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March 2015 Moms
Breast feeding without a cover at back to school night -oh my!
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Re: Breast feeding without a cover at back to school night -oh my!
Keep your two cents. And read the damn thread before posting shit that's already been addressed. Have you ever breastfed? No? So don't come up with solutions to things you know nothing about.
F15 Siggy Challenge: What You're Looking Forward to Most After Baby Arrives: BELLY SLEEPING!
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My response would be "oh good, I'll just delete you then."
You see more watching tv on a freaking weeknight. In fact, if we're going to compare dogs to human babies, tell a female dog with suckling puppies to cover up because THE INDECENCY. Or better yet, get her a pump. Get over itttttt.
In my opinion, I believe that you should be able to breastfeed your child wherever you feel comfortable. However, I do feel like it is "polite" or "courtesy" to try and use a cover when you can. BUT in this case, at a back to school night, if kids are present, I would either excuse myself to somewhere private or make sure I had a cover. I've never breastfed as this will be my first child, but most women I know who have breastfed, make it a point to cover up in public. again I just feel it's common courtesy, and I don't really want random men staring at my nipples anyway. When you're home, at a family/friend's or what not, who cares, do what makes you comfortable. But in public, especially around children, I think it's best to try to cover what you can. If it can't be helped, so be it. I just really have a thing about being exposed in front of children. I used to be embarrassed/uncomfortable when my own mother would breastfeed my 3 siblings, so I just feel it would be uncomfortable as a kid to witness a strangers breast.
My child's need to eat trumps being "courteous" to the public. And if you want to teach your children that breasts are private, sexual things then go right ahead. But I will feed my child as I wish and you can explain it to your child. I, personally, would be much more concerned with other things my child could come across than a mother feeding her child.
Dude I was gonna say this but just didn't know how to word it. These sound like the same people who blame a victim of sexual harassment for not being "properly covered." Before anyone gets butthurt I'm not saying they ARE- but they have the same mindset. As long as the law says I can breastfeed my child in public, I don't give a shit about anyone's "comfortability." Quit staring at my tits if you're so uncomfortable.
And to echo someone above if the worst thing my kid sees is a woman feeding their child then I'll be damn thankful.
1) Breastfeeding =/= "whipping out your tits" or "parading your boobs around."
2) Pumping is hard as hell. I had to do it to work and bf dd, and it was the most difficult thing ever. Building up my freezer supply, I was home alone with her and had to set her down in a seat or swing near me while I pumped. She screamed the whole time and I felt like a shitty mother for not being able to pick her up. But I couldn't just not pump, because I had to get a supply ready for when I did go back to work. Once at work, all my breaks were dedicated to pumping. Even my lunch break was spent sitting hooked up to a pump while eating my sandwich. There is no way in hell I would waste that milk to pacify someone else's sense of decency when I could perfectly well bf my baby instead.
3) It's not my responsibility to make other people feel comfortable while I'm feeding my child. It is my responsibility to make sure my child is fed and cared for. Fuck off if you don't like that.
4) The criticism of the child in the op for being androgynous was totally offensive. Probably the mom was aiming for a gender neutral upbringing until her child made his preferences known. Maybe he already simply prefers to appear androgynous. Using that as a reason to strengthen an argument against breastfeeding is stupid. (I wrote stupid because I can't think of a concise or tou appropriate way to say what I really want to say.)
5) So many other thoughts. But I've already crossed into tldr territory here. So I'll end with this: even though I don't post here a whole lot, I read a lot, and I love that the majority of the women on this board are as smart and witty and strong willed as they are. Everytime I want to bitch someone out for being ignorant, 20 of you have beaten me to it. Because you rock.
TL;DR:
Breast feeding is nothing to hide, pumping sucks, judging an androgynous 5 year old sucks, and I PPH the majority of the March15 moms.
What it means. It means you just talked shit about people across the board. The nice ones, mean ones, and everyone in between. You should probably apologize. That is if you are woman enough.