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March 2015 Moms
Let's talk about rudeness and tacky shit again!
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Re: Let's talk about rudeness and tacky shit again!
Skrittens - you sound like a great sister! I'd be lucky if my own sister doesn't try to upstage me at my own shower.
As for my rude story: I'm a FTM and my aunt recently offered to host my baby shower. My father, her brother, suggested to her that I have a joint baby shower with his mistress's daughter. My parents are now divorced but still, that's pretty heinous.
And I am sorry if my post came across as an AW. The stories I have about my family...and the new ones I have now that I am pregnant...If I didn't live them I wouldn't believe them - my H didn't at first until he saw the clusterfuck that they tried to make of our wedding. Now almost 4 years later he is glad my parents prefer to not be too involved with the baby (because it's a boy and they prefer girls and are already busy enough with their 4 granddaughters). All said in the same sentence as telling me they love me the most.
~~~~For SuzyQ and all our loss moms~~~~
Met: 02.2007 / Engaged: 11.21.2009 / Married: 07.09.2010
EDD: 03.02.2015 / Scheduled Delivery Date: 02.25.2015
That's pretty tacky no?
@Michelgesen - the JCP online store has some cute plus-size stuff. So does Motherhood Maternity. Do you have one of those nearby? They have a plus-size section. I'm a solid 2X in both JCP and MM so I feel okay with ordering online. Sometimes that's my only option.
I'll plug Swimsuits For All - it's a FABULOUS website and the swimsuits are cheap. They have a measuring guide and it's spot-on. You'll never have to experience the hell of trying on swimsuits again! I swear, each brand is so freaking different it's insane! I left a store in tears once because their plus section only had those stupid swimsuits with skirts. I am not at all ashamed of my legs and those awful skirts do nothing but make me feel self-conscious and uncomfortable. I just want a normal, pretty one-piece suit without any stupid frills, skirts, bedazzling, gems, glitter, or bullshit. Just give me a simple, blue Spandex suit and I'll be happy as a clam.
Ladies, I may have the mother of all tacky stories. I will give you time to settle in and get your popcorn - this one is a doooooozy...I will try to make it as short and to the point as possible... Here it is - for the win...
A friend is getting married in December of 2015 (on her birthday, because her birthday "always is a shitty day"). She recently started a "Kickstarter" campaign online so that her and her fiancé can get the photographer of their dreams. The goal is currently at $5000.00 - which she stated will pay for "a little over half of the expense". Then - here's where it gets good - she also wants to surprise him with a quasi famous signer to perform at the wedding. The price tag, you ask? $20,000.00. Because it is on Kickstart, it "really becomes a group effort" to make this happen. What? She stated that she wants this so badly that she is willing stay in her currently house (which is admittedly too small for her growing family) "for another several years". If you donate more than $20.00 you get a handwritten thank you note from the bride and groom. What? The fuck?
I am of the "if you can't pay for it, you don't buy it" school of hard knocks which focuses on budgeting and realistic expectations. There is no concept or connection to what $25,000.00 could do for her and her family and/or living within your means. I don't get it. I know that I cannot be the one to tell her how fucking tacky it is, but I don't know who will! My plan of attack is just to ignore it. Passive aggressive? Maybe. Realistic? Um fuck ya.
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@kellbell1982 - that is terrible. I am sorry that she was not only a fair weather friend - buy was judgy because you weren't excited enough. I know it hurts - but better to get those people out of your life!!!
A friend is getting married in December of 2015 (on her birthday, because her birthday "always is a shitty day"). She recently started a "Kickstarter" campaign online so that her and her fiancé can get the photographer of their dreams. The goal is currently at $5000.00 - which she stated will pay for "a little over half of the expense". Then - here's where it gets good - she also wants to surprise him with a quasi famous signer to perform at the wedding. The price tag, you ask? $20,000.00. Because it is on Kickstart, it "really becomes a group effort" to make this happen. What? She stated that she wants this so badly that she is willing stay in her currently house (which is admittedly too small for her growing family) "for another several years". If you donate more than $20.00 you get a handwritten thank you note from the bride and groom. What? The fuck?
I am of the "if you can't pay for it, you don't buy it" school of hard knocks which focuses on budgeting and realistic expectations. There is no concept or connection to what $25,000.00 could do for her and her family and/or living within your means. I don't get it. I know that I cannot be the one to tell her how fucking tacky it is, but I don't know who will! My plan of attack is just to ignore it. Passive aggressive? Maybe. Realistic? Um fuck ya.
holy shit, I would have lost my mind. WHY would you spend that much for someone to sing at your wedding? I'm sorry, but it drives me completely insane when people forget that your wedding day is just that. It's very exciting, but it's ONE day. If you can't afford it, don't buy it...and don't ask for other people to buy it for you. So insane!
just. Wow!
Most of these stories though are crazy!
I don't know about you but I get homicidal over my library books
A few Christmases ago, my aunt had everyone over to their house. It seemed like before that, my parents had hosted every year for a while because no one else would ever step up, which is fine. So early on, my aunt said she would host this time.
When my parents do host, this aunt tends to come over and criticize how much food there is (as in too much) but the vast majority of it always gets eaten. This side of the family has usually between 20 and 25 people over and so obviously it's a lot of food. I have no idea how that could possibly be a criticism! Even if it doesn't get eaten, hello! Leftovers! And we always distribute the leftovers evenly to whoever wants them. My aunt is really thin and never eats much, so maybe that has something to do with it? Not a huge deal, and my mom never has a huge issue with it, but I can tell it bothers her a little. Plus, family members bring sides, etc. so it doesn't really make sense to criticize my mom for the amount of food.
Anyway, this time was the same- aunt and uncle were cooking some things and then when we would ask what to bring, they would tell us (as in all family members) and we brought it. They didn't ask for many things to be brought at all, and we made sure that was all they needed, and they said yes, definitely. There was more than enough for the entire family. Well when food was ready to eat, we quickly realized that there was just not enough food for everyone. Even with taking super small portions and skipping over some dishes entirely, it just didn't cut it for the 20+ people there. And then my aunt made an underhanded comment about how much we all eat and how she's not the perfect little host like my mom, so sorry. It was really awkward. Plus they apparently straight up forgot to invite my aunt and uncle (her BIL and SIL) even though they intended to, so not only were they not there, but that would have been even less food per person if they were.
Also, their son (my cousin) was living in Russia at the time, and they had their heart set on Skyping to him at some point which sounded awesome. Well they don't have the equipment to do that so they asked via email ahead of time of anyone did. I said I had a laptop that I know has that capability, but I really didn't know how to Skype (lame, I know) but I would gladly bring it for them to set up and use, so they said bring it. Turns out they had no idea how to do it and got mad at me for not knowing since it was my computer. Plus, apparently they hadn't told their son they wanted to Skype with him and he wasn't answering his phone when it was time, and they were really angry. It was weird.
ETA: Autocorrect...
Now that they've moved to the same town as me, my step mom is a nurse in the hospital I'll be delivering at, so I am just SO excited over her poking her nose in and trying to control my delivery. I can't wait to tell whoever my nurse is that she is absolutely not allowed in my room lol