Venting

CraftonKirkpatrick · September 2014

My husband works for his father company, they have a job that is 4 hours away from home they need to send people on. He declined to go because of me being 37 weeks pregnant. Well today his father (boss) tells him its not an option he needs to go and it is a week long job! I will be home by myself 45 minutes from the hospital and now my husband will be gone! I have been going through contractions already and she has dropped so could come anytime. I realize he should not get special treatment for working for his father, but come on! I could go anyday!!!!!!!! [-X

rlyttle · September 2014

I understand your frustration, but more than likely you will not go in to labor this week. If you do, just make sure you have a plan. That will ease your mind. He needs to keep his phone on him at all times. Even at 4 hours away he would probably not miss the birth. Just try to get through the week and relax. It will all work out. Hang in there Momma!!

angeltennis3 · September 2014

Eh, I would still be ticked off as well. I get that it's only 4 hours away and she may not even go into labor this week...but that doesn't mean she doesn't need the emotional support of her husband this late in pregnancy. I would be heart broken if DH had to travel between now and the birth of our daughter. He does so much to help me out. Plus it's our last weeks as just the two of us, so we have been having a lot of date nights and time where we talk about how wonderful it has been just the two of us but how exciting it will be when we become parents of an outside baby.

CraftonKirkpatrick · September 2014

That is basicall why I am so upset. I know I am not likely to go into labor but I have had av ery painful past 2 weeks and I am a FTM, I like having his support. Being alone and being so far from my family and the hospital is frusterating, and knowing there are other guys that can be sent they just picked my husband because he will be the face of the company one day. That really really upsets me

staryb · September 2014

CraftonKirkpatrick said:

My husband works for his father company, they have a job that is 4 hours away from home they need to send people on. He declined to go because of me being 37 weeks pregnant. Well today his father (boss) tells him its not an option he needs to go and it is a week long job! I will be home by myself 45 minutes from the hospital and now my husband will be gone! I have been going through contractions already and she has dropped so could come anytime. I realize he should not get special treatment for working for his father, but come on! I could go anyday!!!!!!!! [-X

You're right, he shouldn't get special treatment for working for his father but he should get special treatment for having a very pregnant wife at home. It sucks that you will be on your own if labor starts while he's gone and he'll probably be a nervous wreck. It will probably work out to be just fine and as pps have said 4 hours is close enough that he should get to the hospital on time for the birth but it's still a crumby situation to put the two of you in!

jlz32185 · September 2014

Yeah while he "shouldn't" get special treatment you would think his dad would want the mother of his grandchild to be comfortable and well taken care of this late. Sorry you're away from family. Hugs

BreandMikewedding · September 2014

I would be upset too. I'm sorry! My husband and I have a rule that he doesn't travel the last month of my pregnancies. He is more strict on this than I am. His thinking is what if he needs to get home and there aren't any flights or seats available on any flights to get back home. His jobs have always been very understanding of this. When we had our last ds he traveled almost every week and it stopped in our last month.

SCMomma · September 2014

The four hours away wouldn't bother me as much as the WEEK away.

I get that some people have to travel for work regardless... But being his own father, you'd think the guy would be a little more sympathetic. Or apologetic at the very least.

MrsL2B · September 2014

I don't mind my husband being away for a day or two at this point, but a whole week is a long time. Is there any way he can just work on this job for the first part of the week?

Roseypants · September 2014

I can understand your frustration, but you still have 3 weeks until your due date. Yes, you could go any day, but it sounds like you guys just might have to take that risk. IMO 4 hours isn't that incredibly far away.

pinkshades05 · September 2014

I would be very upset if DH left for a week at 37 weeks. Sounds like your FIL has forgotten/is clueless to what it's like to have a very pregnant wife. And 37 weeks is early, but you can't assume the baby won't arrive, either.

trisharenee0316 · September 2014

I'd be upset too, honestly. But think of this as a time to be able to relax and do all the things that your H might normally hate, and watch all the shows that he would normally scoff at.

In the meantime, do you have other friends or family who live nearby who could be on standby for you if you do happen to go into labor? That might help you feel more at ease, although I recognize that really no one can take the place of your H in your situation.

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noellemari · September 2014

MonstoMommy said:

I am also in the minority. My H is going to a two day work conference followed immediately by a four day boys weekend away (5hours from home). It will be just me and DS for six days and I will be 36+ pregnant. But this is my second and I am a go with the flow kind of girl. I do realize if this was my first I would be upset in your position, especially because you have no choice in the matter. I would expect more from FIL. I agree with PP. Use the time for you. Not only are you and your H becoming parents, but you are about to go through the most life changing experience ever. You won't have "you time" for a very long time after birth. I don't think I have had much me time in the last four years! Spend time with friends, get your nails done, go to a movie alone, read a whole book without any interruptions. Enjoy yourself. Good luck!

I agree with this! My DH will be 4+ hours away the weekend I'm 36 4/7 leaving me with two toddlers. And my last baby came in just two hours. But I'm planning on having my parents hang on to my kids for an hour and going to do something just for me. Maybe a pedicure, prenatal massage. And going to bed at 8 with the kids.

I actually think if I go into labor while he's at work he'll miss it because he works a minimum of an hour away with no traffic. Find family and friends for a just in case, but otherwise, spoil yourself!

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