When to announce?

TeacherMama7 · September 2014

I can't imagine not telling my husband for 9 weeks! I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy, and really needed his support. I'm glad I didn't have to tell him I was pregnant but had lost the baby all in one sentence! In the early pregnancy stages, I'm so exhausted all the time that my husband would definitely figure it out if I hadn't told him.

With the first pregnancy, I told my husband we were pregnant by fixing him a little onesie that said "First notre dame onesie" or something, since he went to college there. I told my parents at 5 wks and we put together a little poem to music and told them on FaceTime with that, since we live in different states.

This time, I gave my husband a little "my first golf club set" toy.

then, we took a picture of us with "dad" and "mom" coke cans and texted pictures of it to my sister and parents and said "this isn't a coke commercial."

his parents live in town, so we told them in person with the coke cans.

I told our parents and my sister right away, because we will need their support if we have another miscarriage, and we told a few friends. We need their support during this time and will need it if we have another miscarriage.

We will send our a Christmas card to let all of the family know.

JRClaire · September 2014

@courtneyleigh90‌ I can't believe you can keep it for that long. Even without morning sickness my husband can tell. He would also notice if I went without a period for so long. But it's totally your decision, sorry you felt bombarded. I told DH before the peestick had even dried. I probably could have told him in some exciting way but he knows we're TTC so he would have asked soon anyway. I've also told my best girl friend because I couldn't keep it in. I'll probably be waiting to tell all of my family until we see a heartbeat. Last time I waited until 12 weeks but I just don't think I have it in me to wait that long this time.

txngrl31 · September 2014

@PenguinMG‌ I love the , " when are you going to have one? June!" We get asked that same question so much that it would be funny to see the reaction of others when u finally answer.

alidubs · September 2014

I've told a few of my closest friends and we are heading out of town to stay with my immediate family this weekend so we will probably share the news with them in person and my in laws and then keep it under wraps to the rest of the world until 12 weeks.

The biggest challenge will be keeping it from my 3 year old until 12 weeks because once she knows, the whole world will! The girl likes to talk

dneilxo · September 2014

I wish I could scream it from the rooftop I'm so excited! However we are TRYING to hold off until 12 weeks to let the news out. Doesn't seem to be working too well, every passing day someone new is told! LOL we are so bad at keeping exciting news! I am however keeping it a tight secret to my 5 yr old daughter. I wouldn't want her to get super excited (she's been begging for a sibling since that damn frozen movie came out!) just in case somethig happens. It would be harder trying to explain it to her. I did want to do somethin cute though. I found some super cute signs on etsy.com to so a picture with her in it. Ahhh 12 weeks is too far!!'

cali33 · September 2014

Well my husband and I told our familes at 4 weeks. And sis in law spilled the beans on Facebook but the way I have stuff set up no one can see her post on my page! So my friends don't know. I guess I will let everyone know with my first sonogram on Oct 15th. I will be about 8 weeks

beattykid · September 2014

We are going to try to keep it under wraps until Christmas. Possibly telling my family at Thanksgiving since we switch off holidays. Last time we told just our immediate families and asked them to keep it a secret, but they spilled the beans and then we lost it. We are not going through that this time. I'm not a big drinker, and I'm chubby so I'm hoping people will just think I'm fatter and not ask any questions.

Erinm278 · September 2014

With my daughter we waited to tell everyone until 12 weeks. This baby will be different because we have events coming up that will make it obvious that something is up. So we'll be telling parents and close friends very soon. They'll know when I turn down beer!

TheAerialist · September 2014

Erinm278 said:

They'll know when I turn down beer!

We had a wedding this weekend and I was hiding in the bathroom filling up my husbands empty beer bottle with water. He thought I was crazy to jump through all those hoops and that people wouldn't even question, but I know people would have been guessing and I really don't want to tell anyone yet until we have a heartbeat!

Apollo11235 · September 2014

I woke MH up to read the tests with me every morning until the BFP, so we found out at the same time.

We told our "TTC confidants" (one very close friend for each of us who we told when we started TTC) that night after the BFP on a FRER.

