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cafecreme · September 2014

Got any juicy confessions?

lewispm · September 2014

I don't eat veggies. Like hardly any. I will eat canned peas or green beans if I have to, and raw carrots. But not often all. I'm almost as picky as my 2 year old.

wishiwaspreggo · September 2014

After picking apples tomorrow, C and I are driving to a town nearby to go to the Golden Corral for dinner. My ability to eat has increased exponentially. They're going to be sorry they let my hungry ass in!

cinderella105 · September 2014

@Darbie914‌ are we the same person? Do I have a long lost twin I didn't know about? Seriously, I could've said the same exact thing about myself. Although I do feel like I "found myself" so to speak, but in social situations I feel just like you do.

wishiwaspreggo · September 2014

@Darbie914 - You're an introvert, yes? This is something I struggle with, too, though not to the extent that I feel broken. I am sorry you feel that way. I'm happy with my small group of friends, but I do wish I was the gregarious, outgoing type who made friends easily. I am also one who doesn't open up easily. My sense of humor is extremely dry and sometimes hard to understand, and it can be very inappropriate and I forget my audience sometimes. My friends - who share my sense of humor - think I'm hilarious but I feel like I have to watch my mouth when I'm around strangers.

For example, when I was in college I received a grant subsidizing a study abroad experience with a bunch of other girls. We were eating lunch and one of the girls said "You know, Mr. Freeman was really generous to help us pay for our trip! We should do something really nice for him!" And I blurted out, dead-pan of course, "We could each give him a blow job." The table got very quiet after that. I was trying to be funny but clearly failed.

In any case, I'm socially awkward and I know it. I'm so worried about passing that on to my son. C and I picked an outgoing donor for this reason. People who are outgoing, charismatic, and easy to talk to get ahead much easier than us quiet folks who never really know what to say.

Not sure if there's much anyone can do to change their personalities but try to make peace with who you are, you know? Maybe you could venture out and hang with your SIL? Maybe some of her outgoing aura will rub off on you, or you could at least observe how she interacts with new people and see if there's anything you could learn for future use. In my profession I'm sometimes forced to be outgoing. It's exhausting but I do it, and I do it well enough to pass as an extrovert. I've cleaned up my language considerably, too part of growing up.

blinksmb · September 2014

@StellaMakes3‌ If you'd like I can send you a picture of my craft room to make you feel better. Yeah, it's a whole room. No, I'm never going to use most of it for that very same reason. So much of it is waiting for that "perfect project" to use it for. Lastly yes, I'm probably a spoiled jerk for having a room specifically for crafts. I'm sure it will be overtaken by a child soon enough anyway.

wishiwaspreggo · September 2014

msmarie2490 said:

For my confession, (it's lame today guys, sorry), I have watched the entire series of The Office about ten times and I'm starting it over again. It just doesn't get old!

The Office is my comfort show

I can say the lines along with the cast in many of the episodes. My favorite episode is a tie between Café Disco and the first Dundees. So freaking hilarious. I watch reruns all the time and it drives C crazy because she hates The Office.

lewispm · September 2014

@darbie914, there is nothing "broken" about being introverted or feeling anxious in situations like you described. I would never describe myself as an introvert and don't have the anxiety you described, but MH is Mr. Personality, and is one of the most outgoing charismatic people I have ever encountered. Sometimes, when we are in new social situations, his presence is somewhat smothering almost and I have a really hard time interacting with people as he kind of "steals the spotlight" so to speak. I think I've become lazy and almost like that he gets all of the awkwardness of meeting new people out of the way and does all the talking, but sometimes it makes things even more awkward in the long run when, for example, we have a couple we have been getting to know for almost a year and I still feel like I can't hang out with the woman without MH even though we get along great. I just have this fear/insecurity that people only like us because MH is so charming and if they get just me they will wonder why they're our friends. Lame, but true. So you are not alone in that everyone, even those who would usually describe ourselves as outgoing, have insecurities in social situations as well.

honkytonk_kid · September 2014

hollmb said:
@StellaMakes3‌ If you'd like I can send you a picture of my craft room to make you feel better. Yeah, it's a whole room. No, I'm never going to use most of it for that very same reason. So much of it is waiting for that "perfect project" to use it for. Lastly yes, I'm probably a spoiled jerk for having a room specifically for crafts. I'm sure it will be overtaken by a child soon enough anyway.

