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Separation anxiety to the max!!

cozybluebearcozybluebear member
in October 2014 Moms
Since the day I found out I was pregnant, I've been dealing with the anxiety of having to leave my son. I'm a SAHM and have never been away from him for more than a few hours. He'll be staying with my Mom which is comforting... she knows our routine pretty well. My biggest fear is having c section and having to be away from him for 3 days opposed to one. Deep down I know he'll be fine and that this is more of my problem, not his!
Well, I don't know if anyone has been following this FBI manhunt on the "cop sniper" in Pennsylvania but it's happening HERE! We aren't allowed to leave our houses and are being told to stay away from windows and doors. We live in a very rural area in the middle of the woods which makes it scary enough but I'm having a baby in less than 2 weeks! My anxiety has doubled... not only am I leaving my son, but I'm leaving him with a killer on the loose. My induction (due to HBP and mild pre eclampsia) was scheduled for next week but I convinced my doctor to push it out one more week. Praying they catch this coward so it eases my mind just a little.
Doed anyone have advice on how to deal with the anxiety of leaving your little ones?
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Re: Separation anxiety to the max!!

  • cozybluebearcozybluebear member
    Talkativ15 said:

    I don't... I am sorry your going thru this though. I had to leave dd for 2 days in march unexpectedly for a hospitalization and it wasn't as bad as I thought. I know that as mothers we know we are the best child care providers for our babies but a few days with someone else isn't going to mess up your ds and I know deep down you know that as well ;) just make sure someone can take him up to visit you and call your mom just to say I love you to him :) good luck!

    I made it clear to my Mom and husband that I don't want him at the hospital. The thought of him seeing me for a short period of time and then being ripped away from me crying and confused just devastates me. I think he'll be better off staying busy at home with my Mom. Once we are home and settled, she's going to bring him home. I don't even think he'll be allowed in the hoslital... 12 and under isn't allowed during flu season. I made it very clear to my doctor that I want out ASAP!

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  • ashie0610ashie0610 member
    My mom will be staying here with my son when we deliver, which she does semi-regularly for date nights and such. I work full time so I am not experiencing the same anxiety as you in that regard, but I'm sorry you're dealing with this and think PPs have offered good advice! I agree it would probably be less shocking for your son if he can meet the new baby in the hospital, if possible.

    I'm not too far from the Poconos and am slightly freaked about the survivalist killer on the loose too! We aren't as close as you from the sounds of it, but the local high schools started practicing lockdown drills this week just in case. So scary! I hope they catch the jerk soon.
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  • persephonerosepersephonerose member
    I had some major fears on leaving DS1 for the RCS for the twins. However, my stint in L&D showed that DS1 wasn't really bothered by me not being there at all!

    DH brought him up to the hospital each day, but DS1 never cried for me at home, and when he visited at the hospital he was more interested in all the new stuff to play with than snuggling me!

    DH did say he would walk around and look for me while saying mama a little bit but then would go back to playing.  
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  • BreandMikeweddingBreandMikewedding member
    My Dd was 8 when I had ds so it wasn't as hard for her. Ds has started crying if I even get out of the car to run in a store or pump gas. He has become a momma's boy. I am going to have him visit me in the hospital as much as possible so that he knows he can see me any time. My mil is going to stay with him and he hasn't seen her in almost two years but talks to her on the phone all the time.

    I don't have any advice on the sniper situation. Sorry!
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