Today has been tough. The baby has been nursing nearly exclusively all day. She has also been really fussy. She wakes up upset and won't calm down unless I hold her. If I put her down when she's asleep she cries until I pick her up. I'm not sure what this is about. She's been so chill this whole time and now she's not. Any ideas?
My daughter was like this from about 1 week- 3 weeks old. Someone had to be holding her. It was rough. I have no advice because it was something we just had to sort of get through, but good news is that after that passed, she was able to sleep in her swing for extended periods of time or at least be put down so we didn't have to hold her 24/7.
My mom calls and asks how I'm feeling so I tell her. I hurt, my stomach is stretched to capacity, my feet hurt because they are swollen. She always acts like she never had any aches and pains during pregnancy. I don't know why it bothers me but it makes me extra notchy :-w
What makes me fucking bitchy is when my mom asks how I am and I'm honest. Because I answer her honestly that I have had a very easy pregnancy, but I hurt now, and I made the mistake of telling her I have antepartum depression.
Her answer to that is to just "buck up!" She does not believe in depression or therapy or drugs. She says "you wouldn't get PPD if you just told yourself to be happy. I cried with you all the time when you were a baby, and I'm fine."
ALSO, ALSO, ALSO, she was never this pregnant. I was born at 5 pounds, 35 weeks. At 35 weeks, I still was able to run (I switched to a power walk last week). Don't you DARE tell me I should be able to walk around the mall for 4 hours this pregnant. Fuck you. I'm in better shape right NOW than she ever has been in her life. That doesn't matter, though, because it just hurts, and it would hurt even WORSE if I took her advice of "just lay down, stop exercising."
Sorry. That was a rant.
I know some people who think depression and anxiety is all just "something in your head" and that people can just get over it. I want to slap these people. This shit is hard, and if you have never experienced it or cannot relate, just try to at least be supportive or nice about it. Don't be an ass and tell someone to "buck up". Sorry I just think that is so ignorant, people just don't get it.
Darn it I'm tryin to end today early because there is no positive spin to put on this ... GIL says I'm just lazy and I must have asked for bed rest (but yells if I do anything ) and also says I'm lazy because I rest until 10:30 - 11 am after being awake til 5 am and waking back up around 9:30. My MIL took me dress shopping so I'd be presentable at HER baby shower (because I dress like a slut appearently (I wear jeans and tees)) . Dear lord can I have my family back now?? Please ??
SPurp13 Can you put it in your birth plan that your mother is not allowed in the room so the hospital knows to turn her away if she decides to show up?
My dogs keep barking and whining for no reason. Either some rando is hidden pretty well in my house, or labor is imminent. Or they just suck tonight. I'm hoping for the last option.
That's a creepy thought :-SS about some rando hidden in your house!
They usually only bark at people they don't know! I did a sweep with the lab (he thinks he's a vicious guard dog) and the house is empty.
This isn't directed at anyone in particular by any means...but am I the only one that finds it weird that so many doctors are telling women they don't think they will make it to their due date? That happened to my friend, too, and she ended up getting induced a week after her due date. I just think it is odd that a doctor would say that unless there was a medical reason to induce you sooner. Since you can walk around dilated for weeks before going into active labor, I feel like it's almost mean to give mom to be's expectations that they really have no control over.
I think this is strange too and my ob keeps acting like she almost wants me to go into labor early. I have a rcs scheduled and feel way better than I did last pregnancy, so I am totally fine waiting for my scheduled day. Last time I was in severe pain to the point that I was taking major pain killers just to manage pain and I typically don't even take Tylenol and my ob didn't want to do anything to move things along.
Today has been tough. The baby has been nursing nearly exclusively all day. She has also been really fussy. She wakes up upset and won't calm down unless I hold her. If I put her down when she's asleep she cries until I pick her up. I'm not sure what this is about. She's been so chill this whole time and now she's not. Any ideas?
Sounds totally normal (sorry). She may be having a growth spurt, hence the constant nursing, and it's very common for newborns to want to be held all the time. Maybe try some skin-to-skin to reassure her of your presence and to help give your supply a quick boost in case she's having a growth spurt.