We have a sewing/computer room. My sewing sometimes takes over more than its fair share

Maybe it should be my confession that it's the third bedroom, and the kids will share a room because I have no intention of giving up the ONE ROOM in the entire house that is MINE. And H's, I guess, lol. I get the impression summer people think that's super selfish, but I'm pretty sure my kids will survive having to sleep in the same room.

bwftw · September 2014

I'm concerned that because this baby will most likely look very much like H (he's Philippino), that I will have a hard time making a connection.

blinksmb · September 2014

honkytonk_kid said:

hollmb said:
@StellaMakes3‌ If you'd like I can send you a picture of my craft room to make you feel better. Yeah, it's a whole room. No, I'm never going to use most of it for that very same reason. So much of it is waiting for that "perfect project" to use it for. Lastly yes, I'm probably a spoiled jerk for having a room specifically for crafts. I'm sure it will be overtaken by a child soon enough anyway.
We have a sewing/computer room. My sewing sometimes takes over more than its fair share

Maybe it should be my confession that it's the third bedroom, and the kids will share a room because I have no intention of giving up the ONE ROOM in the entire house that is MINE. And H's, I guess, lol. I get the impression summer people think that's super selfish, but I'm pretty sure my kids will survive having to sleep in the same room.

I understand 100 percent! Personally I don't think that's selfish. A lot of times kids love sharing rooms. I've seen so many of my friends give their kids separate rooms and they only ever end up spending time in one of them anyway.

PuppyLove84 · September 2014

We gave up cable this week. It was hard for me but I agreed to try it. DH called Comcast and it took him almost 30 minutes but eventually he got it canceled. Except then we checked online and for some reason they still didn't cancel it. F Comcast. Anyways, he had to go out of town so he said he'd call again when he got back, but in the meantime he unhooked our DVR and all the cable boxes and has them piled by the door to take back to Comcast.

My confession is that, since he is out of town, I hooked one of the cable boxes up and watched a bunch of trashy tv last night! I'll unhook it again before he gets home tonight. :-)

bwftw · September 2014

StellaMakes3 said:

cabauer9 said:
I'm concerned that because this baby will most likely look very much like H (he's Philippino), that I will have a hard time making a connection.
DD looks JUST LIKE my H, but her personality is very much like mine. My H is Black, and I worried about all the comments I'd get about if she's 'even mine' anf other stupid things (and yes, I got them) but she and I are very close. Hope this helps you feel a bit better about that.

Thank you. I also wonder if I'll get comments about the baby being mine. I'm hoping that once I can actually feel the baby I'll be able start the connection.

cinnamonlatte · September 2014

Darbie914 I totally understand what you are saying also. I always think about slight things I wish I could change about my personality, but have a hard time changing. I also wish I had more friends. I am scared of rejection and that people won't like me, so it is hard for me to ask people to hang out.

HallRents · September 2014

@wishiwaspreggp - The blow job thing was hilarious. Totally something I would have said.

@Darbie914 - Don't worry about comparing yourself to others. I used to be an extrovert, and I find as I get older that I have become a little more introverted. Sometimes if I have an especially "extroverted day" (in my job I sometimes have to be Suzie Sunshine), I'm totally wiped out when I get home and I just need to recharge by not talking to anyone for a bit. I just crave that peace. It is what it is.

@msmarie2490 - I LOVE the Office! My comfort TV show is Arrested Development and I can't even count how many times I've watched all seasons...Comfort movie is Office Space. Such a classic! When the "You HAVE to have a picture and a siggy" thread came back again the other day it reminded me of be scolded for not having enough flair!

