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Dumb comments from coworkers - second edition
Maebb
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Well, I call this second addition because it's the second one I've posted, but I know there have been many posts like this.
A coworker (actually a VP who has 2 kids, so you would think she should know better) said to me, "Well, I was hoping you were pregnant! I saw you a few weeks ago and thought you were looking a little heavy." Then when I told her it was another boy, she said, "Oh good, brothers are great, and then you can try for a girl!"
What? Any recent dumb comments that you want to share?
A coworker (actually a VP who has 2 kids, so you would think she should know better) said to me, "Well, I was hoping you were pregnant! I saw you a few weeks ago and thought you were looking a little heavy." Then when I told her it was another boy, she said, "Oh good, brothers are great, and then you can try for a girl!"
What? Any recent dumb comments that you want to share?
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Re: Dumb comments from coworkers - second edition
"How come you still have a waistline?".... really?! Yes my bump is still B shaped but come on! I'm aware enough that I just look super fat, you don't need to rub it in.
Family's would get along great!!
Yeah my size was talked about every time I worked and the huge always comes from men, insensitive drunks lol. I suppose it's what I get for being a bartender!
I've gotten the "you're only 5 months? is it twins?" I've only gained 10lbs...
I showed a co-worked a onesie that I bought and she was like OMG! You can't buy stuff for the baby! It's bad luck... seriously!! I laughed and she was so straight faced... I asked what about people buying stuff for me and she said, well you can't bring it in the house... leave it at your moms or sisters. I said mom lives in FL and sister lives in WA. She said I should have someone get a storage unit near me to keep the stuff in till baby arrives.
Other than that, I've gotten "you're only 5 months? You're sure it's not twins? You're huge!" From someone else I've never met before either. People and their tact these days, I swear.
Reading some of these makes me feel so much better about my coworkers' comments. Then again, my FI and I work in the same facility just in different departments so the strange comments I get usually come from his coworkers and it's stuff I hear from him first anyhow. FI seems to think he's HA-larious and goes to work and shares his genius quips...he's lucky I think he's cute :P
There's certain cultures where this is true. Personally, I am not superstitious nor religious, and I can't imagine not having things ready for when baby arrives! But to each their own.
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I have had two strangers ask me if I should be drinking coffee when I have a Dunkin or Starbucks in my hand. 1) It's decaf, 2) it would still be fine if it were caffeinated, and 3) mind your own damned business. I also had this girlfriend-of-DH's-coworker go on and on and on about how lucky I am to keep my looks and my tiny waist (thanks? I am mostly just grateful to be pregnant, regardless of how I look), and then kept going on about how awful some women look during pregnancy, citing examples of family and friends and celebrities who "got super fat and ugly". I couldn't believe she was trash talking people like that! And I couldn't help but hope she gets acne and blows up like a hot air balloon when she gets pregnant one day as punishment for judging how others look.
Off birth control March 2012 - Actively trying Sept 2012-April 2014
BFP on May 5th after Follistim & IUI #3
I was speechless.
Oh uh thanks for the heads up?
No such luck. I ran into her later that night and she loudly said that she wanted an answer to her question. Again I ignored her. Again louder she stated that I knew what she was asking and she demanded I tell her the answer. At that well it just pushed some wrong buttons... I told her that I was not answering her because of the rude way she asked. Again she demanded I tell her. Again I told her that getting older one would think a person would know etiquette better through the years, but since she just got ruder I didn't have to tell her. Agai. And louder she stated that her daughter said I was, she really didn't care but she demanded me to tell her. I told her I was ignoring her and her rudeness because she offended me on how she asked initially. She was quite for a few minutes and loudly stated agin how many months are you? At that point I stopped what I was doing looked at her and told her it was none of her damn business.
Yes it is always rude to ask someone if they are pregnant. But if you chose to walk across that line, how you ask the location you ask at and so on matters. Also demanding that your questions have to be answered. No way! I am still currently having issues with this co-worker who loudly whispers when I am around about what I wear and that I am trying to hide it and not doing a good job at it. Grrr! It just so pisses me off!
A guy that I work with who has no sense of appropriateness to begin with so this comes as no surprise came into a meeting and told me he rewrote one of my emails and recirculated it to a small group of people ( not including me of course) to have a chuckle. Basically a simple request that HE had asked me to make to another group was turned into a raving email from a "demanding crazy pregnant lady" changing my kind words into demands and accusations.
He always thinks he is so funny. Well he's just a jackass.