Let's talk clothes

Andrewsgal · September 2014

notkateanymore said:

You are such an asshole @amy052006‌

that was unnecessary.

HBirdie · September 2014

jesselayne8 said:

I probably spend $200 a month for both kids. I shop GAP during their 40% off the whole store days but I also buy stuff off zulily. I have a no more than $30/ per outfit rule otherwise I would go nuts. I did consignment sales when my daughter was a baby but toddler/preschool stuff is so worn out. I get no hand me downs for DD but my DS gets some from my nephew. Edit: my kids grow so slow. Their winter coats from last year still fit and all of DD's shoes and pants from last year still fit.

Hold. The. Phone. Did you mean that? Or $200/yr??

I am obviously in the minority here but I am just SMH at how much people are willing to pay for kids' clothes. Also, you (general) are asking how in the world people are getting away with spending $100 a year and then turning up your nose at garage sale/consignment clothes? Well okay then.

I'm not telling anyone how to spend their money but I'm certainly not going to waste mine buying my special little snowflake all brand new clothes for the next 18 years. Some, sure, but not all of them. Consignment stores around here are rad- they have awesome an awesome selection and it's easy to get credit for bringing in stuff C doesn't wear/fit into anymore.

Andrewsgal · September 2014

HBirdie said:

jesselayne8 said:

I probably spend $200 a month for both kids. I shop GAP during their 40% off the whole store days but I also buy stuff off zulily. I have a no more than $30/ per outfit rule otherwise I would go nuts. I did consignment sales when my daughter was a baby but toddler/preschool stuff is so worn out. I get no hand me downs for DD but my DS gets some from my nephew.

Edit: my kids grow so slow. Their winter coats from last year still fit and all of DD's shoes and pants from last year still fit.

Hold. The. Phone. Did you mean that? Or $200/yr??

I am obviously in the minority here but I am just SMH at how much people are willing to pay for kids' clothes. Also, you (general) are asking how in the world people are getting away with spending $100 a year and then turning up your nose at garage sale/consignment clothes? Well okay then.

I'm not telling anyone how to spend their money but I'm certainly not going to waste mine buying my special little snowflake all brand new clothes for the next 18 years. Some, sure, but not all of them. Consignment stores around here are rad- they have awesome an awesome selection and it's easy to get credit for bringing in stuff C doesn't wear/fit into anymore.

I knew it was coming. This is a super bitchy response. I easily spend $200 a month on clothes. Why do you care? FWIW as your kids get older you will more than likely have to buy them new clothes there are very few clothes in my kids sizes at consignment stores. Look at it this way. My love of shopping and dressing my kids cute benefits you when you buy our barely used clothes from consignment stores.

Andrewsgal · September 2014

Oh and I don't consider cute clothes a waste of money so there is that.

HBirdie · September 2014

Andrewsgal said:

jesselayne8 said:

I probably spend $200 a month for both kids. I shop GAP during their 40% off the whole store days but I also buy stuff off zulily. I have a no more than $30/ per outfit rule otherwise I would go nuts. I did consignment sales when my daughter was a baby but toddler/preschool stuff is so worn out. I get no hand me downs for DD but my DS gets some from my nephew. Edit: my kids grow so slow. Their winter coats from last year still fit and all of DD's shoes and pants from last year still fit.

Hold. The. Phone. Did you mean that? Or $200/yr??

I am obviously in the minority here but I am just SMH at how much people are willing to pay for kids' clothes. Also, you (general) are asking how in the world people are getting away with spending $100 a year and then turning up your nose at garage sale/consignment clothes? Well okay then.

I'm not telling anyone how to spend their money but I'm certainly not going to waste mine buying my special little snowflake all brand new clothes for the next 18 years. Some, sure, but not all of them. Consignment stores around here are rad- they have awesome an awesome selection and it's easy to get credit for bringing in stuff C doesn't wear/fit into anymore.
I knew it was coming. This is a super bitchy response. I easily spend $200 a month on clothes. Why do you care? FWIW as your kids get older you will more than likely have to buy them new clothes there are very few clothes in my kids sizes at consignment stores. Look at it this way. My love of shopping and dressing my kids cute benefits you when you buy our barely used clothes from consignment stores.

