We have the gender in an envelope!!

JenK2 · September 2014

How should my husband and I find out what we're having? I'm looking for cute ideas.

We had the Panorama test done and the results are in! Our families are out of town and won't be getting together until my son's Birthday in October. We haven't decided how/when we are going to tell them, but we are finding out today!!!

goofygoff · September 2014

*sex

rm2013 · September 2014

Not sure what you are asking. Are you asking how you should open the envelope for yourself? Or how to tell your family?

psychbear · September 2014

Like from a psychic? That's wild.

If you mean sex, I'd check out Pinterest. It's full of AW'ing baby genital ideas.

ETA: the spelling

JenK2 · September 2014

I'm asking about the two of us finding out. I don't just want to open the envelope and read a report. I want to think of something fun like going to a restaurant and asking them to make us something. Something like that.

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rm2013 · September 2014

So... What you really want is for a third party to open your test results and then bring you something pink or blue?? Or bring you something with the color hidden in it?

alexandria22489 · September 2014

Personally...I wouldn't do that. finding out the sex of your child is something for you and your husband to celebrate. I would be a bit irritated if I was at a restaurant and the table next to me started celebrating because they found out their baby's sex. I don't think a public place is appropriate for this type of thing

edit: I do not mean it's a bad idea to open the envelope at dinner, I mean I believe it's a bad idea to have the restaurant actually DO something to reveal it for you.

janda426 · September 2014

I wouldn't be giving my personal medical results to anyone I don't know.. And aren't all the results from the test in that envelope? Like what if, God forbid, there was bad news in that envelope? Idk much about the panorama test but I know it's not given solely to find out the sex.. Just open the envelope with your husband. I don't see why it needs a huge fanfare

beatlesgal4 · September 2014

I have a friend who went to a bakery and had them make a cake that was either pink or blue on the inside and had a reveal party. I think they advertise doing that kind of thing. But the envelope only had "boy" or "girl" written inside, not a report. That would worry me a bit...

lewispm · September 2014

Of course you don't NEED the fanfare, but I'm one that's always down for celebrating the things in life that are important to you! We gave our envelope to my cousin when we found out DS's sex and he ordered a cake with a layer of blue icing inside (we didn't trust the bakery to do it right with just an envelope saying boy or girl) and we cut into the cake with close friends and family.

It definitely wasn't necessary, but we had a blast and our friends and family did to! Different strokes for different folks, but if you want to do something special, go for it! I wouldn't mind in the least if I was sitting next to people celebrating finding out the sex of their baby at a restaurant. I think I would actually enjoy it!

JenK2 · September 2014

I already discussed the important test results with my doctor. I asked her to write down the gender for us, so it should just say boy or girl. We aren't trying to plan a party. This will just be for the two of us. Of course it will still be special if we just go straight home and read it, but I am always up adding a special touch. I don't need a show. I was just looking for ideas. Everybody has their own opinions, but this is something we want to do and I'm pretty excited about it.

selena61307 · September 2014

@JenK2‌ it isn't gender it is the Sex I can't even get past that to read the rest of your post

nannabee21 · September 2014

I don't really see why other people need to get involved. After my wedding I heard the saying "nobody cares about your wedding as much as you" and it's true. Same applies here and now I know and will not beat people down with baby talk like I did wedding. Nobody cares about the sex of your child as much as you. Why give it to someone who could care less what you're having to tell you the info. I agree with above, just read it at dessert or something.

janda426 · September 2014

JenK2 said:
I already discussed the important test results with my doctor. I asked her to write down the gender for us, so it should just say boy or girl. We aren't trying to plan a party. This will just be for the two of us. Of course it will still be special if we just go straight home and read it, but I am always up adding a special touch. I don't need a show. I was just looking for ideas. Everybody has their own opinions, but this is something we want to do and I'm pretty excited about it.

Honestly I think just opening the envelope and finding out together would be enough. Idk. I used to think Id do all this crazy over the top shit but when it came down to it I just flat out told people or didn't do anything creative, it's up to you what you wanna do. You're the only one who knows what is special enough to you

bdazzld · September 2014

It's sex not gender. That aside, I've seen two things that were cute.

Take the envelope to a bakery, ask them to bake a small cake or cupcakes that are either pink or blue based on what's in the envelope. Otherwise they're identical (be clear

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Or, you can ask a close friend if they'd mind going to a party store and getting blue or pink balloons based on the results in the envelope, placed into a box. Then you and your husband can open the box after dinner and see what balloons float out.

