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  • mbedroyambedroya member
    @dtremel Thank you!
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    AF9211 said:
    @waldothewiener1 I'm a lurker from F15 so I hope this doesn't come off creepy, but your little babes might be the cutest ever! I can't stop smiling at your siggy!

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  • emslade982emslade982 member
    edited September 2014
    Go get some counseling. Disappointment is ok, but flipping out about it is not. I hope your little princess is healthy and well-loved when she does arrive.
    Married 9/17/11 BFP 10/5/13 DS Oliver Stephen born 6/11/14 via C-section 8 lbs 9 oz BFP 8/14/15
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    @mbedroya‌ my heart breaks for you and your loss.
    Married 9/17/11 BFP 10/5/13 DS Oliver Stephen born 6/11/14 via C-section 8 lbs 9 oz BFP 8/14/15
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  • krysmillkrysmill member
    All I've wanted was a girl. We are one and done. My dr told me weeks ago she's sure we are having a boy. I thought I'd be a little disappointed but all our test have come back great! All I want is a healthy happy baby. It took me an hour for it to sink in but I'm totally for it. Just be happy your having a baby at all. Who cares the sex. You should only wish for a healthy baby.
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  • DancerppfDancerppf member
    It's an emotional time. I suggest you share your feelings with your doctor. You don't need to get depressed. If you have a non judgmental husband, mom or friend talk to them or even a minister. Have faith that God makes no mistakes and you were sent a daughter after 2 boys for a reason. It'll be okay.
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  • firsttimeaussiemumfirsttimeaussiemum member
    my4pups said:

    Why does she need professional help?? Did I miss something other than the original post? (I did not read through all the other replies)

    Therapy isn't just for her it's also for the safety of that little girl that's inside of her. People aren't been nasty, it genuine consern for the baby.
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  • my4pupsmy4pups member
    The hostility on this post is unreal. Do you talk like this is your "real lives" too?? 
    There are clearly some very genuinely concerned and/or supportive people who have posted on this thread...but the majority of this thread sounds like a bunch of sorority girls in a cat fight.  
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  • my4pupsmy4pups member
    When did I ever say recommending therapy was rude?? Way to twist my words just so you could have another outburst. I'm very sorry for your loss, but if you don't agree with that person's religious beliefs I don't think that means you get to police what they say to people when all they are trying to do is offer some support. How do you know OP is not religious?
    When I say things on this thread are rude, and I ask if you talk like this in your real life, I am talking about all the degrading and unsupportive things that some people have said. There are some posters who are expressing genuine concern and trying to offer up suggestions which is great. But when people start off by calling the OP a disgusting human being and dropping the F bomb on her every other word, that's rude. Period. And I don't see what the point in that is. It's trying to make yourself feel better by making others feel worse.
    Half the people on here jumped down my throat for posting a genuine, nonjudgemental, reply to OP. But I bet if I said something like "go get some help you freak" I would have received 50 thumbs up.
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  • my4pupsmy4pups member
    I'm sorry for you that you have so much hostility and resentment towards other people.
    Don't ever, ever, assume that you know what battles other people are fighting or what they have gone through in the past.
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  • DancerppfDancerppf member

    I never commented about a baby dying. You guys can't even get the statement right. I said God doesn't make mistakes and I stand by that statement. She is talking about the sex of her baby. Furthermore God doesn't start wars people do. And nature can be brutal sometimes and its hurtful and unfortunate however the only thing promised in life is death. So let's be realistic. The only punching any of you are doing is from the comfort of your home to computer keys. So please cut it with the nonsense.

    Again to the OP you have my support and well wishes. If you don't believe in God, taking to your doctor  or any other form of support that you trust is a great first step. Your Doctor will make an professional referrals that you may need. More importantly you're already reaching out for help by posting so that's a great first step.

