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December 2014 Moms
agsgrrl
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Father's Age
agsgrrl
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I'm curious because maternal age is discussed pretty often in society, at what age are your SOs becoming fathers? (Or at what age did your past/present SO first become a father) More specifically I wonder how age affects certain aspects of how a man reacts to fatherhood. My fiancé will be 37 shortly after baby is born and this is his first child. He's extremely excited.
He's gotten quite a few "what the hell" looks and comments from people, mostly from peers who had children in late teens/early 20s. We don't care but it gets my wheels turning.
Thoughts, experience or any input?
He's gotten quite a few "what the hell" looks and comments from people, mostly from peers who had children in late teens/early 20s. We don't care but it gets my wheels turning.
Thoughts, experience or any input?
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Re: Father's Age
My H was 39 when we had our first (DD1), he will be 43 when this one is born. He maintains that he doesn't want to be 78 and at a high school graduation so we're getting em in now
I just turned 30 and look young, he has already gone completely silver so we've gotten the grandpa comments, and he has also been called my dad...oops
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My Dad was 21 with his first daughter add two more daughters in the middle and at 39 with his last (me). My dad was more involved in my life due to job/ income flexibility that he didn't have with my sisters. He just turned 67 and is already trying to plan fishing trips and vacations with my little one, he is very active.
Exactly the same problem, he is grey for his age too. (For that matter so am I but nobody needs to see that on me.) and I look younger (or so people say haha) he is so afraid of being mistaken for grandpa.
ETA: We were not ready to be parents when we had our first. We had been together for 5yrs, living together for 3.5 of those years, but I was still in college, he was pretty immature, we weren't married, and we weren't anywhere near ready financially. My first was a condom baby that completely turned our lives upside down. As soon as we got over the shock of my BFP we got our shiit together and we're able to be financially secure enough to actually TTC #2 when our first turned 1.5yrs old. I had just turned 24 when we had our second and he was 25. Our original plan was to start having kids at about 25 and we only wanted 2. I think this is the reason we weren't content with having 2. It's hard to imagine being done having kids by the time we originally planned to start our family.
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Edit to add: this is both of our first.
My DH is like 18mos older than me, so that made him 29 when DD was born but only for another 2 months. He'll be 31 this time for 6 months after baby is born. He's was one of the first of his friends to have kids with DD but has a lot more family friends now.
He was freakin the first timw cause he was in his last trimester at school and unemployed (got hired before DD went into daycare) but he looks younger than he is so most people think he's in his mid-twenties. I still think I'm like 26/27 lol but I'll hit 30 in 2015.
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DH is 30.
There was actually a short NPR piece yesterday that mentioned fathering later in life. They were talking about having kids in ones 50s or later (and mostly focusing on second marriages, where the dad already had some kids). Here's an interesting quote:
"His survey revealed that those kids said they spent more time with, and had stronger relationships with, their older dads than their peers did with their younger fathers — but that came at a price ... They all had fears about the age of their dads"
I see this, exactly, in my uncle. He is in his mid-60s, has 3 adult children, and 3 more, all under 5 from another marriage. I hate to mention it, but he recently had a heart attack and had to have major surgery. He's doing well now, but it was really, really scary for a while. [Not trying to scare anyone else though - like I said, he's in his mid-60s and we have a very clear family history of heart attacks at a young age.]
On the other hand, he seems a lot more engaged in raising these kids. It is sort of sweet to watch, actually. He is so playful and loving with them, and they absolutely adore him.
We were 26 and almost 32 with our first pregnancy. And then 29 and nearing 35 with our second pregnancy.
DH is the first in his group of friends to start a family. I think they're all a bit freaked out about it, because they're in much different places in life. Luckily, he has some really great, supportive coworkers that have families. I'm happy he can talk to them, get advice, etc.
Man, you're barely a year older than me. I can't imagine having a kid in high school/college or even a grandmother. Yikes!!! I too robbed the cradle. MH is 31 and I'm 36 (seriously, I had to honestly think about that for a second...born in 1978, yep 36). I was really expecting to get comments about MY age but no one has said a word. The only comments I've gotten have been about having 3 kids in 3 years.