When to announce?

Chelsshay · September 2014

So when are you planning to announce your baby to the different people in your life? I will wait until 12 weeks to announce to the world, but I am trying to decide when to tell my parents. I want my mom to know, not so sure about my in-laws yet... Just curious what others have planned.

TheAerialist · September 2014

I am waiting 12 weeks no matter what. I won't even tell my parents until then. Fortunately, that will be right at Thanksgiving, if my super-faint wishful-thinking line pans out. FINGERS CROSSED SO HARD.

KeraG · September 2014

I can't keep a secret so I have already told 3 of my 4 best friends, but they knew we were TTC. We will probably tell my family at Thanksgiving since we did the same for DS with the ultrasound and I *think* we will have one by then. DH's family will be on the Thanksgiving list too. Everyone else will find out via Christmas Card!

mamahawk12 · September 2014

I'll tell a handful of friends and family right away. They are the people who I would want to know if something happened anyways, so there's no harm in sharing the exciting news right away. Everyone else we'll wait till around 13 weeks, or after we have our NT.

jenlynne0624 · September 2014

@mcsarah1104

J14 lurking here. We told our families at Thanksgiving last year too. It was super fun, and an easy way to announce it to everyone at once instead of making 29375 phone calls. Congratulations!

CrazyCoffeeGirl · September 2014

We just found out this morning- I've already told my best friend. I tell her everything. We plan to tell my parents and his next week, I think. The rest of the world will know around 12 weeks or so.

SkyLineLover · September 2014

This is hard for me to answer. I've had a lot of losses, so telling is scary for me. On the other hand, the support I had through them was freaking incredible and I couldn't have gotten through w/o it. So I'm conflicted.

We will tell my parents & in-laws soon, we want them to know. Probably within a few weeks? We may tell our circle of best friends, also. I think everyone else we'll wait until we have a heartbeat.

VirgoT84 · September 2014

We told our parents siblings and best friends the day we found out. I feel like I would want their support if there was a miscarriage. They'd end up finding out either way so we figured why not. We are waiting until 12 weeks for the 'official' announcement for everyone else.

lilmissmaego · September 2014

We also had a loss in May of this year, and we only told our parents initially after the US at 7wks showed and empty sac and we knew we were miscarrying. I told my best friend, and we waited to miscarry. At 12 weeks, we miscarried and then I hemorrhaged and spent 3 nights in the hospital, and it was very lonely! It was difficult to then go back and share with our close friends about everything that had occurred. I agree, it's good to have the support of those close to you.

That being said, I still think we will wait until the first US to tell those closest, and a public announcement at Thanksgiving sounds perfect!

Jtdd · September 2014

With my second baby my husband got excited and posted a picture of the pee stick on fb like 10 minutes after we found out.... I was a little upset... Then quickly got on the phone to call my parents before they heard it through someone else. This time I'm hoping to wait a little bit longer but were horrible secret keepers lol

AngelaPlus3 · September 2014

We actually already have family pictures scheduled for the first week of November. So if we got a BFP this week like I'm hoping then we will take some pictures then to announce and post them mid November.

jlarcilla · September 2014

I told my mom as soon as we found out. Everyone else can wait till 12 weeks. When do you think telling your boss is appropriate ?

benjysgirl · September 2014

We told both sets of parents right away. We are telling our closest forever friends this week. Everyone else will have to wait til we have a heartbeat. I will probably tell my boss within the next 3 weeks cause I'm concerned she will wonder about my "weird" symptoms.

foodie12rn · September 2014

I told my IRL BFF Emily @saltbox40‌ while the pee was still drying. She and I met on the Feb 13 BMB and found out we lived a few minutes away from each other. Our babies were born two days apart. This time around, they'll be within 6 weeks of each other.

I told my parents yesterday. I brought DD over yesterday morning wearing a big sister shirt

they didn't get it at first, but my mom is over the moon to have a second grandchild.

Others who know include my grandparents, sisters, and aunt and uncle. We are a very close knit family, so it didn't make sense to keep anyone out of the loop.

As for the rest of the world, I'm not the best secret keeper. We will try to hold out until our first U/S

SkyLineLover · September 2014

hoping&waiting12 said:

I told my IRL BFF Emily @saltbox40‌ while the pee was still drying. She and I met on the Feb 13 BMB and found out we lived a few minutes away from each other. Our babies were born two days apart. This time around, they'll be within 6 weeks of each other.

Tooooo cool!
I also told my BFF as the stick was drying, haha. I'm super excited because she's also TTC. I hope it happens soon for her, would be neat to have babies close in age.

