Are you discussing baby names with family/friends IRL?

tee18 · October 2014

Somewhat of a XP from baby names.

With ds we didn't discuss names with family and friends, with the exception of asking my parents about using a family name (we didn't end up using it).

This time, dh is wanting to be more open with it.

I do want some opinions on specific things, perceived "issues" with the names that I'm curious about. But - I don't really want opinions about other things... And I do like the element of surprise.

Curious what f15 is doing?

For what it's worth, the names are Cara and Noelle. I'm curious about my families thoughts on pronuncianion with Cara and holiday associations with Noelle

jennjilljo · October 2014

I let close family weigh in on name options but I'll let anyone give suggestions. I kept our very favorites quiet until we decided though. I've told close family her name and the worst comment we had was "well, it grows on you".

junebugjam · October 2014

My best friend and I have discussed names more than my husband and I have. I feel like I'm more critical of names than anyone I know, so I'm not concerned about getting opinions.

I had a girl in my class last year whose first and middle name was Cara Noelle. I think Noelle is pretty, but I'd probably only consider it for a middle because it does have strong holiday associations to me.

lilybug319 · October 2014

DH and I have had baby names picked out for like 2 1/2 years now. My mom especially doesn't like them but it's my kid, so he gets the names I like. I love your names and wouldn't associate Noelle with Christmas fwiw!

smg2302 · October 2014

We're decided and public with our name. There wasn't a whole lot of discussion before.

foxslaw · October 2014

We decided June's name as a couple, or really, I came up with it & BF said "okay, I like it". We have told people, but haven't left any room for discussion. We just say that June Olivia is her name with .01% room to change our minds. Bf's mom balked at it to Bf, but hasn't said anything to me or suggested anything different.

crabigator · October 2014

I get very cagey about names -- it's just our secret for a little while, which I like. This time, I think people might pressure us a bit more, plus I realize that we want to talk to our daughter (age 3) about them, and she might spill the beans. So, we might not have a choice!

PS Clara is on my short list and Noelle is almost definitely going to be our daughter's middle name, so I LOVE your name choices. Can't go wrong!

AF9211 · October 2014

DH & I have already decided on a name, and we tell people if they ask because we're not great at keeping secrets. We come from 2 very opinionated families, so we try to make it known that it's not up for discussion.

kdhuling · October 2014

We tell people we are waiting til we meet the little guy before we name him and that we are mulling over several names in the mean time. We've told them some of the names but that we are still keeping our ears open. In reality we've had his name picked for months. We are keeping it to ourselves until he is born just to keep any balking at a minimum. My mom has already had lots to say about one of the names I mentioned which just happens to be baby's middle name. Plus it will be fun to actually introduce him with a name no one knows yet I think. My brother and SIL did it with my niece and nephew and that was really fun.

mommaa1615 · October 2014

EVERYONE seems to ask about names...I just tell them since we know

lizjennings81 · October 2014

I tell people I'm accepting guesses and jokingly say I'm giving a prize to the person who's right. But I also tell them that while her name's decided, they won't hear it until after she's born.

I just don't care to hear opinions.

AnotherSun · October 2014

We didn't until after the sex reveal with our first two. This one though I've gotten opinions from people I know will be honest but polite. Juliet is our girl front runner and I wanted to put out feelers to see if she is going to have to spend her whole life rolling her eyes at people making Romeo comments.

Ducktale · October 2014

Not a soul. I may tell a close friend due the month before us just to make sure we don't end up picking the same name but that's it.

kefttsc · October 2014

Our whole family knows, and if others ask I'm happy to share, but I'm not out there posting it on FB or anything.

Most people love our names, but family's as been the worst with comments and name changes and nn ideas. People! We TOLD you the names, we didn't ask for opinions.

PeaceofKia · October 2014

We're not discussing names because we didn't care for others opinions. But family and friends do know the names we have chosen and love them.

jennjilljo · October 2014

Tthgirl said:

We have told a few people, but we aren't completely sold on both names yet. We are looking at Maya and Rory (boy)

I love these names. Rory was a front runner for boys names for us and I love Maya.

NQueen11 · October 2014

We haven't told anyone any names. When they tell us their suggestion we send them to the "suggestion box" in the office. It's a paper shredder. DH's friends have come up with the most interesting names so far, and I think most are just made up.

Nvywife · October 2014

We picked our names and printed them on the sex reveal cards. DH wanted no input on the names he picked.

sweetdreamz6700 · October 2014

We tell when asked. Idgaf if family or friends don't like it. We do and thats what is the moat important. Her name is Elena June (nn Laney)

elysek18 · October 2014

I answered SS. We didn't really discus names. No one else besides DH and I had a say on the name. We have however told a small handful of people what the name will be. We are making the rest of the world wait till after birth. I just didn't want to open that can of worms.

lizzybean · October 2014

We announced the name to family when we told them the sex of the baby. MIL was thrilled that we are honouring her with the middle name.

