March 2015 Moms

She stole my thunder...again

My MIL announced to everyone that we are expecting. This is the second time she has taken this joy from me. I called her out about it and told her that I didn't appreciate what she did. Later, I received a text from SIL stating that I owed my MIL an apology for upsetting her-that I was rude and disrespectful.
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Re: She stole my thunder...again

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  • Ugh. This kind of thing irritates me. What is wrong with people?! She owes YOU the apology. And even if she did apologize, it cannot be fixed. You cannot get back the experience of telling your family yourself. I think it's selfish and thoughtless of her, regardless of good intentions. Good intentions do not excuse rudeness. I'm sorry. I hope you get to reveal the sex when you're ready. And make sure MIL is the last to know... just in case.

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    First RE visit: 8/8/12, Saline Sonogram: 8/28/12, IVF injection class: 10/11/12, add FaBB Tab for FVL, +Vitamin D.
    IVF #1: 10/17/12 Baseline: FSH- 9.4, E2- 24, LH- 3.7, Prog- 0.3 The u/s showed 6 follicles in my right  & 9 in my left. Rx: 150 Bravelle & 150 Menopur SQ nightly. 10/21/12: Add Ganirelix SQ every morning.
    ER 10/28/12: 13 Retreived. 7 Mature. 6 Fertilized. 5 Made it to PGS. ET 11/2/12: CANCELED. All 5 came back from PGS as having "severe abnormalities."
    IVF #2: 1/7/13 Baseline: FSH- 8.8, 4 follicles in my right & 6 in my left. Rx: 150 Bravelle & 150 Menopur SQ nightly. 1/11/13: Add Ganirelix SQ every morning. hCG Trigger 1/16/13

    ER 1/18/13: 9 Retrieved. 5 Mature. 5 Fertilized. 2 Made it to PGS. ET 1/23/13: CANCELED. All embryos (he even sent the ones not growing) came back from PGS as having "multiple severe abnormalities."
    IVF #3:
    NEW RE! 3/1/13 Baseline: FSH- 9.6, E2- 61, Prog- 0.94, 3 follicles in my right & 4 in my left. Rx: 150 Bravelle& 150 Menopur SQ in PM. 3/7/13: Add Ganirelix SQ in AM. hCG Trigger 3/9/13 SQ.
    ER 3/11/13: 6R, 2M, 2F. Day 3: one 8 cell, grade 0.  Five day ET 3/16/13: one early blast, grade Fair. 3/24/13 AF came a day before beta. BFN

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    (Added acupuncture to this cycle.) 3/25/13 WTF & Baseline: FSH-11.8, E2- 56, Prog- 0.84 3/26/13 Start stims. 3/30/13 u/s: 5 follicles in my right & 4 in my left. Rx: 225 Bravelle& 225 Menopur SQ in PM. 3/31/13 Add Ganirelix SQ in AM.hCG Trigger 4/3/13 SQ.
    ER 4/5/13: 5R, 3M, 3F naturally. Day 3: two 8 cell, grade 0, one 8 cell, grade 2 (Scale 0-best to 3-worst). Five day ET 4/10/13: two blastocysts (the 3rd stopped growing.) Beta 4/18/13: 2.5 BFFN. RE recommends we stop trying and focus on living childless, due to the extremely poor quality of my eggs.
    ***Decided to stop trying and live CFNBC. I couldn't adjust. So, six months later...

    IVF #5: Changed RE. Going to one of the big name clinics now. OWDU: 10/29/13. Update: HORRIBLE experience. Disgusted and distraught at their complete unprofessionalism and how much money and precious time they cost us. Sickening. Have now changed RE again. New Patient appt. 1/30/14.
    BFP! Out of nowhere, I got KU the old fashioned way! POAS 1/26/14 - Positive! FDLM 12/30/13. Beta #1 16dpo= 373. Beta #2 18dpo= 801. EDD 10/6/14
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    2/11/14 2nd U/S revealed a perfect 6wk1day "diamond ring" embryo with a beating heart! 138bpm! Add 1mg folic acid and 40mg Lovenox
    2/25/14 3rd U/S: perfect 8w1d embryo, 178bpm. 3/6 start spotting. 3/11 10w1d U/S shows no heartbeat. Scheduling D&C. The Stork has forsaken me again.
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    5/16/14 Day 2 bw cycle prior: FSH- 12.22, E2- 38.37, Prog- 1.35, LH- 9.46. 6/2/14 Day 19 bw: Prog- 23
    6/12/14 Baseline: E2- 122.7, Prog- 0.4. 5 follicles in left, 4 follicles in right. Start stims: 375IU Follistim & 150IU Menopur. 6/19 Increase Follistim to 425IU, Menopur still 150IU. 6/18 add Ganirelix. 6/23 Ovidrel trigger SQ. 6/25 ER: 8R, 8M, 5F naturally. Start Medrol & Doxy. 6/26 Start Endometrin. 7/2 Start Lovenox.
    7/8/14 Beta= 137.4 BFP!!! (My first from IVF!) E2- 1109, Prog- >60. Stop CoQ10, myo-inositol, and melatonin. 7/9 2nd Beta= 281.4. TSH- 2.70. Increasing Synthroid to 100mcg daily. 7/24 6w3d u/s measured 6w3d, hb: 121bmp! 8/5 8w1d u/s measured 8w3d, hb: 164bpm! Graduated from RE to OB. Now I just need to find an OB!
    EDD 3/18/15!

