I'm sorry, can I vent and ramble? So I know I intro'd and mentioned how we're on the bench for now because we're trying to figure out a new house. But I'm a little overwhelmed lately because I just don't know - I don't know if we should wait until we get our ducks in a row as far as a new house so we're not trying to sell a house/live in a rental/manage a build while possibly pregnant or with a new baby. But then I get that slap in the face that I'm not getting any younger and I know that I've had troubles in the past with ttc. So am I being a moron to wait? I mean I do know that I need to lose some weight, and am working on that, but is this house excuse just stupid? Would it be the worst thing in the world for one of the kids to have to share a room with a baby if we're stuck in our current house for a while?
And it just doesn't help that when I talk to DH about this he's on board with having another but will give no input about what our plan is supposed to be...because I guess talking about plans creates stress and god forbid anyone but me have any stress. So that leaves me in charge and it stinks. You know what I mean?
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About me 2007: Started TTC. 2008: OB prescribed clomid, went to RE and was Dx with PCOS. 2009: IUI #1 w/follitsim and trigger = BFP. B/G Twins born at 33 weeks. 2012: TTC #3, Round 2 of Letrozole w/TI = BFP, missed m/c at 8 1/2 wks. Currently on the bench as we make plans for a new home. Anxious to start TTC #3 within the next year!
Re: Being in charge kind of sucks
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I agree with all the PPs that there's never going to be a time when a new baby won't be a major upheaval, and with @meredithcarole that bodies don't tend to obey plans anyway!
I definitely can't advise you on a course of action; my only advice would be to try talking again with DH. The circumstances under which you have the baby are temporary; stuff like the age difference between your twins and their new sibling is permanent, and even if he doesn't want to make a plan, he must have opinions about it! Good luck!
Me: 41, DH: 45
DD, 6/15/2013
TTC #2 beginning January 2014
AMH 1.05; FSH range 7-11
July 2014: IUI #1. Follistim + Pregnyl. 2 follicles--BFN
September 2014: IUI #2. Follistim + Pregnyl + Ganirelix + Crinone. 4(?) follicles--BFN
October 2014: IUI #3. More Follistim + More Ganirelix + Pregnyl + Crinone. 4 follicles--BFP! Beta #1=10 Beta #2=33 Beta #3=97 Beta #4=158. M/C 11/1/14
December 2014: IVF #1. Microdose Lupron protocol. 9R, 9M, 9F. 3 5-day blasts transferred 12/15. BFFN.
August 2015: IVF #3. 14R, 13M, 11F. Froze 5 blasts for CCS testing. 3 normals. FET planned for 10/2015.
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No, I know full well that the body does not always cooperate.
Part of my issue is that I'm such a mess when I'm off the pill (hormones go wacky, acne, weight gain, blech), and given the previous issues we've had, I kind of feel like we have to actively try vs. just seeing how things go.
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About me 2007: Started TTC. 2008: OB prescribed clomid, went to RE and was Dx with PCOS. 2009: IUI #1 w/follitsim and trigger = BFP. B/G Twins born at 33 weeks. 2012: TTC #3, Round 2 of Letrozole w/TI = BFP, missed m/c at 8 1/2 wks. Currently on the bench as we make plans for a new home. Anxious to start TTC #3 within the next year!
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A good middle ground may be, figure out if you want to buy vs build because that may also make a difference in the timeline. If you're looking to buy something that already exists, the likelihood of that taking 9+ months is smaller than building. If you're looking to build, then sure that can take quite a bit longer, but if you start that process now, a brand new house typically takes 6-9 months from beginning to move in, so you could very well be in a new home before the baby is born, and if not, there's always the option of sharing a room (co-sleeping...crib in your room, etc etc) for the month or two it might take to get the new house finished up.
Me 36 DH 39
BFP 11/28/14 ~ MMC 12/29/14
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Thanks ladies. Maybe it's because this isn't a topic of discussion IRL other than with DH, but I appreciate hearing that it's ok to go for it.
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About me 2007: Started TTC. 2008: OB prescribed clomid, went to RE and was Dx with PCOS. 2009: IUI #1 w/follitsim and trigger = BFP. B/G Twins born at 33 weeks. 2012: TTC #3, Round 2 of Letrozole w/TI = BFP, missed m/c at 8 1/2 wks. Currently on the bench as we make plans for a new home. Anxious to start TTC #3 within the next year!
What I'm trying to say is that it can take a healthy couple with no issues quite a while, you just don't know.
I would vote go for it, even if it's NTNP.
"It is better to light a candle than curse the darkness." - Eleanor Roosevelt
DD1 EDD 08/18/01, born 08/03/2001 ~ 9lbs 10oz, 21.5 in
DS1 EDD 4/30/2004, born 05/04/2004 ~ 10lbs, 22 in
mc 02/14/12 @ 5 weeks
DD2 EDD 12/25/12, born 12/30/12 ~ 10lbs 11oz, 21.25 in
mc 12/05/15 @ 12 weeks
Cautiously expecting 12/02/16
yeah, this is a good bottom line answer. And thankfully we meet that criteria.
So tonight I was carrying the cat around and told DH that it needs to be a baby instead. It's time.
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About me 2007: Started TTC. 2008: OB prescribed clomid, went to RE and was Dx with PCOS. 2009: IUI #1 w/follitsim and trigger = BFP. B/G Twins born at 33 weeks. 2012: TTC #3, Round 2 of Letrozole w/TI = BFP, missed m/c at 8 1/2 wks. Currently on the bench as we make plans for a new home. Anxious to start TTC #3 within the next year!
Elizabeth 5yrs old Jane 3yrs old