Haha okay. As I already said, I'm not telling anyone how to spend their money. I fully accept that what seems like a waste to me is not a waste to someone else.

My feelings on this subject are highly colored by my childhood. We were always poor growing up, always. It's a mindset that's hard to escape, honestly. We wore hand me downs all the time. We got one new outfit a YEAR. One. That was it. And it was from Wal-Mart or Target. Our sneakers cost less than $30, and we wore them until they were falling apart. So it irritates me to see people say that their child can't possibly live without so much new stuff every year. They could, actually, you just don't want them to. And that's totally fine. I don't care what you dress your kid in. But you can't possibly fail to see how that's an entitled attitude.

HBirdie · September 2014

I'm neither offended nor calling anyone entitled. Nor am I trying to play pain olympics with my anecdote about growing up poor. I'm trying to explain my viewpoint.

But yeah, I think pretending that your child can't possibly get by with less than hundreds of dollars worth of shoes and clothes every year is an entitled attitude.

Andrewsgal · September 2014

WTF you are an idiot no one said their kid needed $100 shoes way to spin words to fit your asinine pain Olympic crap. Please explain to me how buying my kid $100s of dollars of clothes makes me entitled? Now we can't spend our money the way we want because it makes us entitled? I don't think you know what that word means.

HBirdie · September 2014

diapersnwipes said:

As I said up thread, I grew up poor too BUT my mom always made it a priority to get us a few nice things a year. We never went to thrift stores. We never had thousand of dollars worth of new clothes but we had enough. My mom made cuts with food. We rarely had treats, she cooked all our meals, turned a whole chicken into 3 meals. That was her way of cutting back. When my kids grow out of their clothes we give them to friends or the goodwill. It benefits someone after us. It's wasteful if I was buying new clothes and then throw them in the trash. That's not the case.

Similarly, we almost always had new shoes (when we wore our old ones out) and as I said, we got a new outfit every year.

I'm just annoyed that there are so many people saying, "HOW can someone possibly outfit their kids for $100/yr.?!?" and then justifying not shopping at garage sales/consignment stores. Look, I don't care when you buy your kids' clothes. Go buy them all at GAP kids for outrageous prices. I really couldn't care less. But then it's not a wonder that you're spending $1000 a year on clothes. And then saying, "EW, BEDBUGS" about secondhand clothes is just ridiculous.

I don't even know why I'm arguing this. My kid gets new clothes, consigned clothes, thrift store clothes, hand me downs, and gifts. So whatever.

HBirdie · September 2014

Andrewsgal said: WTF you are an idiot no one said their kid needed $100 shoes way to spin words to fit your asinine pain Olympic crap. Please explain to me how buying my kid $100s of dollars of clothes makes me entitled? Now we can't spend our money the way we want because it makes us entitled? I don't think you know what that word means. ----------------------endquote

Are YOU an idiot? Because what I actually said was "hundreds of dollars worth of shoes and clothes." I've said it once, and I'll say it again, spend your money on whatever the hell you want. That is completely your prerogative. And I'm sorry, perhaps what I meant to say was privileged.

Andrewsgal · September 2014

Got that people gap+new shoes=entitled brats

HBirdie · September 2014

Andrewsgal said:

Got that people gap+new shoes=entitled brats

Yes, but I'm the one twisting words to assert my asinine opinion.

chardonnay24 · September 2014

I couldn't do it, but I have expensive tastes. I spent more than $200 on his outerwear and shoes alone, and everything was on sale. I do buy some stuff used on BST pages on Facebook.

I spent $50 at Carter's over Labor Day (50% off plus 20% off plus free shipping) and only got 4 outfits for the baby and a hat and gloves set for the kiddo.

Andrewsgal · September 2014

This is so the Christmas argument all over we need a BINGO card for this.

Andrewsgal · September 2014

I would never spend that much-BINGO
I don't want to raise entitled brats-BINGO
I grew up poor and all we got was underwear-BINGO

HBirdie · September 2014

Andrewsgal said:

I would never spend that much-BINGO I don't want to raise entitled brats-BINGO I grew up poor and all we got was underwear-BINGO

One out of three

HBirdie · September 2014

nowababy said:

Look, I think @HBirdie has a valid point in there somewhere. I spend what I consider to be a lot on my kids clothes. I like clothes. I like shopping. I don't like to shop second hand. But, I recognize all of that as a privilege. I'm not sure what the point would be in not spending that money on clothes unless I was going to donate all the money to charity instead. But I guess I'm too selfish for that.