My confession is that when I open a thread and it's straight drama, I just stop reading. I find it insane that the troll threads sometimes go on for 10 pages - it's exhausting! We get it, they're a troll, let's all move on to supporting someone who actually needs it and drop it like it's hot.

MissyCee · September 2014

beckyj2013 said:

@wishiwaspreggo, you don't find Golden Corral gross? Maybe it is just the one near me, and maybe it was just the one (and only) time I went there, but there were so many people, and so many kids and I just felt like they all had their grubby hands on all the food. It grossed me out. I'm all for buffets, but I will never go to Golden Corral again.

My confession: I used to be one of the "I don't get why these ladies just don't open the posts if they don't want to read them" kind of people. I was new to the Bump, and mostly lurked and I couldn't comprehend why everyone cared so much. The longer I hung around, and the more and more (and more!) repeat posts there were, I finally started to understand.

I'm with you. The one near me...I won't even go in it. My father went there (not by choice, he was with other people who wanted to go) and the food was coming out of him before he even left the restaurant. So yea...I guess maybe I'd go if I really needed to poo or something but other than that no thanks!

lewispm · September 2014

cabauer9 said:

I'm concerned that because this baby will most likely look very much like H (he's Philippino), that I will have a hard time making a connection.
DD looks JUST LIKE my H, but her personality is very much like mine. My H is Black, and I worried about all the comments I'd get about if she's 'even mine' anf other stupid things (and yes, I got them) but she and I are very close. Hope this helps you feel a bit better about that.
Thank you. I also wonder if I'll get comments about the baby being mine. I'm hoping that once I can actually feel the baby I'll be able start the connection.

My younger sister is paler than pale, with (real) blonde hair, blue eyes and freckles and her H is as black and about as dark as it gets. Their son looks just like her H and is freaking beautiful. That being said, I asked her about how it felt that he looked so much like her H and if people ever assumed he wasn't hers. She said she gets asked all the time if she is the nanny/sitter (she also looks very young) but that it doesn't bother her in the slightest and she has never had any issues with the fact that he looks nothing like her. I get your concern, but I think you will be pleasantly surprised

cinnamonlatte · September 2014

cabauer9 said:

I'm concerned that because this baby will most likely look very much like H (he's Philippino), that I will have a hard time making a connection.

My daughter looks just like my husband. He is hispanic, and I am pasty white.

It doesn't bother me or change how I have connected with her. I love the color of her skin and am glad she will not have super fair skin that burns easy, and will blind people.

bwftw · September 2014

cinnamonlatte said:

cabauer9 said:

I'm concerned that because this baby will most likely look very much like H (he's Philippino), that I will have a hard time making a connection.

My daughter looks just like my husband. He is hispanic, and I am pasty white.

It doesn't bother me or change how I have connected with her. I love the color of her skin and am glad she will not have super fair skin that burns easy, and will blind people.

Darbie914 said:

cabauer9 said:

I'm concerned that because this baby will most likely look very much like H (he's Philippino), that I will have a hard time making a connection.

Hugs. Rest assured that you will have a connection to your baby. I can't tell you when because it's different for everybody. But it will happen.

Thank you both. I know it will happen, I guess my biggest concern is that it will take a long time. But, who knows? I can't see the future so this could be a moot point.

lynndavid6912 · September 2014

I'm in the introvert group... I'm fairly confident professionally and personally, and my job requires me to be outgoing and socially adept, but in actual social situations outside of work, I feel silly and awkward. I've had the same two best friends since college and don't really feel like I know how to make new ones. Most days I'm okay with it, but some days it really sucks.

My confession... I'm in survival mode. I hate letting DD watch tons of TV but I am so tired after work and DH isn't getting home until after dinner and I'm not handling this 2 y.o attitude well that Mickey Mouse and Doc Mc Stuffins have become our evening entertainment. Come on, second tri energy!!!

igl08 · September 2014

@lewispm‌ I used to love eating grated carrots with lime juice and hot sauce as a kid. It's sooo good! Now I'm craving that.

wishiwaspreggo · September 2014

@Beckyj2013 and @MissyCee - Not at all! I love American food buffets! I ain't ashamed. This is why it's my confession

I think a lot of it has to do with my upbringing. I have a stomach made of titanium. Absolutely nothing bothers it. I credit this to my parents who believed expiration dates were simply a suggestion. My dad would tell me to scrape mold off the top of food and eat the rest because anything under it was fine.

