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Feeling Guilty!!

I am hiding in my house peeking out the windows like a criminal.  They just poured new curbs on our street today.  My husband commented how we have to go carve something at the end of our driveway when they finish (we did this up the street when they did the sidewalk at the park a year ago and it's fun to stop and show it to our daughter every visit). 

ANyways when they finished and left my husband was on conference calls (works from home).  So he sent me out to carve "THE LASTNAMES" at the end of our driveway in the curb in big letters.  So i did, expecting that being Friday afternoon they would come back Monday and it would be dry and all good.  Well not long after i got back inside they returned!!  They came back to remove all the boards they used to form the curb.  I feel like a criminal now...it's kind of very obvious that it was us...carving our last name in the curb in front of our house. 

Think they care that I ruined their very nicely poured and shaped curb??  We plan to live in this house until we are really, really, really old so my husband wanted it in the curb for all to see when they pull into our driveway!!

 

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  • A little bit obvious, I guess. I probably would've just stuck in a penny. But I don't have a lot of guts when it comes to that kind of stuff... ;)
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  • Errrmmm...yeaaa....It's not like you were pouring a new walkway on your property or porch step or something...it's the public curb.  Did they fix it?  Maaaayyybe just a small handprint or impression would have been better....  :-?
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  • Ehh, I wouldn't worry about it. They honestly probably don't even care. 
  • Lol I'm gonna have to think about this next year when they redo our roads....
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  • I think it's a great idea! I want my name on my curb!
  • The workers left our name.  They didn't seem to care.  It seems when they poured the curb they used a greyish colour cement (?) then they painted the top white.  So when I carved our name it removed the white where I carved, exposing the darker concrete.  Well...we live in a cul-de-sac with our house being the middle most house and we can see our name clearly across the cul-de-sac and on the main road heehee.  I did not expect that.  It is incredibly noticable.  I suspect in time it will wear down and be less noticable from far away (as the white gets dirty).  But, it's very cool.

    My husband joked that we should have gone and done the names of our 4 neighbors in the cul-de-sac so when the workers came back all the driveways had names heehee.  But, I wasn't brave enough to tempt that.

     

     

  • I would've maybe put my pups' paw prints, that's probably as far as I'd go. I like the penny idea too.
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    =Lee=B said:

    Nearing 35...so well beyond 5.  We also spend hours building sand castles at the beach (before having our daughter).  I also admit to having fun using sidewalk chalk (without child), we even got my mother-in-law in on the action then and did quite the driveway mural. 

    We certainly do a lot of childish things...what's the point of living if we can't have a little fun? 

    We'll certainly never look back at the name carved in our driveway over the coming decades and regret it.  If some neighbors happen to...sucks to be them. 

    None of these examples are semi-permanent, though.  What you did is. I reserve my judgement until I find out exactly how big this is. The way you describe it sounds like defacing public property. 

    ETA: Actually looking back at your recent comment "sucks to be them" makes me think you should feel guilty.  That is a pretty selfish attitude.

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    ETA: Actually looking back at your recent comment "sucks to be them" makes me think you should feel guilty.  That is a pretty selfish attitude.


    Oh, but it does suck to be them...because if they really get that worked up about someone carving some letters in a curb in front of their own house then it seems they need to loosen up (and keep their eyes solely on their own property where they can control everything to avoid such negative feelings).

    If the city has issues with it...they know where to find us (we are the house with our last name carved in the curb out front).  They can let us know and we can go out and sand it down for them.

     

  • My post said I felt guilty because the workers came back and saw my carvings in THEIR work.  I didn't expect them to come back as I expected the next set of workers for the next step of work to come on Monday. 

    I never said I felt any guilt that a person walking down the street would see our name carved in the curb of our driveway and be upset about it.  One can certainly feel guilty for impacting one person over another.  The workers that spent time out there pouring that concrete have a legitamite reason to be annoyed...I still don't feel that other random people do.  So yes, I feel guilty...I just don't carry the guilt of the neighborhood on my shoulders. 

     


  • =Lee=B said:

    My post said I felt guilty because the workers came back and saw my carvings in THEIR work.  I didn't expect them to come back as I expected the next set of workers for the next step of work to come on Monday. 

