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an emotional day, thank you for the love, & ultrasound update

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First, I want to thank you all for your thoughts of Finn today. Both my husband and I are touched, and feeling the warmth of everybody's words of kindness.

I have felt so many mixed emotions all day - anger (a rare one, surprisingly), hurt and sadness, loneliness, pride, love, fear..., most of all numb. We both feel numb.

Waiting until 4:30 to have an ultrasound - today, of all days - was a feat of patience neither of us had. I was so wound up by the time we got there tears were already dribbling down my face.
So ..you can imagine the meltdown that occurred when they said "oh, we had to cancel your appointment again ..can you come back in a couple weeks?"
I flipped out. Lost it. I dragged my husband out of there and went straight over to my doctor's clinic and cried to her nurse (who is and has always been awesome).
She called the ultrasound place and told them they were doing our ultrasound today end of story.. Magically we were rebooked for 6:00pm.

Bawling, unable to control myself any longer, we went back and got to see our little boy. I'm assuming my favourite nurse did some explaining because the technician was so nice and showed us everything, explaining it all, gently with compassion.
Baby boy is looking great, everything is as it should be. The relief I feel is honestly dizzying.

Though we aren't announcing his name to everyone, I love saying it, and would like to introduce Finn's little brother:
Oliver Heath M ❤️
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  • mrsjg2013mrsjg2013 member
    He's perfect!!!  So sorry you had to go through so much today to get such a precious glimpse of your beautiful little boy!!
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  • pblgepblge member
    Beautiful, and I love the name!!! So sorry your day was so painful, on top of the memories. ((hugs))
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  • dragonfly1809dragonfly1809 member
    Thanks ladies :)
    I'm so in love. I can't stop staring at him.
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  • Danielle0311Danielle0311 member
    I'm sorry you had a such a tough time with your appt today but so happy you got a great update! Oliver looks adorable, I'm sure Finn loves his little brother already ((hugs))

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    BFP #1 Blighted Ovum resulting in D&C on 11/1/13
    BFP #2 Ectopic Pg, lap surgery on 3/12/14, R tube removed

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  • alleycat39alleycat39 member
    Oliver is just perfect! I know Finn is proud to be called his brother.

    So relieved for you that your day ended with a wonderful scan.
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  • SamanthaLaura16SamanthaLaura16 member
    I am so sorry you had such a tough time getting an ultrasound. Sending Big ((Hugs)) your way. Your little boy looks perfect.
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  • TheFutureMrsDTheFutureMrsD member
    I've been thinking about you today.  I'm so sorry it was such a mess to get your u/s but Oliver looks perfect!
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  • BluEyedGirl26BluEyedGirl26 member
    I'm sorry you had to deal with that today. So glad that everything is looking good, and I love his name!

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  • footprintfootprint member
    He is beautiful! Just perfect!  I heart his name. I would like to give your nurse a ginormous hug. And you and your H, too.

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  • arschm02arschm02 member
    What a roller coaster of a day! Congrats on the amazing ultrasound and I love his name!
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  • littlecookielittlecookie member
    He is beautiful! Just beautiful. I'm glad they worked it out for you to be able to see him today. Sending love your way.
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  • E&B0811E&B0811 member
    What a handsome little man!

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  • MSU_Girl1202MSU_Girl1202 member
    I'm so glad you were able to get in to the ultrasound, even though it was a frustrating experience. Oliver is perfect!
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    10/2011: Clomid 100mg, IUI --> BFN
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    3/20/16: PGS-tested Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP, Living Child born 12/1/15
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  • jesswein9jesswein9 member
    Sorry to hear it was a long,rough day. So many mixed emotions today for you. So happy to hear that baby Oliver is healthy and growing well : )

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  • Mom2anAngel2Mom2anAngel2 member
    I'm so glad that nurse stood up for you so that you could have your A/S today. I can't believe that they would just cancel in you and not say anything until you showed up. Oliver is so cute! I'm so glad that your scan went well.

