I know the use of the "r" word was just discussed in the random thread but it's been used in a gif by another user just now and I just want to put my opinion out there because now I need to get it off my chest.
Calling someone or something "retarded" is offensive and derogatory.
The word is used constantly by adults, and the thought of this woman using the word around her child, and her child then using it, makes me fucking ill.
Where's the fucking compassion? Where's the fucking self awareness?
How are we, as adults who see intolerance and ignorance in regards to people with special needs, not more mindful of the words we use that can be hurtful and devastating?
All I can see is this woman's child calling someone different from them "retarded" and devastating another child because it was never taught how wrong and hurtful it is.
It's seriously disgusting.
@cwbandthenewbie I took the gif down and if you go back and read I apologized for posting it. Continuing to talk negatively on my parenting skills is uncalled for and again I would never talk about yours that way. So please stop with this madness, the post was not in regards to any children with special needs and again I did apologize.
Yes, you took it down. Only after initially defending your decision to keep it up. Had you taken it down when @MauiBliss initially said something, this would be a non issue. But quite frankly, I agree with @cwbandthenewbie's assessment of you. I personally DO believe you took it down only because SO MANY people started calling you out on it. My guess is you figured it was an isolated incident. You thought it was funny, and planned to just leave it. You didn't expect the backlash. The use of the R word doesn't have to be in regards to anyone. The fact that you were advised to remove the gif and didn't immediately is the part that makes me judge you. --------------------------------- ^^this
I love when @mandjs makes it so that I don't have to explain my feelings or opinions.
This was posted after I told you i was personally offended and you laughed me off. BEFORE you finally took it down because 10 other people spoke up. I told you that it bothered me and that it was offensive and you literally brushed me off.
Sorry, you defended your use of a derogatory term on a board with other mothers, some of whom (or who, I don't know which) were deeply bothered by you defending it. Namely me.
You think you have a right to post something like that and defend it? I have a right to get pissed about it.
Thanks for finally taking it down. But you didn't take it down because you realized it was offensive, you did it because you don't want to be disliked.
My friend/co-worker got pregnant last year, but it was ectopic. She just found out a week or so ago that she's pregnant. She went in for blood work twice this week and the doctor called her today and told her she needs to go immediately to the ER. Her numbers have not increased and they fear it's ectopic again.
Only her SO and 2 of us at the office know she's pregnant. She refused to contact her SO to tell him she's going to the ER because she's afraid of any negativity. Last year he told her "this is why you don't tell people you're pregnant early on." My heart is just breaking for her that she's going through this again...and she's alone.
@stepherly That is so sad, I feel awful for her. How awful to go through something like that and not feel like your SO will support you and comfort you.
Is there anyway you could be with her so she's not by herself?
I'm hoping that I'll be able to see her after work. (If she's up for it.) Her family & SO aren't supportive at all so she tries to bury her feelings. I wouldn't be surprised if she tells me she wants to be alone, but I want her to know I'm there for her if she needs me.
Here's the announcement (edited for privacy, of course) that I put on my door at work! I kinda put it in an inconspicuous place so anyone who actually pays attention and sees it will see it but it's not just BLAM! out there for everyone. And I'm not making a formal announcement either.
Ladies, I have to laugh about this. I just posted on my local mom fb page, and was complaining about a neighbor, and said a curse. One of the moms told me to watch my language? Really??
After 3 bags of fluid, my BFF is home resting. Now we just have to hold our breath and wait for her beta on Monday.
I am rolling my eyes at that middle names thread. However, I clicked the name berry link, and found something interesting. We are down to choosing between 2 names. When I looked them up, both of our other boys' names were in the "people who like this name also like" list. I guess we are predictable.
I just posted on Facebook:
"Today, after 2 years of trying and 3 miscarriages, I'm so happy to announce that I'm pregnant and officially in the second trimester. It's been a long and painful journey, and for awhile I honestly didn't believe I'd ever make it to this point. Even now, my pregnancy is considered high-risk and my absolute excitement is combined with daily fear that something might still go wrong. While I am so in love with this baby, I will also never forget the three that I lost. I've learned a lot throughout this process and I'm done being silent about it. All four of my babies deserve to be acknowledged. And every woman out there who has suffered a loss in silence deserves to know that they are not alone and that their babies also deserve to be remembered."
I'm so nervous and relieved at the same time.
I just wanted to add that I would be honored if you named (if you have a girl) Claire Elise. You're so awesome...and both of our DD's would be awesome with that name
Actually, we're both awesome since we came up with that name.
