So is this pregnancy anyone's last?

Disneygeek77 · October 2014

This will hopefully be our third surviving child, but this is pregnancy #5 for me and c-section #4. We are probably done, but I can't say that with certainty.

Also, my Dr said there is a small chance he might have to perform a partial with this c-section, so the decision might not even be up to me.

Pips09 · October 2014

This is our 2nd, and we plan to be done after this one.

nah82 · October 2014

Yep, I'm done! My husband had a vasectomy in August. This is #3 (we were not planning on #3). Three high risk pregnancies is a lot of stress and worry. I've had high blood pressure and been on hbp meds throughout all of them, placenta previa with #1 that thankfully moved before delivery, a thyroid nodule with #2 that had me worried I had cancer most of the pregnancy and required a biopsy during and surgery afterwards, and going through this one with only half a thyroid worried about my hormone levels. I was content and happy to be moving onto the next phase, no more middle of the night feedings, never having to breastfeed again, no more diapers, being able to go back to work in a couple years when both boys start school... surprise!! So I will be waiting a couple more years for all that now, but I did get lucky and get the girl I thought I'd never have.

Aillise · October 2014

I thought I was done before this pregnancy. DS is 9, and I have had 3 MC's, one MC I was almost 5 months pregnant with twins. This pregnancy my doctors believe was a twin pregnancy and lost one at almost 3 months. So, thought I was finished already, and this LO was unplanned and a complete surprise. But lately I have been thinking about maybe waiting 2-3 years and having one more. Who knows I might be content with one boy and one girl and be done.

vjdk07 · October 2014

This is it for us. Number 2 for me and number 3 for DH. Also, when this LO is born will be 31 and DH 36 so it just feels like the right time. I have already discussed getting my tubes tied a few hours after delivery.

Edvent · October 2014

Yes! This is #2 for us and we're done after this LO arrives. I spoke to my OB yesterday about having a tubal during my RCS. We had always hoped to have 2, but didn't plan for them to be so close together, going to have our hands full for a while!

Beauxbaton · October 2014

We'll see. This is our second. I originally didn't want anymore. But not entirely sure. I'll be getting an IUD after this baby is born. And if we have another it won't be for at least another 2-3 years.

RibbetRibbet · October 2014

motherboy said:

This is #2 for us. We're 29. 80% sure we're done. He won't have a vasectomy for a year or two to give us time to feel more secure in the decision. This question has made me feel sad. I should be savoring this pregnancy (mine hasn't been bad) but instead it's just been flying by.

This is pretty much us exactly. My DH is 29, I am 27. Before we had kids we said 3 to 4 kids, and now after having one and one on the way our life is more suited for 2 kids. However, we aren't 100% sold on just 2 kids so we aren't doing anything permanent.

sanbry · October 2014

We plan on this baby, our second, to be our last. I won't do any permanent birth control stuff until he's around 2 though, just to be absolutely sure. But we will have a daughter and a son and I'm fairly positive it would take a lot for either of us to want more than 2.

LadyXaverian · October 2014

Yes! This is baby #2 and we are definitely done.

With Nora, I was on the fence about having a 2nd. With this one, I am thrilled she is coming, but I know 100% that we are through.

If I have a RCS, I'll have tubes tied. If not, DH will have a V.

AEM371 · October 2014

This is my "one and done!" baby

Adoption has been my desire for years (and now my husband's) so we'll be starting that process next year. He'll be getting a vasectomy, so as long as that works, we're sticking to the one biological baby. We only want 2 children, so if all goes to plan (silly word!) we'll have one biological and one adopted.

And honestly, I've enjoyed very few parts of pregnancy so I'm thrilled at the thought of only having to do this ONCE. Being sick for so many months back to back has taken it out of me!