It's ok to snuggle her all the time too (but I know its not easy or comfortable). Try to remember that you'll never wish you snuggled her less, and that it won't be like this forever...or for very long. Like @Nicb13 said, they are always changing and doing new things. Hang in there!!
My mother keeps texting and emailing me suggestions for nicknames for our little girl's name. She doesn't like the name or the nickname we have picked and continues to suggest alternatives regardless of how many times I have told her the decision have been made.
It is so insulting and I really hope she drops it once the baby is here.
i don't know what it is about tonight….but i cannot get comfortable for jack! extra pillows in my bed….massage from bf….hot shower…comfy pjs…. ~X( NOTHING! LO has my stomach doing flips….literally…no comfort food, ice chips or cold water has setter my stomach for the past hr. And on top of that..my nightly contraction sessions are about to start upon less than hr smh. I can't win tonight for anything smh
In other news, I hate this tonguetie. DD wants to nurse all the time, her latch is terrible and hurts so badly...then she falls asleep 10 mins in and wakes 5 mins later frantic for milk. Hurry up tomorrow...IBCLC appt at 10.
---------- Do you have plans to have the tie revised? She falls asleep quickly because it is more work to remove milk from the breast when you have a tie, and she wakes hungry super soon because she didn't get enough. A revision is very quick and the sooner they do it, the sooner baby becomes used to the new freedom of movement in her mouth and can get a good, deep latch.
Also, consider trying some laid-back breastfeeding. That position uses gravity to help baby get a deeper latch. You can learn more about it here, and ask the IBCLC to help you with it tomorrow:
@mrscjmb9410 Just wanted to add that some providers shy away from revising ties, saying that baby may outgrow it or that it could tear/stretch on its own later. That's all well and good when the tie is not affecting breastfeeding. It is definitely worth a trip to an ent or pediatric dentist if your pediatrician doesn't revise ties, even just for an evaluation. If a tie affects breastfeeding, it's well worth revising it. That will also ensure that it doesn't affect speech or oral development as she grows. Good luck!
I'm pretty sure baby is trying to compete with DS2 for longest labor. We've been at l&d since 9am. Just switched to our third shift of nurses. Got an epi at 7:30 which has helped, but it made my blood pressure go crazy low. Honestly now all I want is a safe delivery.
I'm pretty sure baby is trying to compete with DS2 for longest labor. We've been at l&d since 9am. Just switched to our third shift of nurses. Got an epi at 7:30 which has helped, but it made my blood pressure go crazy low. Honestly now all I want is a safe delivery.
FX for a safe delivery! Hopefully it moves along now.
What level of nesting is it when you think your laundry hampers are too dirty and need to clean them? I can't possibly put my dirty clothes in that somewhat dirty laundry hamper!
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And im sorry your mom sucks
They usually only bark at people they don't know! I did a sweep with the lab (he thinks he's a vicious guard dog) and the house is empty.
It's ok to snuggle her all the time too (but I know its not easy or comfortable). Try to remember that you'll never wish you snuggled her less, and that it won't be like this forever...or for very long. Like @Nicb13 said, they are always changing and doing new things. Hang in there!!
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Do you have plans to have the tie revised? She falls asleep quickly because it is more work to remove milk from the breast when you have a tie, and she wakes hungry super soon because she didn't get enough. A revision is very quick and the sooner they do it, the sooner baby becomes used to the new freedom of movement in her mouth and can get a good, deep latch.
Also, consider trying some laid-back breastfeeding. That position uses gravity to help baby get a deeper latch. You can learn more about it here, and ask the IBCLC to help you with it tomorrow:
https://www.llli.org/docs/0000000000000001WAB/WAB_Tear_sheet_Toolkit/01_laid_back_breastfeeding.pdf
https://www.biologicalnurturing.com
@PurpleHippo19 eye roll on the last minute shower but hopefully you have a great time OR it brings on labor
@SPurp13 some people just do not get anxiety/depression. On the one hand, good for them. On the other, they say some insensitive shit.
Got an epi at 7:30 which has helped, but it made my blood pressure go crazy low. Honestly now all I want is a safe delivery.