We called my parents and told them yesterday. We'll wait at least until it's confirmed by a doctor and I've missed a period (due Tuesday) to tell ILs, but it might be even longer than that.

We haven't decided for sure when to go public to other friends, but it'll probably be in the 10-14 week range, definitely after hearing the heartbeat.

Erinm278 · September 2014

@McSarah1104‌ I have a wedding this weekend. She's a lifelong friend and I'll be there with other lifelong friends. It's not even worth my energy to try and hide it lol..They'll know!

TheAerialist · September 2014

Erinm278 said:

@McSarah1104‌ I have a wedding this weekend. She's a lifelong friend and I'll be there with other lifelong friends. It's not even worth my energy to try and hide it lol..They'll know!

The beer bottle trick TOTALLY worked. it won't work if your friends expect you to do shots, or if they only have glasses or no brown bottles, but no one questioned me at all! Although, the ONE person that would question me (besides the bride who was clearly busy with other things to worry if I had a drink in my hand) was at my house last week, and I realized after she left that the FRER box was in the trash. She may have already deduced and is just being nice to not say anything right now.

Erinm278 · September 2014

McSarah1104 said:

Erinm278 said:

@McSarah1104‌ I have a wedding this weekend. She's a lifelong friend and I'll be there with other lifelong friends. It's not even worth my energy to try and hide it lol..They'll know!

The beer bottle trick TOTALLY worked. it won't work if your friends expect you to do shots, or if they only have glasses or no brown bottles, but no one questioned me at all! Although, the ONE person that would question me (besides the bride who was clearly busy with other things to worry if I had a drink in my hand) was at my house last week, and I realized after she left that the FRER box was in the trash. She may have already deduced and is just being nice to not say anything right now.

I have a strict no shot policy in life lol. They're the kind of friends that will know anyway and I can't lie to them if they ask. I know they would never tell a soul.

carolyngrace · September 2014

We told my family this weekend on a cabin vacation. I had planned to take a group photo and instead of "say cheese!" say "say Carolyn's pregnant!"... However, my mom pulled me aside before I had the chance and asked "You're not pregnant, are you?" I had to say "yes!"... She about peed her pants, yelled, was clapping. So yeah, everyone found out at that point!

chat_noir · September 2014

This is likely my last pregnancy, so I am really savouring it. Right now I love that only me and my husband are sharing this huge secret. I'd love to hold out until a family get-together in December, but I also know I'll probably look 6 months pregnant by then (hello, third pregnancy). I will definitely not announce until I hear a heartbeat, which will be around 12 weeks when I have my first prenatal appointment.

I have two little girls already and we're thinking we might keep the sex a surprise this time around! We found out with both our girls, but it might be fun to be team green

lovetruly06 · September 2014

We'll tell our parents later this weekend after ots confirmed by a doctor. I think well save the big announcement untill tanksgiving or around that time. I had an early loss is july so I want to keep this a little more quite at least untill we here the heart beat. However its really had to keep this a secret.

ac5008 · September 2014

Since this is #4 (oh my gah, I'm becoming a Duggar. And this probably isn't even our last), the excitement of the announcement has worn off a bit. Now I expect the comments of "you know how that happens right?" or "why would you want another?". So I don't mind keeping this close for awhile!

That said, I have a really cute announcement picture Id like to post after our 12 weeks scan. My husband is military, and I have been pregnant during our last two PCS's (permanent change of station move), and this will make the 3rd one in a row! So Im going to get a photo of DS with a sign of the duty station he was born at, one of DD with the duty station she was born at, and then one of our suitcase and the U/S picture on it with a sign of the duty station we are headed to. So Im pretty stoked for that part

ac5008 · September 2014

And for another perspective ... if anyone is like "I want to tell but I cant because an old tradition says not to" ... let me just say, YOU tell when YOU want. I announced my third pregnancy basically before the stick dried, and I lost the baby. And you know what? I was incredibly happy that I told, because when I had to backtrack that we lost the baby I was surrounded by so much love and support. It really floated me through and I will never ever ever regret giving my baby his or her time to shine before he or she went to heaven.

