Wine ??

natstrac29 · September 2014

My two year wedding anniversary is coming up can I have one glass of red wine with dinner ? I've read a lot of mixed reviews. I am 10 weeks and my doc app is the day after my anni! FTM here

taahira · September 2014

I wouldn't feel comfortable doing it period. I've had friends in the third tri, enjoy a glass here or there. In the first no, the baby is still trying to develop. I wouldn't do anything to harm that process.

BRNCLES · September 2014

I've had a few sips of beer here and there in the last 11 weeks- not a full drink by any means, just tasting. I would think if you served yourself a quarter of a serving it would be fine- I think it's relatively harmless, but everyone's risk assessment is different. Alcohol wasn't on my OB's list of things to absolutely avoid, but I'm also trying not to abuse that.

natstrac29 · September 2014

I'll Deff opt out ! Club soda and lime in a fancy glass please ! :P LOL ... Thank you

drmrsmantis · September 2014

I personally would avoid in 1st tri, though I had a few half-glasses in 3rd tri when I was pregnant with DS. This does seem like a choice that you should discuss with your doctor first.

Xtinasanderson · September 2014

Had a dream I drank last night.. That was good enough for me! Too scared to risk anything

ejra · September 2014

I've also done some research because I was nervous about it - my take from the studies is I'll have a few sips of wine so far and during the holidays I wouldn't be opposed to a half glass infrequently with food. Like others have said studies haven't found an issue with 1-2 glasses a week even in the first - especially if with a meal. It's a personal decision and reading up it helped me to decide. An interesting book that addresses it is "expecting better" by Emily oster....

starshollow · September 2014

Like others have said, it is a personal choice. I personally wouldn't during first tri or even most of second. A few sips here and there probably isn't bad, but I would not be comfortable with a glass in front of me right now.

I would have had a small glass during third tri last time, but the taste turned me off. Thankfully that didn't last after giving birth!

Ncountrygal · September 2014

My rule is first trimester no to a measurable amount. Too much neural development. A couple sips won't do anything. Later, perhaps half a glass occasionally. Even then, if I start to feel the effects, I stop. My last OB was fine with this. I doubt my midwives are.

ally3242 · September 2014

At my 12 week appointment last week my doc touched on the topic of drinking. He said that a small glass of red wine from time to time would be okay, however it would be a personal choice as to what I was comfortable doing. When DH has a beer or glass of wine, I sometimes take a sip, just for taste. I think if your doctor says it is safe in moderation and you feel comfortable with it when you're out of the 1st trimester, then have a very small glass.

keifekm · September 2014

I would be too scared, especially in the first trimester. A friend was telling me about a brand of non alcoholic wine that actually tastes like wine (not like sparkling wine). I think it is called Free? Maybe that is a better way to go. I have yet to try it but when a special occasion comes up I will.

fartsandcrafts · September 2014

It's a personal choice, but you should make the decision based on your own research and your doctor's advice. I feel like I should be getting royalties for as much as I suggest this book, but I really liked "Expecting Better" for helping to make decisions on what to eat and drink, what tests to have done, and other big and little pregnancy choices. It breaks down different do's and don'ts with facts and studies. Based on this reading, and others, I've decided that after the first trimester I will occasionally have a little wine with dinner or for a special occasion. You may decide something totally different, but it's worth reading up on.

Edited to add: You can preview this book on amazon.com and it's available for iPads, which makes it super easy and you can decide with the preview if it's something you'd be into.

kitc101 · September 2014

Try Fre brand wine... It's wine with alcohol removed. You still get the taste of your favorite wine but without any worry about how it will effect baby.

lindsayanne14 · September 2014

As pp said, personal choice. I don't drink at all when PG, although I missed it at times, it really wasn't much of a sacrifice for me. I would not do it in this first tri though, just too much important development going on for me!

Murran131 · September 2014

Personally, I won't touch any alcohol while pregnant. Alcohol crosses the bloodstream, so we're sharing it with our little one, and our little one, at this point, is the size of a lime or whatever. Even if there's no obvious physical damage, it just can't be good for something so tiny to be exposed to alcohol like that.

shauna4608 · September 2014

My midwife told me that there is no safe amount at any time.

WeLiveInMaine · September 2014

I have discovered our favorite wine bar has one sparkling apple cider/non alcoholic beverage. It's super boring after the first glass but it's better than not going to our favorite place. I know they have different guidliness in Europe, I looked them up for the UK. It's something like 2 units a week with a unit being the oz. of wine but it depends on the% alcohol I think it also depended on when it was. I decided there was no way I was going to keep track of all that our manage to not freak out about the what ifs so I skip it all together.

jackieanddan1989 · September 2014

First trimester, I would hold off. Organs are still developing. Second and third tri, there is evidence that its safe in moderation, but it's a personal choice. I probably will continue to abstain, but I wouldn't judge someone having a glass and being smart about it.

klynn0423 · September 2014

I wouldn't have any during the first trimester.

carter604 · September 2014

I love following along with the "fruit of the week" development milestones and while I'm growing organs, fingernails and bones I wouldn't even consider booze. The fleeting enjoyment of a small glass of wine pales in comparison to the importance of the fundamentals of the little person I'm building. Who wants to mess with that?