Then check your other results to make sure the baby is ya know healthy--the real reason for the tests

nannabee21 · September 2014

MandJS said:

nannabee21 said:

I don't really see why other people need to get involved. After my wedding I heard the saying "nobody cares about your wedding as much as you" and it's true. Same applies here and now I know and will not beat people down with baby talk like I did wedding. Nobody cares about the sex of your child as much as you. Why give it to someone who could care less what you're having to tell you the info. I agree with above, just read it at dessert or something.

All of this except could NOT care less. (Sorry, pet peeve.)

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Aw damn. Lol. Thanks for catching me.
Quote box fail

CoozieInMyPurse · September 2014

I think you definitely need a fro-fro turban.

052806 · September 2014

ToasterCat said:

I think this is dumb, why so you need someone to make you a pink or blue soufflé to find out what you're having? Open envelope, find out sex, celebrate.

Why do you have to rain on everyone's parade. The chick is excited. If she wants the waiter at a restaurant to make her a penis cake, then who are you to tell her no?

052806 · September 2014

msmarie2490 said:

ToasterCat said:

I think this is dumb, why so you need someone to make you a pink or blue soufflé to find out what you're having? Open envelope, find out sex, celebrate.

Why do you have to rain on everyone's parade. The chick is excited. If she wants the waiter at a restaurant to make her a penis cake, then who are you to tell her no?
----quote fail ---- I know this isn't directed at me, but I'm very curious what a waiter would do if I asked them to make me a penis cake.

I was totally being sarcastic.

I bet if it was a place that specialized in bachelorette parties they would be all for it!

alexandria22489 · September 2014

052806 said:

msmarie2490 said:

ToasterCat said:

I think this is dumb, why so you need someone to make you a pink or blue soufflé to find out what you're having? Open envelope, find out sex, celebrate.

Why do you have to rain on everyone's parade. The chick is excited. If she wants the waiter at a restaurant to make her a penis cake, then who are you to tell her no?
----quote fail ---- I know this isn't directed at me, but I'm very curious what a waiter would do if I asked them to make me a penis cake.

I was totally being sarcastic.

I bet if it was a place that specialized in bachelorette parties they would be all for it!

at first, I was like "Oh hell no" but then I read "penis cake" and just knew you were being funny

rm2013 · September 2014

I'm scared at what cake they would bring out for a girl then.

JenK2 · September 2014

People buy penis cake pans and only use them once. Somebody out there would love nothing more than to make me a penis cake. Lol

Again, the baby is healthy. We already have those results.

Sorry if I offended anybody by saying gender instead of sex. It is the norm to hear about gender reveal parties so it is stuck in my head.

This is the last time I will post anything here. People are so negative. Even the mods can't handle people with opinions that are different from their own. WTF!? Who cares if I ask a waiter to put pink icing in a cupcake? They will probably think it's exciting. Plus, I would tip well to make up for the effort. I am excited. Y'all can keep commenting negative responses on posts bc you have nothing better to do. I thought people would like to talk about babies given that this is a birth month club.

I do appreciate the few people who actually answered my question.

alexandria22489 · September 2014

how about a meat cake?

edit: i know this has nothing to do with this topic, but i was searching "it's a girl" cakes and this is the result i found most intriguing.

lewispm · September 2014

MandJS said:

lewispm said:

Of course you don't NEED the fanfare, but I'm one that's always down for celebrating the things in life that are important to you! We gave our envelope to my cousin when we found out DS's sex and he ordered a cake with a layer of blue icing inside (we didn't trust the bakery to do it right with just an envelope saying boy or girl) and we cut into the cake with close friends and family.
It definitely wasn't necessary, but we had a blast and our friends and family did to! Different strokes for different folks, but if you want to do something special, go for it! I wouldn't mind in the least if I was sitting next to people celebrating finding out the sex of their baby at a restaurant. I think I would actually enjoy it!

You realize how ridiculous it is that you throw a party to celebrate the genitalia of your unborn child and it's considered acceptable because they are in utero, but the minute that kid is an outside baby, it's considered in poor taste to blast their genitals to others, right?

Of course it's not right to blast their genitalia, but its certainly not inappropriate to talk about your baby as a "son" or "daughter", where genitalia is obviously inferred. I was not celebrating that my baby had a certain genitalia, but that I would be having a son. To me, that's something worth celebrating. Obviously it isn't to you, but that doesn't make me right and you wrong or vice versa.

I think finding out the sex of your future child is one of the greatest surprises in life and definitely not "ridiculous" to celebrate. And no, by celebrating my son I am not insinuating that it is important to me that he do "boyish" things or even identify as a man in his later years.. I can totally respect other's that don't want to have a party or do a silly reveal, but I would hope they would respect those that do. It's all a matter of preference and really means very little about a person in the grand scheme of things.