ECATX · October 2014

We are 100% done. We did IVF for our first pregnancy and didn't think we'd be lucky enough to have a second, and then this pregnancy took us by surprise. I don't know how I'd feel if I were younger, but I'll be 40 and DH will be 42 when this LO is born, and I feel confident that we're done. DH is going to have a vasectomy - possibly before this LO is born.

mandikins27 · October 2014

i always wanted more kids. i love and adore kids. but having 3 in 3 years was hard on my body so i said i would give myself 5 years after my last and then decide. my fiancée (the girls dad) and i broke up and i was sad i thought ok that's it just the 3 girls but my family never felt complete. ten years after my last i was pleasantly surprised to find out im expecting! was not planned never thought i would have two fathers for my children but i am happy and finally my family feels complete so this is my 4th and final

robsbabygirl08 · October 2014

This is #2 for us and will be our last. I'm hoping that as my biological kids get older we can start fostering kids.

SpaceGirlSpiff · October 2014

We are done after this for both financial and sanity reasons. Two and through!

I think if baby actually comes in January (I'm due 1/4 so Dec is still possible too), I MAY see about getting my tubes tied next year since my deductible will be used up already.... but...we shall see. I know for sure I'm done, but just still deciding how we're going to handle BC and if we're going to jump right into something permanent or give it a few years first and just do the implant or something for now.

H may also get the V but he hasn't decided for sure. Either way I still probably want to get something permanent eventually for myself too just because I'm paranoid.

Beckyboo71 · October 2014

We will see. I have a 6 year old DD from my previous marriage, so this one is my DH's first. I'm 43, he is 45. We say if it happens, it happens. I will be happy either way, and I'm sure he will too. Selfishly though, I feel like a family of 4 is easier to do stuff with...piling into the car, restaurants, etc

liladelphia215 · October 2014

Baby #2.. Most likely done, but not ready to make any permanent decisions. I'll be just about 29 when this baby is born, DH will be almost 32. We decided to wait until he is 35 to make any permanent decisions and then it would be him getting the V.

I want to be able to afford to spoil my kids just a little (not spoiled rotten, but I don't want to have to count every penny that comes in), and afford to take us out places, and be able to give as much ourselves and attention to our kids.. and at this point, I don't think that's a lifestyle we can keep if we have three kids, however I also know a lot can change in three years, which is why we are waiting to make anything permanent.

Curbs12 · October 2014

This is our first, I'll be 23 in December and DH will be 26 in January. We want at least one more, if not two. How ever many we can afford.

LaBellaVida · October 2014

This is number 4 for me (number 3 for Dh. ) I'm done. DH wants more, and he'd be Jim Bob Duggar if I let him. I need to be the one to put my foot down and say this is it! Financially, and for my own sanity (since I'm a sahm.)
Etf: words

LaBellaVida · October 2014

Double post

storm08 · October 2014

This is #2 and we're probably done. I've always wanted 3 children, but my DH only wants 2.

aerotigergirl · October 2014

I'm thinking this might be our last pregnancy. I love the idea of 3 kids, but H has a philosophical problem with having more than 2 (biologically). We are open to adopting, however, so maybe we'll end up with 3 at some point.

Also, I'll be 36 when this one comes along, so we don't have just a whole ton of time left. And having 3 in full-time daycare starts to break me financially. I think I'd have to put my career on hold if we were to decide to try for a third child very quickly.

All that said.... the subject of a tubal ligation or a vasectomy hasn't even been brought up yet, so maybe we're not as sure as we think we are at this point?

mmooki · October 2014

This is number 2 for us and we are done. I'd like more, but my health conditions and finances make more impossible.

moonfaerie · October 2014

This is #4 for us (#5 for DH as I have a SD) and this is IT! DH is getting a vasectomy. Otherwise he's not allowed to touch me once this little guy comes out!

Bigboneded · October 2014

Only God knows, we tried hard for these two... we wont prevent, I am 42- and it may not happen again for us.

longcat07 · October 2014

aerotigergirl said:

I'm thinking this might be our last pregnancy. I love the idea of 3 kids, but H has a philosophical problem with having more than 2 (biologically). We are open to adopting, however, so maybe we'll end up with 3 at some point.

