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I've been so mean! H E L P

caritaRichcaritaRich member
in March 2015 Moms
I'm really trying to control how I speak to everyone but it's not working. I'm really mean and stand offish and I don't want to be! Is there anything I can do to help my attitude?
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  • stine28stine28 member
    Hey ladies, ya hear that?? You have an advice column now! Dispense all that pent up advice now, eh? ;)
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  • selena61307selena61307 member
    OMG the stupid we get here is unreal.
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  • honkytonk_kidhonkytonk_kid member
    caritaRich said:

    This is my first pregnancy! Both of your replies were very rude. The other lady told me to find time for myself. You could've said something dealing with PREGNANCY. This is an advice column so I asked for it. Not a bitchy comment.image

    Exhibit A as supporting evidence for your OP?

    I don't know, it's not that hard. Be nice or be quiet? Eat snacks so you don't get hangry?
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  • FrecklesInsideFrecklesInside member
    ...advice column????????????






    OK.
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  • cinderella105cinderella105 member
    I have very low patience these days and everything pisses me off, but I don't treat people like shit because I already have my own issues that are heightened by hormones. Grow up. It's called self control and manners.

    And this is not a support column... Good lord.

    And put your big girl panties on if you want to play here. Kthx.
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  • bumpuser10258960bumpuser10258960 member
    caritaRich said:
    I'm really trying to control how I speak to everyone but it's not working. I'm really mean and stand offish and I don't want to be! Is there anything I can do to help my attitude?
    The fact that you acknowledge your behavior means you are capable of stopping it. Find your happy place or avoid situations that "trigger" your emotions or simply grow up and realize that, as an adult, you are in complete control of your actions/words.
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    Damn spell check for not flagging that!
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  • allibeingallibeing member
    caritaRich said:

    I'm really trying to control how I speak to everyone but it's not working. I'm really mean and stand offish and I don't want to be! Is there anything I can do to help my attitude?

    Is it possible you were already like this before pregnancy? I've always been outspoken and snarky, I wouldn't blame that on being knocked up, I'd just continue to blame it on being surrounded by idiots. Sounds like you could use a treat and an orgasm.
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  • bwftwbwftw member
    FTM here. I somehow still have the ability to recognize when a situation is pissing me off and know how to find a way to separate myself from said situation. Being a FTM doesn't mean you get to do whatever you want and claim ignorance.
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  • Engineer81Engineer81 member
    I take the Frozen approach to my bitchiness. I just let it go, I can't hold it back anymore. Stupid people bother me everyday.
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  • rm2013rm2013 member
    Still trying to figure out how the hell Whitney Houston has anything to do with this? :)
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  • Christina80xoxoChristina80xoxo member
    OP,Nobody was being mean to you. You are correct though. You do clearly have anger issues :/
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  • ribritribrit member
    Are you taking your vitamins? I also just started Deplin. (((Hugs )))) I know all too well how you feel.
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  • Oshee1985Oshee1985 member
    I have been getting cranky and can be nasty too at times. It's hard when you know you're acting that way and you don't want to be. I'm starting I get better though.
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  • 071115071115 member
    I find that I have bitchy boil to the top a lot but I don't like it come out...
    I have always had bitch in me, but I only let her out when I want to let her play
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  • janda426janda426 member
    anm5163 said:

    From the sounds of the replies to this post - a lot of you are in the same boat as OP, you too are extremely bitchy.  I sure hope this is not how you present yourself in daily interactions, whether someones comment to you seems stupid or not.


    She was just reaching out to say her hormones are out of control and she finds her emotions are slightly out of whack (a normal pregnancy occurrence).  Instead of jumping in with snarky comments, perhaps just let her know that yes, we are all a little on edge sometimes, but just take a deep breath and roll with the punches - we don't always have to let the bitch out.

    Watch with the name calling- it's a TOU violation.

    If she cannot truly control her actions, she's beyond our help. She needs to see a doctor. Because it's quite obvious from the responses here that the rest of us aren't huge bitches to people and blame it on pregnancy. The bump doesn't claim to give medical advice anywhere. Idk about you but if I found myself saying things I can't control I'd be making a call to my doctor.
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  • uraniurani member
    anm5163 said:
    From the sounds of the replies to this post - a lot of you are in the same boat as OP, you too are extremely bitchy.  I sure hope this is not how you present yourself in daily interactions, whether someones comment to you seems stupid or not.