Duffgurl · September 2014

I personally would not do it.

kdbug4 · September 2014

No. It's not worth the risk.

SuperFudge00 · September 2014

KateRN08 said:
There is no known safe amount of alcohol during pregnancy. That said, it is a personal decision that no one can answer but yourself. I choose to obtain during pregnancy.

^^This!!!

Understand that no one will do a study as to how many drinks are safe in pregnancy. IMO anecdotes of safe drinking are stories of luck, because what if?

I personally won't be drinking at all just to play it safe.

Please ask yourself what having a glass of wine is going to accomplish and then ask if it's worth the risk.

AMShark · September 2014

natstrac29 said:

I'll Deff opt out ! Club soda and lime in a fancy glass please ! :P LOL ... Thank you

This was me at our 10th wedding anniversary party a few weeks ago! I needed to hold something, so people would stop offering to get me a drink. I also had ginger ale for the champagne toast.

There was a debate about this on NPR recently. One side was citing this study stating that there was no proof that moderate amounts of alcohol cause harm, and the other side kept the "no amount is ever safe" side. At the time, I wasn't PG, and I was siding with the "a little" is ok side. Now that it's me, I'm afraid to do anything that could potentially cause harm. No cold cuts, no raw sushi, limiting caffeine, making more careful seafood choices.

Like PPL have said, its your own decision. A serving (3.5 oz - not the huge portions they pour at some restaurants and wine bars) is probably ok, but you have to decide whether the risk is worth the very momentary pleasure of sipping a glass of wine.

bowman958 · September 2014

I have read the studies and have decided I am comfortable with 1 glass of wine per week, perhaps two in 2nd and 3rd trimesters. This is my personal choice, and I feel confident in it. More than likely, one glass of wine will not have any ill effects on your LO. But it is a risk, and you have to decide if you're personally ok with taking it.

yellowdaisies84 · September 2014

I am avoiding alcohol 100% for my whole pregnancy, not even a drop. I wouldn't be able to enjoy it anyway knowing that I am drinking for me and a growing baby inside me. But I have a doctor who advises "Avoid alcohol, except maybe a small glass of wine VERY occasionally."

If you do decide to have a glass of wine and this is a one-time thing (not a regular thing) I feel like that is your choice to make and I assume that it will be okay. But I would suggest that instead of a glass of wine you order a super fun mocktail in a pretty glass. Ask for an umbrella or a piece of fruit in it. Enjoy your anniversary.

ElizabethSwann · September 2014

A few sips here and there i feel comfortable with. I dont pour myself my own glass though.

I also was smelling it the other day as i was chugging water, so it would feel like i was drinking it.

Rereading that sentence, doesn't make me sound too good.

jobotrobot · September 2014

I've heard and read mixed things about it but I wouldn't because I wouldn't want to risk it and I'm not much of a wine hound. Micheladas on the other hand...

Hummingbirdbaby3 · September 2014

I know that some will say it's okay in third tri. Docs even. Call me crazy, but if I can't go 9 months without wine(and I drank it daily before) then I have a serious problem. I can wait. Baby doesn't need to know the difference between cab and merlot.

somewheresublime86 · September 2014

I'm still undecided. Since I do some freelance work in the wine biz, I've had to pretty much cut that out entirely since my BFP. It's not much fun to spend hours in a wine shop and sip water and try to deflect questions. No wine for almost three months now, and while I miss it I know it's worth it.

After reading "Expecting Better" (specifically the section about alcohol) I had a discussion with my doctor. It was inconclusive, probably for liability reasons. She said, "If you can't go nine months without it, that's a sign you have a problem... But every female OB I know indulged once or twice during her own pregnancy."

I think I may enjoy a small glass (like 3 oz.) at Thanksgiving dinner and another of the same size at Christmas. I also have a tasting event I have to be at in a few weeks. I'll probably taste a couple of wines and then spit rather than swallow them. We shall see...

kjones115 · September 2014

It's an opinion thing, really. I love wine! I also really miss it especially after a rough day at work or when everyone else is enjoying their own glass. I highly doubt one glass would harm the baby but then again why risk it? I know my grandparents and even parents generations were told it's ok to have a drink or two while pregnant but it seems like it would be easy enough (annoying, I know!) to just avoid. You'll have more anniversaries where you can drink lots of wine then.

somewheresublime86 · September 2014

RHoPA1109 said:

somewheresublime86 said:

I'm still undecided. Since I do some freelance work in the wine biz, I've had to pretty much cut that out entirely since my BFP. It's not much fun to spend hours in a wine shop and sip water and try to deflect questions. No wine for almost three months now, and while I miss it I know it's worth it.

