@persephonerose- Thank you. That is my thought that we would do everything we could to make it to the funeral. I think the family understands why we are not planning to be there at this time. However DH and I are nervous the longer we wait the harder it will be to go. Like if the funeral should happen to be around the actual due date and we couldn't make it. - I feel like a selfish ass for even saying that out loud. I really just am not ok giving birth 3 hours away from home and away from really important people we wanted to be able to see while we are in the hospital.
@MrsTinMKE - I would go. It's just as much for your benefit as hers, since although she may not be responsive, this could provide some good closure. I am assuming that what you say is accurate and she is not likely to recover, and if that's the case, there's at least a solid chance that you'll be even further along in your pregnancy, if not with a brand new baby which would also have its own set of complications.
I found out Saturday that one of my aunts was hospitalized. My mom is one of nine and there are 5 sisters. (Big Family) She happened to be hospitalized the day her daughter (my cousin) was getting married. DH and I did not go to the wedding because it was 3 hours away. Anyways, we found out that the situation is rather serious and my aunt had an internal brain hemorrhage and her situation was rather severe. They took her into surgery the same night and did their best to reduce the swelling on her brain and tried to find out where the bleeding was coming from (they could not locate the source or cause of the problem). It does not look like she will recover. My mom is suggesting that if we want to go see her before any decisions are made about discontinuing care etc., we should plan to go by this weekend. My aunt is not breathing on her own and unresponsive. The doctors are preparing the family for the worst and saying in the next 7-10 days they have to start making some difficult decisions.
I am debating on if DH and I should go. There is so much of our family there, and while I hate not going, I am not sure if I should risk the three hour ride there and back considering I am already having contractions. What would you guys do?? I feel like this is selfish to even think about, but where I am at...
We had kind of a similar situation except it was in July so nowhere new my due date. My husbands grandfather was really ill (end of battling Alzheimer's) we drove 5 hours to Indiana to see him one last time (and other family too). Turns out my DH actually regretted it because it was so hard to see him like that. Two weeks later we drove again to his funeral. If it's something your always going to wish you would have done I would say go, but ONLY if your doctor says it's okay. Maybe leaving it to your doctor who is obviously looking at it from a very objective view of your health rather than the emotional view you have will help.
Traveling long distances sucked in July, I can't imagine doing it now. Best wishes on making a decision and sorry you have to go through it.
After napping through contractions for a few hours, and waking up to them still every 10 minutes, I start realizing how many things I planned to accomplish in the next two weeks, before I went on "maternity leave".
So now I'm at my desk trying to get through it all, in case this is the real thing. Maybe this is just my body's way to get me to stop procrastinating.
@MrsTinMKE - I would go. It's just as much for your benefit as hers, since although she may not be responsive, this could provide some good closure. I am assuming that what you say is accurate and she is not likely to recover, and if that's the case, there's at least a solid chance that you'll be even further along in your pregnancy, if not with a brand new baby which would also have its own set of complications.
I did consider this as well... Wasn't sure how difficult this would be with a newborn. Maybe it would be best to gamble and take the chance before any more time passes. We considered leaving tomorrow afternoon and coming back the same night.
Thanks ladies for the T&P and creepy internet hugs. Very much appreciated. I may sleep on it and DH and I will decide if we want to take the trip tomorrow. I will also check with my OB tomorrow before I do anything. I just hate the thought of going into labor during that time, but don't want to regret not going. Just too tired to fully asses the situation right now it feels like.
5 cycles of "TTC" - 3 intentional, 2 not so intentional. 5 BFPs. My rainbow arrived 10/15/14. TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
@golfingdarwinfish - Thank you. Yes - I am going to call tomorrow and check with her first. If she advises against it at this point we would decide against going.
Not to brag, but my kid is pretty talented. Currently kicking me in the ribs and punching me in the vag, simultaneously. Definitely headed for the Baby UFC.
I sat in the glider and dozed before I had to go to the chiropractor. And woke up choking. WTAF?
With DS1 I had so much extra saliva I used to dribble in my sleep constantly. Maybe that could be why?
I'm so attractive.
I do this all the time! and sometimes its like I forget to swallow or something. Never happened pre-pregnancy its the strangest thing. Not being a smart ass this time either
OOOO MIL is being passive aggressive on Facebook again..