But anyway, HBirdie, I think you misunderstood. I don't think anyone was wondering how they were spending thousands of dollars on clothes and looking for advice on how to cut back. I think it's pretty obvious how they're spending that much and I think they're okay with that level of spending. They weren't trying to spend less. Just curious how others spend less maybe? Though, I suppose the answer is obvious...

That's true, maybe I did misunderstand. I guess it just rubbed me the wrong way that the OP was like, "HOW do you possibly do this?" and then when people explained exactly how, they got crapped on. Like, really, shopping at a garage sale means bedbugs? 8-|

Andrewsgal · September 2014

I am not anti garage sales but true story a lady in our neighborhood bought a couch with bed bugs from a FB BST site.

olivegoose said:

Andrewsgal said:
I would never spend that much-BINGO
I don't want to raise entitled brats-BINGO
I grew up poor and all we got was underwear-BINGO
Someone getting butthurt over being called entitled - BINGO

Yes because calling someone entitled isn't totally bitchy.

kcisthebombdotcom · September 2014

There is definitely a holier than thou vibe from some here (please note not all) about having name brand expensive clothes and turning their noses up at people who have to/choose to buy used.

Andrewsgal · September 2014

I get the same holier vibe from the I would never waste my money people.

kcisthebombdotcom · September 2014

Andrewsgal said:

I get the same holier vibe from the I would never waste my money people.

I think it's probably because they felt judged first. Shit, Amy's first comment alone was shoes under $50 are unacceptable.

HBirdie · September 2014

Andrewsgal said:

I get the same holier vibe from the I would never waste my money people.

Really? That honestly wasn't my intention. I don't think I'm somehow better than you because I spend my money on things other than new clothes for my kids. Sorry, honestly. I'm more just baffled that someone spends $200/month on kid clothes. It's not a judgment, just a... bewilderment.

Andrewsgal · September 2014

olivegoose said:

Andrewsgal said:
I am not anti garage sales but true story a lady in our neighborhood bought a couch with bed bugs from a FB BST site.
olivegoose said:

Andrewsgal said:
I would never spend that much-BINGO
I don't want to raise entitled brats-BINGO
I grew up poor and all we got was underwear-BINGO
Someone getting butthurt over being called entitled - BINGO
Yes because calling someone entitled isn't totally bitchy.
And you're totally not being bitchy right now either, right?

Oh I own it. Tell me again why you had to insert yourself into this particular argument between birdie and I? She was doing just fine on her own. WK is fun!

fancynewbeesly · September 2014

I am a pj-aholic. We do a lot of hand me downs, and VERY generous grandparents but I seriously can't resist pjs. I have problems.

And I think Reese unfortunately is picking up on it. She won't sleep in regular t-shirts, oversized shirts because they aren't pajamas. Also they have to match. Or be a night gown.

Andrewsgal · September 2014

HBirdie said:

Andrewsgal said:

I get the same holier vibe from the I would never waste my money people.

Really? That honestly wasn't my intention. I don't think I'm somehow better than you because I spend my money on things other than new clothes for my kids. Sorry, honestly. I'm more just baffled that someone spends $200/month on kid clothes. It's not a judgment, just a... bewilderment.

If I break it down it is $70 a kid which
Is $840 a year so $120 a season. That seems pretty reasonable.

Andrewsgal · September 2014

olivegoose said:

Andrewsgal said:

olivegoose said:

Andrewsgal said:
I am not anti garage sales but true story a lady in our neighborhood bought a couch with bed bugs from a FB BST site.
olivegoose said:

Andrewsgal said:
I would never spend that much-BINGO
I don't want to raise entitled brats-BINGO
I grew up poor and all we got was underwear-BINGO
Someone getting butthurt over being called entitled - BINGO
Yes because calling someone entitled isn't totally bitchy.
And you're totally not being bitchy right now either, right?
Oh I own it. Tell me again why you had to insert yourself into this particular argument between birdie and I? She was doing just fine on her own. WK is fun!
Are we going to have a discussion about who is allowed to comment on what now?

