I am saying if someone posted and you don't have anything nice to say, just leave it be. Ignoring is another way of doing it rather than throwing rather hurtful words. Let other new mums to be read it and share the experience with her. Don't be mean. I am not judging you. If I feel it doesn't have anything to do with me, I won't reply to a post. Be nice, we are all on the same boat here.
Yeah, no. We don't need some avatar-less white knight to come in and tell us how to behave.
Alright guys. I'm sorry I offended you all by posting this I guess. I am a FTM here and I was having a hard time with all of the people commenting on how I look five months pregnant. My stomach does feel boulderish and my OB told me last week that she already felt my uterus going above my pelvis. I thought these were here so we could voice our opinions, worries, and excitements with our pregnancies. All of you second, third, fourth time moms out there were first time moms at one time too and this was all new to you as well. I wasn't being insulting to larger women because guess what?! I was not a toothpick. Whatever maybe it is bloat, even so you guys are supposed to be here to be supportive not negative ass holes.
We are not here for your support and you are the one who has resorted to name calling.
I was under the impression that this group was for supporting each other through our pregnancies and giving advice? Have I misunderstood? Is it just for starting arguements and upsetting people?
Alright guys. I'm sorry I offended you all by posting this I guess. I am a FTM here and I was having a hard time with all of the people commenting on how I look five months pregnant. My stomach does feel boulderish and my OB told me last week that she already felt my uterus going above my pelvis. I thought these were here so we could voice our opinions, worries, and excitements with our pregnancies. All of you second, third, fourth time moms out there were first time moms at one time too and this was all new to you as well. I wasn't being insulting to larger women because guess what?! I was not a toothpick. Whatever maybe it is bloat, even so you guys are supposed to be here to be supportive not negative ass holes.
We are not here for your support and you are the one who has resorted to name calling.
I was under the impression that this group was for supporting each other through our pregnancies and giving advice? Have I misunderstood? Is it just for starting arguements and upsetting people?
By the end of our pregnancies this will be the most supportive group of women. You will build lasting ties. But not for those who only post and reply to their own thread. Someone who isn't going to take the time to read what others have to say and are going through is not going to get support from anyone. If someone cannot be bothered to take a few minutes to scan the boards, see what is going on, look at the other posts, then this isn't the place for them. If their first instinct is to just post whatever question they want because this is the internet and I can do what I want and expect others to drop everything they are doing to answer the same question that has already been asked multiple times that day, this is not the place for them (holy run on sentence, sorry.)
When I first joined and was lurking, I would think "why are they all hashing it out on this poor girl/lady who is just looking for information" I didn't see the big deal. Now that I have been here a couple of weeks and see how many random new comers just randomly post their thoughts..each.and.every day, I totally get it now.
If you are here to stay and be a supportive member, you get amazing support in return. These ladies are actually quite amazing and a lot can be learned from them. You just have to put forth the time and effort.
I think it is totally possible to be showing already, this is my 7th pregnancy no babies yet and I already feel like I am showing I am only 8 1/2 weeks. My doctor told me that because of my tilted uterus I am showing sooner. My doctor did also say that every pregnancy is different and at 11 weeks you can def start to show!(:
I am saying if someone posted and you don't have anything nice to say, just leave it be. Ignoring is another way of doing it rather than throwing rather hurtful words. Let other new mums to be read it and share the experience with her. Don't be mean. I am not judging you. If I feel it doesn't have anything to do with me, I won't reply to a post. Be nice, we are all on the same boat here.
You shouldn't feel the need to apologize. I read these posts and it makes me feel so bad for you. You're a FTM and you're excited. I think a lot of these women have forgotten how that feels. Also, there are some women on here that will offer support and give advice without the smart ass sarcasm.
Wow...you ladies really make some FTMs feel like crap for not knowing the rules of the bump posts. How about if you see yet another of them, you don't comment on it and keep moving??! This is supposed to be a place to share experiences and support one another, not be the coolest kid on the bump board.
