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I'm pretty sure i'm pregnant, but now i'm terrified!!

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I am so petrified of going through another miscarriage!!!

So here is my story. Last year around this time I was pregnant. I started spotting around week 5. Then about 2 weeks after that I lost the baby and saw the grey tissue in the toilet   Then I bled for about 10 weeks after that. My  (experienced) ob kept saying week after week that he believed it would go on its own. (whatever they were seeing on the ultrasound reports). I did about 10 vaginal and pelvic ultrasounds. Yes you read that right, TEN! Every single week for 10 weeks. And every time i would go in for the results my ob would tell me it has gone down a little and he thinks it would resolve on its own so lets avoid the surgery to remove it. 
Finally after the 10 weekly ultrasounds, the last tech said she believed in may be polyps. SO then i had a special ultrasound, don't remember the name of it, and that doctor still couldnt decide if it was polyps or retained product from the pregnancy. So, i ended up have a procedure to remove whatever it was. 
After waiting over a week for the results, i was told it wasn't polyps, it was thickened endometrium caused by the miscarriage. After that procedure, I still felt a random pain on my right side in my uterus. The ob checked me out manually, and also another ultrasound and told me he didnt see anything worrisome and that i was perfectly fine to get pregnant again. Not that i really wanted to at this point after the hell i went through. This entire miscarriage process took about 4 months.  I bled almost the entire time, so i was locked up in my apartment for the whole winter in fear of bleeding on the street randomly. Plus I had a then 6 month old baby with me, and my boyfriend overseas so i was alone. 

Now, that pregnancy happened right after my period ended. So we had sex around day 8. 


Fast forward to now:
My periods are very regular, plus or minus 1 or 2 days they are on time.
My last period started Sept 15th. On Sept 22nd we had unprotected sex. Well he pulled out so most of it didnt go inside me, but now i wonder if he pulled out on time because about 3 days later i felt this pain in my uterus (which reminded me of the pain i felt with both other pregnancies. What i believe were conception pains that were quick and sharp). And then the next day (only 4 days after intercourse) I felt something surely different with my uterus. I felt that expanding feeling that I remember when I was pregnant the first time, but much later in the pregnancy. And ever since then, a "full" feeling in my uterus. I also experienced some menstrual cramps and i have never experienced menstrual cramps mid-cycle ever!
Also, a couple of times if i moved fast or got up from laying down, my uterus would kind of ache.


I am TERRIFIED. I am pretty damn sure i'm pregnant. But i feel like im going to go through this horrible miscarriage again. 
With my successful pregnancy, we had sex around day 14. 
With my miscarriage, got pregnant right after period ended (around day 8)
Now this one, pregnant symptoms 4 days after sex. Sex happened around day 8)

Feel so upset.

Just saw my family doctor, and he saying its not really possible i'm pregnant since i have a regular period, i would ovulate around day 14
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  • ASRDHASRDH member
    Everyone is different with ovulation. I told my Dr I ovulated early, she didn't believe me but my LO later measured 3 days ahead.
    A terrible experience does not mean it is what you will experience again. All of us here struggle with that mind set, you aren't alone. I'm so sorry for all that you went through. But if you truly are pregnant, timing of conception likely has very little to nothing to do with the success of the pregnancy.
    Try to breath and relax and take care of yourself til you know what's going on. Waiting is hard, I know. If we could speed up time, I think all of us would when it comes to knowing these things. One day at a time. Hugs and best wishes.
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  • twobabiesformetwobabiesforme member
    thanks asrdh
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  • KJsbabeKJsbabe member
    I'm sorry for your loss. After that whole ordeal I would be looking for a new doctor.

    Have you taken a test? You can't tell that you're pregnant by random twinges in your lady bits. And at 4 days after ovulation implantation hasn't even happened yet. So whatever "conception pains" you felt, I very much doubt they were actually from the egg implanting in your ute.

    Go to the store, buy a pregnancy test, and pee on it.
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  • christia10christia10 member
    If your doctor says your not pregnant odds are you aren't. If you think you are then put your big girl pants on and take a test. Also a long time ago I was on ttcal board (I quit because honestly ttcal was exhausting enough without talking about it online for me). But I remember it was like a gut punch every time a random person would just say "I think I am pregnant" mostly on that board it was about iVF/IUI/ and a million other TTC medical interventions...just giving you perspective on why people are hurt. Also the living child is a sensitive topic as many people have tried for years with no blessing. I myself have had many miscarriages and 4.5 years later I have no living children yet. It's kind of like when I went to the fertility doctor and there'd be a kid running around waiting room, ummmmm really!!!! It's like salt on a wound or someone dangling a donut in your face when your starving. It would bring tears to my eyes. I love kids so much (I am a teacher by profession) but still there is a time and a place...kids are free to roam 99% of America but please not the RE office and please not the ttcal or infertility boards....sorry for all of that. I just wanted to explain why. It is not because those women are "mean" but ttcal sucks especially when it's recurrent or combined with infertility. I am sincerely sorry for your loss. I wish you the best of luck and if you are pg somehow then congratulations and sincere hopes for a healthy future. Take the test and talk to your doc ASAP so you can go on meds if need be to increase your odds of a successful pregnancy. -TX gal out!
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