!! I made it through without crashing!! :) Hats off to Dr. Fancypants!! ET of one 5AB blast. BFN. 13 10 CCS'ed snowflakes! FET #1 PUPO as of 7/29 Betas: 8/7@24, 8/9@97, 8/11@334 (etc.) Two sacs on 8/15, one seen on 8/18 after a bleed. U/s 8/25 (6+3) "perfect": 5.9 mm + HB@120bpm! U/s 9/4 (7+6): 15.9 mm + HB@172 bpm! Please, PLEASE stick this time!!!!
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  • littlecookielittlecookie member
    Welcome. Congratulations! No additional advice on telling family. Thinking of you and wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy.
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  • mrsjg2013mrsjg2013 member
    Megdowntheshore said:
    Welcome and congrats. I would definitely tell your sister privately so she doesn't have to digest the news in front of everybody else. Don't be hurt if she's upset. Both of my SIL's had healthy pregnancies after my multiple losses and it was really excruciating for me. I love my nieces so much, but seeing their pregnancies was challenging. Maybe it will be different for her and she'll just be happy and hopeful for herself when she hears your news. I told my family really early this time. They wanted to be there for us whether it worked out or not. I'm glad that I had them as support.
    This.  My SIL and brother announced their pregnancy as a surprise last Christmas in front of the entire family, and after only being a couple months out from my first loss, I didn't handle it well. 

    Congrats to you and welcome!! :)
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  • rmc0718rmc0718 member
    Thanks all for the great advice! Definitely feel much better about it now!
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  • BackstreetPixieBackstreetPixie member
    Congratulations! 

    Don't share until you feel ready. Also I would be super sensitive with your sister. As you know it is very hard to watch others get pregnant after you've had a loss. Maybe tell her when no one else is around so she can process on her own and feel however she needs to feel about it and not have the pressure of others looking/listening. 
    -Megan


    Started dating Hubby May 17 2005. Married since Aug 20 2011 
    Me:30   Hubby:31
    TTC since May 2012 
    HSG Dec 2012 Fill no spill on left side, right side normal (most physically painful experience of my life..)
    Metformin Started May 2013
    PG#1: BFP 10-21-13. EDD 6-17-14 mmc 12-9-13 m/c occurred with cytotec on 12-11-13 
    PG#2: BFP 07-25-14.  EDD 4-5-15   *Hoping this is my rainbow*
    Diagnosed with PCOS, Hypothyroid,IBD/UC, (UC in remission as of July 2014)
    *I will always love you Fetey the first.* 
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    ALL WELCOME!



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