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January 2015 Moms
Maebb
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FFFC
Maebb
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Confess here! Flameful or not.
Explanation and disclaimer- FFFC stands for "flame free Friday confessions," but you may get flamed anyway.
Happy Friday!
Explanation and disclaimer- FFFC stands for "flame free Friday confessions," but you may get flamed anyway.
Happy Friday!
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Re: FFFC
DH sleeps more soundly than I do, and he also gets up earlier than I do, so usually I hit him when the alarm goes off to wake him up.
He normally sleeps on his stomach, so I just throw my arm over (in a half-asleep state) and hit him on the back. This morning he was sleeping on his back, and I accidentally did a direct hit to the balls. I felt so bad!
What kind of friend never stays at a cookout that you have? Ever? Always has a reason to leave after an hour or shows up 2 hours late because she goes apple picking instead or something random (vs. a commitment).
Her: Oh, (9 year old, not baby) kiddo has had a rough couple days so we may just stop by for a bit.
Me: Do you plan to come for dinner? Trying to plan numbers. How about YH?
Her: H is a maybe. What are you having for dinner?
Me (thinking out loud to myself): WHAT? What I'm having matters??????
Ugh. I'm so irritated. And hurt right now. But not surprised so I have no reason to be hurt when I'm not surprised but I still am. It never ends with some people. I hate feeling this way. Hate it.
When I had my first 2 kids I was married but had a difficult, unexpected divorce right after my second was born. I'm 41. I feel like it shouldn't matter this much to me but somehow it does.
dx: Unexplained IF
TTC since May 2011, 1 year trying, and then 3 TI, 2 IUI = BFN
IVF #1 (May 2013): Antagonist Protocol:
24R, 18M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 2 early blasts, no frosties = BFN
IVF #2 (August 2013): Lupron Stop Protocol:
28R, 23M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 1 partially hatched blast, 7 frosties = BFP
EDD 5/23/14, blighted ovum (6w6d), D&C (8w6d)
FET #1 (April 2014): transferred 2 5d blasts = BFP
C.J. born 01/09/15
A blackberry mocha latte sounds delicious! ~O)
So do your other goodies.....I'm a bit jealous!
dx: Unexplained IF
TTC since May 2011, 1 year trying, and then 3 TI, 2 IUI = BFN
IVF #1 (May 2013): Antagonist Protocol:
24R, 18M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 2 early blasts, no frosties = BFN
IVF #2 (August 2013): Lupron Stop Protocol:
28R, 23M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 1 partially hatched blast, 7 frosties = BFP
EDD 5/23/14, blighted ovum (6w6d), D&C (8w6d)
FET #1 (April 2014): transferred 2 5d blasts = BFP
C.J. born 01/09/15
From what I can tell, I'm not like a lot of the lovely ladies here; I'm single, struggling to find employment, unfortunately having to live with family, and boyfriend was unable to move with me back home. Keeping baby is not exactly an option..
We actually had to cancel Thanksgiving because I didn't want to deal with 20 family members asking about names, when I'd post pictures of the little one on Facebook, fussing with belly attention/touches, and general baby question stuff
I mean, don't get me wrong, I still love little baby (even when they kick my bladder in the middle of the night ._. ), but giving it up for adoption is going to be difficult enough as it is. Doesn't it make sense to emotionally distance myself, at least a little?
There are WAY worse things she could be saying
CONFESSIONS before I can get up and care for my child.
I was also too lazy to wash a baby spoon so I feed him with a ridiculosly large spoon since it was the only clean one I could find. Bad mommy!
Edit:double typed a word
My FFFC: I do my housework while DD naps. Yesterday I was tired and took a nap too. I woke up 30 mins before H was due to arrive home and the house was a disaster! I got super lucky that traffic was bad and H was an hour late getting home. When he was telling me about how much he hates sitting in traffic I nodded and acted sympathetic while I was cheering on the inside because I got lucky and got all my crap done before he got home.
I think DH's thing is more that he feels weird about it since I'm pregnant. Some guys are just like that. When I was about 6 months pregnant with DS, I said during sex one time, "It feels like you're pressing against something," and he said that just terrifies him like he's going to poke the baby.
Anyway, I'm interested in what your therapist has to say about it, but my opinion with my H is that as long as he's not being an ass in other ways and still being loving, supportive, encouraging, etc., I'm not going to be too hurt about the dry spell when it comes to sex.
texasmama786 - I'm so glad I'm not the only one who's ever done that before.
My confession...I hate crying. I feel like it's such a waste of an emotion, even though I realize that sometimes people just have to cry to feel better. I try to prevent my son from crying over minor issues by asking him if he's bleeding or if something's broken...and yet thanks to hormones that poor kid is getting all sorts of mixed signals from me because I tear up and cry over some random silly stuff aaaaall of the time like the cat drinking my water. Or DF shooting a Nerf dart into my coffee mug...Just call me hypocrite mommy.
mm 2/17/11 * dd born 4/20/12 * bo 1/3/14 * edd 1/21/ 1/15
DH has had similar issues that we've talked through - he's preoccupied during sex because it's always in the back of his mind that his baby is inside me. He worries about different positions and how they may be affecting me or baby. As much as I do think my DH loves my pregnant body, I don't think that he thinks of it as a sexual body, if that makes any sense. I do think it's also weird for him when I'm naked because I'm cute and pregnant while clothed, but the bump is contrasting against the body that is typically mine that he knows so well, so it's unusual for him. Perhaps it's similar with your DH?
Your comments about what you could do differently hurt me for you. You don't have to look a certain way or stay in shape or have a hairless body to deserve to be seen as attractive by your partner. You are beautiful the way you are, and if he doesn't appreciate it, that's on him and not on you. Though I can't imagine how painful it is to hear it that way from him!
As for my FFFC, I really freaking want a diaper cake. I want someone to want to spend the time and effort to do something like that for me. They aren't cheap to make, either. I have seen them at other showers I have attended, and I really want someone to bring one to my shower! They just seem like an incredibly thoughtful and time consuming gift. Clearly I'm in the minority of people here who like them, though, based on the recent whining posts about them.
Edited because spelling is hard apparently.
Off birth control March 2012 - Actively trying Sept 2012-April 2014
BFP on May 5th after Follistim & IUI #3
I'm sorry you feel like you're stuck in that position. I really hope you're able to find a way to be happy, though the only solution I can think of is to leave him for real.
Off birth control March 2012 - Actively trying Sept 2012-April 2014
BFP on May 5th after Follistim & IUI #3
BFP 1: 9/19/11 , DS born 5/28/12 @ 41 weeks