I have told my irl friends but will keep the name off of fb. I asked my mom her opinions on our possible names but she is the only person we discussed with before we made our frontal decision.

osumegs · October 2014

We won't tell anyone until baby arrives. Before we were pregnant, I mentioned a few names I liked and mil ripped them all to shreds (and DH will always remember things she says in an effort not to offend her). The name we picked will stay our secret to avoid any opinions

freegiraffe · October 2014

We've been telling everyone our girl name because it was decided since before the baby was conceived. If it's a boy it will probably take us until the birth to decide on a name.

rosieo52 · October 2014

We were discussing names we liked before our US yesterday. Now that we know the sex we decided no more discussing our favorites and we won't tell until baby girl is born. Of course people are still giving their input; which is probably just unavoidable!

acpruchnik · October 2014

My parents are the only people other than us that know his name. They only know cos we wanted to make sure it was OK with them to use my brothers name for this little guy (he passed away when we were kids). Otherwise, we're keeping it quiet so we don't have to deal with my MIL whining that we're using my family names this time instead of hers.

acpruchnik · October 2014

osumegs said:
We won't tell anyone until baby arrives. Before we were pregnant, I mentioned a few names I liked and mil ripped them all to shreds (and DH will always remember things she says in an effort not to offend her). The name we picked will stay our secret to avoid any opinions

Gave you a love tit cos I can sympathize. My MIL seems to think she should be naming this baby instead of us and it's easier to stay quiet than deal with her. It's sweet my DH wants to keep the peace but I'm not that nice lol

mommie2bof6 · October 2014

He won't even help decide. Just says no to everything our daughter maybe nameless until last second. I have asked my younger sis and good friend on their opinion. His family isn't wven getting a option to suggest as with my last son his mother and neices were texting me at all hours of the night woth names. They didn't like first name we picked then I fell in love with jayce for mid name and he was no go. All I kept hearing was lee aghhh an other twilight related names

HailsMom · October 2014

We are telling people that ask, but it's pretty matter of fact that this is the name we have chosen, and so far no one has said anything other than that they love it. I know with the IL's that if they didn't like the name, we would hear all about it because I had to listen to them give SIL shit last year for her name choices. People can love it or hate it, I don't really care. It's our son that will be living with the name.

lulu4087 · October 2014

We're public wth our names when people ask us. We have 6 picked out that we are confident in. We have decided to whittle it down to 3 and then we will name her when we meet her. Our families are pretty respectful so I don't have fears of them saying crazy negative things to us. Otherwise the rest of the world can eat if if they don't like our names.

ColleenS629 · October 2014

We only just made our lists and talked to each other about them earlier this week so we haven't talked to anyone else about them. We will probably discuss with a very select few people. Last time, my MIL asked and we told her we were considering Ryan and Alexander but hadn't decided yet. The entire time she was staying with us, she called my belly "Ryan and Alex." It drove me a little insane because we had.not named them yet and were clear about that. We ended up nixing Alex shortly after anyway.

magsame · October 2014

Ugh MIL has been so annoying with names. We only found out it was a boy on Monday. We plan on making the decision on our own. I don't care what others think..

twinklymama · October 2014

We've been telling people fake names. We have said Elsa if it's a girl and Olaf if it's a boy. We keep getting, "Oh I love Elsa!" And I just got the first response to Olaf... My step dad side eyed me and asked, "Olaf? Really?".

I think we will do well in coming up with a short list before we get discharged from the hospital. They do need a name before that, right?

crabigator · October 2014

twinklymama said:

We've been telling people fake names. We have said Elsa if it's a girl and Olaf if it's a boy. We keep getting, "Oh I love Elsa!" And I just got the first response to Olaf... My step dad side eyed me and asked, "Olaf? Really?". I think we will do well in coming up with a short list before we get discharged from the hospital. They do need a name before that, right?

Tell them you're naming your girl Isis.

My husband and I were in the car the other day and the radio news was on, and he said, with no prompting, "man, what a shame. I really like the name Isis!"

PS He absolutely knows that the situation is pretty damned serious outside of what we will be naming our daughter... not sure if I needed to add that caveat?

Oem617 · October 2014

With DS we told people if they asked. My mother had a not so good reaction, but I just ignored her. We didn't get any other negative comments from anyone else.

This time if people asked we would tell. That is if we only had a clue ourselves! We have no options at the moment. We have time right?

cookinggirl15 · October 2014

We have had our names picked out for a long time, and we told people, we just don't ask their opinion!

RedGiant · October 2014

I have had our top girl name since before I was pregnant with DS (previous pregnancy). When we told family members we are having a girl this time the immediate question was "do you have a name?" So I told them the name. The only other person I have discussed it with is one close girlfriend. But, we present our name choices not as asking for opinions, but more this is what our child will be named.

stefani103 · October 2014

I've been telling, especially my family. DH and I each have a boy's name we like, and we're just in a stalemate over which is the first and which is the middle. BUT then I find out he hasn't told his mom because he doesn't want opinions. Oops

Stargirlb · October 2014

Discuss? not really. Tell everyone? yes.

kerrycharpe · October 2014

I was originally planning no, but we're so far from having a name it's a non-issue. We had a list of 2, neither great, and DH threw them both out the other day announcing "I just don't like ANY names"
So, we shall see! I got a ton of crap from my mom about DD's name, but his family is so respectful I'd be floored if they said anything mean

Valentino2013 · October 2014

We let our family hear a few names that we liked just so they can have their input. Now that we know the sex and can get serious about picking names it will be between me and hubby till baby is born. I figure that way the family feels involved and will let us name our baby in peace.

mamabisme · October 2014

We don't seem to get a lot of people asking about the name (maybe because we're team green?). I have had one person ask if we had names picked out, for both sexes. I said yes we do. She left it at that. We won't be sharing the name until birth.