    I never said I felt any guilt that a person walking down the street would see our name carved in the curb of our driveway and be upset about it.  One can certainly feel guilty for impacting one person over another.  The workers that spent time out there pouring that concrete have a legitamite reason to be annoyed...I still don't feel that other random people do.  So yes, I feel guilty...I just don't carry the guilt of the neighborhood on my shoulders. 


    Often when we feel guilty it's because we did something wrong. 

    I am not saying I wouldn't do it b/c of what some random would say, I'm saying I wouldn't do it b/c I don't purposely deface things I don't even own; let alone things I do. Yes, you basically ruined their hard work. Sadly, they're probably used to it. 


    They probably are used to it. More so by teenagers trying to act cool, not 'grown adults' but you know, whatevs.
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  • I'm 95% sure the guys that poured the curb give no shits. Seriously. They left it and you like it. :)
  • I was responding to the OP.
  • Lol.

    We are wild and crazy just like you…we build sandcastles and use sidewalk chalk. But I don't deface public property. And honey, unless you are paying the $7000 or whatever price it is in your city to have your personal driveway poured? Well, then you can't deface it. It's city property. We had our driveway poured this year, and it's the driveway only. The curb belongs to the town/city/suburb.

    And to the other poster…I get my child's height from the dr and document in the baby book. I don't mark up our house, with pen or knife. 
    Neither do I. I am just not surprised when people do it on their own property.  I think they just need to own the property they are marking up.

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  • Seriously OP sounds totally redneck and classless. Congrats.
  • I've written my kid's heights on the wall in their room because I can repaint it if/when we ever move.

    We had 1/4 of our driveway repoured when they did curbs around here.  That section was sinking and it was added onto the special for the street.  Never did it occur to me to go outside onto the wet cement - to do anything!


  • Seriously OP sounds totally redneck and classless. Congrats.


    Yep...that's us to a T.  We park our trailer out back of our 5bed, 4bath, 3600 sq foot house...luckily our 6 car driveway allowed us to squeeze the trailer around back on our the 1/3 acre lot.  The house is just a cover to hide our redneck selves...sadly the architechs about to design our soon to be pool say the trailer will haev to go :-(  When my husband finally gets out of his work suits he goes for the 'dorky' look over the classy look though.  Hard to want to be classy 24/7 when you need to be suited up to be senior director of your engineering company for your city. 

    I'll totally take immature though...we both have that going for us...that's what allows life to stay fun for us. 

     

  • Seriously. Having fun and being immature =/= vandalizing your newly poured sidewalk. I bet your neighbors think you're a real peach.
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  • we put in our hand prints when we had a patio poured a couple years ago.  Not the same situation as OP, but it was fun.
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  • =Lee=B said:
    Seriously OP sounds totally redneck and classless. Congrats.


    Yep...that's us to a T.  We park our trailer out back of our 5bed, 4bath, 3600 sq foot house...luckily our 6 car driveway allowed us to squeeze the trailer around back on our the 1/3 acre lot.  The house is just a cover to hide our redneck selves...sadly the architechs about to design our soon to be pool say the trailer will haev to go :-(  When my husband finally gets out of his work suits he goes for the 'dorky' look over the classy look though.  Hard to want to be classy 24/7 when you need to be suited up to be senior director of your engineering company for your city. 

    I'll totally take immature though...we both have that going for us...that's what allows life to stay fun for us. 

    Ugh.. That got weird. 
  • Kimbus22 said:
    Oddly enough I manage to have fun without teaching my kids vandalism is okay...

    So....bringing our kid for art at the park with cans of spray paint is a bad idea??  Good thing we only do that after dark. So much fun, though.

     

  • NandaB said:
    Huh. A snobby show-offy redneck. I bet you just ooze whimsy. Or something.

    More whimsy than you all can handle.  But hey...we live in the house with our name in the curb out front so feel free to come on over and check us out. 

     

  • =Lee=B said:
    Kimbus22 said:
    Oddly enough I manage to have fun without teaching my kids vandalism is okay...

    So....bringing our kid for art at the park with cans of spray paint is a bad idea??  Good thing we only do that after dark. So much fun, though.

