Wait....why would you carve your name in your curb if you're getting divorced? .....
ETA...separated. Excuse me.
Wow...you can read. I must be the most exciting thing in your life right now to be reading all my past posts on other boards. We're not separated and are not planning on it. We did have a brief period where we considered that being the best route since both of us working long hours was making our relationship non-existant. I quit my job to focus my time on being a mom and wife. We went away on vacation...started some couples counselling to sort out some communication troubles and are back on track. We put our name in our driveway curb because we do plan to be here until retirement, together. Because we work through our problems. I'd read up on your life history...but I have more exciting things to do and don't much care about the lives of people on the interent. Just sticking around here because it's fun to see all your panties in a knot...oddly enough they all seem to be knotted together.
Ooooh puh-lease. I spend all of about, I don't know, 2 minutes just clicking on some of your past posts. It seems like such a big stretch going from about to be separated and moving in with your mom OR the basement of your current home (whaaat?) and sharing custody every other week to being happily together and carving your name on public property. I mean, that was like...a month ago or something? Of course I would never hope divorce on anybody but it seems like you're overcompensating for something.
Wait....why would you carve your name in your curb if you're getting divorced? .....
ETA...separated. Excuse me.
Wow...you can read. I must be the most exciting thing in your life right now to be reading all my past posts on other boards. We're not separated and are not planning on it. We did have a brief period where we considered that being the best route since both of us working long hours was making our relationship non-existant. I quit my job to focus my time on being a mom and wife. We went away on vacation...started some couples counselling to sort out some communication troubles and are back on track. We put our name in our driveway curb because we do plan to be here until retirement, together. Because we work through our problems. I'd read up on your life history...but I have more exciting things to do and don't much care about the lives of people on the interent. Just sticking around here because it's fun to see all your panties in a knot...oddly enough they all seem to be knotted together.
Ooooh puh-lease. I spend all of about, I don't know, 2 minutes just clicking on some of your past posts. It seems like such a big stretch going from about to be separated and moving in with your mom OR the basement of your current home (whaaat?) and sharing custody every other week to being happily together and carving your name on public property. I mean, that was like...a month ago or something? Of course I would never hope divorce on anybody but it seems like you're overcompensating for something.
Ummm as the mother of a young child I was planning ahead for the worst case scenerio. If we proceed with plan A then these are the options...plan B...Plan C etc. We opted for making the big changes needed to improve our marriage to a state we were both happy with. It would have been stupid of me to not plan for that I would do if we separated. I sought some advice on how I would wean my nursing daughter so she would best deal with the separation should we move in the that direction. We didn't, she is still nursing but no longer before sleep as my husband is now in charge of bedtime routine and night wakings half the nights. We are still living together and have both made some big changes to our lives to ensure we are happy again.
One would assume that any couple that considered separation but never separated would have had some huge stretches between what could have been and what is. We kicked our asses into high gear and got things back on track faster through through individual and couples therapy. We had all our couple friends pull together to help us sort things out and help with childcare for therapy sessions and to be sounding boards. We aren't idiots and know we have lots ot work on still...hence our continuing therapy to stay on track and my forfeiting my career to remain happy as a wife and mother. Wife/mother and running my own business 60+ hrs a week was not for me...and my husband didn't like it either. Despite all the above we are once again closely connected because we are fighting for the best marriage we can make.
Nope I caught that too and her husband didn't like her career? Now him physically marking his territory makes a lot more sense. Yuck, now this got sad. And she seems to have no clue.
Nope I caught that too and her husband didn't like her career? Now him physically marking his territory makes a lot more sense. Yuck, now this got sad. And she seems to have no clue.
Nope I caught that too and her husband didn't like her career? Now him physically marking his territory makes a lot more sense. Yuck, now this got sad. And she seems to have no clue.
Nope I caught that too and her husband didn't like her career? Now him physically marking his territory makes a lot more sense. Yuck, now this got sad. And she seems to have no clue.
Nope I caught that too and her husband didn't like her career? Now him physically marking his territory makes a lot more sense. Yuck, now this got sad. And she seems to have no clue.
But...you just all day insisting the curb isn't our territory that it's city property. Now you tell me it is ours and my husband is marking it. Get your story straight for me. We're heading out for date night here...so you ladies pull together on your Saturday evening and decide if the curb is or isn't ours and I'll check back in tomorrow for the updated info.
Nope I caught that too and her husband didn't like her career? Now him physically marking his territory makes a lot more sense. Yuck, now this got sad. And she seems to have no clue.