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  • Yes to summer sausage and Merkt's sharp cheddar with aaaallllllllll the crackers. Yum.
  • janda426 said:
    Sausage, cheese and crackers. I'd fuck that up right now.
    You forgot YumYum pickles!
    But Best Maid pickles take the cake. Made right here in the great state of Texas!
  • You do not need to apologize to your MIL!! That is beyond rude and for her to do this a second time, she seems like someone who constantly needs attention, especially with your SIL telling you to apologize. You husband needs to step in and explain to his family to back off and explain what they both did was wrong!
  • I don't know if we have merkts here in Idaho. But I'm going to check! We do have a lot of great fresh cheese ranging from cow to sheep to goat at our local farmers market.
  • I love how this was almost instantly turned into a food thread. Thanks TB, now I'm hungry again!
  • Mmm, cheese. I'm going to this amazing Lebanese place tonight, very authentic/home-cooked style food. There will be cheesy flatbread. Three hours away.
  • Dinner decision just made - mac and cheese. Thanks ladies!








     


  • My killer headache is making me feel so nauseous that I'm barely keeping down my tomato soup. But now I wish I had a grilled cheese to barely keep down too. :S
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  • Am I late for the cheese party?  I am for sure going to Panera tonight thanks to @cafecreme.

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    That looks like heavenly deliciousness. 

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  • Joon+ said:
    THERE IS NO CHEESE IN MY HOUSE. I don't know how this happened but, as I'm sure you can all appreciate, this is a crisis situation and I am panicking. I texted DH code orange. If he doesn't turn up with cheese after work, I am not responsible for my actions.
    Fuck. Is there anyone who lives near Joon to bring her cheese stat? I have some white cheedar in my fridge that I've been munching on. And mini cupcakes. But, they're all gone now. 

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  • marissaluciamarissalucia member
    edited September 2014
    You do not owe ANYONE an apology. I'm in the same boat actually. This will be our first child, both for me and my SO. I've had so many health issues, my drs would tell me I would never have children. Then last year I got pregnant but ended up miscarrying. This time around I am 16 weeks pregnant with a baby boy and we are excited but also nervous something may happen. We told my BFs one sister, because he gets along with her. He told her specifically not to tell anyone. We found out yesterday she told his entire family. Including his mother who lives in Florida who will be visiting this week. We planned to give her the news of her 8th grandchild together and hold off on the sex until he was born, but now 20+ people in his family know we're having a baby and that it's a boy. Oh and did I mention our families are friendly and see each other atleast 1-2x a week. That means my family will probably find out too. We are both really upset and disappointed that we won't get the experience of sharing the news with our families, especially since this will be our first child. I completely feel your pain and please don't apologize to anyone!!! If anyone should apologize, it's your MIL. She took away a special moment for you. I learned my lesson and will never tell his sister anything like this again. It's sad but she did this to herself.


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  • @cafecreme‌ I had broccoli cheddar soup from panera for lunch....in a bread bowl. definitely go get some! :\"> :D ;;)

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  • I would not have told her until the MOMENT before I told everyone else.  I'm sorry :(
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  • @cafecreme OMG The Melting Pot! We went there with my parents a few months ago. It was fantastic!

    I'm so hungry right now!!!
  • etoille said:
    In my desk (work) I have Nacho Cheese Doritos, Cheetoes Puffs, White Cheddar Halloween Cheetoes, Ruffles Sour Cream and Cheddar.....

    and in the fridge (work) I have Babybel mini cheeses and cheddar cheese sticks/snacks.



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    I didn't think there was anyone else out there who loved powdered cheese flavoring as much as I do. I was wrong.
    White Cheddar Halloween Cheeto's did you say?  Are they good?  I love the White Cheddar Cheez-Its something fierce...
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  • cafecreme said:



    I had the broccoli and cheese soup yesterday for lunch and the Asian sesame chicken salad @ panera, it was delish-ussss! =P~

    Also, I've been loving cheese so far this pregnancy, but more specifically MELTED cheese, ahhhh =))

    Has anyone ever heard of The Melting Pot?
    It's a fondue restaurant, and they have like 5 different cheese fondue's to choose from for your main course. 
    Putting this out there for my cheese and chocolate lovers, because they have a chocolate fondue for dessert too. https://www.meltingpot.com/our-menu/cheese-fondue.aspx


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    And now I know where I'm going for my birthday dinner. Their caramel raspberry iced tea is delicious too
  • THE NEAREST PANERA IS 8 HOURS AWAY IN SEATTLE. *breaks down into gross sobs*

    But we do have a gourmet grilled cheese place in town. Wonder if the hubs would be down for some heart failure tonight.
  • Stop with the evil cheese porn!!!!

    To OP sounds like you need to put your foot down in this relationship with your ILs and have a conversation with your H about it all. Also, I agree with the shame on you sentiment - why the hell did you tell her before others? She lost that privilege.
  • kcbizmekcbizme member
    edited September 2014
    I came home fully expecting my leftover extra cheese pizza for dinner, only to find my SO threw it away. I actually teared up unintentionally! I was so looking forward to that damn pizza!

    Edited bc words really suck today.
  • *Phew* Thank goodness I resolved my cheese crisis before the gifs started coming... That would have been physically painful. Mmm... Applewood smoked cheddar :D

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  • Mmmm. I had lasagna with tons of melted cheese tonight. Thank u ladies!
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  • etoille said:

    Melting pot is good but $ for value I have an issue with generally speaking.  


    Plus the VP I used to support had DH and I over to their house for dinner last winter and she makes some sort of traditional swedish fondue that is OUT.OF.THIS.WORLD.

    Kind of ruined me.

    Now I want it.  
    :((
    ^This. I love Melting Pot but only go occasionally since it's a little pricey.

    You can find a lot of Melting Pot copy cat recipes online.
  • I hope I don't get banned for not being interested in cheese....

    @megaugust10‌ I feel the same as others, no you don't owe anybody an apology. Sorry you're disappointed but you shouldn't have trusted her a second time. It does suck that you still won't get your big reveal.
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