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  • my4pupsmy4pups member
    crunchymamaof2 said:
    Dancerppf said:

    I never commented about a baby dying. You guys can't even get the statement right. I said God doesn't make mistakes and I stand by that statement. She is talking about the sex of her baby. Furthermore God doesn't start wars people do. And nature can be brutal sometimes and its hurtful and unfortunate however the only thing promised in life is death. So let's be realistic. The only punching any of you are doing is from the comfort of your home to computer keys. So please cut it with the nonsense.

    Again to the OP you have my support and well wishes. If you don't believe in God, taking to your doctor  or any other form of support that you trust is a great first step. Your Doctor will make an professional referrals that you may need. More importantly you're already reaching out for help by posting so that's a great first step.


    You really need to stop this bullshit. By saying god doesn't make mistakes you ARE saying that god caused those babies to die and god took them away. And those babies born with debilitating birth defects or those in extreme pain,well god wanted that for them. If that's your belief fine. But don't expect those with losses, and even those without, to take kindly to your words. Think before you type. Your "comforting" words have big ramifications.
    Why can't you just let someone have an opinion without going all nuts on them? I'm not religious, I don't go to church, I have had my fair share of loss and tragedy in my own life and I'm not offended by someone else's beliefs about my life. Why do you get so defensive when the comment wasn't even directed at you? And it seems like you are speaking for the OP and assuming you know what her feelings are on religion.
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  • crunchymamaof2 crunchymamaof2 member
    my4pups said:
    crunchymamaof2 said:
    Dancerppf said:

    I never commented about a baby dying. You guys can't even get the statement right. I said God doesn't make mistakes and I stand by that statement. She is talking about the sex of her baby. Furthermore God doesn't start wars people do. And nature can be brutal sometimes and its hurtful and unfortunate however the only thing promised in life is death. So let's be realistic. The only punching any of you are doing is from the comfort of your home to computer keys. So please cut it with the nonsense.

    Again to the OP you have my support and well wishes. If you don't believe in God, taking to your doctor  or any other form of support that you trust is a great first step. Your Doctor will make an professional referrals that you may need. More importantly you're already reaching out for help by posting so that's a great first step.


    You really need to stop this bullshit. By saying god doesn't make mistakes you ARE saying that god caused those babies to die and god took them away. And those babies born with debilitating birth defects or those in extreme pain,well god wanted that for them. If that's your belief fine. But don't expect those with losses, and even those without, to take kindly to your words. Think before you type. Your "comforting" words have big ramifications.
    Why can't you just let someone have an opinion without going all nuts on them? I'm not religious, I don't go to church, I have had my fair share of loss and tragedy in my own life and I'm not offended by someone else's beliefs about my life. Why do you get so defensive when the comment wasn't even directed at you? And it seems like you are speaking for the OP and assuming you know what her feelings are on religion.

    Oh stfu. She can believe whatever the fuck she wants but to come on a public board and tell everyone she fully believe god killed their babies or purposefully made them suffer is disgusting. Just as she has every right to feel that way we have every right to tell her how offensive her statements are. You can be all "but it doesn't bother meeeee!" But based on this thread alone you're in the minority.
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  • my4pupsmy4pups member
    crunchymamaof2 said:
    my4pups said:
    crunchymamaof2 said:
    Dancerppf said:

    I never commented about a baby dying. You guys can't even get the statement right. I said God doesn't make mistakes and I stand by that statement. She is talking about the sex of her baby. Furthermore God doesn't start wars people do. And nature can be brutal sometimes and its hurtful and unfortunate however the only thing promised in life is death. So let's be realistic. The only punching any of you are doing is from the comfort of your home to computer keys. So please cut it with the nonsense.

    Again to the OP you have my support and well wishes. If you don't believe in God, taking to your doctor  or any other form of support that you trust is a great first step. Your Doctor will make an professional referrals that you may need. More importantly you're already reaching out for help by posting so that's a great first step.


