Didn't know a dd was such a big deal!!

Jasx130 · September 2014

So hours later people are still commenting here. This was my first time posting here and likely my last. To clarify my OP I wrote it when I first got home and was maybe a little emotional. My disappointment however had nothing to do with the party like everyone made such a big deaI about, I shouldn't have even mentioned that part. It's not even a party- it was a couple people coming over for pizza because we were all really excited. My disappointment was the fact that I feel like I messed the whole ultrasound up. Like I had said I drank the water 10 minutes late and the tech made me feel really guilty about my bladder not being full enough. On top of that the baby was really low. Although what she saw of the baby looked healthy( and I am grateful for that) she couldn't complete the scan or give us the sex. I feel like it's my fault that now we couldn't get all the stats on our baby's well being. Logically I know I drank the water and it's not my fault the baby was low but by posting I was hoping to hear from other people that this happened to so maybe I wouldn't feel like it was my fault- that it's normal. That is why I asked if this has happened to anyone else. I can't believe how blown out of proportion this has gotten. I deleted the post thinking it would stop, I didn't know it was such a big deal and considered a "dd".

animalcrckr · September 2014

There is always a possibility that the sex cannot be determined at the u/s for a multitude of reasons. Maybe planning the party the same night as your u/s was not a good idea.

MommyOfAMiracle · September 2014

I haven't experienced this, but I can definitely understand how you feel. I'd be super bummed about it too. It's honestly one of the most exciting appointments! If you don't want to wait the two weeks, maybe see if there is an elective ultrasound place in your area? That way you don't have to cancel the party.

HerHighness · September 2014

Did they try a transvaginal? My daughter sits very low and my last ultrasound (at 16 weeks) she did a transvag to get a better view of a few things (they were checking on my SCH) I was told by the tech they usually also do a transvag for the anatomy scan. (So i remembered to shave my legs this time)

Ducktale · September 2014

Yet further evidence against "gender" reveal parties.

Jasx130 · September 2014

No they didn't try the transvaginal- the women seemed very rushed. I wish they had! During the scan they could see almost all of the organs and everything looked perfect. The only reason she rescheduled is because they like to have two views of the spin and she only got one.

michelle142 · September 2014

Look at the bright side, at least you get to see your baby again in two weeks.

Learning the sex is just a bonus anyway.

Amaryllismagic · September 2014

That really stinks :-( I thought most places scheduled A/S's for a longer block of time so they wouldn't be rushed through it! I've heard of them taking an hour or more to get everything. I would be in tears after looking forward to finding out the sex and then having to wait two more weeks. Healthy baby is great news though!

Jasx130 · September 2014

Wow sarabell52- so quick to attack. You must be perfect and never hormonal.

Jasx130 · September 2014

Yea I thought they were longer too! My appointment was at 9 and the next person was at 9:30

animalcrckr · September 2014

Jasx130 said:

Wow sarabell52- so quick to attack. You must be perfect and never hormonal.

I really do not think this is warranted. OP clearly stated that the tech could "not see anything" but then stated in a subsequent post that "everything looked perfect." These are contradictory statements.

Jasx130 · September 2014

sarabell52- If you can't get on board- then why bother posting at all? Makes no sense to me but okay. This little baby is already loved more than anything in the world by a lot of people. We were all very excited to finally know if it's a boy or girl and I'm really disappointed and feel like it's my fault. I'm posting in a support group of other pregnant women to see if the same thing happened to any one else. If you can't get on board then move on.

michelle142 · September 2014

Calm. Down.

FFS.

2 weeks isn't that long in the grand scheme of things.

Ducktale · September 2014

Jasx130 said:
If you can't get on board- then why bother posting at all? Makes no sense to me but okay. This little baby is already loved more than anything in the world by a lot of people. We were all very excited to finally know if it's a boy or girl and I'm really disappointed and feel like it's my fault. I'm posting in a support group of other pregnant women to see if the same thing happened to any one else. If you can't get on board then move on.

You posted a discussion. We discussed. You sound like someone who only wants replies if it's what you want to hear.

Sorry honey. Not the way the internet works.

Jasx130 · September 2014

That post was directed to one person who said... They couldn't get on board with my post.

This group is funny.

michelle142 · September 2014

Jasx130 said:

That post was directed to one person who said... They couldn't get on board with my post. This group is funny.