ElleJDubs · September 2014

You guys are the first to know!!! Lol DH is at work (not allowed to have cell phone). Can't wait till he gets home today! I'll prob tell a few friends soon. I'll wait till we have our first U/S or first hear the heartbeat to tell family. Then sometime after 12 weeks tell everyone!

txngrl31 · September 2014

We told close family, and waiting until 12 weeks to tell every one else. Gosh- I hope I can keep it in! My friends will probably figure out when I don't order a glass of wine during our dinner gatherings hahaha. I am still very nervous about everything though given that it is so early.

clarebear300 · September 2014

I've told my dad, best friend and a couple of other friends... I will probably wait a few more weeks until I tell anyone else

dozin23 · September 2014

I'm nervous to tell anyone bc it's so soon. So much can happen.
I've told my best friend walking out of the dr I just need to get the guts to tell my parents after the heartbeat. Which I believe is when, 6 weeks???

CrazyCupcake52 · September 2014

We won't be telling parents until at least 6 weeks, but we might try to wait a bit longer. Hopefully my mom doesn't catch on before then since we go over to my parents' house every Sunday for dinner.

We will make a Facebook announcement to everyone else once we make it through the first trimester. Or we might do Christmas card announcements. I don't know yet!

MissIntentional · September 2014

I might tell my mom as early as 6 weeks. We will tell other family at thanksgiving I think.

ElleJDubs · September 2014

@CrazyCupcake52‌, DH and I were just talking about possibly announcing through Christmas Cards!

theheartoverflows · September 2014

DH wants to wait until 8-9 weeks or confirmation ultrasound...we'll see if my body lets us wait that long since this is my 5th.

On the other hand, my best friend knows (she randomly asked me, without prompting, if I was pregnant before I even tested or suspected), and my brother knows (he's always been the last to know and he has continually asked if/when I would have another, so I told him), and another friend who is bringing me her winter maternity clothes when she visits on Sunday. They are all sworn to secrecy though and I trust them not to spill the beans.

Ryersynsmom · September 2014

I was so sick w DD that it was hard to keep a secret!! I think I have two weeks before the sickness sets in. You can only have the flu for so long before the gig is up!!! Already told friends.

courtneyleigh90 · September 2014

I haven't told anyone yet, not even my husband. Only because I'm in the very early stages and want to make sure, plus he's already told me he won't keep it a secret when he finds out. I've decided to wait until about 9 weeks (I'm 4 right now) because were having an extended family photoshoot and I think that'd be a good time to tell everyone. (Of course he would know like the day or two before)

PinkRoses53 · September 2014

Probably around 8-9 weeks. I want to wait for a successful ultrasound and hopefully after I find the heartbeat with my doppler at home.

PinkRoses53 · September 2014

courtneyleigh90 said:

I haven't told anyone yet, not even my husband. Only because I'm in the very early stages and want to make sure, plus he's already told me he won't keep it a secret when he finds out. I've decided to wait until about 9 weeks (I'm 4 right now) because were having an extended family photoshoot and I think that'd be a good time to tell everyone. (Of course he would know like the day or two before)

Your are keeping it from your husband for 9 weeks?!? Have you talked about this before? I feel like mine would be mad. I kept it from him for 3 days with my son bc I was out of town and wanted to tell him in person and he was surprised I didnt tell him earlier

SkyLineLover · September 2014

PinkRoses53 said:

courtneyleigh90 said:

I haven't told anyone yet, not even my husband. Only because I'm in the very early stages and want to make sure, plus he's already told me he won't keep it a secret when he finds out. I've decided to wait until about 9 weeks (I'm 4 right now) because were having an extended family photoshoot and I think that'd be a good time to tell everyone. (Of course he would know like the day or two before)

Your are keeping it from your husband for 9 weeks?!? Have you talked about this before? I feel like mine would be mad. I kept it from him for 3 days with my son bc I was out of town and wanted to tell him in person and he was surprised I didnt tell him earlier

Yeah say whhhhhaaaaat?
My H would be freaking pissed if I did this.
"you're at the early stages and want to be sure.." ... for the general public, yeah. From your husband? So what if you do have a miscarriage- hypothetically speaking? Do you keep this from him, too? Or then tell him after the fact that you were pregnant?
I just can't wrap this around my head. Tell your husband. He deserves to know.

courtneyleigh90 · September 2014

@SkyLineLover‌ @PinkRoses53‌ We've talked about it before and he said that if I told him, he wouldn't be able to keep it a secret, so until we were ready to tell everyone, not to tell him. I'm not a horrible person for doing that or pulling it out of nowhere. This was something that we had already discussed and decided on. That's fine that you ladies don't understand and can't wrap your head around it. I was just answering her question and didn't expect to get bombarded like that.