But...you just all day insisting the curb isn't our territory that it's city property. Now you tell me it is ours and my husband is marking it. Get your story straight for me. We're heading out for date night here...so you ladies pull together on your Saturday evening and decide if the curb is or isn't ours and I'll check back in tomorrow for the updated info.
OMFG. Not only clueless but dumb to boot. Yup that's what she meant by marking his territory. Have fun on date night!
I didn't even touch it because no one can be that dumb. Especially since according to her she has like 4 degrees.
Next she's gonna come and tell us that she's pregnant...with twins! And is going to take in her poor crazy sisters kids, but she"ll have to fire the nanny in a fabulous way!
If she does, I want credit for calling it first (see page 3 or so) :P
This is the most confusing thread I have ever read. Maybe not ever - but pretty close. And your husband has money and you don't? I really have NO words for that statement.
Holy shit their marriage is all kinds of fucked up, the money and now according to this the house is his. WTF?
"Luckily her dad is amazing with her and will gently ease her into new life without me. It will suck for all, especially her since we really haven't been apart more than a few hours here and there. I'm sure it will kill me more than her. I am the one to move...the house is my husbands. But he's offered that I can live here as long as needed to ease the transition for our daughter. My first reaction was ya right like I want to be here after you tell me you want me gone. but I now realize I may have to swallow those feelings and do it, for our daughter."
I haven't read all the comments but this seems a little odd to me. I grew up on a farm and live on a farm now. When my dad or my husbands pours a slab of cement we would put the year and maybe our handprints but nothing big. Oh, and it was our own property. Paid for by us and poured by us 98% of the time.
@Kimbus22 how do you watch real housewives online?
bravotv.com lets you watch but if you dont have a cable provider, you can only watch some shows after they are old enough that they unlock
The real housewives is the only show I miss since we gave up,cable. Hulu used to have episodes a week or 2 after they aired but not anymore. When I was on bed rest with DD I bought the current season of Beverly Hills on amazon instant
why would anyone quit their job if their marriage were on the rocks so to speak? That just doesn't make sense.
My first husband was a project manager and had to do conference calls on his cell phone every monday morning he would call up the phone number, put his phone on silent so they couldn't hear him and put the ear piece in his ear and then proceeded back to bed to go to sleep.
why would anyone quit their job if their marriage were on the rocks so to speak? That just doesn't make sense.
My first husband was a project manager and had to do conference calls on his cell phone every monday morning he would call up the phone number, put his phone on silent so they couldn't hear him and put the ear piece in his ear and then proceeded back to bed to go to sleep.
It's the 'project managers' like your first husband that make it so my husband ensures all conference calls are on video...he fires the people that do half ass jobs.
I quit my job because both of us working long hours left no time and energy for us. My husband makes 5x more money than I did and I am more than happy to be at home - my working meant more big vacation, more money in investments and more splurges...which was great but not if we no longer have a marriage. I quit my job, he took time off work, we spent a week in therapy sessions, talking and planning how to move ahead and then we travelled (first for his work then to a resort). We couldn't have repaired our relationship nearly as fast otherwise. If we did separate/divorce I still wouldn't need to work but would resume work in teaching not home daycare as my pension and job is there waiting for me (resuming that when our daughter is in school full-time).
why would anyone quit their job if their marriage were on the rocks so to speak? That just doesn't make sense.
My first husband was a project manager and had to do conference calls on his cell phone every monday morning he would call up the phone number, put his phone on silent so they couldn't hear him and put the ear piece in his ear and then proceeded back to bed to go to sleep.
It's the 'project managers' like your first husband that make it so my husband ensures all conference calls are on video...he fires the people that do half ass jobs.
I quit my job because both of us working long hours left no time and energy for us. My husband makes 5x more money than I did and I am more than happy to be at home - my working meant more big vacation, more money in investments and more splurges...which was great but not if we no longer have a marriage. I quit my job, he took time off work, we spent a week in therapy sessions, talking and planning how to move ahead and then we travelled (first for his work then to a resort). We couldn't have repaired our relationship nearly as fast otherwise. If we did separate/divorce I still wouldn't need to work but would resume work in teaching not home daycare as my pension and job is there waiting for me (resuming that when our daughter is in school full-
time).
Lol yeah her controlling civil engineer husband would have fired yours. Lol the lies burn my eyes none of the stories add up like even close.
Holy shit their marriage is all kinds of fucked up, the money and now according to this the house is his. WTF?