And we would all know that if you would use the Quote or Tag features for their intended purpose, now wouldn't we?

crystalw88 · September 2014

Awww boo!! I'm sorry this happened Let's hope things go your way in 2 weeks and you'll be able to find out then!

bhjones1980 · September 2014

My 2 cents...

If the OP would have come out and said "I had my A/S today, they saw everything was great and normal but I do need to go back for another look at the spine, but I am bummed we couldnt see the sex" then I am sure you would have had more positive responses

but you twisted your story around to a woe is me, A/S was a waste blah blah blah

Sex reveals are not guaranteed at A/S you should not have booked a party around it.

so no, get no pity from me.

Jasx130 · September 2014

wow- not looking for pity. o/p clearly asked if this has happened to anyone else?

schnitz9 · September 2014

Jasx130 said:

That post was directed to one person who said... They couldn't get on board with my post. This group is funny.

Thank you! I think the group is hilarious. @jax130 like many PP have said be happy the baby is healthy and that they just want a 2nd look at the spine. You will also get a 2nd look in 2 weeks. Most women don't get that. You're post sounds like your mainly upset because you had to cancel you're party. There are worse things in the world. Whiny I had to cancel my party type posts don't go well on any board not just F15. But I am glad to hear your LO is healthy that the most important thing.

jennjilljo · September 2014

I thought for sure that there was going to be a serious reason for disappointment. If finding out sex is that important you just need about $75 most places for an elective. Good news! Your baby is healthy! You can still have a party to celebrate that if you'd like. My a/s is 2 weeks away anyway so don't worry because you won't be the last person to know. Just think, some of these women have to deal with our excited announcements while waiting until mid-October for even the possibility of finding out.

reneamac313 · September 2014

bhjones1980 said:
My 2 cents...

If the OP would have come out and said "I had my A/S today, they saw everything was great and normal but I do need to go back for another look at the spine, but I am bummed we couldnt see the sex" then I am sure you would have had more positive responses

but you twisted your story around to a woe is me, A/S was a waste blah blah blah

Sex reveals are not guaranteed at A/S you should not have booked a party around it.

so no, get no pity from me.

This. I really appreciate the fact that when my doctor was discussing the A/S with me she explained that the most important thing that they were going to be doing is looking for 23 different things to make sure all organs are developing correctly. It was said that sometimes they aren't able to determine the sex and they aren't able to check on all 23 things. If I had to go back it was actually a plus for me since I would get to see the baby again. So ultimately the health of the baby is the most important thing...finding out the sex is just a plus.

bhjones1980 · September 2014

... is the loneliest number that you'll ever do.....

michelle142 · September 2014

Oh geez. Really?

If you can't handle the heat...

mands1125 · September 2014

Lol!! Worst DD in a long time!!

schnitz9 · September 2014

Ugh a DD

Jasx130 · September 2014

michelle142 said:
Oh geez. Really?

If you can't handle the heat...

That's not it honey- the post was misunderstood. No need to keep a post that only fostered negativity. Anyone who disagrees with that is just on here looking for drama.

chickyclg · September 2014

Lmao seriously, a DD, I'm just glad I got to read OPs bratty ass post before she started acting like a complete baby!

Jasx130 · September 2014

chickyclg said:
Lmao seriously, a DD, I'm just glad I got to read OPs bratty ass post before she started acting like a complete baby!

Like I said before- point made. People only looking for drama.

schnitz9 · September 2014

Jasx130 said:

Oh geez. Really?

If you can't handle the heat...
That's not it honey- the post was misunderstood. No need to keep a post that only fostered negativity. Anyone who disagrees with that is just on here looking for drama.

So you put an update or explain yourself not delete. Good thing its been quoted.

schnitz9 · September 2014

Jasx130 said:

Lmao seriously, a DD, I'm just glad I got to read OPs bratty ass post before she started acting like a complete baby!
Like I said before- point made. People only looking for drama.

The only one bringing the drama was you. We were just being honest.

bhjones1980 · September 2014

schnitz9 said:

Jasx130 said:

Lmao seriously, a DD, I'm just glad I got to read OPs bratty ass post before she started acting like a complete baby!
Like I said before- point made. People only looking for drama.

The only one bringing the drama was you. We were just being honest.

DRAMA LAMA MEME please!

schnitz9 · September 2014

I have to cancel my party

Jasx130 · September 2014

schnitz9 said:

Jasx130 said:

chickyclg said:
Lmao seriously, a DD, I'm just glad I got to read OPs bratty ass post before she started acting like a complete baby!
Like I said before- point made. People only looking for drama.