Our big treat was to go to Ponderosa when I was a kid. I got attached and still love it as an adult. I can eat at the trough with the best of 'em!

lewispm · September 2014

igl08 said:

@lewispm‌ I used to love eating grated carrots with lime juice and hot sauce as a kid. It's sooo good! Now I'm craving that.

That sounds almost as interesting as it does disgusting! :0

massiejs09 · September 2014

I was talking shit over IM with a coworker of mine (about another coworker) and he came over to fix something on my computer and totally saw the chat cause my computer decided to freeze at that moment and I couldn't close the window.

FAIL.

pregarella · September 2014

Convinced my DH to let me return the earrings he got me for our anniversary so I could stay up past midnight last night to preorder the Iphone 6 for us both. I had had it with my 4s. On Wed, it died at 40% charge, leaving me to spend 90 min at an indoor playground with nothing to do but watch my child. The horror!!!!!

kcbizme · September 2014

pregarella said:

Convinced my DH to let me return the earrings he got me for our anniversary so I could stay up past midnight last night to preorder the Iphone 6 for us both. I had had it with my 4s. On Wed, it died at 40% charge, leaving me to spend 90 min at an indoor playground with nothing to do but watch my child. The horror!!!!!

That sounds like a FWP to me!

Skrittens · September 2014

I think I hate my H because he grew a beard. I used to (2 months ago!) think he was so handsome, but now I think he is disgusting. I know it is what is inside - and I loved him from the minute I met him. He was grossly overweight, active alcoholic and addict and unemployed when we first met - but once he cleaned up - none of the other stuff was ever an issue.

He has been clean for over 5 years now, is (finally) employed, and is in such good physical shape now he goes around the country doing Tough Mudders and is an amateur MMA fighter. And he is amazingly good to me (other than farting around me).

When I think about him, I am head over heels in love. But when I actually look at him now I really feel disgusted ...I hate his beard so much - and when he farts in front of me on purpose, I just want to be far away from him - not hold his hand or even sleep next to him.

I have problems, this sound immature I fully aware. I will be bringing this up with my therapist.

lewispm · September 2014

Skrittens said:

I think I hate my H because he grew a beard. I used to (2 months ago!) think he was so handsome, but now I think he is disgusting. I know it is what is inside - and I loved him from the minute I met him. He was grossly overweight, active alcoholic and addict and unemployed when we first met - but once he cleaned up - none of the other stuff was ever an issue. He has been clean for over 5 years now, is (finally) employed, and is in such good physical shape now he goes around the country doing Tough Mudders and is an amateur MMA fighter. And he is amazingly good to me (other than farting around me). When I think about him, I am head over heels in love. But when I actually look at him now I really feel disgusted ...I hate his beard so much - and when he farts in front of me on purpose, I just want to be far away from him - not hold his hand or even sleep next to him. I have problems, this sound immature I fully aware. I will be bringing this up with my therapist.

I feel you. MH can't grow facial hair for his life but loves to grow this scraggly chin hair (it's all he gets) and lets it get so long it looks like about 100 pendejos (singular pubic hairs ) sprouting from his chin. I absolutely hate it. And he knows not to fart around me or he will NEVER get laid. That is the ultimate turn off!

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cafecreme · September 2014

Darbie914 said:

@StellaMakes3 Thank you for your words. I always feel like I'm the only person in the world like this. And I wonder if people think, "Why is Darbie so quiet? Why doesn't she call/text as much?" It really has nothing to do with liking a person or not but the way I go about things makes it seem like I don't care.

I've become more of an introvert the past few years, too. I try to work harder to be more outgoing but it's hard for me. Gah.