I forgot I'm just supposed to blindly follow my husband, not wear the pants in the family. Actually I am not allowed to wear pants at all, or send my child to an actual school, where they will learn *gasp* actual history or anything that doesn't partain to her religion.
OOOO MIL is being passive aggressive on Facebook again..
I forgot I'm just supposed to blindly follow my husband, not wear the pants in the family. Actually I am not allowed to wear pants at all, or send my child to an actual school, where they will learn *gasp* actual history or anything that doesn't partain to her religion.
Tell your MIL that one of your friends in the computer is a working mom and her husband is a SAHD. That might actually give her a heart attack. Just a little card up your sleeve you can play at your discretion.
So I can't delete the comment where Dove Soap called me a hoe on my wall?
@MrsTinMKE When I look at your wall I have a "delete content" option - do you see that anywhere? It not, maybe it's a mod only feature and in which case one of us can clear it if you want.
5 cycles of "TTC" - 3 intentional, 2 not so intentional. 5 BFPs. My rainbow arrived 10/15/14. TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
So I can't delete the comment where Dove Soap called me a hoe on my wall?
@MrsTinMKE
When I look at your wall I have a "delete content" option - do you see that anywhere? It not, maybe it's a mod only feature and in which case one of us can clear it if you want.
No I don't have that option. I can delete my own comments that is all. Yes if you could delete it would be appreciated.
So I can't delete the comment where Dove Soap called me a hoe on my wall?
@MrsTinMKE When I look at your wall I have a "delete content" option - do you see that anywhere? It not, maybe it's a mod only feature and in which case one of us can clear it if you want.
No I don't have that option. I can delete my own comments that is all. Yes if you could delete it would be appreciated.
5 cycles of "TTC" - 3 intentional, 2 not so intentional. 5 BFPs. My rainbow arrived 10/15/14. TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
@trisharenee0316 It bothers her that I make over twice as much as her son and work 50+ hours a week
Call me crazy, but you think she'd be happy that her son was in a marriage where both individuals acted as partners and worked for the good of the family. She can have an opinion on y'alls arrangement when she pays your bills. You should just hide her from your newsfeed so you don't have to see her bullshit.
Some days, I miss the forums at Television Without Pity. The regulars on the DWTS board would have had all sorts of snark to share about Julianne Hough's costume, or lack thereof, from last night's performance.
Dance pro tip: if you are unsure about a lift in a performance, it's probably not a good idea to opt for a costume that barely covers your ass and crotch.
OMG! I JUST was talking about missing that website! I'm a bad TV watcher and I need recaps. Are there any other sites like this?
No - not to my knowledge. Unless you go to individual TV show websites. But - no snark.
Hugs to Sinner and MrsTin!
This may sound weird, but I go to Lipstick Alley for snark on TV shows. Mostly Teen Mom 2 snark.
So H is gone for six days. I was so excited because I decided to make a big pan of tator tot hotdish (DH doesn't like it, which is crazy talk, I don't know how he is from Minnesota and doesn't like hotdish). I thought I would have enough to eat for dinner for the next few days. Clearly, I underestimated my love of tator tot hotdish cause I only have enough leftovers for lunch tomorrow and a small dinner. Now what I a gonna do? (
So H is gone for six days. I was so excited because I decided to make a big pan of tator tot hotdish (DH doesn't like it, which is crazy talk, I don't know how he is from Minnesota and doesn't like hotdish). I thought I would have enough to eat for dinner for the next few days. Clearly, I underestimated my love of tator tot hotdish cause I only have enough leftovers for lunch tomorrow and a small dinner. Now what I a gonna do? (
So H is gone for six days. I was so excited because I decided to make a big pan of tator tot hotdish (DH doesn't like it, which is crazy talk, I don't know how he is from Minnesota and doesn't like hotdish). I thought I would have enough to eat for dinner for the next few days. Clearly, I underestimated my love of tator tot hotdish cause I only have enough leftovers for lunch tomorrow and a small dinner. Now what I a gonna do? (
This is a tricky question. Some people would just say yes. Others would give you major side eye for thinking so. I say pretty much. The only dish I call hotdish is tator tot hotdish. All other meals in a casserole dish I call casserole. Hotdish is mostly a Minnesota, South Dakota, North Dakota term used to describe some casseroles, usually those made with cream of something soup. It is a touchy topic, people have strong opinions about this.
