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To tell or not to tell?

ellybellellybell member
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Hi, All. This is my second pregnancy. I am about 8 weeks along and there is no doubt that I am clearly and obviously showing at this point! I mean, absolutely no way to hide it any longer. I am lucky in that I have a job where I only have to see my boss about once every couple of weeks. However, tonight is one of those nights. There is a dinner and meeting scheduled tonight where not only my boss will be present, but alumni, students, etc. (I work in higher education). I have not had an ultrasound yet so we don't really know if everything is "okay". Do I: 1) Call in sick for the dinner and meeting; 2) Try to talk to my boss over the phone today to let him know I'm pregnant before tonight's meeting; 3) Say nothing, go to the dinner and meeting, and let my belly announce it for me? What would you do? TIA.
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  • ellybellellybell member
    No, it's more than bloat. Even first thing in the morning now before eating and after pooping it is obvious. However, by tonight when the meeting is scheduled, I will be about three inches larger due to bloating! I wear size 00 pants and am very small boned, so it's impossible to hide it.
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  • ellybellellybell member
    Okay. Whatever. So for the sake of semantics we'll say I'm "not showing". However, I do LOOK pregnant, and I am. Therefore, for the sake of this post, let's say I "look pregnant". I do not look like this, ever, when not pregnant. Therefore, people will likely conclude upon seeing me that I am pregnant. So, given this rationalization, do I tell or not?
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  • ellybellellybell member
    My best friend, chiropractor, mother-in-law, father-in-law (who's an OB/GYN) and husband have all agreed that I'm "showing". If I'd already had the ultrasound and knew everything was okay I'd have no problem at all announcing it at to my boss/at work at this point. But ultrasound isn't for two more days... Just two days I'd have to "cancel all my life events", as you say. Not at all what I'm doing, just this work event, possibly...
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  • HelenahhandbasketHelenahhandbasket member

    I mean-- so what if your boss thinks you are pregnant?  You already work there, right?  It's not like you are trying to conceal the pregnancy from a potential new employer.

    If he/ she has any manners, it will not be brought up, and you can share your news when you feel comfortable doing so.

     

     

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  • ldmwldmw member
    @ellybell : sorry this thread isn't going the way you thought. I'm also debating on when to tell work, because it's getting harder for me to hide due to my symptoms. I haven't had the first doctor appointment yet, so I am not telling work yet. If I were you, I would wear something loose and comfortable and wait to tell until after you have had your first appointment. I was hoping to wait until after the first trimester to tell, but I don't think I'm going to be able to wait that long. So, I'm doing the best I can at masking my symptoms and wearing loose clothing until the first doctor appointment.
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  • AlygohomeAlygohome member
    edited September 2014
    ellybell said:
    My best friend, chiropractor, mother-in-law, father-in-law (who's an OB/GYN) and husband have all agreed that I'm "showing". If I'd already had the ultrasound and knew everything was okay I'd have no problem at all announcing it at to my boss/at work at this point. But ultrasound isn't for two more days... Just two days I'd have to "cancel all my life events", as you say. Not at all what I'm doing, just this work event, possibly...

    Ya you may be showing last nights dinner, some water retention and a backed up bowel but there is no way your raspberry size baby is creating a bump.

    OMG just wear some baggy clothes and don't sweat it if you dont want to tell. no one is going to notice or comment. I am 21 weeks and if I dress a little flowy you would never be able to tell, I highly doubt at 8 weeks its impossible to hide. Sorry, its in your head.

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  • PrimRoseMamaPrimRoseMama member
    Sorry. It's bloat, honey.


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  • darkangel42darkangel42 member

    Your uterus will barely be peeping over the top of your underpants and this point so there's no way it's bump.

    From the sound of it, we're a similar size and I managed to hide it way beyond 8 weeks by wearing things that were not skin-tight (like empire-line dresses and floaty tops). It's not rocket surgery...
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  • taahirataahira member
    I'm 12 weeks and super bloated on baby #3, I just wear lose fitting clothing, or maternity jeans with a lose fitting top. No one notices, it's easily done. No idea why this is such a drama.
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  • normandyn7normandyn7 member
    edited September 2014

    ellybell said:
    No, it's more than bloat. Even first thing in the morning now before eating and after pooping it is obvious. However, by tonight when the meeting is scheduled, I will be about three inches larger due to bloating! I wear size 00 pants and am very small boned, so it's impossible to hide it.
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  • therecinestherecines member
    There's really no need for you to be so nasty. You don't know her and even at 8 weeks especially on her second baby she can look pregnant! And if she is a tiny person they show sooner. I am a skinny person I am six weeks and yeah I am bloated but I look pregnant because my stomach is never this big even when I am normally bloated during a period.
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  • therecinestherecines member
    You all are making me regret joining this group. Are you all always this judgemental on a freakin baby site? Jesus aren't we supposed to be here to support each other. What the actual hell is wrong with everyone.
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  • therecinestherecines member
    You're probably biggest asshole I've seen on here in the twenty minutes since I've joined. You guys so pathetic lol. I feel bad for your kids. They all have moms who are closet cover bullies
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    Cyber bullies
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  • darkangel42darkangel42 member
    edited September 2014
    therecines said:
    You're probably biggest asshole I've seen on here in the twenty minutes since I've joined. You guys so pathetic lol. I feel bad for your kids. They all have moms who are closet cover bullies
    Pretty sure personal insults will get you warned then banned, even if you say "probably" before it.

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  • therecinestherecines member
    Believe me that's fine by me. You guys are absurdly judgemental and rude for no fucking reason. Clearly not what pregnant women need to deal with. So I think I will stick with friends and family and not a bunch of sad house wives with nothing better to do than gang up on pregnant women who need support.
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  • therecinestherecines member
    AFwifelife said:



    therecines said:

    Believe me that's fine by me. You guys are absurdly judgemental and rude for no fucking reason. Clearly not what pregnant women need to deal with. So I think I will stick with friends and family and not a bunch of sad house wives with nothing better to do than gang up on pregnant women who need support.

    Oh so we need to be supportive to someone who is spewing nasty stuff like this? 

    I just love when WKs who cry about how people aren't being nice end up acting like meanie heads.


    I've read your comments to other women who really needed kind support and it's so rude and there was no need for it. You clearly have no life and wake up to come sit on here and find more people to piss off. Enjoy your shitty and life. You my friend are what we like to call a cunt!
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  • AlygohomeAlygohome member
    therecines said:
    You're probably biggest asshole I've seen on here in the twenty minutes since I've joined. You guys so pathetic lol. I feel bad for your kids. They all have moms who are closet cover bullies
    LOL
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  • therecinestherecines member
    Isn't too far you guys are the laughing stock of my office lol. But now I'm bored with you so time to find some real support.
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  • ordinary1ordinary1 member
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    therecines said:

    You all are making me regret joining this group. Are you all always this judgemental on a freakin baby site? Jesus aren't we supposed to be here to support each other. What the actual hell is wrong with everyone.

    Yay for the random white knight, though there are other threads that would have made more sense since the only rude one was you. This site isn't for support. Yes, support is sometimes given, but it isn't a requirement. Besides, what is there to support? But since you're leaving, bye Felicia.
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  • normandyn7normandyn7 member

    therecines said:
    You're probably biggest asshole I've seen on here in the twenty minutes since I've joined. You guys so pathetic lol. I feel bad for your kids. They all have moms who are closet cover bullies
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    Obviously no one here has "meet" @MrsJenni
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