/dear diary

I know exactly what you're saying. I feel like I've kinda lost myself too- I went very quickly from being a girl in college, with a good amount of friends, to moving 1.5 hours away, getting married, and then having a child soon after. I lost touch with pretty much everyone I've known. I don't have any friends out here, except my husband. I would really like to get to know some women around here, but it's so hard. I put myself out there and then they reject me. I'd love to have that one bestie who lives down the street, with kids similar in age, and we do EVERYTHING together.

I do have 1 friend, but it's hard to talk to her about everything. She's having TTTC, and I don't bring up C or this pregnancy at all unless she asks. I'd just like to have a friend where I can talk freely to, and not hurt anyone's feelings, or be criticized for it, kwim??

Darbie, if you lived closer to me I'm sure we'd be very close friends. You'll find that friend soon, and hopefully I will too.

kellbell1982 · September 2014

lewispm said:

Skrittens said:

I think I hate my H because he grew a beard. I used to (2 months ago!) think he was so handsome, but now I think he is disgusting. I know it is what is inside - and I loved him from the minute I met him. He was grossly overweight, active alcoholic and addict and unemployed when we first met - but once he cleaned up - none of the other stuff was ever an issue.

He has been clean for over 5 years now, is (finally) employed, and is in such good physical shape now he goes around the country doing Tough Mudders and is an amateur MMA fighter. And he is amazingly good to me (other than farting around me).

When I think about him, I am head over heels in love. But when I actually look at him now I really feel disgusted ...I hate his beard so much - and when he farts in front of me on purpose, I just want to be far away from him - not hold his hand or even sleep next to him.

I have problems, this sound immature I fully aware. I will be bringing this up with my therapist.

I feel you. MH can't grow facial hair for his life but loves to grow this scraggly chin hair (it's all he gets) and lets it get so long it looks like about 100 pendejos (singular pubic hairs ) sprouting from his chin. I absolutely hate it. And he knows not to fart around me or he will NEVER get laid. That is the ultimate turn off!

) I literally Lol'd at my dr office at 1000 pendejos. I'm showing this to my H he's such a cutie with a baby face that he insists on covering with a scruffy beard. I'm up in the air about it cause it's kinda sexy to me now which I guess belongs in the uo thread.

cafecreme · September 2014

lewispm said:

Skrittens said:

I think I hate my H because he grew a beard. I used to (2 months ago!) think he was so handsome, but now I think he is disgusting. I know it is what is inside - and I loved him from the minute I met him. He was grossly overweight, active alcoholic and addict and unemployed when we first met - but once he cleaned up - none of the other stuff was ever an issue. He has been clean for over 5 years now, is (finally) employed, and is in such good physical shape now he goes around the country doing Tough Mudders and is an amateur MMA fighter. And he is amazingly good to me (other than farting around me). When I think about him, I am head over heels in love. But when I actually look at him now I really feel disgusted ...I hate his beard so much - and when he farts in front of me on purpose, I just want to be far away from him - not hold his hand or even sleep next to him. I have problems, this sound immature I fully aware. I will be bringing this up with my therapist.

I feel you. MH can't grow facial hair for his life but loves to grow this scraggly chin hair (it's all he gets) and lets it get so long it looks like about 100 pendejos (singular pubic hairs ) sprouting from his chin. I absolutely hate it. And he knows not to fart around me or he will NEVER get laid. That is the ultimate turn off!
)

That's funny that you guys are talking about this because DH has been trying to grow a beard since Tuesday. He told me he wants to shave it tomorrow though. He said it was so annoying that he needed to shave it off.

cafecreme · September 2014

Darbie914 said:

To lighten up the FFFC, there have been a handful (more than a handful) of times that I've pooped/peed on the toilet while holding DD. A few times when she was a baby and screamed whenever I put her down and another few when she was sick and clung to me like a starfish to a rock.

Multitasking FTW.