Never said you couldn't comment but WK is lame.

kcisthebombdotcom · September 2014

AG is the WK police. Lol.

HBirdie · September 2014

If she were my WK, I'd be passive aggressively love titting all of her comments. duh.

Andrewsgal · September 2014

olivegoose said:
I'm not WKing anyone. Your comments bothered me, so I said so. She doesn't need my help.

Okay /:)

Andrewsgal · September 2014

HBirdie said:
If she were my WK, I'd be passive aggressively love titting all of her comments. duh.

Hav is that you?

HBirdie · September 2014

Andrewsgal said:

If she were my WK, I'd be passive aggressively love titting all of her comments. duh.
Hav is that you?

Calling random people Hav because they annoy you or disagree with you? BINGO!

Andrewsgal · September 2014

HBirdie said:

Andrewsgal said:

HBirdie said:
If she were my WK, I'd be passive aggressively love titting all of her comments. duh.
Hav is that you?

Calling random people Hav because they annoy you or disagree with you? BINGO!
Or calling people hav because you were talking about passive aggressive love titting. You totally missed it. You are wound up tight around this one.

Andrewsgal · September 2014

Who knew not liking used clothes upset so many people?

HBirdie · September 2014

I'm not wound up or upset, honestly, I'm laughing. You seem to have a chip on your shoulder, not me. And I didn't miss it, I'm the one who made the PA Hav joke in the first place.

Andrewsgal · September 2014

HBirdie said:
I'm not wound up or upset, honestly, I'm laughing. You seem to have a chip on your shoulder, not me. And I didn't miss it, I'm the one who made the PA Hav joke in the first place.

You obviously missed the hav joke. Anyway I was not the one calling everyone entitled.

HBirdie · September 2014

diapersnwipes said:

Who knew not liking used clothes upset so many people?
I'm blown away. I didn't realize there were so many people that thrift shop just because. I always thought people shopped there because they had to. Learn something new every day. **not being snarky**

You can find some cool stuff in thrift stores. Just sayin.

HBirdie · September 2014

Andrewsgal said:

I'm not wound up or upset, honestly, I'm laughing. You seem to have a chip on your shoulder, not me. And I didn't miss it, I'm the one who made the PA Hav joke in the first place.
You obviously missed the hav joke. Anyway I was not the one calling everyone entitled.

I was referring to Hav in my comment about passive aggressive love titting. So yeah, didn't miss anything. Thanks. And I love how you're patting yourself on the back for weeding out the crazies in this thread. Are you referring to me? I'm neither crazy nor am I new here.

Andrewsgal · September 2014

HBirdie said:

Andrewsgal said:

HBirdie said:
I'm not wound up or upset, honestly, I'm laughing. You seem to have a chip on your shoulder, not me. And I didn't miss it, I'm the one who made the PA Hav joke in the first place.
You obviously missed the hav joke. Anyway I was not the one calling everyone entitled.

I was referring to Hav in my comment about passive aggressive love titting. So yeah, didn't miss anything. Thanks. And I love how you're patting yourself on the back for weeding out the crazies in this thread. Are you referring to me? I'm neither crazy nor am I new here.

Hmmm was I talking about you? You sure think a lot of yourself

Andrewsgal · September 2014

CnAmom said:
I shop at The Gap and I'm cheap. Can I be cheap AND entitled?

Fuck I don't know. I mean I guess. I
So confused. I don't shop at the gap therefore I am not entitled.

fancynewbeesly · September 2014

iheartthe80s said:

I'm a pj person too. I feel like it's the one thing I can continually purchase and say "well, we need all sorts…shorties, long pants, sleeveless…."

The weather fluctuates here! No one can be cold/hot/tepid.

And being in the hospital + house arrest at home fueled the fire. Well, of course you need 30 pairs of pj's because we may be in the hospital that long and even though there is a washer/dryer there who knows when I will get to use it and I may not feel like doing laundry that day so give her all the pj's--because you have to be comfortable there.

Holy hell, run on sentence!

HBirdie · September 2014

diapersnwipes said:

I shop at The Gap and I'm cheap. Can I be cheap AND entitled?
I dislike gap for kid clothes. I'll go put myself on a post it.

I dislike paying $14 for a "clearance" onesie. haha

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