Wow...you ladies really make some FTMs feel like crap for not knowing the rules of the bump posts. How about if you see yet another of them, you don't comment on it and keep moving??! This is supposed to be a place to share experiences and support one another, not be the coolest kid on the bump board.
This has nothing to do with FTM/STM thing. It has everything to do with common sense and over all social skills. You really must not have read any of this thread or any other thread on this board. I can't fathom that you did and still feel this way.
Unintelligent is the last thing that I am. What I am is a 29 year old that has been through 2 ectopic pregnancies and surgeries removing both tubes and miscarriages to finally get pregnant through a long process of IVF. I'm amazed that people like you exist, trolling through boards and responding with the purpose of making people feel stupid. I hope my future child never meets an offspring of yours, and I'm happy I can delete this app off my phone to never deal with your sorry ass again. Good luck. My shirt will stay nice and raised as I stay happy through this journey while you pass your bitterness and boredom onto your own family.
I'll do you the favor and leave, so you can be with the rest of the mean girls.
Here we go with the intellegence bit, I don't live my life online, why don't you look up troll and see what else it can mean. Thanks for the lesson though.
This special snowflake is aware it's a website, but one I do not go to anyplace but my phone, so I will delete it and therefore not participate. Thanks for the good times.
Okay...so I have now taken the time to read over posts and have seen how many posts in general there are daily. Be Aware that all of this looks quite different on an iPhone app than a computer. I see where the redundancy can cause frustration but was taken back with the amount of negative posts flooding such a harmless post to begin with. I think my responses have shown me my emotions are a little whacko and I apologize for any offense I did cause. Whether you welcome me in or not is not my purpose here....but want to clear the air and live positively. We are all entitled to our opinions and must be patient and understanding. I don't need an abundance of responses here, just a simple message I hope to get out.
I have said what I need to, and am more genuine than can be expressed. It seems more fun to continue the insults on me for some than to accept an apology and that's fine, but I had to try. Good luck to you all. Thanks to those who were willing to see it as I intended and not jump on taking me down.
I am the same way. I'm usually a small girl so everyone is telling me they can't believe I'm showing already. My clothes do not fit and my belly is out there. Lol I'm 12weeks today.
I'm only 8 weeks and you can clearly see a bump. my friend is 14 weeks and you can't even tell looks like she just gained weight! my boobs also tripled in size!! so I'm thinking it's completely normal cause like you sai every body is different!!
I'm only 8 weeks and you can clearly see a bump. my friend is 14 weeks and you can't even tell looks like she just gained weight! my boobs also tripled in size!! so I'm thinking it's completely normal cause like you sai every body is different!!
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I was under the impression that this group was for supporting each other through our pregnancies and giving advice? Have I misunderstood? Is it just for starting arguements and upsetting people?
When I first joined and was lurking, I would think "why are they all hashing it out on this poor girl/lady who is just looking for information" I didn't see the big deal. Now that I have been here a couple of weeks and see how many random new comers just randomly post their thoughts..each.and.every day, I totally get it now.
If you are here to stay and be a supportive member, you get amazing support in return. These ladies are actually quite amazing and a lot can be learned from them. You just have to put forth the time and effort.
BFP: 08.11.14 EDD: 04.11.15
BFP 3: 10/26/16//EDD: 7/2/17
BFP 3: 10/26/16//EDD: 7/2/17
BFP 3: 10/26/16//EDD: 7/2/17
BFP 3: 10/26/16//EDD: 7/2/17
I'll do you the favor and leave, so you can be with the rest of the mean girls.
November Siggy Challenge: Selfie Fails
Hidden for the sake of your eyes!
November Siggy Challenge: Selfie Fails
Hidden for the sake of your eyes!
November Siggy Challenge: Selfie Fails
Hidden for the sake of your eyes!
*Loved* the Bohemian Rhapsody. You ladies kick ass. End of story.
Oh, but also a big side eye to the WK(s).......
BFP 3: 10/26/16//EDD: 7/2/17