"Luckily her dad is amazing with her and will gently ease her into new life without me. It will suck for all, especially her since we really haven't been apart more than a few hours here and there. I'm sure it will kill me more than her. I am the one to move...the house is my husbands. But he's offered that I can live here as long as needed to ease the transition for our daughter. My first reaction was ya right like I want to be here after you tell me you want me gone. but I now realize I may have to swallow those feelings and do it, for our daughter."
Where I'm from if someone goes to work, brings home a paycheck with their name on it it is theirs. We're married so i totally benefit from all his money...but he earned it. Where I come from if we were to divorce I get half the house, the law states so...but it is in fact his house. Law also dictates that he pays me money to keep up my current state of living...b
why would anyone quit their job if their marriage were on the rocks so to speak? That just doesn't make sense.
My first husband was a project manager and had to do conference calls on his cell phone every monday morning he would call up the phone number, put his phone on silent so they couldn't hear him and put the ear piece in his ear and then proceeded back to bed to go to sleep.
It's the 'project managers' like your first husband that make it so my husband ensures all conference calls are on video...he fires the people that do half ass jobs.
I quit my job because both of us working long hours left no time and energy for us. My husband makes 5x more money than I did and I am more than happy to be at home - my working meant more big vacation, more money in investments and more splurges...which was great but not if we no longer have a marriage. I quit my job, he took time off work, we spent a week in therapy sessions, talking and planning how to move ahead and then we travelled (first for his work then to a resort). We couldn't have repaired our relationship nearly as fast otherwise. If we did separate/divorce I still wouldn't need to work but would resume work in teaching not home daycare as my pension and job is there waiting for me (resuming that when our daughter is in school full- time).
Lol yeah her controlling civil engineer husband would have fired yours. Lol the lies burn my eyes none of the stories add up like even close.
Of course they don't add up to you...because you lack the ability to keep the details given straight. I clearly noted above that my husband isn't a civil engineer. As noted above there are many types of engineers, civil engineers being one of them but certainly not the only type.
why would anyone quit their job if their marriage were on the rocks so to speak? That just doesn't make sense.
My first husband was a project manager and had to do conference calls on his cell phone every monday morning he would call up the phone number, put his phone on silent so they couldn't hear him and put the ear piece in his ear and then proceeded back to bed to go to sleep.
It's the 'project managers' like your first husband that make it so my husband ensures all conference calls are on video...he fires the people that do half ass jobs.
I quit my job because both of us working long hours left no time and energy for us. My husband makes 5x more money than I did and I am more than happy to be at home - my working meant more big vacation, more money in investments and more splurges...which was great but not if we no longer have a marriage. I quit my job, he took time off work, we spent a week in therapy sessions, talking and planning how to move ahead and then we travelled (first for his work then to a resort). We couldn't have repaired our relationship nearly as fast otherwise. If we did separate/divorce I still wouldn't need to work but would resume work in teaching not home daycare as my pension and job is there waiting for me (resuming that when our daughter is in school full-
time).
Lol yeah her controlling civil engineer husband would have fired yours. Lol the lies burn my eyes none of the stories add up like even close.
Not that I really want to defend my last husband because he has since passed away, but he was very smart and never really did his job half ass. He worked for Philips where they install medical systems in hospitals. You can't half ass that shit. His boss didn't do video conferences, it was always phone calls.
so how do you fix a marriage in 1 week of therapy sessions and vacation? And how would you not have to work if you separated? You can't collect pension until you are retirement age.
Lol did you just tell me about engineers? Cute. Where I come from money and houses belong to the couple. Men who think otherwise are controlling douches.
Lol did you just tell me about engineers? Cute. Where I come from money and houses belong to the couple. Men who think otherwise are controlling douches.
Yes, that is totally true! And if money is considered separate you aren't really in an equal marriage
And you can't really foresee getting half the house if it's considered "his", I'm sure he would fight for it all. Only my name is on the title of our house, but I consider it "ours".
The workers left it when they came back because like you said, they were done for the day. That means all their tools, cement, and paint were put away. They only came back for the boards.
And they do care. They are city employees. Their work is checked and is expected to be at certain standards. They really don't appreciate toiling in the hot sun all day and then coming back to see someone ran out of their air conditioned home to deface their hard work for fun. With the over paint damaged, they would have to redo the entire section.
Lol did you just tell me about engineers? Cute. Where I come from money and houses belong to the couple. Men who think otherwise are controlling douches.
I just needed to quote and bold because I love this so much.