SkyLineLover · September 2014

courtneyleigh90 said:

@SkyLineLover‌ @PinkRoses53‌ We've talked about it before and he said that if I told him, he wouldn't be able to keep it a secret, so until we were ready to tell everyone, not to tell him. I'm not a horrible person for doing that or pulling it out of nowhere. This was something that we had already discussed and decided on. That's fine that you ladies don't understand and can't wrap your head around it. I was just answering her question and didn't expect to get bombarded like that.

No one bombarded you.
Hey, if you talked about it beforehand.... whatever floats your boat. I just don't know anyone who would do this. I would be sad if I had to celebrate my pregnancy in my own head and couldn't share it with my husband. So would he. I guess I just feel that's something that should be shared together. I also feel like your H is an adult and should be able to keep a secret. But again, whatever floats your boat

getnauti · September 2014

My birthday is at the end of next month so I think we'll tell close friends and family then. 12 weeks for everyone else. @courtneyleigh90 it makes a little more sense when you explain it further. I'm not surprised people thought it was strange at first though.

ETA: words

PinkRoses53 · September 2014

courtneyleigh90 said:

@SkyLineLover‌ @PinkRoses53‌ We've talked about it before and he said that if I told him, he wouldn't be able to keep it a secret, so until we were ready to tell everyone, not to tell him. I'm not a horrible person for doing that or pulling it out of nowhere. This was something that we had already discussed and decided on. That's fine that you ladies don't understand and can't wrap your head around it. I was just answering her question and didn't expect to get bombarded like that.

@courtneyleigh90 I definitely didnt mean to bombard you or imply you are a horrible person. I've just never heard of anyone doing that before. You didnt specify that this is something you'd already agreed upon so I was just curious.

I bet he will start suspecting earlier, though!

SkyLineLover · September 2014

PinkRoses53 said:

I bet he will start suspecting earlier, though!

I agree with this. SO much can change when you're pregnant.. early on. Silly things you may not even think of- that if he's observant, he will notice (like my nipple color gets darker). My sex drive changes. My eating habits change. I gag a lot. Morning sickness, etc etc. I just think all that would be hard to hide.

foodie12rn · September 2014

I can't imagine keeping it from MH for that long. You must have incredible willpower @courtneyleigh90‌ ! I planned to tell him I was pregnant in a special way, BOTH times, but I basically ran out of the bathroom and showed him my pee stick! Ha

mrscampos4life · September 2014

I tested yesterday, and haven't told him yet... Trying to figure out a cute way to surprise him.

Mom already knows but she won't tell. I'll wait to tell my in-laws, they'll tell everyone!

clarebear300 · September 2014

Well I actually heard a weird thing on the radio here in Australia the other day! A lady rang up the radio station to tell her husband live on air that she was pregnant...she was three months pregnant! They were saying why haven't you told him? Do you think he won't be happy? And she was like oh no he will be really excited! I couldn't imagine not saying anything for three whole months... She had no reason for not telling him hahahhaha

adore1 · September 2014

Glad to hear I'm not the only one who had to blab to a few people the second day we knew!

kmleon83 · September 2014

Hubby was ready to tell everyone yesterday after I told him but I want to wait until after the first appt at least! But I'm trying to come up with a really creative way to tell my family..my grandmother will still be in town on Thanksgiving so I'm thinking to tell my parents, siblings and grandma then..there's never really another time everyone's all together. It's going to be so hard to keep it a secret though! I'm itching to tell!

missmarypoppins · September 2014

@courtneyleigh90‌ I know you explained it but I'm still amazed at not telling DH till 9 weeks. So that means he won't come with you to hear the first heartbeat? What if you have awful MS, won't he know what's up? Would you just say you have the flu?

kmleon83 · September 2014

clarebear300 said:

Well I actually heard a weird thing on the radio here in Australia the other day! A lady rang up the radio station to tell her husband live on air that she was pregnant...she was three months pregnant! They were saying why haven't you told him? Do you think he won't be happy? And she was like oh no he will be really excited! I couldn't imagine not saying anything for three whole months... She had no reason for not telling him hahahhaha

geez! it killed me not telling hubby for 8 hours; don't know how i'd keep it from him for 3 months! lol

taz2011 · September 2014

I worked from home the day I decided to take a test and had the stick waiting for when my husband walked in to find it. I can't keep a secret so didn't have time to be creative and I also told my best friend the next day because we want to be pregnant together and I needed to tell someone besides my husband. We're struggling with when to tell everyone else - I want our parents to know but don't trust them to keep the secret until we're ready so it might be a thanksgiving reveal since the timing is right. I really want to tell my mom but my dad already told me he'd be too excited and tell everyone so I feel like I have to keep it in until November.

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