I had never heard of these things until I moved to SD last August. I was all WTF is that?
Totally random. Noticed tonight in the shower that I have a tiny linea nigra...it's only about 2-3 inches long and it's just up above my belly button. Like, 4 inches above my belly button! So weird!
This is a tricky question. Some people would just say yes. Others would give you major side eye for thinking so. I say pretty much. The only dish I call hotdish is tator tot hotdish. All other meals in a casserole dish I call casserole. Hotdish is mostly a Minnesota, South Dakota, North Dakota term used to describe some casseroles, usually those made with cream of something soup. It is a touchy topic, people have strong opinions about this.
---------- I'm a Wisconsinite and I make tater tot hotdish too! Love it, and so does my DH. I agree with you that it's the only thing like it that I refer to as a "hotdish" - all others are casseroles.
Tater tot casserole is delicious. I haven't had it in a long time, but I used to make it when I was in law school because it was like, extra special better as leftovers that I could bring for lunches. Now I want that for dinner and know I can't have it because I have none of the ingredients on hand. (
@savagek7 What an interesting question! I don't recall feeling DS move AT ALL while I was in labor. That said, I did get an epidural at some point, so he may have moved a lot and I just wasn't aware of his movements. I'll be paying attention this time to see if I notice movement while I'm in labor.
ETA: I hope the pain you're experiencing doesn't remain a mystery for long! FX for you.
You have already received a lot of good advice. Just wanted to add my 2 cents.
At 36 weeks my grandma passed away and it is a 10 hr drive. I was feeling really good and not dilated at all. My OB still advised against it. We decided to try to go to the funeral anyway. My whole family was there and I thought I would regret it if I didn't go. Once we decided to go, I felt wrong. I just knew it wasn't the right decision. So we didn't go. The Wednesday we were going to leave (2 days after making our decision) I started having painful contractions and found I had already dilated to 3 cm. even if I would have gone and nothing happened (because nothing has happened yet) I would have been miserable and stressed. I was sad not to be with my family and I had to grieve in my own way, but everyone knew I wasn't being selfish.
Hope you make the best choice for you! Wishing for the best for your Aunt!
Re: Wednesday Randoms
Married 8/27/2011
BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012
BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w
BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014
BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d
BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017
BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
Traveling long distances sucked in July, I can't imagine doing it now. Best wishes on making a decision and sorry you have to go through it.
TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
When I look at your wall I have a "delete content" option - do you see that anywhere? It not, maybe it's a mod only feature and in which case one of us can clear it if you want.
TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
@MrsTinMKE
Let me just confirm with the other mods that it deletes your wall content and not your account content!!!
TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
Make more?
Totally random. Noticed tonight in the shower that I have a tiny linea nigra...it's only about 2-3 inches long and it's just up above my belly button. Like, 4 inches above my belly button! So weird!
This is a tricky question. Some people would just say yes. Others would give you major side eye for thinking so. I say pretty much. The only dish I call hotdish is tator tot hotdish. All other meals in a casserole dish I call casserole. Hotdish is mostly a Minnesota, South Dakota, North Dakota term used to describe some casseroles, usually those made with cream of something soup. It is a touchy topic, people have strong opinions about this.
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I'm a Wisconsinite and I make tater tot hotdish too! Love it, and so does my DH. I agree with you that it's the only thing like it that I refer to as a "hotdish" - all others are casseroles.
ETA: I hope the pain you're experiencing doesn't remain a mystery for long! FX for you.
You have already received a lot of good advice. Just wanted to add my 2 cents.
At 36 weeks my grandma passed away and it is a 10 hr drive. I was feeling really good and not dilated at all. My OB still advised against it. We decided to try to go to the funeral anyway. My whole family was there and I thought I would regret it if I didn't go. Once we decided to go, I felt wrong. I just knew it wasn't the right decision. So we didn't go. The Wednesday we were going to leave (2 days after making our decision) I started having painful contractions and found I had already dilated to 3 cm. even if I would have gone and nothing happened (because nothing has happened yet) I would have been miserable and stressed. I was sad not to be with my family and I had to grieve in my own way, but everyone knew I wasn't being selfish.
Hope you make the best choice for you! Wishing for the best for your Aunt!