    She was just reaching out to say her hormones are out of control and she finds her emotions are slightly out of whack (a normal pregnancy occurrence).  Instead of jumping in with snarky comments, perhaps just let her know that yes, we are all a little on edge sometimes, but just take a deep breath and roll with the punches - we don't always have to let the bitch out.
    Great first post  :-q
    Lurk moar. As for OP, sounds like she needs to grow up and take responsibility for her actions.
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  • crunchymamaof2 crunchymamaof2 member
    anm5163 said:
    From the sounds of the replies to this post - a lot of you are in the same boat as OP, you too are extremely bitchy.  I sure hope this is not how you present yourself in daily interactions, whether someones comment to you seems stupid or not.

    She was just reaching out to say her hormones are out of control and she finds her emotions are slightly out of whack (a normal pregnancy occurrence).  Instead of jumping in with snarky comments, perhaps just let her know that yes, we are all a little on edge sometimes, but just take a deep breath and roll with the punches - we don't always have to let the bitch out.
    Lol. Feeling somewhat moody? ok, understandable. Claiming you can't control what comes out of your mouth due to pregnancy hormones? Nope. But nice try. Maybe you should take your own advice on not letting the bitch out.
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  • gina2433gina2433 member
    I'll try not to ruffle any feathers. Are you sick? Maybe not feeling yourself has made you have a short fuse? Maybe you'll get better. I'm not always a walk in the park either but I work at a middle school. 14 year olds can make anyone mad. FYI First time I posted on TB I was attacked and people were mean but not all. So don't let one batch of comments make you not want to come back. I was on Nov 2011 board and as a FTM got really good ideas and such. Ok ladies, let me have it.
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  • spaghettiohsspaghettiohs member
    @caritaRich‌ unlike everyone else wasting their time , I feel your pain! I've been having the same problem.
    Of course the people who love you will/should understand,
    but keep in mind they are just sensitive sallies who don't have to man up like us sick as shit mommies.
    I'm a stm and have patience with my 2 year old, but adults erk the piss out of me.

    Remember stress and bad attitudes are just as bad as smoking when you're el preggo! Just be sarcastic and if they can't handle it remind them that they are being a pussy.
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  • cinderella105cinderella105 member
    EL OH EL at "stress and bad attitudes are just as bad as smoking". As for the other WKs and crazies commenting..... There are no words...

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  • mwerrenmwerren member
    I just fall back onto some advice I've been given since I was a child. "Think before you speak." Maybe just saying the snide comment in your head before it slips out of your mouth, might prevent some of the bitchiness you describe.

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  • crunchymamaof2 crunchymamaof2 member
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    spaghettiohs said:
    @caritaRich‌ unlike everyone else wasting their time , I feel your pain! I've been having the same problem. Of course the people who love you will/should understand, but keep in mind they are just sensitive sallies who don't have to man up like us sick as shit mommies. I'm a stm and have patience with my 2 year old, but adults erk the piss out of me. Remember stress and bad attitudes are just as bad as smoking when you're el preggo! Just be sarcastic and if they can't handle it remind them that they are being a pussy.

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  • kmvisiolikmvisioli member
    @caritaRich I definitely felt more cranky and had less patience when dealing with certain people in the first few weeks of pregnancy. Just hormones changing, which is normal. If you're normally a positive and upbeat person that can be surprising. There's not much to do but just take a moment when you need it, take a deep breath and think before you do or say something you'll feel bad about.
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  • jr_packardjr_packard member
    Michelgesen said:

    A) As a large number of moms here are FTM, how on earth would they be able to give you advice?


    2) Learning self control during stressful, unknown, scary-because-it's-new situations is something everyone needs to learn. How do you expect to be able to calm a child and tell them tantrums are rude if you can't control your own tongue?

    D) This sounds like something I am currently trying to explain to my 12 yr old drama queen and I think it is ridiculous that I am hearing the same "Why can't I control my crabbiness" from a pregnant woman.
    I remember being a hormone-filled preteen, flipping my shit at my dad, who calmly told me "I don't care how you feel - you cannot treat people like that."

    Sure - pregnancy is a lot more intense than monthly mood swings, but the principle still stands. Other people are people are people, too. Pull it together and just plain don't treat people like
    crap, no matter how you feel.
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  • Ashley20155Ashley20155 member
    You rude women should all take your own advice! Quit being mean to someone asking a honest question! You are pregnant and probably in a miserable situation, that's why you get on here to trash talk others to make your selves feel better. ALL OF YOU NEED TO GROW UP OR SHUT UP! I would have suggested to take a yoga class to calm and relieve stress, not made some bitchy, judgmental remark. What ever happened to " if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all" ? Oh what wonderful mothers you will be :-)
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