Plus, who wouldn't want to call their daughter Claire after looking at this beautiful face? (below)
Just returned from target. It is so frickin hot out. I caved and bought my first baby item for #2. In my defense dd has a shirt just like it-matchy matchy! AND it was on clearance.
Apparently I can't post a pic right now though. It's yelling at me. I'll try later.
Also I bought way too much pumpkin stuff-mix to make pumpkin bars and cookies, pumpkin cookie dough, pumpkin chocolates (like choc chips but pumpkins), pumpkin sprinkles.......
Eta still not letting me.....
I found this awesome recipe online for pumpkin bars. I'm not a good baker, but I make these every Fall and Thanksgiving. Yum. You're welcome
"Today, after 2 years of trying and 3 miscarriages, I'm so happy to announce that I'm pregnant and officially in the second trimester. It's been a long and painful journey, and for awhile I honestly didn't believe I'd ever make it to this point. Even now, my pregnancy is considered high-risk and my absolute excitement is combined with daily fear that something might still go wrong. While I am so in love with this baby, I will also never forget the three that I lost. I've learned a lot throughout this process and I'm done being silent about it. All four of my babies deserve to be acknowledged. And every woman out there who has suffered a loss in silence deserves to know that they are not alone and that their babies also deserve to be remembered."
@meladoriestar That was beautiful! What a great way to share the news
@MrsLaurenandDan FX that everything is good with your friend and the babies!
Finally catching up with everything from yesterday and today...I was so sick all day yesterday I couldn't even look at my phone without throwing up. Ugh.
Awwwe poor girl. Ice cream helps @jenny0314 I hope.
Ladies remind me- I have a teeth cleaning apt tomorrow morning- xrays ok? Or skip them? I cannot remember what I did with dd. Then I'll be due back for a cleaning at 8 months. Do it or wait til post baby?
They told me no X-rays at my appointment yesterday. Not sure if all are the same
Awwwe poor girl. Ice cream helps @jenny0314 I hope.
Ladies remind me- I have a teeth cleaning apt tomorrow morning- xrays ok? Or skip them? I cannot remember what I did with dd. Then I'll be due back for a cleaning at 8 months. Do it or wait til post baby?
They told me no X-rays at my appointment yesterday. Not sure if all are the same
Yeah, No X-Rays...I went to get a cleaning when I was 6 weeks & had every intention to choose to postpone them regardless. But once I told them they said ok, then no x-ray's today
@cinderella105 why why why did I just google videos of vaginal births???? How. Wha--. Fuuuck.
A couple years ago I was interested and watched a few. Surprisingly didn't turn me off to labor and delivery- I thought it was cool as hell. I asked H if he wanted to watch and he was like hellllll no!
But I'm also interested in working in L&D when I graduate and not much phases me after working in the ER lol
Re: Just a small town girl... Livin' in a lonely world! She took a midnight train goin anywhere...
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^^this
I love when @mandjs makes it so that I don't have to explain my feelings or opinions.
Only her SO and 2 of us at the office know she's pregnant. She refused to contact her SO to tell him she's going to the ER because she's afraid of any negativity. Last year he told her "this is why you don't tell people you're pregnant early on." My heart is just breaking for her that she's going through this again...and she's alone.
:x
@stepherly I'm so sorry for your coworker... I hope it's not an ectopic but I also hope she is able to get some support!
TTC #1 May 2014
BFP 7/4/14 ~ EDD 3/17/15
My Chart
Im gagging almost every morning and night when I brush my teeth. Sometimes I throw up, sometimes I don't.
its frustrating! anyone have any tricks?
I read on another board someone suggested squeezing your thumb in your hand when you brush. im willing to try anything!
Married the love of my life: 5-17-14
BFP:6-27-14
EDD:3-11-15
Step Mom to Z: 4-11-06
IT'S A BOY!!!!!!
I am rolling my eyes at that middle names thread. However, I clicked the name berry link, and found something interesting. We are down to choosing between 2 names. When I looked them up, both of our other boys' names were in the "people who like this name also like" list. I guess we are predictable.
I just wanted to add that I would be honored if you named (if you have a girl) Claire Elise. You're so awesome...and both of our DD's would be awesome with that name
@MrsLaurenandDan FX that everything is good with your friend and the babies!
Finally catching up with everything from yesterday and today...I was so sick all day yesterday I couldn't even look at my phone without throwing up. Ugh.
1. I'm going to a concert and i want to be excited but I'm so tired.
2. Why are there SO MANY PEOPLE without ezpass.