That's not so bad. DD will come walking into the bathroom, and start pointing and poking my vagina while I'm on the toilet. She's fascinated by the hair I guess. LOL

cafecreme · September 2014

my FFFC:

I start a part-time job on Wednesday (a church daycare, working Wednesday mornings), and on the application it asked "Do you trust and have faith in our lord, Jesus Christ?" and I circled yes.

I only visit church during weddings, funerals, and sometimes Christmas with my MIL, and that's it. I wouldn't say I'm associated with any church, and frankly I consider myself more Agnostic than Christian. I do, however, think Christianity and churches bring out the good in people. Anyway...I pretty much circled yes so I could get out of talking to the pastor.

kcbizme · September 2014

Speaking of beards.. My SO has a fantastic one. He opted to not shave for "No Shave November" and by the end of the month his face was out of control! But he's also had a beard pretty much the whole time we have been together because I love it! (UO alert!)

blinksmb · September 2014

kcbizme said:

Speaking of beards.. My SO has a fantastic one. He opted to not shave for "No Shave November" and by the end of the month his face was out of control! But he's also had a beard pretty much the whole time we have been together because I love it! (UO alert!)

So does mine! He's one of those people that look stupid without a beard, considering everything else about him screams giant lumberjack.

I was JUST thinking about how much I'm really not looking forward to "No Shave November" because it sometimes turns into "No Shave Entire Hockey Season" which then means my SO turns into "Gandalf."

P.S. I am super not attracted to Gandalf.

kelseypie · September 2014

I'm team beard. MH has a very large beard, and I dig it.

kcbizme · September 2014

hollmb said:

kcbizme said:

Speaking of beards.. My SO has a fantastic one. He opted to not shave for "No Shave November" and by the end of the month his face was out of control! But he's also had a beard pretty much the whole time we have been together because I love it! (UO alert!)

So does mine! He's one of those people that look stupid without a beard, considering everything else about him screams giant lumberjack.
I was JUST thinking about how much I'm really not looking forward to "No Shave November" because it sometimes turns into "No Shave Entire Hockey Season" which then means my SO turns into "Gandalf."
P.S. I am super not attracted to Gandalf.

I LOL'd at this. He trims it really short when it starts itching. I think he looks like he's 18 when he shaves his face, plus his beard grows back so freaky fast that it makes my chin raw when I kiss him and I hate it. So he keeps it at least long enough to not make my chin raw because I request it (plus I think he's sexy with a beard).. just like I haven't cut my hair off because he loves my long hair. :x

ETA: He's super sexy without the beard too but I have my reasons.

Skrittens · September 2014

I did talk to my therapist about my beard issue. She said its normal, and she actually felt similar about her H when he grew a beard. It's strange - I loved my grandfather tremendously - and he had a beard. And I adore my FIL - and he has a beard. I think part of the issue is when my H kisses me it feels like my grandfather or FIL, and that creeps me out.

tinypug · September 2014

@Darbie914 I'm definitely an introvert and would even go so far as to call myself a total hermit at times. I'm shy and being in social situations with people I don't know makes me uncomfortable as well. I've always wished I could make friends with seemingly zero effort. I'm awkward and it takes a long time before my walls come down and I let people in. You're definitely not alone on this one! Over the years I've just accepted that this is my personality and it doesn't bother me as much. To be honest I prefer being alone most of the time anyway.

My confession is that I had the day off work and I've been lying on the sofa watching tv and eating since 8AM. I feel so lazy.

FrecklesInside · September 2014

I'm sad to hear there are people who don't find humor in The Office.

FrecklesInside · September 2014

Confession: a guy I was incredibly close with in high school became very different in college and our relationship ended. I never even had a crush on him, he was just a very close friend. Anyhow, I have frequent dreams about him and in almost all of the dreams involving him, we are getting together. It is really, really weird. And then last night I had a dream about a boyfriend from middle school. Fucking MS! He came out as gay in college and is a friend still. Why did I dream about him? So weird. But yea, as for the first guy, the high school friend, I don't know why my dream brain is so fixated on him. He did really hurt me, emotionally, when he essentially broke up with me as friends... so that could be part of it.

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