JenK2 · September 2014

Meat cake it is! With a pink or blue diaper. Can you dye bacon? @alexandria22489‌

alexandria22489 · September 2014

JenK2 said:

Meat cake it is! With a pink or blue diaper. Can you dye bacon? @alexandria22489‌

i'm going to vote yes. Or, you could surpass the diaper and just mold the genitalia with the meat.

JenK2 · September 2014

Stick that penis cake right on there.

052806 · September 2014

MandJS said:

lewispm said:

MandJS said:

lewispm said:

Of course you don't NEED the fanfare, but I'm one that's always down for celebrating the things in life that are important to you! We gave our envelope to my cousin when we found out DS's sex and he ordered a cake with a layer of blue icing inside (we didn't trust the bakery to do it right with just an envelope saying boy or girl) and we cut into the cake with close friends and family.
It definitely wasn't necessary, but we had a blast and our friends and family did to! Different strokes for different folks, but if you want to do something special, go for it! I wouldn't mind in the least if I was sitting next to people celebrating finding out the sex of their baby at a restaurant. I think I would actually enjoy it!

You realize how ridiculous it is that you throw a party to celebrate the genitalia of your unborn child and it's considered acceptable because they are in utero, but the minute that kid is an outside baby, it's considered in poor taste to blast their genitals to others, right?

Of course it's not right to blast their genitalia, but its certainly not inappropriate to talk about your baby as a "son" or "daughter", where genitalia is obviously inferred. I was not celebrating that my baby had a certain genitalia, but that I would be having a son. To me, that's something worth celebrating. Obviously it isn't to you, but that doesn't make me right and you wrong or vice versa.
I think finding out the sex of your future child is one of the greatest surprises in life and definitely not "ridiculous" to celebrate. And no, by celebrating my son I am not insinuating that it is important to me that he do "boyish" things or even identify as a man in his later years.. I can totally respect other's that don't want to have a party or do a silly reveal, but I would hope they would respect those that do. It's all a matter of preference and really means very little about a person in the grand scheme of things.

Except you ARE celebrating the sex. Your child's gender and preference (maybe "he" feels more like a "she") won't be known until the child is older. I have zero problem with others doing what they want. But having a party is, by definition, including others, and it's completely AWy. Yes, that's my opinion, and YES, I am entitled to share it.

Well guess who just got scratched off the invite list for my 3rd baby shower/ gender reveal party for all 3 of my kids? FFS. I hope you're happy.

And I said all 3 because the oldest boy told me he wants to be a girl- then he told me he wants to be superman. The youngest told me he is def a boy. And the one in utero, well... I am deciding that one on my own and plan to celebrate/ announce.

lewispm · September 2014

MandJS said:

lewispm said:

MandJS said:

lewispm said:

Of course you don't NEED the fanfare, but I'm one that's always down for celebrating the things in life that are important to you! We gave our envelope to my cousin when we found out DS's sex and he ordered a cake with a layer of blue icing inside (we didn't trust the bakery to do it right with just an envelope saying boy or girl) and we cut into the cake with close friends and family.
It definitely wasn't necessary, but we had a blast and our friends and family did to! Different strokes for different folks, but if you want to do something special, go for it! I wouldn't mind in the least if I was sitting next to people celebrating finding out the sex of their baby at a restaurant. I think I would actually enjoy it!

You realize how ridiculous it is that you throw a party to celebrate the genitalia of your unborn child and it's considered acceptable because they are in utero, but the minute that kid is an outside baby, it's considered in poor taste to blast their genitals to others, right?

Of course it's not right to blast their genitalia, but its certainly not inappropriate to talk about your baby as a "son" or "daughter", where genitalia is obviously inferred. I was not celebrating that my baby had a certain genitalia, but that I would be having a son. To me, that's something worth celebrating. Obviously it isn't to you, but that doesn't make me right and you wrong or vice versa.
I think finding out the sex of your future child is one of the greatest surprises in life and definitely not "ridiculous" to celebrate. And no, by celebrating my son I am not insinuating that it is important to me that he do "boyish" things or even identify as a man in his later years.. I can totally respect other's that don't want to have a party or do a silly reveal, but I would hope they would respect those that do. It's all a matter of preference and really means very little about a person in the grand scheme of things.

Except you ARE celebrating the sex. Your child's gender and preference (maybe "he" feels more like a "she") won't be known until the child is older. I have zero problem with others doing what they want. But having a party is, by definition, including others, and it's completely AWy. Yes, that's my opinion, and YES, I am entitled to share it.

You most certainly are. And nowhere in my response did I let on that you weren't. I was just defending my own opinion on the matter since I don't find it "ridiculous" at all. and since OP obviously shares my opinion, I thought I'd offer a helpful suggestion. And yes, parties are always AWish to an extent when thrown for oneself, but our guests got free food, cake, drinks, and fellowship and had a blast. No gifts were exchanged and no complaints were made. I've been to several reveal parties and had fun at every single one. To each her own.