Re: Feeling Guilty!!
Ummm as the mother of a young child I was planning ahead for the worst case scenerio. If we proceed with plan A then these are the options...plan B...Plan C etc. We opted for making the big changes needed to improve our marriage to a state we were both happy with. It would have been stupid of me to not plan for that I would do if we separated. I sought some advice on how I would wean my nursing daughter so she would best deal with the separation should we move in the that direction. We didn't, she is still nursing but no longer before sleep as my husband is now in charge of bedtime routine and night wakings half the nights. We are still living together and have both made some big changes to our lives to ensure we are happy again.
One would assume that any couple that considered separation but never separated would have had some huge stretches between what could have been and what is. We kicked our asses into high gear and got things back on track faster through through individual and couples therapy. We had all our couple friends pull together to help us sort things out and help with childcare for therapy sessions and to be sounding boards. We aren't idiots and know we have lots ot work on still...hence our continuing therapy to stay on track and my forfeiting my career to remain happy as a wife and mother. Wife/mother and running my own business 60+ hrs a week was not for me...and my husband didn't like it either. Despite all the above we are once again closely connected because we are fighting for the best marriage we can make.
C 7.16.2008 | L 11.12.2010 | A 3.18.2013
Yep...that's me...clueless.
Yep...that's me...clueless.
I know now it's just sad.
But...you just all day insisting the curb isn't our territory that it's city property. Now you tell me it is ours and my husband is marking it. Get your story straight for me. We're heading out for date night here...so you ladies pull together on your Saturday evening and decide if the curb is or isn't ours and I'll check back in tomorrow for the updated info.
I didn't even touch it because no one can be that dumb. Especially since according to her she has like 4 degrees.
"Luckily her dad is amazing with her and will gently ease her into new life without me. It will suck for all, especially her since we really haven't been apart more than a few hours here and there. I'm sure it will kill me more than her. I am the one to move...the house is my husbands. But he's offered that I can live here as long as needed to ease the transition for our daughter. My first reaction was ya right like I want to be here after you tell me you want me gone. but I now realize I may have to swallow those feelings and do it, for our daughter."
her post history the one about weaning now.
I do too actually. As weird as she is I am sure she thinks this is totally normal. So sad
The real housewives is the only show I miss since we gave up,cable. Hulu used to have episodes a week or 2 after they aired but not anymore. When I was on bed rest with DD I bought the current season of Beverly Hills on amazon instant
It's the 'project managers' like your first husband that make it so my husband ensures all conference calls are on video...he fires the people that do half ass jobs.
I quit my job because both of us working long hours left no time and energy for us. My husband makes 5x more money than I did and I am more than happy to be at home - my working meant more big vacation, more money in investments and more splurges...which was great but not if we no longer have a marriage. I quit my job, he took time off work, we spent a week in therapy sessions, talking and planning how to move ahead and then we travelled (first for his work then to a resort). We couldn't have repaired our relationship nearly as fast otherwise. If we did separate/divorce I still wouldn't need to work but would resume work in teaching not home daycare as my pension and job is there waiting for me (resuming that when our daughter is in school full-time).
Just 3 degrees.
Just 3 degrees.
Of course you do (pats head)It's the 'project managers' like your first husband that make it so my husband ensures all conference calls are on video...he fires the people that do half ass jobs.
I quit my job because both of us working long hours left no time and energy for us. My husband makes 5x more money than I did and I am more than happy to be at home - my working meant more big vacation, more money in investments and more splurges...which was great but not if we no longer have a marriage. I quit my job, he took time off work, we spent a week in therapy sessions, talking and planning how to move ahead and then we travelled (first for his work then to a resort). We couldn't have repaired our relationship nearly as fast otherwise. If we did separate/divorce I still wouldn't need to work but would resume work in teaching not home daycare as my pension and job is there waiting for me (resuming that when our daughter is in school full-
time).
Lol yeah her controlling civil engineer husband would have fired yours. Lol the lies burn my eyes none of the stories add up like even close.
Where I'm from if someone goes to work, brings home a paycheck with their name on it it is theirs. We're married so i totally benefit from all his money...but he earned it. Where I come from if we were to divorce I get half the house, the law states so...but it is in fact his house. Law also dictates that he pays me money to keep up my current state of living...b
Of course they don't add up to you...because you lack the ability to keep the details given straight. I clearly noted above that my husband isn't a civil engineer. As noted above there are many types of engineers, civil engineers being one of them but certainly not the only type.