Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Random thread- for all things random.
Shipping up to Boston (there's some punk on there too - dropkick murphy's, less than Jake, mighty mighty bostones)
Metalica - battery, for whom the bell tolls
Volbeat - the warrior's call
Rob Zombie - never gonna stop
I think he put welcome to the jungle too.
That's all I remember off the top of my head.
Thank you, I didn't even think of overstimulation
You guys! My first boyfriend is all grown up & has a "comedic documentary" show called "Town of the living dead" coming to SyFy in October. Here's the trailer -
https://www.syfy.com/townofthelivingdead
I even have friends in the "Thr33 Days Dead" movie. It's so crazy to see so much scenery from a town I'm extremely familiar with. I'm super happy for him. He's had a tough go of it. It's great to see success come from his persistence.
Your DH can come over and jam with us any day! Awesome list!
It's a rainy dreary mess here in Chicago today... I just want to enjoy fall already!
Oh goodness! System of a down is my shit. Nowadays I have no one to jam out with. H hates that music. I'll just jam with my babies for the time being. Love Rob Zombie!!!
We have our "Irish Twins"
DD born 8/7/2013
DS born 7/28/14
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Do any of you guys like female lead singers or bands? I made it a mission of mine to find as many female rock, heavy metal, etc singers that I could.
@jensavicci
WHAT??!! Check out his music now!
And yes.....Hole is my all time fave! And, yes yes yes..they are getting back together next year. I'm so ready for that tour.
We have our "Irish Twins"
DD born 8/7/2013
DS born 7/28/14
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Oh goodness! System of a down is my shit. Nowadays I have no one to jam out with. H hates that music. I'll just jam with my babies for the time being. Love Rob Zombie!!!
This is so funny! I didn't think that any other adults Listened to metal! Ha!
Matthew knows that he's not allowed to listen to slipknot until he's 21
@jensavicci - In This Moment is super hardcore, but the female singer is really awesome and super hot. They were amazing in concert.
“When the first baby laughed for the first time, its laugh broke into a thousand pieces, and they all went skipping about, and that was the beginning of fairies.”
- J.M. Barrie Peter Pan
married on the sweetest day 10.20.12
Chicken - 07.08.06 | Bubsy - 02.24.09 | Sunshine - 07.16.14
Peanut butter fudge = peanut butter carmel > peanut butter > peanut butter cream pie
I still need to try the Oreo peanut butter
@TexasGirl81
Lol! Ok I'll look him up.
P.S. we are going to see Slipknot and Korn in December
P.P.S. I'm secretly (not so secretly) in love with Johnathan Davis...
Crazy shit!
The last apt complex I worked at there was this lovely older couple I fell in love with them. So genuine and sweet! We talked about families and a ton of other stuff.
Then the man talking about how much he loves his granddaughter, and how his daughter had just divorced the dad. He said you might know of him. I was thinking how in the hell would I know him? lol!! The he said her dad is the lead singer from Korn. Have you heard of them?? I was like ummmm yeahhhhh!!!! The fuck?! Who hasn't? Lol!
Then I was all, that's so neat!!! Do you still see him often? He like "oh yea". I told him well if he ever comes to visit is ex-in laws in Houston. Bring him to our office. Ha!!
We have our "Irish Twins"
DD born 8/7/2013
DS born 7/28/14
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Flyleaf is my shit!!! I went to their concert and did covers to all around me and fully alive a while back. I also love me some korn. I became obsessed with their music after seeing queen of the damned. Their music is so sexy lol in a dark way.
We have our "Irish Twins"
DD born 8/7/2013
DS born 7/28/14
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