052806 · September 2014

MandJS said:

@052806 - I think I love you. But if you make me a penis cake, I'll know for sure.

I don't really have an occasion to purchase the pan... but perhaps I could re-use it again for Rosh Hashannah? Nothing says L'Shana Tova quite like a penis cake.

052806 · September 2014

MandJS said:

052806 said:

MandJS said:

@052806 - I think I love you. But if you make me a penis cake, I'll know for sure.

I don't really have an occasion to purchase the pan... but perhaps I could re-use it again for Rosh Hashannah? Nothing says L'Shana Tova quite like a penis cake.

EXACTLY. Did you see my link above for ways to reuse the pan?

I am literally laughing out loud trying to imagine the look on my 91 year old grandmothers face as I present this cake to everyone at holiday dinner. Priceless.

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dani727 · September 2014

While some posts in this thread might have felt a bit harsh, you should know that there have been threads literally every day where the community here expresses their strong feelings on the use of the word gender. I feel like if you haven't seen it or come across these posts on the board, you have either not lurked enough or you have not participated in any boards. My guess is that if this post were worded differently, it would have been better received. I'll be honest- I only clicked because you wrote gender and I thought, "Aw shit...here we go again...let's see how THIS unfolds!"

chaysefaith · September 2014

I'm super busy at work and the only reason I opened this thread was because in a moment of downtime I refreshed the main page and saw a notification calling me in here.

That said, someone asked what the cake would look like if its a girl. I present to you, vagina cupcake.

JenK2 · September 2014

@MandJS I do not read a lot of posts on here, and now that people have explained it, I get why saying gender in that context could be offensive. Hence, why I apologized. That correction is not what I was referring to in my reply. Several people came across as rude, including you. It is one thing share your opinion, and another to insult people for seeing things differently than you. I think mods should represent an accepting environment. Just my opinion.

alexandria22489 · September 2014

chaysefaith said:

I'm super busy at work and the only reason I opened this thread was because in a moment of downtime I refreshed the main page and saw a notification calling me in here.

That said, someone asked what the cake would look like if its a girl. I present to you, vagina cupcake.

yes. I'm going to nonchalantly email this to my sisters to see if these end up as my baby shower. i feel you can still have vagina cupcakes if youre team green.

chaysefaith · September 2014

@JenK2, I've seen lots of people with way worse starts than you have had here in this thread. And you seem to have accepted the constructive criticism you got on terminology with stride, and unless I was reading too much into it, you also seem to have joked back a little.

Stick around, if I'm reading you correctly I think you'll like it here and fit in just fine. The Bump as a whole is a snarky place but we're still welcoming!

goofygoff · September 2014

alexandria22489 said:

chaysefaith said:

I'm super busy at work and the only reason I opened this thread was because in a moment of downtime I refreshed the main page and saw a notification calling me in here.

That said, someone asked what the cake would look like if its a girl. I present to you, vagina cupcake.

yes. I'm going to nonchalantly email this to my sisters to see if these end up as my baby shower. i feel you can still have vagina cupcakes if youre team green.

Absolutely, but you have to use penis toppers.

JenK2 · September 2014

Thanks @dani727 and @chaysefaith! I understand it is the internet and don't take things personally. I was just so excited when I came to post that the response really caught me off guard. I have exciting news and didn't foresee that response. Lol
@Chunkymonkeylvr‌ I could see some employees thinking it was ridic if I asked them to put food coloring in a mini bottle of champagne or something similar. On the other hand, I used to be a waitress and I would have loved this! It would have made my night. Regardless, I'm not crazy about that idea and it was just an example. That's why I want to steal everybody's ideas that are better than mine. Haha.
Keep the ideas coming! Nothing with a lot of prep work, as much as I would love a penis cake or vagina cupcakes. That would be a story for when they were older.

bdazzld · September 2014

Chunkymonkeylvr said:

What kind of options would a restaurant have to do something like this for you on the fly? I can just see the eye roll of the waiter who makes 2.50 an hour. I'm all about sex reveal squee! Like serious, I'm the salmon swimming upstream in TB, but I find this annoying.

I personally wouldn't do it at a restaurant unless it was private and say, we brought our own cupcake or something.

Aside from that, I just wanted to note, some states pay waiters and waitresses minimum wage- I see the assumption that every state pays waitstaff these crazy low wages and in my state (California) it's just not true, though my understanding is that it holds true for the majority of states.

No matter what they are paid though--always tip if the service was good/decent please! Tip well if they paid special attention to you, and tip GREAT if you make special requests like this

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