    You really need to stop this bullshit. By saying god doesn't make mistakes you ARE saying that god caused those babies to die and god took them away. And those babies born with debilitating birth defects or those in extreme pain,well god wanted that for them. If that's your belief fine. But don't expect those with losses, and even those without, to take kindly to your words. Think before you type. Your "comforting" words have big ramifications.
    Why can't you just let someone have an opinion without going all nuts on them? I'm not religious, I don't go to church, I have had my fair share of loss and tragedy in my own life and I'm not offended by someone else's beliefs about my life. Why do you get so defensive when the comment wasn't even directed at you? And it seems like you are speaking for the OP and assuming you know what her feelings are on religion.

    Oh stfu. She can believe whatever the fuck she wants but to come on a public board and tell everyone she fully believe god killed their babies or purposefully made them suffer is disgusting. Just as she has every right to feel that way we have every right to tell her how offensive her statements are. You can be all "but it doesn't bother meeeee!" But based on this thread alone you're in the minority.
    Ummmm, I don't remember her saying those things at all. I remember you putting words in her mouth, but no, she never said anything along the lines of that filth that you are spewing.
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  • jamiemckeeljamiemckeel member

    OP, I'm no psychologist, but it does seem like there are some deep seeded issues there. I would definitely seek out help. There are so many women who can't get pregnant at all, let alone more than once. Adoption is always an option as well.  Wouldn't you rather your child grow up in a home where he/she is hoped for, prayed for, and desired no matter the gender.  

    To all those who have attacked her for sharing her honest, albeit disliked, thoughts; you all should be ashamed of yourselves.  Who are any of YOU to judge this person? Absolutely not a SINGLE ONE OF YOU can state with 100% honesty that you've never had a thought or feeling you wished you didn't.  The only difference, none of you ever uttered those thoughts or feelings out loud.  Instead, you chastised yourselves inwardly for thinking such things.  "People in glass houses should never throw stones."  It's a pretty popular quote, maybe you all have heard it a time or two.  Not that I agree at all with the OP, but there is a measure of bravery in risking public admonishment and admitting these thoughts.  Should she have saved these admissions for a professional? Maybe.  Or maybe she truly thought that at least ONE person could relate and give her some helpful feedback or advice.  I'd hate to see how you all react if someone posted that they were contemplating abortion. 

    After reading all your responses and language, perhaps I should dumb this down a bit. Stop being assholes. 

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  • janda426janda426 member
    jamiemckeel said:

    OP, I'm no psychologist, but it does seem like there are some deep seeded issues there. I would definitely seek out help. There are so many women who can't get pregnant at all, let alone more than once. Adoption is always an option as well.  Wouldn't you rather your child grow up in a home where he/she is hoped for, prayed for, and desired no matter the gender.  

    To all those who have attacked her for sharing her honest, albeit disliked, thoughts; you all should be ashamed of yourselves.  Who are any of YOU to judge this person? Absolutely not a SINGLE ONE OF YOU can state with 100% honesty that you've never had a thought or feeling you wished you didn't.  The only difference, none of you ever uttered those thoughts or feelings out loud.  Instead, you chastised yourselves inwardly for thinking such things.  "People in glass houses should never throw stones."  It's a pretty popular quote, maybe you all have heard it a time or two.  Not that I agree at all with the OP, but there is a measure of bravery in risking public admonishment and admitting these thoughts.  Should she have saved these admissions for a professional? Maybe.  Or maybe she truly thought that at least ONE person could relate and give her some helpful feedback or advice.  I'd hate to see how you all react if someone posted that they were contemplating abortion. 

    After reading all your responses and language, perhaps I should dumb this down a bit. Stop being assholes. 


    There's about 3 assholes in this thread. And it isn't any of us. Real world is tough. The internet will tell you what others are thinking. If you can't handle it, feel free to hit the X in the top corner and go back to the bubble you live in.
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  • tapatiaggtapatiagg member
    You should truly just be thankful your having a healthy baby!!!!
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  • my4pupsmy4pups member
    MommyOfAMiracle said:
    Dancerppf said:
    **SNIP**
     Have faith that God makes no mistakes

    Dancerppf said:
    **SNIP**

     I said God doesn't make mistakes and I stand by that statement. 