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  • heathersf11heathersf11 member
    I'm so glad you were able to see your beautiful boy today. I'm sorry that they put you through such an ordeal. 
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  • nohalo21nohalo21 member
    This brings tears to my eyes. I am glad that they were able to see you. Finn is looking out for you and Oliver.
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  • songbirdsinging55songbirdsinging55 member
    He is beautiful! I absolutely love his name and I am sorry they were such jerks but that nurse sounds amazing. I am so happy you got to see him <3



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    *hugs*
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  • kate6214kate6214 member
    (((Hugs)))) after a such a stressful day. I'm glad Oliver is looking so good!

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  • carlsonbaby2014carlsonbaby2014 member
    He is so beautiful :). I'm so sorry for the ultrasound place trying to reschedule but so glad it all worked out and that the u/s tech was very gentle and kind. Congratulations to the whole family!!
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  • KMW08KMW08 member
    Congrats!! I'm sorry it had to be such an anxious and stressful time, but I'm glad your clinic was on the ball and made sure you got the scan. (((Hugs)))

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  • LuvLoveXoLuvLoveXo member
    What a little love bug!!! I love the name. Thank goodness for that nurse. This post made my night. Congratulations!
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  • Yaz14Yaz14 member
    I'm sorry you had such an emotionally confusing day. You must truly be missing your precious Finn. I'm glad that you got to see baby Oliver and that he's doing so well :)

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  • BackstreetPixieBackstreetPixie member
    Yay for the awesome nurse who helped you! <3 ::hugs::
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  • Mel&John2013Mel&John2013 member
    That is one handsome baby boy! You deserve those great pictures after your day!
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  • Samuelismomma Samuelismomma member
    Beautiful baby boy and gorgeous name! So glad you got in and had some light at the end of your day!
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  • MoreThanSparrows08MoreThanSparrows08 member
    Oliver is beautiful and perfect! So many ((hugs)) for you and your husband.  I'm so glad that, despite the initial issues, they were able to get you in for your u/s and the tech was so good to y'all.  
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  • chicagojackiechicagojackie member
    I'm glad that you had someone to advocate for you and get you the care you needed. A lot of times the doctor offices or ultrasound places have no idea how hard it is for women to be rescheduled when really that appointment is the reassurance they have been waiting on for so many days.

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  • cassy0407cassy0407 member
    Oliver is perfect! I'm so glad you got a sweet ending to a rough day.. *HUGS*
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  • RustyGirl3RustyGirl3 member
    I am so sorry that they put you through that on top of everything else you were feeling, but I am glad they were able to still do the U/S.

    Lots of (((HUGS))). 

    Love his name, that is one of my favorites!
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  • haleyusfhaleyusf member
    Congratulations on a wonderful ultrasound! I'm so sorry you had to go through the emotional stress leading up to that point, but what a blessing he is. ((hugs))

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  • peggels24peggels24 member
    Oh he's beautiful!  I'm so sorry that you had to go through all of that but it's wonderful that your nurse was able to get you in - she sounds excellent.
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  • NoeliaVNoeliaV member
    He's just so much sweetness. And I love his name, Oliver! I know that Finn is watching over him.

    I'm sorry you and your H had such a day, compounded by the ultrasound place's mistake. I'm glad that your nurse/doctor were able to make that happen for you.

    And so many ((( hugs ))) for Finn's day. 
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  • longcat07longcat07 member
    what a harrowing day.  why do offices cancel appointments and then not tell you until you get there?  ugh.  i'm so glad you got to see little oliver.  i love his name, too...oliver was in contention if this LO turned out to be a boy.  (((big hugs)))
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  • KJsbabeKJsbabe member
    He's beautiful!! I'm sorry the u/s place jerked you around so much, but I'm so glad you got to see your perfect little boy!
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  • nocompassnocompass member
    Oh, I am so in love with the name Oliver!! I'm glad you're feeling relieved!

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  • Denise91980Denise91980 member
    Aww! He looks perfect. Looks like he is sucking his thumb in there. Cutie patootie!
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  • goldengirl84goldengirl84 member
    Such a beautiful little boy you've got in there! I adore his name.
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