I know that's not for everyone, I know some people would rather not go through that publicly or have multiple losses. I absolutely understand and respect that. But for people like me, who are the open book / talk too much / would tell everyone anyhow, I don't regret that announcement one bit!

tahitiandreamin · September 2014

DH got woken up at 6am with the news of the BFP. Only time I think that he was happy to be woken up that early.

The next day I had lunch with a friend. She flat out asked me if I was pregnant and I couldn't hold back my grin... so much for a poker face!

DH's parents will get told in 2 weeks (around 7w) just because we want to tell them in person and they will soon be heading south for warmer climes during the winter. We'll likely tell my parents around the same time. Everyone else will get told at 12-13w.

AbMore7211 · September 2014

We found out yesterday that I am pregnant( those are such amazing words) and told my mom, dad and sisters at church yesterday. Then I came home and took another test and positive again. Then I've told only 2 best friends right now and waiting til Thanksgiving for everyone else. His parents may get to know before then, but we won't see them much before then, so it may be easier to wait.

MrsZolin · September 2014

we already told my father in law (he lives in town) and we are telling my folks and DHs mom tomorrow. i wanted to wait longer but i talk to my mom on the phone everyday (she lives across the country, we are very close and she knows we were ttc) and its taking EVERYTHING inside of me not to just yell it at her. so we mailed them onesies with a sign that said "Baby Z due 2015". we will wait until 3 months before announcing publicly (Facebook).

benjysgirl · September 2014

While DH and I totally understand the waiting til 12 weeks or so....we honestly are not going to be able to keep it secret that long. We told both sets of parents right away. I found out we were PG at 3 weeks because I just knew something was different, plus my cycles are very regular. I called my mom right after the first HPT positive, which was around 9 DPO. All my tests have been positive since then.

We have told a few close friends since then and will tell immediate family at 6 weeks. I am telling my boss this week because I am afraid MS will show up and she will wonder what is wrong with me. We will probably tell social media and everyone else around 8 or 9 weeks after that first Dr. appointment.

MrsRucinski85 · September 2014

We are waiting till we see the doc to announce to our folks/best friends....the rest of the world we will announce at about 12 weeks

kkozal8614 · September 2014

My DH wants to wait to tell everyone until 12 weeks but idk if I can wait that long. I totally spilled to my hairdresser today to tell someone! She is sworn to secrecy!!

TeacherMama7 · September 2014

We told my parents, his mom and my sister. We also told a few close friends who knew we were TTC. I also told my prayer group. I know it's early, but when I went through my MC in July, I really needed all of their support. So this time, I want to experience their joy, too! We are going to wait tell other family members at Thanksgiving when we see them in person, and send out a Christmas card announcement. I found a cute one that said something like "the best gifts don't come under a tree, this Christmas we are excited to have a family of three!" Or something like that. And after that, Facebook.

acethebase · September 2014

We have told everyone and here is my reasoning. I had a miscarriage in early august and we had only told a select few, when I miscarried we told everyone because it wasn't as if I could just hide the fact that my child died. I understand some people just want to be "safe" but your going to want that support from everyone if something ever does happen. I think when you announce early you are acknowledging your babies life because as best said by Doctor Seuss: "A person's a person no matter how small." I want everyone to know about my child no matter what happens.... This is just my opinion but I wish more woman would reinforce it!!

Hopeful912 · September 2014

Right now, DH and I are the only ones that know (other than DD, who told me that SHE had a baby in her tummy

) and I LOVE knowing that we have a "secret". We're really close with my mom and stepdad, so I think we will tell them within the next few weeks. Because of our loss in May, we will probably wait to tell other family members. Then we'll tell everyone else at the beginning of 2nd trimester.