    **SNIP**

     And nature can be brutal sometimes and its hurtful and unfortunate however the only thing promised in life is death. So let's be realistic.

    **SNIP**

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    my4pups said:
     
      Ummmm, I don't remember her saying those things at all. I remember you putting words in her mouth, but no, she never said anything along the lines of that filth that you are spewing.
    I bolded it for you.
    Hmmmm, nope still don't see where she said the crap you said directly to the OP. She said God doesn't make mistakes" which was her attempt to simply be supportive.  You are the one who brought it to a whole new disgusting level in the high-school-mean-girls manner that so many people on this thread have. 
    On the flip side, I am so happy to see that another sane person has responded to OP. Hope she doesn't get ripped to shreds for being so nice. Obviously she is a smart woman though with her "dumbing down" at the end, high five to you chica. I like you.
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  • jamiemckeeljamiemckeel member
    You people are nasty. All of you who think typing out disgusting profanities at another human simply because you can't drum up any other way to speak/type are amazing to me. And that's not meant as a compliment. To think, these types of people and their children are the future of our race. Oh man.
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  • jamiemckeeljamiemckeel member
    Haha! I rest my case. #thatwaseasy #classic
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  • my4pupsmy4pups member
    jamiemckeel said:

    Haha! I rest my case. #thatwaseasy #classic

    Amazing isn't it...

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  • mrsbouchakourmrsbouchakour member
    Girl all I have to say is babies are blessings .. lots of women out their struggling to have at least one one child so u should be lucky are blessed with a girl .. gender shouldn't even matter.. suck it up
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  • janda426janda426 member
    tambo19 said:

    Guys, seeing as this is a pregnancy forum, I'd have thought that everyone would understand pregnancy hormones and how they can take a toll on your emotions. I think you should let it all out. You won't exactly be upset with the gender when she's born, you'll be happy everything went well! Don't worry about it, ignore all the negative comments, cry as much as you want to and don't worry. You'll be fine.

    Oh except for the moms who DO resent their kid for being a different sex than they wanted? Oh okay. Didn't know you could predict the future.
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  • EmpireceoEmpireceo member
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    Guys, seeing as this is a pregnancy forum, I'd have thought that everyone would understand pregnancy hormones and how they can take a toll on your emotions. I think you should let it all out. You won't exactly be upset with the gender when she's born, you'll be happy everything went well! Don't worry about it, ignore all the negative comments, cry as much as you want to and don't worry. You'll be fine.

    This is the stupidest comment I've seen in a long time. Pregnancy hormones don't excuse you from general assholery. You may not be happy when your child of the "wrong" SEX is born and risk a lifetime of making her feel not good enough. Some of us know what the fuck we are talking about on this topic, so take your useless platitudes and fuck off.
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    tambo19 said:
    Guys, seeing as this is a pregnancy forum, I'd have thought that everyone would understand pregnancy hormones and how they can take a toll on your emotions. I think you should let it all out. You won't exactly be upset with the gender when she's born, you'll be happy everything went well! Don't worry about it, ignore all the negative comments, cry as much as you want to and don't worry. You'll be fine.

    "This is the stupidest comment I've seen in a long time. Pregnancy hormones don't excuse you from general assholery. You may not be happy when your child of the "wrong" SEX is born and risk a lifetime of making her feel not good enough. Some of us know what the fuck we are talking about on this topic, so take your useless platitudes and fuck off."
    Why don't you all just stop being horrible bitches!! She hasn't said she doesn't want the baby any more! Jesus Christ!! Most of you don't actually know what you're talking about and are spreading so much bullshit hate on this post, it's disgusting. You should be ashamed of yourselves for being judgemental pricks. She hasn't said she wishes she wasn't pregnant any more or that she wants an abortion because she's disappoited with the gender!! Fuck sake guys. Give the girl a break!!!!
    This is exactly what you're doing.  Now run the fuck along.
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