After reading "Expecting Better" (specifically the section about alcohol) I had a discussion with my doctor. It was inconclusive, probably for liability reasons. She said, "If you can't go nine months without it, that's a sign you have a problem... But every female OB I know indulged once or twice during her own pregnancy."

I think I may enjoy a small glass (like 3 oz.) at Thanksgiving dinner and another of the same size at Christmas. I also have a tasting event I have to be at in a few weeks. I'll probably taste a couple of wines and then spit rather than swallow them. We shall see...

Woah wait...can you elaborate on "freelance work in the wine biz?" This sounds like a gig I could get into..ya know, when I'm not with child.

@RHoPA1109‌
Ha! Absolutely! I have a masters in PR that I don't get to use in my current training and development job. There are a couple of local wine and food businesses here in Portland where I started off as a customer, and ended up trading PR assistance and event planning help for perks. Perks = free wine, artisan chocolate, tickets to fancy wine tastings and/or dinners and a trade discount on wine at local wineries. Plus, I get to build my portfolio. Lots of small businesses are really intimidated by PR and struggle to get their name out there. It's a win-win. Eventually, I hope it becomes a full time gig!

Dani428 · September 2014

Well it's really up to you. I didn't know I was preggers until 7 weeks ... And in those 7 weeks I def had some nights when I had a few drinks! That being said, now that I know, I'd choose not to....but my doc didn't seem worried 1 bit when he found out my story.

OliveMom3 · September 2014

I come from a very liberal province in terms of drinking. Our legal drinking age is 18 and people tend to just be more comfortable with indulging a tad while pregnant.

I'm a research scientist and I've done enough research on the topic to be comfortable having a few sips every now and then in first trimester and a glass or two a month thereafter. It was dhs bday last weekend and I had about 1/3 of a glass of red which was about 4 sips maybe? I'm comfortable with that.

Not pregnant, I'm a glass or two with dinner kind of lady.

amandamarie2 · September 2014

I really debated this for my anniversary in August. I found out about baby the day before our anniversary and as I hardly ever drink was conflicted as to whether I still wanted a small glass on one of the few days a year I have some to celebrate. In the end, I decided not to just because I decided as much as I wanted it the possible risk was just not worth it.

somewheresublime86 · September 2014

RHoPA1109 said:
That's awesome, @somewheresublime86‌! Totally jealous. I hope one day it becomes permanent for you.

Thanks, me too! It's a pretty great way to fund my wine habit, and it's nice to get to be creative.

trlricha · September 2014

I just found out today that a local company is doing a Free Wine and Cheese Hour from 4-5 every first Tuesday of every month for the teachers in my corp. It's at this fantastic little winery we have in our town and I am bummed because I love wine and can't have any. I am choosing to not drink during pregnancy. It's a personal choice, but I am a worrier and would just feel paranoid/guilty. I'll just cross my fingers that they do it again next year!

tdmloverrn · September 2014

KateRN08 said:

There is no known safe amount of alcohol during pregnancy. That said, it is a personal decision that no one can answer but yourself. I choose to abstain during pregnancy. Edit spelling

This is exactly what I was going to post. I am a nurse and I specialize in preconception care. There is no known safe amount of alcohol and this is because everyone metabolizes alcohol differently. The current recommendation is to abstain from any alcohol.

It is your decision but I would talk it over with your clinician. If your appt is after your anniversary, you can always call.

MPKbaby237 · September 2014

I don't want to beat a dead horse but if you're looking for opinions from the masses, I'll jump in. I am choosing to abstain first tri as organs and placenta develop. I may have a sip here or there later in the pregnancy to toast at special occasions (e.g. New Years, wedding, hubby's bday) but not a glass. I have friends with happy, healthy babies who chose to drink, so I'm not passing any judgment on others choices. I'm just explaining what I intend to do.
Happy anniversary!!

joanakunzler · September 2014

I live in Germany and here the docs say it's ok to have a glass of wine per week. I don't do it because I really don't feel comfortable about it. But it's your choice, if you really feel like it, pretend you are French and go ahead

somewheresublime86 · September 2014

rachelmichelle1 said:
I'm not crazy about the "if you can't give up wine for 9 months, you have a problem" idea. That's pretty extreme.

I don't "have a problem" but I was comfortable in my research, my doctor, and ability to decide that a rare glass of wine was ok late in my pregnancy.

I'm not mad at anyone for whatever they decide, though. I can respect both sides, and totally get it either way.

I agree with that being a harsh perspective. I told the doc, "I don't want to give up the occasional glass of wine if I don't have to, and a lot of the research is saying I don't have to." I'm a 'tell me why' kind of gal, which is part of why doctors (or anyone else) making blanket statements without facts drives me nuts. I loved Emily Oster's book because I feel like it gave me the information I needed to make informed decisions for myself.

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