    You are obnoxious and ridiculous. Perhaps you should stick to attachment parenting or breast feeding.
  • =Lee=B said:
    Kimbus22 said:
    Oddly enough I manage to have fun without teaching my kids vandalism is okay...

    So....bringing our kid for art at the park with cans of spray paint is a bad idea??  Good thing we only do that after dark. So much fun, though.

    You are obnoxious and ridiculous. Perhaps you should stick to attachment parenting or breast feeding.

    Oh...but it's much more fun over here.  Sadly though, they are laying the foundations for new townhomes in the next neighborhood over so we'll be busy most the day ensuring our last name is carved in each and every new home...but no worries I'll catch up on here before we do art in the park this evening.

     

  • So you wrote your full last name in the concrete on the curb? Why? It wasn't yours to do that to. If that company or the city wanted to press charges, they could. Oh & they'd know where to find you! 

    Granted they have better things to do. 

    It's not like you & the kids had the patio paved & all stuck your hands in it & made it a cute family AW. You defaced something that isn't yours. & then you brag & get sassy? Not my cup of tea. 

  • =Lee=B said:

    I am hiding in my house peeking out the windows like a criminal.  They just poured new curbs on our street today.  My husband commented how we have to go carve something at the end of our driveway when they finish (we did this up the street when they did the sidewalk at the park a year ago and it's fun to stop and show it to our daughter every visit). 

    ANyways when they finished and left my husband was on conference calls (works from home).  So he sent me out to carve "THE LASTNAMES" at the end of our driveway in the curb in big letters.  So i did, expecting that being Friday afternoon they would come back Monday and it would be dry and all good.  Well not long after i got back inside they returned!!  They came back to remove all the boards they used to form the curb.  I feel like a criminal now...it's kind of very obvious that it was us...carving our last name in the curb in front of our house. 

    Think they care that I ruined their very nicely poured and shaped curb??  We plan to live in this house until we are really, really, really old so my husband wanted it in the curb for all to see when they pull into our driveway!!

    Just in case
  • Oh yeah, that's awesome! You would totes get along with the students who broke into the high school after hours and spray painted giant penises all over the brick walls. They were so whimsical and hilarious! Another kid carved his initials into the hardwood floor of the stage - he was so full of joy and life. Must be so fun to live in the body of an adult with the brain of a teenager! Lolz all around!!1!



    My favorite part of this is that you were stupid enough to put YOUR FULL LAST NAME ON IT. Pretty incriminating in case the city decides to fine someone for the vandalism. There's a reason why the gangbangers use code names, yo. L-)

    I was gonna say....this reminds me of when I taught in the all-boys middle school and the 8th graders upon graduation wrote their initials in white-out on the bricks of the school. We laughed at how easy it was to catch the criminal masterminds and make them come scrub their initials off on their first day of vacation. :P we should have just figured they were full of whimsy lol.

    Congrats, OP, on acting like an eighth grade boy....

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  • @scatteredtrees‌ no, she doesn't go here thank god.
  • I don't get it either. Why would you do something like his? If this is how you have fun your life must be really sad.
  • So, basically you felt guilty not because you did something wrong, but because you could've gotten caught? Congratulations, you have the psychological development of a five year old. My kids and I have plenty of fun without resorting to vandalism. I might put something in the concrete of our patio, but not the public curb. Your neighbors, who I'm assuming also have the lovely type of house that you are bragging about, now have to stare at that. Couldn't you just buy a lawn sign to put up next to your plastic flamingoes? And btw, I've known a few trailer park residents who are more classy and less redneck than you, sweetheart. It's not where you live, it's HOW you live.
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  • Fancy flamingos! My favorite part of this shit show is that according to OP her husband works from home for the city's engineering department and they defaced city property with his last name.

    Don't forget the fact that her DH wears a fancy suit to work... at home. It must suck to have to wear a fancy suit to walk down the hall and sit in your home office all day. I wonder if he wears the same suit a few days in a row. And if he wears shoes or goes to work in just socks. So many unanswered questions!
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  • But it's a really long hall in their huge house? Why can't new people just intro and say hello? Why does it turn into a display of crazy? We're not that intimidating that people feel like they have to show off and act out to get our attention...
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