The only one bringing the drama was you. We were just being honest.

I tried to explain- didn't seem to matter. Clearly the most was misunderstood, I wrote it as soon as I got home and was pretty bummed. No need to keep a "bratty ass" comment around I suppose.

chickyclg · September 2014

Jasx130 said:

chickyclg said:
Lmao seriously, a DD, I'm just glad I got to read OPs bratty ass post before she started acting like a complete baby!

Like I said before- point made. People only looking for drama.

Sweetie your the only one looking for drama, because your upset that people said "oh well at least your baby is healthy" instead of OMG your baby is having a penis or vagina

Grow up and start acting like a parent, your baby is healthy with a beating little heart, as someone that has experienced loss that is all that really needs to heard, the rest is just a bonus.

HerHighness · September 2014

1. All she said is that she would be happy and concentrating on the fact that the baby is healthy. There are women here who have had a/s not go that way. With my son i couldn't find the sex at my 18 week ultrasound but i was way more concerned about the omphalacele than the fact that i couldnt have my party.

2. You are the one who started name calling

3. Its a message board not a support group. You want somewhere to be puppies and rainbows and not let you know you sounded whiney then you are in the wrong place. Most of the posts you got were supportive but you just kept wadding your panties and throwing a fit.

Jasx130 · September 2014

chickyclg said:

Jasx130 said:

chickyclg said:
Lmao seriously, a DD, I'm just glad I got to read OPs bratty ass post before she started acting like a complete baby!

Like I said before- point made. People only looking for drama.

Sweetie your the only one looking for drama, because your upset that people said "oh well at least your baby is healthy" instead of OMG your baby is having a penis or vagina

Grow up and start acting like a parent, your baby is healthy with a beating little heart, as someone that has experienced loss that is all that really needs to heard, the rest is just a bonus.

That's not at all why I deleted it. Those posts don't bother me. When people though want to write negative things because they think the post is stupid, that's what is hilarious to me. They have nothing better to do then write negativity and pick apart everything I wrote. Even more funny to me is people are still posting on it. You ladies love to put people down. Sorry I ever posted on here. What a waste.

chickyclg · September 2014

Jasx130 said:

chickyclg said:

Jasx130 said:

chickyclg said:
Lmao seriously, a DD, I'm just glad I got to read OPs bratty ass post before she started acting like a complete baby!

Like I said before- point made. People only looking for drama.

Sweetie your the only one looking for drama, because your upset that people said "oh well at least your baby is healthy" instead of OMG your baby is having a penis or vagina

Grow up and start acting like a parent, your baby is healthy with a beating little heart, as someone that has experienced loss that is all that really needs to heard, the rest is just a bonus.

chickyclg said:

Jasx130 said:

chickyclg said:
Lmao seriously, a DD, I'm just glad I got to read OPs bratty ass post before she started acting like a complete baby!

Like I said before- point made. People only looking for drama.

Sweetie your the only one looking for drama, because your upset that people said "oh well at least your baby is healthy" instead of OMG your baby is having a penis or vagina

Grow up and start acting like a parent, your baby is healthy with a beating little heart, as someone that has experienced loss that is all that really needs to heard, the rest is just a bonus.
That's not at all why I deleted it. Those posts don't bother me. When people though want to write negative things because they think the post is stupid, that's what is hilarious to me. They have nothing better to do then write negativity and pick apart everything I wrote. Even more funny to me is people are still posting on it. You ladies love to put people down. Sorry I ever posted on here. What a waste.

People said your initial post, that you deleted, sounded stupid because you seemed more concerned with your "party" than your child's health.

Jasx130 · September 2014

As I side note the post wasn't even about the party if anyone had taken the time to read it before jumping down my throat. It was just mentioned. I had asked if this had happened to anyone else. Wow

MommyOfAMiracle · September 2014

Here you go @BHJones1980

jennjilljo · September 2014

You should be happy. Everyone who posted is thrilled that your child is healthy. Your baby's health has gotten so much support here that is ridiculous. You can't be upset about reactions over your sex disappointment on a board full of women who have had losses, who have gone through IF hell just to have the chance to see what you saw today or both. These women just want you to appreciate the beauty of perfect child no matter the sex because it didn't come easy for them.

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