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My doctor basically told me I'm fat...

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Re: My doctor basically told me I'm fat...

  • Prinycesa07Prinycesa07 member
    Here's my experience. I started my first two pregnancies morbidly obese at 275 lbs. My doctor said nothing about my weight. Not even one comment in either of the 40 weeks. Then I lost a lot of weight all on my own in the last 2.5 yrs. I started this pregnancy at 148 lbs. I've gained 23 lbs already and weight was mentioned. Yet he never mentioned it when it needed to be mentioned before. I think many drs shy away from it when they shouldn't. But I also think that they need to have tact when doing so which many doctors lack.
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  • CandEChicagoCandEChicago member
    Anyone else waiting to see if the WK returns? I am also interested to see if OP will return to her thread since I can't recall a response from her.


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  • path75path75 member
    It appears the OP has only posted this one post. I definitely don't think she is coming back. 


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  • CandEChicagoCandEChicago member
    Slaps said:

    path75 said:

    It appears the OP has only posted this one post. I definitely don't think she is coming back. 

    Not coming back because we are all rude bored housewives with no lives, except bumping!
    Any hope for the WK or shall we proceed back to posting GIFs?


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  • littleboyermooselittleboyermoose member
    I'm obese. I own it. It's something I have worked to change for almost 15 years with varying amounts of success. I have my post baby diet plan ready. I can't wait to get back on my bicycle. I am not afraid to tell anyone who asks exactly what I weigh.

    I'm also healthy. Normal numbers all over the place, but that's beside the point.

    That being said, I still dread going to the doctor and being told I'm obese. I was once handed a food pyramid by a doctor. A food pyramid. It of course has come up with my pregnancy, in this case because I was the one who brought it up. But OP, you shouldn't be surprised that it happens. It's not their job to handle us with kid-non-latex gloves. But I'm sorry that it hurt you. It hurts me all the time.
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  • rshamosrshamos member
    I'm sorry that it makes you not want to go to the doctor. I think that is why a lot of docs have stopped even bringing it up, even though they should. The unfortunate fact is that not all women who are overweight are healthy like you. Obviously not all skinny women are too. That's why they make everyone do the tests to see where they stand. Now, here is joe Manganiello, the spokesman for magnum ice cream.
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  • amieeyoungamieeyoung member
    Actually doctors do address underweight people. When I was pregnant with my first child I was underweight and was told to gain a certain amount of weight. That being said when I gained too much in one month I had to go see a dietician- and was humiliated so I understand it suck and is embarrassing. This time around (different doc) I was right at the top of the normal weight range and there has been no mention of how much I have gained. We'll see this time since I've ballooned up a bit ;). I think they have to give a weight talk if you gain too much in a certain time period b/c they want to make sure all is good and there is a reason for it (such as too many carbs, eating out etc) that is an dietary fix as opposed to something else more serious. Weight is an emotional thing, so I get being upset and venting. Just focus on eating healthy and let the weight fall where it may. If you are eating healthy and good foods for baby, then that's what is important. Being overweight does mean you may end up with G Diabetes, but doesn't mean you definitely will. Good luck with everything.
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  • designchicadesignchica member
    I am a normal weight, but at one of my appointments my OBGYN expressed some concern about a lack of weight gain since my previous appointment.  In reality, I had gained some weight but then my appointment fell a few days after one of the times that baby daddy left me and I had been having difficulty with my appetite and had dropped a few pounds.   My doctor said, "You haven't gained any weight since your last appointment and that concerns me.   What are you eating and how often?"   

    I assured her I am eating but just was under a lot of stress for a few days and by the next appointment, I had made up for that weight loss with a 6 pound weight gain.  

    So, our doctors are going to monitor our weight, whether we are underweight, a healthy weight, or overweight.  Its their job to do so.  
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  • drpaynedrpayne member
    sarals24 said:

    OP, did your doctor actually call you fat? One of my best friends is an OBGYN, and she has to talk to patients about their weight all the time. You know why? Because there are increased risks when you are overweight and pregnant. The doctor is looking out for your health and your baby's health. And you might know the risks, but some patients don't, and it's the doctor's JOB to talk to you about things that might affect your unborn child's health. 


    I know that some doctors don't have the best bedside manners, but in my opinion, they aren't doing their jobs if they don't talk about things like that with their patients. I hadn't gained a single pound at 20 weeks, and all of a sudden between 16-20 weeks I gained 12. I'm not overweight, but my doctor asked me if I had changed my diet/exercise habits, and we had an honest conversation (I had recently moved, we had been eating a lot of takeout, not much time to exercise, etc). I didn't feel like she was calling me fat, I just felt like she noticed something that could potentially affect my pregnancy, and brought it up. At my next appointment I gained three pounds, and she was much happier with that. I feel a lot better too, so I'm glad she made me sit and talk about reasons I had gained that much weight that quickly.

    I guess what I'm trying to say is, doctors aren't normally out to "get" you or shame you, I think they are genuinely trying to help when they see things that have caused problems for patients in the past or are known to possibly affect pregnancies.

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