Also, I'll be 36 when this one comes along, so we don't have just a whole ton of time left. And having 3 in full-time daycare starts to break me financially. I think I'd have to put my career on hold if we were to decide to try for a third child very quickly.

All that said.... the subject of a tubal ligation or a vasectomy hasn't even been brought up yet, so maybe we're not as sure as we think we are at this point?

SO has the same problem. i'm open to considering a 3rd (although i don't need one), as much as i dislike pregnancy in general, but he remains pretty firm about not contributing to overpopulation, lol. that said, he has said that he agrees with not going permanent on the birth control for at least a year just in case.

lezlers · October 2014

This is our 2nd and our last. I'll be 37 when this one is born and personally don't want to risk being pregnant again at 40 or beyond. My husband is also REALLY done (had to talk him into this one!) He'll be getting a vasectomy and I'll likely be getting my tubes tied during my C-section.

mellie86041 · October 2014

Done at 2. We were in the fence about 3 before this LO, but after a combination of this being a very rough pregnancy and DD being a difficult toddler (she was a difficult baby too) ... we're just done. Finding out this LO is a boy kind of finalized the decision for us too.

Trek3 · October 2014

This is our third. I think we might go for one more.

#1 and #2 are just under 2 years apart and they are such good friends. I would love for this baby to have a sibling close in age as well. However I will see how I feel! Pregnancy is definitely not easy, especially with a toddler to look after.

llambrose · October 2014

This baby (#2) is probably my last, we have a small house and financially it wouldn't be a good decision to have more. I will also be 35 when I deliver so there is that to consider too. I would have like to have maybe had 3 but life doesn't always work out the way you want. I was 29 when I had my first (shortly after an early miscarriage) and I never planned on waiting 5 years to have my 2nd but we had a lot of issues with money and my husband being unemployed and were not able to justify trying to add to our family during that time. It makes me a little sad but it seems like this will be it.

nolansmom08 · October 2014

This is our 3rd baby (4th pregnancy) and last. There are 6 years between our first and last, we'll have 2 boys and now a girl, and I'll be 33 and DH 37 when this LO is done. DH will probably get snipped in the spring.

cclfc · October 2014

I have no plans. First pregnancy, first child among both DH and I, so I'm not
opposed to more, but i'll be 34 when LO arrives. I'd prefer not to have an only child, but I'm not 22. I was one of 3, DH was one of 2 so I'd like at least one or two more. But again, no plans due to my age.

letsgox · October 2014

It is so interesting to read about different reasonings/situations we have on this BMB. I feel like I learned a lot about everyone from this thread.

AFM, this is our second and I would be very sad if we didn't have more. I've always wanted 4 kids (H wanted 5, now he's on board with 4). But I'm 29 and unless they all end up being 2 yrs apart, I think we may stop at 3.

SebsMum · October 2014

This will be #2 for us (34/35yo) and I think we're done. I'm thinking of getting the coil put in, but nothing permanent has been discussed. 2 seems like enough for us.

bustysinclare · October 2014

this will be number 2 for me and also done for sure

RLH0511 · October 2014

This is it for us. 1st pregnacy, and I'm having a boy and a girl. Hubby already has a daughter so he's getting fixed!

nikoled1982 · October 2014

I am soo done after this pregnancy ! This will be baby #4. I would love another girl ( since I'll have 3 Boys and only 1 girl) but I'll be 33 when he's born and having chronic hypertension in all of my pregnancies that I don't start showing preeclampsia till 35/36 weeks and this time around by body is feeling it. So I'll feel my family is complete once this little one makes his arrival!

SheHulk723 · October 2014

This is our first and I would be totally ok with this being our last haha, but DH wants 3, so we're going to compromise for 2 haha.

MrsT0514 · October 2014

This is my 2nd pregnancy & our 2nd kiddo, so most likely the last. DH has already voiced that he wants a vasectomy after this baby is born.

rainbows · October 2014

One and done here. I will be 35 when the baby is born, and have not really enjoyed pregnancy at all. We arent doing anything permanent, but I will be getting another IUD put in asap.