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Venting.....

cwallin500cwallin500 member
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I apologize for the length of this, but I really just need to vent/rant about a situation with my in-laws and see if maybe I'm over reacting.     Last year, my husband and I moved from the East Coast to the Midwest to be closer to my family to help with our son.  At the time we were about a 5 hour drive from my husband's family.   We chose here because of the cost of living and the quality of living you get here.   It has taken us some time to get settled and we are not financially back to where we were before we moved.    We had planned on flying to visit his family next month, but we just weren't comfortable spending $1000+ plus taking a 2 year old on a 6 hour travel plan with plane changes, etc.     His mom has been talking about how much she wants to see our son, so we offered to buy a ticket for her come out for a 4 day weekend.  At first she was all about it, then somehow it became a logistics nightmare..... She takes care of her daughter's (my SIL) 2 kids while her and her husband both work. (both teachers)  So we tried to pick a weekend where they had a 3 day weekend  and they would only have to use one of their vacation days to stay home with their kids.   We almost bought the ticket, then it was a problem because the day they had to ask off was an in-service day so she would lose a day's pay.   Then she didn't like the times of the flights because the cheapest flight got my MIL back home at 11:00 at night - 1. she didn't want to go pick her up that late on a school night, and 2. she would be too tired to watch her kids the next day.   So she wanted us to get an earlier flight with 2 connections and more expensive to accommodate her.  No problem, except she has no problem being out late on a school night for a Pearl Jam concert.   Next thing we know, my MIL said she just wasn't going to be able to come out during the school year because it was too difficult to take the time off....   I am furious.   I feel like if it was SO important that you see your grandchild, you would make whatever arrangements necessary and tell your daughter you need a couple days off from watching the kids....
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  • cwallin500cwallin500 member
    My husband did talk to his sister (my SIL) and her comment was it wasn't her fault that we decided to move across the country and she chose to stay close to their parents.   They live with my in laws so she has built in childcare, which is fine but my child is treated like the red-headed step grandchild.   And I only bring up the Pearl Jam concert because my SIL goes to concerts on a school night and posts about it and laughs about how tired she is going to be at work the next day.   Yet she can't drive 20 minutes to the airport to pick up my MIL.    I know there is nothing I can do about it, I just feel bad for my husband and my son.   We've been trying for almost 2 years for them to set up Skype to be able to see our son, but they can't seem to get around to it, even though my BIL has a degree in computer science and lives with them....He could probably set it up.   Its just irritating because they all cry about how they miss my son, but they make no effort to actually do anything about it.....
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    We sound like we have the same inlaws LOL !   My SIL uses her parents for everything but they allow it.    I guess I just needed some validation that I wasn't being petty - love you signature, BTW.....
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