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October 2014 Moms
Tuesday Randoms
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Re: Tuesday Randoms
Our power has been out since 6:30 this morning and finally just came back. Time to go back and see what I missed in the first 5 pages.
Holy shit I agree with you!
Eh, I don't think any of us are trying to say it's the worst case scenario to have grandparents that want to be overly involved...but it is still a valid concern. Does it keep me awake at night? No. When my mom or Inlaws say something that rubs me the wrong way am I allowed to get a little annoyed? Yes. Doesn't mean I am going to go all psycho mom or anything. I will just be a mom that needs to vent to other moms who can understand where I am coming from :-??Regarding grandparent. My biggest hurdle will be my own grandma. She is great and fabulous and she is one of my favorite people on the planet.
BUT she just regained mobility after two hip surgeries and an epidural that helped her back after she took a nasty fall last October. In addition to that she has Parkinson's and her hands are not as steady as they once were. She honestly believes that I am going to be leaving my baby (we live three hours from each other) in her care for like a week at a time.
It breaks my heart because for my whole life she was the strongest person I know and she normally doesn't take no for an answer (which how she was the one that took me to church, ballet lessons, gymnastics, school supplies and clothes shopping).
I do want her involved as this is her first great grandchild but I don't know how to avoid hurting her feelings. I am not asking any advice, just needed to vent.
She just kept making this huge deal about getting engorged, and that terrified me.
She did say that the alarm might not be necessary--to definitely feed the baby on demand, but the alarm is in case the baby HASN'T asked to be fed in 3 hours. I think.
On the pumping, I think she recommended what you do--the 3-week point. She mentioned wanting to give the baby one or two bottles a week just to make sure she will get used to them, but NOT to switch over more than that. Because the baby will HAVE to take a bottle at some point. And I think this all starts at 3 weeks, but I've had a few people suggest waiting until 6. So, I'm unclear on that.
She didn't specify that it was beginning of feed to the next beginning, so I'll make mental note of that, too.
I think I just mentally checked out when she said "if your breasts haven't gotten larger during pregnancy, I need to know that!" like that was a very serious thing. And my boobs are exactly the same. So, I teared up, thinking who cares about this class, I won't even make milk. It was not a good night for me.
That was me. And I didn't freak out over it - I just found that it was annoying. That was just one incident in a long list of incidents. I had a really tough time adjusting to being a parent and had a lot of confidence issues
with handling DS1 which my Mom unknowingly and unintentionally contributed to. I needed to figure things out on my own and she acted as if I was totally incompetent - refusing to leave me alone with the baby and acting as if I would hurt the baby.
I understand that she came from a place of love and of course I would rather she love my baby and be overbearing as a result than not give two shits about him. It's just that her actions, although done from a place of love, had the direct result of undermining my confidence with dealing with a newborn. And if I asked her to help less or step back, she didn't get that and instead took it personally. Everyone has different relationships/dynamics with their parents.
All I could think of when I read this is the fact that it keeps going around that Sugar does NOT cause kids to bounce off of walls or misbehave. When I ask moms about that, they are always like "Um, just you wait."
Someone weigh in, because I'm curious. I found lots of links, but they look boring. I'll leave this one:
https://www.yalescientific.org/2010/09/mythbusters-does-sugar-really-make-children-hyper/
This was on n14. It's a link to baby's r us. The help you get your free breast pump. They do all the work you just call and set it up. You guys might have all ready found it but I thought I would share just in case.
https://m.toysrus.com/shop/index.jsp?categoryId=22729026
But the second issue is that she lives an hour away. And I'm not planning on taking the baby out to see her often in the winter. I see her maybe 3 or 4 times a year as it is. And she cannot come here, she is in a wheelchair.
I guess I just felt like an asshole when my mom told me Grandma got a TDAP. I was like "I don't understand why you made her do that," and I wonder if my Grandma has these ideas that this baby is going to be going to stay with them for any amount of time. Because. She's not.
Also, this:
https://www.wpxi.com/news/news/restaurant-claims-lesean-mccoy-left-020-tip-photo/nhJd5/
(I don't know if I tagged the right people, because I always forget numbers)
That bassinet picture is so damn cute
My blood is beginning to boil.
Will it help you out if I told you my cat vomited all over the bedroom this morning while I was on the toilet (so I couldn't get up too fast) and my dog was "helping" clean it up?
Because that also happens when you have a cat! Just saying!
I hate loaning people things for this same reason. Someone has had two CDs and a DVD for like 3 years. And it's not a huge deal, but those CDs will cost like $80 a piece to replace, since they are rare. I asked again a few months ago. He was like "yeah, yeah, I'll get it back to you."
Thanks for all of your BF help! I'm going to be pestering you and Emerald in a month, I can already tell.
I'm the only designer on the planet that hates Apple.
I wouldve been like, oh about 29lbs, how about you?
I'm the only designer on the planet that hates Apple.
I'm an Android fan as well! Due for an upgrade in 2 weeks and considering the Samsung Galaxy S5. I've loved my Motorola Droid but I know Samsung is currently leading the pack technology-wise.
Twice now in the last week, this monster has rolled (what I assume to be) her giant fat head along my bladder. I guess? Maybe cervix? I have no idea, but something down there, and it literally feels like I'm being electrocuted from the inside all the way up to my belly button.
He was like "WHATISTHEMATTERWITHYOU" and I was all "MAKEHERSTOP" and it was dramatic.
It normally happens after some rooting around down there, so I assume it's her rolling around like a bull in a china shop, and it normally just tapers off after some more rooting around, but I have no idea. She's kinda preparing to do it again now, and if I scream right now at work like I did last night, they will assume it's labor and make me go home.