Hopeful912 · September 2014

Silv3rlining said:

A few of my TTC buddies/fellow mom friends know and I told my mom this am. We will likely tell the inlaws when we see them in 2 weeks. I'm not as dead set on waiting til X time this time to tell. But I won't go public to everyone for a while. I'd like to wait til after my 1st app but that likely won't be til mid Nov

Wow! That's quite the decision that you guys have made.

eburgmama · October 2014

I'm hoping to tell the world at around 12-13 weeks which will be thanksgiving. Right now my mom, bff and SIL know. They are who I would lean on if I had a m/c anyways. I might tell a few other close friends if we get a good u/s before then- not sure.

pghctwife · October 2014

Told my immediate family today, probably try to skype ILs this weekend. I'll tell some friends soonish, IRL acquaintances and extended family after we have a confirmed hb at u/s. I'll prob post to fb on tg (close enough to my usual 3rd tri cutoff, about 12w)

Schnurette · October 2014

We are waiting until Christmas if we can hide it that long but have told two close friends (DH's bff and mine) and I will be telling my boss at 12 weeks or the closest time to that that she seems in a good mood lol (the other girl at my work just quit so I'm a little scared.)

I would be fine with telling my in-laws but not my parents so they will all wait.

bobjo31 · October 2014

With the first and second babies we told everyone at 8wks. However, with the second we had complications at 11wks. Everything turned out fine, but I think with this one we are going to try to wait until Christmas if possible. It all depends on how well I can hide the bump...I'm assuming I'll pop out way earlier just because it's #3. Of course, my husband and I agreed we could each told a close friend because otherwise I wouldn't be able to handle it!

ARJ6511 · October 2014

I'm 12 weeks exactly on Thanksgiving, so I think we will be making it public then and telling family that we don't see consistently. We will probably tell parents earlier in Nov.

littlegrapey · October 2014

I told DH as the stick was drying. The second line showed up instantly, I didn't even have time to wipe and flush xP. Had to have him look to make sure I wasn't going crazy. I've also already told the girls I volunteer with since I clean cat cages. I also told the girl who works in my department. She's pregnant, and due a month before I am. However, I am scared to tell my boss because the two of us are not suppose to be out at the same time and I am worried about how she will react when she realizes there may be a week overlap. My boss actually had me reschedule my appointment because the first one was a day where the other girl was leaving an hour early and the department would be left alone for an entire hour.

Family, we are trying to wait until after my first appointment Oct. 21. My mom is having her Bday party Oct. 25 so we'll tell her then, but I need to tell my sisters first because my mom has a habit of sharing my news with them despite me telling her I want to tell them myself. We will probably tell his family that weekend too.

As far as making an announcement on facebook, We'll probably do that after Halloween.

mrsswashbuckle · October 2014

We told our best friends already. I'm 5 weeks and we sent my husbands family a package overnight. It's one for everyone I'm his family and it is a bird on top of a spool. When they open the cloth it says a little birdie told me you're going to be a ...... We are going to tell my dad as well. It's our first and the first in our family. So everyone will be thrilled. Also my mom passed last year so my dad will sure cry like a baby. I can't wait to hug him. I'll let y'all know how it went!

mrsswashbuckle · October 2014

This is a picture of it

alincoln99 · October 2014

I found out on last Saturday and told my husband that night. Told my parents and inlaws Sunday, then told my boss and coworkers (I'm a teacher) on Monday. Then Facebook Tuesday! I just couldn't keep it in

it's my first and I am keeping positive. It has been very obvious for me so people would have known anyways. I go in for my first appointment on Oct 23rd and I'll be 8 weeks then. I loved telling everyone so early

everyone is always making sure I'm feeling okay and if I need anything.

dojo1 · October 2014

I told my parents, my sister and two of my close friends at work who would definitely know something was up if I didn't come clean.

I will wait to publicly share the news at work until after the first US which will be around 11-12 weeks for me.

wynnemac · October 2014

I am very public about our fertility issues so my friends that remembered actually texted me on Thursday because they knew that was two weeks past my IUI. We'll probably tell our family around the 13 week mark and will officially announce to the world through Holiday cards.

With my son I actually included my announcement in my speech at my dad's memorial service, so I am happy this time to *hopefully* have nothing like that come up.

Workoutmommy · October 2014

I have already told my immediate family and close friends. I will tell everyone else after I see a heartbeat and then probably announce it to the world on our Christmas card. I only tell the people that I would tell if I had a miscarriage. I miscarried twins 4 years ago and I needed all the support that I could get from my family and friends so that is why I am not so scared this time to tell.

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